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I completely agree. I understand regular women who have never been taught how to dress like a lady (let alone age appropriately). But celebrities have no excuse. They have stylists, money, and access to fashion designers who would gladly give them a custom fitting. Furthermore, the stylists should be fired who are encouraging this type of inappropriate attire. If you are a sexy mom, the role of mom should show first, and sexy should be given a slight nod. The words are “tasteful and elegant”. Learn how to use them.

The further down I read, the bitchier this became. I agree with a few of these, and mothers should assume a certain level of image responsibility, but come on. A lot of this just came off as extremely judgmental. 

#1 (dis)honor should be Dina definitely. I respect we’ll never completely know behind the scenes things but up until Lindsay was 18, SHE OWNED THE WORLD!! This coming from a fan of hers for 13 years!! It’s sad Linds has to turn to Playboy to get back into the scene. Dina should be a mother guiding her, not helping to pimp her out & her sister! Lindsay is a great actor & (ok) singer. Her semi-Comeback film Labor Pains shows she still has acting chops but it failed to get a distributor so it had to be a TV film.

I still hope LL goes back to her red hair & into acting. Everyone deserves a second chance. How the fuck does Charlie Sheen & Robert Downey Jr. get a free hand but Lindsay & Winona (who’s finally coming back after a damn decade) are thrown to pasture? Sexist Hollywood…

And J.Lo isnt all that good to me anymore. Her personal life was always a bit of a mess but now it’s like hurricane level messed up. I’m a fan of her older work but now it seems like she’s just clutching straws to stay in the spotlight too. Dont get me wrong, for having twins she looks great but she needs to ease back, take care of her personal life & kids moreso than be J.Lo right now.

Demi is a wierdo…

Look at it this way: older men with children can have fun, yet older women with children cannot?

Also, yes, these women should probably exercise some responsibility and be examples for their children, but from this post, you just sound like a crazy bitch yourself

Is Lovelyish getting its own red-haired beotch from Datingish?

Celebrities ASK to be judged. They want publicity which usually contains some judgement. If you want the good things that come with fame, you also have to take the bad. And I agree about the moms.

@Amazon_Bunny@xanga - from the post: And for those of you who would like to retort with, “Men date younger women, but when women date younger men it’s considered ‘wrong’!” Well here’s my preemptive response to that: it’s wrong regardless, and I expect women to know better because they’re smarter than men. Boom, lawyered.

Get a sense of humor, and don’t call another woman a “bitch” unless you intend to sound like one yourself.

Miley cyrus and her mom

most ladies just want to feel young again?

Goodness nice huge ass woman bashing going on here!  While I agree that the antics of some of these mothers is out of line (Lohan… not sure what she does, Love… drug issues), the rest are just examples of people being themselves.  A woman does not cease to be who she is simply because she ages and becomes a mother.  And anyone who has seen “Striptease” knows Demi Moore can’t dance, that’s nothing new. 

Nothing wrong with a woman with a hot body (at ANY age) snapping photos of herself.  Nothing wrong with two grown adults (even if one is a mother) having a consensual relationship.  Nothing wrong with an older woman, who happens to be a mom too, being hot!  Get over it!  Nothing wrong with still feeling like yourself after age 35, and wanting to flaunt a nice body in a bikini/nice dress, whatever! 

@TheFashionableEconomist@xanga - No, most ladies (older or otherwise) just want to feel like themselves.  

@chicbananas@xanga - This post may not be your kind of style or sense of humor, but to me it’s pretty obvious the poster is writing comedically not bitchally. And obviously it’s judgmental but I think you’re also being judgmental of the post. Just like @whyzat@xanga.com said, celebrities have a thick skin. a mom posting half naked photos of herself on twitter with millions of strangers following her personal life volunteers you to be judged, but plenty of their actions are questionable and often times they put themselves in positions especially as parents that should be judged whether you’re a celebrity or not. I don’t think anything about this post is inaccurate, in fact, as a parent, I think some of this behavior is positively neglectful, if anything the poster was kind in joking around about it.

