Lovelyish

4 years is not even an issue. Such a small gap.

It doesn’t matter when you get into your 20s. 

I’m 21 and I went out with an 18 year old boy.. hahahaha. JUST because I CAN.

Not even an issue, have it at. My guy is three years younger and we have the most stable, happy relationship I have seen.

Age is just a number.  I joked the other day about wishing there was a scale for measuring life experience that was universally understood.  Honestly, I’m 26 years old and I would be hesitant to date a 21 year old guy.  Why?  I think you will find that he’s not on the same level as you are when it comes to maturity, life goals, objectives, etc.  However, I don’t know you and I don’t know him, I’m just generalizing here.  All things considered, I would probably casually date him for awhile to develop a better understand of where he stands on all of those topics and to determine whether or not we are compatible.

I’ve dated younger before, and my current guy is in his early 30s. You’ll be fine. Stop worrying what other people think, and as long as he’s a good guy, you have no reason to have doubts.

My husband is 7 years younger than me When we met, he was 20 and I was 27. He was still in his 3rd year in university and I was well into my career.

What it all comes down to is if you are willing to give it a go, because being with a younger guy can be quite more fun than being with an older one. Good older guy tends to treat you like a princess, but a good younger guy treats you like a queen. He has the utmost respect for you, your dreams, your career, your friends, your wisdom, etc.

As long as it’s legal, do what you want.

My mom and her husband are eight years apart – he’s the one who’s younger. When you start getting older, it really doesn’t matter.

Personally, I tend to date older men… my fiance is four years older than me. But like I said, do what and who;) you want.

If you’re really worried about what other people would think or image.. I guess it depends on whether you guys look your age. My mom & her husband and me and my fiance all look young – so we all end up looking around the same age anyway.

@lttlegel - I also prefer older guys. But I mean, I’ve probably been attracted to younger guys (although there’s this guy at my school, we are in the same history class now and I just found out that he’s at least 22, so I feel better about that). There’s something about guys my age or younger that irks me in terms of dating. I’d rather someone older, I dunno why. 

@ashleynicole - Guys take longer to mature than girls. I was raised kind of in an old fashioned way that the guy should be able to provide for you and take care of you. Not to say I can’t work and take care of myself, because I certainly can, but my family wants to know the guy isn’t a deadbeat and if something happened he’d be there for me.

However, that’s not to say that all guys who are a certain age are mature or aren’t. I know plenty of men who are younger and are way more mature than men who are older. Hell, my 95 year old great grandfather still causes trouble in his nursing home! lol

If he’s mature and your emotional equal, that’s what matters. I’m 29 and dating a 24 year old and it’s not an issue.  Before him I only ever dated guys two to seventeen years older than me.

@lttlegel - I don’t there’s anything wrong with that type of viewpoint. I also want more security with a guy, I want to know that the person I’m with has direction and ambition and is for sure doing things to make something with his life. Whether that means that he makes more money than me doesn’t matter though. 

I think it might be because everyone in my family seems to follow that pattern, younger wife and older husband. So it just seems more normal to me! Oh wait, I HAVE liked someone younger than me in junior high. I was about 8 months older than he was lol. I think that’s the youngest I’ve ever gone though for legit crushes and affections. Although I do not have that same issue when it comes to women. I don’t develop crushes on women nearly as often, but whenever it’s happened they’ve always been younger than me. 

Nope not weird at all. 

@ashleynicole - Oh, you’re bisexual? You’re fine dating women, men, younger or older… well, I guess you are pretty easy to please then!

I’ll be 23 at the end of the month, my fiance is 26 (he’ll be 27 in March) he’s a chef… LOVES his job and the people he works with and we have so many plans together! So definetly drive and ambition are important!

Read the IAmA’s on reddit. Weirder relationships happen there. 

@lttlegel - Lol well I guess. I don’t really think about my sexuality too much in terms of a specific label. I’ve never dated a woman, I’ve dated a few guys, but I’ve been attracted to both sexes. I even had a pretty serious thing for a former best friend. But I usually fall for guys more than I do women. 

Ooh, my first boyfriend wanted to be a chef. I remember he made me eggs once.. pretty damn good eggs haha! My last boyfriend didn’t really have any plans about his life. And he was a bit older than me, so that concerned me. I mean, I knew he WANTED to do something, but he didn’t seem interested in going to school to figure out what he’d like to do. I’m just hoping that this guy I’m crushing on quite a lot at my gym has a good job or is on a career path of some kind, because he seems like he’d be pretty awesome and a lack of drive and no real path of any kind would just irk me too much.

When I first turned 24, I was dating a guy who was 19.  My mother was 29 and my father was 24 when they got married.  They’re still together 26 years later.

I get that age is ‘only a number’.. but it would help if he is a mature 21 year old for sure, if that’s what you want

I see nothing wrong with this. It tends to be more common that the man is older than the woman (probably because guys take so much longer to mature), but there is nothing weird or wrong with you being older than him.

That sounds fine, my man is 6 years older than me

I say go for it. A girl I work with is 23 and her boyfriend is 20 and they are one of the happiest and healthiest relationships I’ve seen in a long time.

I’m 18, Almost 19, and I’m dating a 16 year old. OH MAH GAWD SAO TABOO 3 FUCKING YEARS!

Pardon my french

I get alot of flack for it, but we’ve had a longer and healthier relationship than most of the people around us. So, my opinion is, if it’s healthy, and it’s legal, then go for it

I don’t see a problem with that. Generally, I’m interested in guys that are about 3 ~ 4 years older than me.

My brother met a girl online when he was 18 and knocked her up, she was 7 years older than him at the time. 

I don’t like dating people my age, most of them are (obviously) immature, irresponsible teenagers that bore the hell out of me. I was raised differently, age difference isn’t that big of a deal to me as long as it isn’t illegal. 

Of course you can! Anyone 18+ is fair game.

My boyfriend is 22 and I’m 25. I honestly don’t notice the difference at all nor do I care. He is a lot more mature than most guys his age. He has plans and goals, he’s very relationship oriented, marriage oriented and family oriented. And most importantly, me makes me happy. Our birthdays are close together and his is before mine, so for about a month and some change, there’s a 2 year difference in our age instead of 3.

..really?

i think 4 years is ok.

It’s 2012, any adult woman can date any adult man they want!  Good luck!

I think the age gap looses its significance when you get into your 20s. 

My ex was 4years younger than me – we had a lovely relationship for nearly 3years… 

atm the guys I’m seeing casually are between 2 and 5years younger than me! I think I’m just suited to them more because I’m a bit slow at life, a little immature and I find older guys SO boring.

Age gaps are irrelevant, mostly… 

@SarahC0828@xanga - Not necessarily You have guys like myself who have a solid future plan and a road map how to get there. There are guys who have matured for there age and knows what they want in life.