I used to think it was just because my period, but I’m scared I’m slipping into depression. I feel moody a lot and am guilty of lashing out at friends I love at times. Even though I have a lot to feel happy about, I keep feeling trapped, alone, and really crummy. I don’t want to scare anyone, though, about looking for a therapist. Just how I even start to do that? I don’t make alot of money at my retail job and don’t know how I can afford it but I think its important. What should I do?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this — it must be such a difficult time for you. I recognized my depression about a year and a half ago, though I had probably been experiencing various symptoms for at least a couple of years prior.
If you are really interested in finding a therapist, GoodTherapy and HelpPro Therapist Finder both provide a national directory of therapists. Sometimes, especially if you’re a student, you can work out a sliding pay scale. Also, if you’re a student, most colleges offer some sort of counseling for free.
When I first realized that my life felt too much like a Zoloft commercial, I brought up my symptoms during my well woman exam with my lady-doctor. These exams are covered by most insurances, so you don’t have to pay anything. While you’re making sure that you’re physically healthy, you can chat with your doctor about your mental and emotional health and he or she may be able to give you some resources or recommend medicine. Remember that when you take an anti-depressant, there is a small chance that the medicine will worsen your depression. This happened to me with the first anti-depressant I tried, but I quickly got off and tried something else that has worked for me for over a year. Medicine affects everyone differently, so do some research on your own and talk to a professional.
Aside from medical options, there are some other things that you can do to cope with your feelings. First, having a strong support system can be really helpful during such a confusing time. You probably feel out of control of your emotions and talking to someone about them might help you sort them out. If you need someone to listen without giving their input, don’t be afraid to say that. Sometimes, validation is all you need.
The other thing I advise is to make sure you’re taking care of yourself. If you aren’t getting enough to eat and plenty of sleep, the rest of your body will weaken. If you’re feeling especially down, throw on a season of 30 Rock, listen to your favorite music or go on a bike ride. It can be hard to stay motivated when you’re depressed, but often times, doing nothing only makes you feel worse.
My last bit of wisdom about depression is that you will want to sleep like you are in a coma. My boyfriend used to complain all the time that I sleep too much, but he realized that I can’t help it. Some anti-depressants cause drowsiness, which I think is totally unfair because I could already sleep all day if I wanted to. Don’t be afraid of taking naps when you’re tired, but it’s so important to stay active when you can.
How do other readers cope with depression? Is there anything else you’d recommend this Lovely do to feel better?
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