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - which is the person that they know of, young

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - lol did you even read the post? read the first paragraph because it pretty much sums up everything that you just said

if i look like demi when i’m her age… i’m taking bikini shots. and whoever doesn’t like it can suck it. i bet she works hard for it. why shouldn’t she show it off!

@numbergirl - Having thick skin doesn’t mean you should be subjected to scrutiny and ridicule. I stated that I agreed with some of these (the truly abusive, neglectful ones listed), but it got downright nasty and judgmental. Demi Moore and Madonna, for instance, aren’t being neglectful because they hooked up with younger guys. It’s not like they had a toddler chillin’ in the background or filmed it for all to see. I can see the embarrassment that may be associated with a few of these people, but it crossed the line from being funny to just being downright judgmental and bitchy. Someone living a certain lifestyle does not give rights to judgment from others. We have no idea how a couple of these people truly are.

@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - Right?! Agreed. She often dresses classy, anyway, and seems to have an awesome parenting team with Bruce Willis.

@numbergirl - Then why is Demi Moore on this list?  If the OP meant what she said in the first paragraph then Demi Moore, Jennifer Lopez, and Madonna shouldn’t be on this list.  I mean especially Madonna, who certainly has toned down her antics the last decade or so.  Demi Moore and Jennifer Lopez haven’t done anything that their children should be horrified with.  

@TheFashionableEconomist@xanga - Uh, no… I’ve been the same damn person since I was five!  Was I trying to be a child of 5 when I was myself at age 16?  No.  And now at age 38, I’m still the same person I was in high school.  It’s not about being “young”, it’s about being who you’ve always been.  

@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - No kidding!  Whether from the knife or working out hard, Demi looks awesome and I should be crying myself to sleep at night that I’ve never been as hot as she is right now.  lol

@chicbananas@xanga - Men have been dating younger women forever.  No reason why a woman, even if she is a mother, cannot do the same thing by dating younger men. 

totally agree w you thankssss so much for this post

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - don’t be naive, you know what i mean 

@TheFashionableEconomist@xanga - I’m too old to be naive, I stand by what I said.  I don’t want to feel young again, because I’ve always felt the same way since I was like five.  

Kate Gosselin should be on here.

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - good for you 

Hasn’t anyone told them women are supposed to disappear after fulfilling their need to reproduce??? ugh!! embarrassing!! 

I understand that you assume this piece of gossip is good for “classy” girls. 

Off topic compeltely, but that song is so unbelievably shit! God people are trying way too hard these days, and not even in the right ways.

In all of this celebrity mom judging, it’s funny that the last video also featured Mick Jagger – rock star, ladies man, still kickin’ it like a 25 year old, DAD. No issues there, nope.

@girlForgetful@xanga - HAHA! Excellent point.

You people going to explain to me why you moderated my comment or does freedom of speech not apply on lovelyish anymore? 

I expect a damn good reason for your moderation or there will be a publicity hell storm.

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - You’re in the porn industry and clearly those women don’t deserve a voice, especially if you’re criticizing a saint’s post.

@chicbananas@xanga - The nature of this post made it very clear how they feel about women displaying themselves publicly. I should have assumed that admitting I’m in porn and, judging by this post, would make a horrible mother because of it, I would lose my voice. 

Lovelyish, this is absolutely outrageous. 

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - Xanga used to not censor almost nothing at all (cerca 2006 and earlier). Then some angry people stepped in about nudes  being all over xanga (i’ll admit it was bad), but that was the beginning of the end.  After censoring the nudes, they started censoring the offensive, and then the uncomfortable and the annoying. Basically you just can’t be yourself.  

 I suppose it’s their site, and their right to moderate what is said, but over the past year they’ve deleted sites simply because they don’t like the content (ie harryp0thed, lobornlytesthoughtpalace). 
Maybe those Eugeniuses should put their heads together so that they can see their website has gone to hell.  

@ItIsAllGravy@xanga - The original xanga team doesn’t have much to do with lovelyish unless enough lovelyish readers reach out to them in protest. 

You can’t see my original comment because it was deleted, but I brought up the argument that fucking a man on screen must mean you are doomed to be a shitty mother, judging from this post. They’ll probably delete this one too, but at least you’ll get the email version. 

Uu@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga -  the whole point of the post is slut shaming and silencing women who choose to express themselves as sexual beings past the point of childbearing. You know, because sex is dirty and bad and we should all pretend that having kids kills your sex drive and ability to enjoy yourself.

But hey, if we’re going to take part in the slut shaming culture we are supposedly fighting against, why not also silence someone in the porn industry who dares to speak against it? After all, clearly expressing your sexuality is embarrassing and dirty.

@opticalnoise@xanga - I can’t tell for sure if it was deleted because I said I’m in porn, or because I said that content-wise, this was the shittiest post I’ve ever read on lovelyish. There is so much steaming hatred towards these women for being attractive and flaunting it, that it makes me sick, and all I said was that I’m in porn and feel insulted that the implication is that I am defaulted to be a shitty mother, and that we all have flaws in character that we need to work on before we judge others. 

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - @opticalnoise@xanga - What mainly angered me was being with someone who is twice less or more your age is what constitutes as being a crap mother. I’m pretty sure acting like a drugged out, neglectful parent is what makes you a shitty mother, not who you prefer in age. Immaturity is not gauged by age, but rather mentality. It bothers me greatly that there are women on this post who were grouped with the likes of Dina Lohan and Janice Dick because they coupled with younger men. Demi Moore isn’t running around, flashing her vag to the cameras. She’s in a frickin’ bathing suit and all of her children are grown, too.

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - It’s still their site and their brand.  Whether or not it says “Xanga” on the site, they still have the power to make the place not suck.  

@ItIsAllGravy@xanga - Oh, I know. They just don’t exactly catch the comment monitoring that goes on unless a big enough hype is made of it. 

@chicbananas@xanga - Exactly. This post is unnecessarily judgmental to the point of very nearly being a flat-out hate post. Deleting my comment only further underlines that sentiment. 

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - And at 42 years old, Jennifer Lopez should clearly consider retirement. Nevermind that her body and moves are what made her famous; she shouldn’t be up past 8.

@chicbananas@xanga - I love that the author is permitted to imply that Lopez looks like a meth addicted hooker, but I can’t talk about porn. 

I don’t understand – being in a relationship with an age gap or embracing the fact that you look gorgeous in a bikini at age 50 are things that automatically make you a bad mother? This post quickly disintegrated from a commentary on legitimately bad moms in the spotlight to celeb mothers who have done nothing to wrong their kids, you just apparently don’t like them fr some superficial reason, like thy they’re dating a younger man (never see people gettin on a guys ass for that, though. It’s always just “good for you, bro!”) or still being a sex symbol at an older age. Just because Demi Moore can too a bikini doesn’t mean she’s a bad mom. Did I miss a memo where, if you popped out a baby, you lose bikini priviledges? That’s bullshit. And doing something embarrassing doesn’t make someone a bad mom – who here can say their mom NEVER embarrassed them?

@ItIsAllGravy@xanga - Actually loborn was saying really vile shit about people on xanga, I don’t think you can compare making graphic sexual descriptions about someone’s girlfriend because you don’t like the boyfriend (and posting her picture) to saying shit or titties.

That loborn wasn’t deleted a long time ago is a sign of how tolerant a place xanga is.  I don’t know about the pot guy, but I can be as politically incorrect as I want with zero fear of having my site deleted, unlike on myspace where my site was deleted several times with no explanation, probably because of pictures satyrical of religion (the only thing I can think of).

@ItIsAllGravy@xanga - I see you are talking about the “ish” sites – they are independent of xanga as far as I know, as is revelife which censors and heavily edits featured blogs.  John, the guy who basically runs xanga submitted one of my blogs to be featured on revelife, and when it was voted to the top of the list of submissions pretty quickly, they deleted it.  It wasn’t anything offensive, but I am blocked from revelife’s featured blogs for calling them out on comment censorship, ironically.

My comment about how tolerant xanga is referred to the main xanga site.

No Kris Jenner? I thought this was embarrasing moms not moms rich out of their asses for working hard (except Dina Lohan).

I agree, but it must be difficult for celebrities to go from sexy superstars and then be expected to get out of the spotlight and live a normal life like everyone else. just as it must be hard adjusting to stardom, its got to be hard transitioning out of it, too.

Although I agree with your sentiments, I think you should’ve held back a little with your writing. The other Lohan sister has her own clothing line and has had some acting roles. Just because you’re not in the loop doesn’t mean you should associate Alli to someone like Cinderella or Rapunzel. It’s just what you assume. I understand what you’re trying to do with witty humor and all, but come on. Claiming that someone is “chained up inside of a cupboard and occasionally throw[n] in handfuls of iceberg lettuce to snack on” is not in very good taste either!

@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - Demi and Madonna are both old enough to be my mom. If either were and I was still a teenager, I would be mortified. As a 20-something, still a bit embarrassed. It’s one thing to be the child of a MILF, but for your mom to completely flaunt her MILF-status shamelessly is tough for a kid to accept. And no one is thrilled when one of their parents starts dating something half their age. Just saying. I read this post as how their children feel about their behavior: embarrassed.

@Digital_Angel21@xanga - I was raised in a family of “cougars” with women dating/marrying much younger men since the 1960s, so I wouldn’t be embarrassed if my mother was dating someone half her age (which would make him ten years younger than me).  I’d be like, “You go mom!”

Sad that even grown children would be so spoiled as to have an issue with their mother dating a younger man.  I believe Madonna’s second husband and father to her son is 10 years younger, so I’d reckon her children are already used to the concept and are not as embarrassed as people may gather. 

Perhaps these women “flaunting their MILF status” (which degrades women to only sex objects) is teaching their daughters that women aren’t dead after they become mothers.  Perhaps it’ll end up raising their self-esteem.

Judgemental posts like this (along with a serious lack in real beauty, fashion, and popnews journalism) have all made me decide that I will no longer read Lovelyish when visiting Xanga. I honestly miss Lovelyish when the former editor was here. The site seems to have changed, a lot.

Regarding the OP:  I know that you are as a person are allowed to have your own opinions and have freedom of speech, but I want you to know that I think the content here is offensive, not only to the mothers you have listed, but to their children as well. I don’t know what kind of relationship you have/had with your mom, but if someone said these things about my mom, I’d be really upset (and in no way am I implying that you have a bad relationship with your mom, I just want to be considerate). You have no real knowledge about their family dynamics. You don’t know if these kids are embarrassed by their moms or not. At the end of the day, isn’t it just more important that they know their mom’s love them and want them to be happy, healthy, and successful? So why go bad-mouthing someone’s mom? If you really must post something about how you think the behavior of these women is inappropriate, how about tossing in some constructive criticism??

Anyway, I apologize for the long comment, this will be my last visit to Lovelyish.

the more i read, the more grateful i am to have a NORMAL embarrassing mom! hahahaha.. 

So much hate for successful women here.

@LeaK - women are not better than men, and men are not better than women. put away that man-hate and stop waving the nazi-feminist flag

All I have to say is…. Jennifer Lopez has kids?! WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?!!?!

@aftershejumped@xanga - I also miss Jessica and the old crew and agree that the site has changed so much. I used to come on daily and read almost every article. Now I come on every other week and read only a handful.