Lovelyish

I got my boyfriend a gift, but I also did something similar. I got a jar and put 365 notes in it, each with a memory or an inside joke or a reason I love him. That way he can have a new one every day of the year.

I don’t know. That’s nice and all but I wouldn’t really care much or like getting something like that as a present. It’s cute but I am not the sensitive/emotional type. I mean sure it’s nice but it doesn’t really move me either. I have a very logical/rational type of brain and well…I guess the girly heart idea just seems a little cheap and goofy. I would rather get a present from my boyfriend, and I know my boyfriend would rather get one too. Books make him insanely happy and he collects them, and perfume makes me insanely happy I collect that. So we exchange books and perfume and we are very happy clams. The cards we exchange are the lovey/sappy part.
 I know some people are really impressed by and enjoy romantic gestures but I’m not one of them. I don’t need a bunch of sticky notes to tell me that my BF loves me, I already know that . And I should be telling him all the time that I appreciate him, not just in gift form. It should be his boyfriendly right to hear all the ways I love him, not a cop-out to buy him a tangible Christmas present. Even if I was broke I’d still make him cookies or something.
Just my opinion/personality   

Most guys I know would find this extremely needy and weird. If you need to list reasons to love someone… eh, I’d be worried. But that’s just me.

Cost free option? Um… sex…?

i would LOVE this gift but my boyfriend wouldn’t, 

I give my bf gifts like these all the time throughout the year. I’m planning to get him something more for christmas.

He appreciates and loves everything I do or give him, material gift or not. That is just how he is.

This is the kind of sappy but adorable thing that I’d do as a surprise, non-holiday way of showing love.  In fact, on my 100th day of dating my boyfriend, I did something extremely similar.  However, it’s not really the same as giving a christmas present, in my opinion.  For a cheap but tangible gift make a scrapbook, knit him a scarf, or do some other kind of crafty thing.  Christmas doesn’t have to be about the commercialism of love, but it’s still nice to have a gift that’s a little more than just saying “i love you.”

I shelled out and got my SO a new laptop!  If I’d done something like that I’d feel like it was way to cheesy for us (but if it works for you, great!).  This will be our 5th christmas and I’ve always bought at least a little something for him, plus I make cookies.

For his birthday,I got my boyfriend a gift(a TWLOHA shirt), but I also made him a mixed cd. Stereotypical? No. Because along with that I included explanations on all 30 songs as to why they remind me of him. It was thoughtful, sentimental, but not cheap at the same time^.^ He loved it(: Now..to figure out Christmas..

haha, my boyfriend would HATE this. He’d rather I got him some of his favourite video games or planned a whole day of amazing sex with him.

I got my boyfriend a new pipe to smoke weed out of, haha.

I got my boyfriend Gears of War 3 and a North Carolina Tarheels polo so he can wear that to work since he’s a huge fan. And so he can wear it on our anniversary trip to Chapel Hill.

We also have this little scrapbook that we make together. I started it three years ago for our first Christmas because I was broke, and just added a few pictures and little anecdotes of memories we had together and funny quotes. He worked on a few more pages and gave it to me for my birthday, so now we’ll work on a few pages and then exchange it on a holiday or birthday as our sentimental thing for each other.

@written_conversations@xanga - Same here. My boyfriend is soooo not the “lovey dovey” type, I definitely think this would make him uncomfortable and he’d probably think it was a little weird.

He has done cute romantic things before – once for Valentine’s Day he got a dozen roses, split them up into old wine bottles and put them all over our apartment. He will also light candles to set a mood before sex…but I feel like this is WAAAAY too mushy for him. He’d probably much prefer I make him a special dinner, buy him a movie or a video game, or something like that. Usually if I can’t afford a gift I fall back on making dinner – I’m a really good cook and I know all his favorite foods. This year, since he’s graduating college next week, his Christmas/Graduation present is combined – a really nice diploma frame with a slot for his tassel. They’re about $120 minimum so I think combining the two is reasonable.

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - Actually I think it’s quite cute ;D Of course not every guy is going to like it or even understand it..but still, it’s cute and something I’m going to try as well. 

@Hinase@xanga - Oh I agree, it’s cute as heck, but many guys just get freaked out by this. If you have a BF who won’t, consider yourself lucky!

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - Yeah, pretty much. Lol 

@Hinase@xanga - Thanks for being the only person not to bash it.  I think people sometimes read these and forget they are written by actual people…anyway, he really liked it.  He searched the whole dorm to find me and spun me in circles in a hug.  But he’s just a more lovey-dovey guy I suppose.  It worked well for us and if does for you too, that’s great.

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@sonnigenmai@xanga - I’m glad he did because it really looks like you put a lot of work into it. I’m sure my bf will love this idea as well ;D No problem either. 

Ouu I did something similar but made a long scroll instead of hearts But I’d totally save something like this for Valentine’s day, haha

haha my bf would love this actually I did something similar with a collage of photos of us and then i wrote the top 10 things I loved about him. He liked it a lot and now its on his wall. haha 

@sonnigenmai@xanga - we’re not bashing it. I actually think it’s a really cute idea (as in, I’d love if someone did it for me), but I know a lot of guys would get really freaked out by something like this. I know my boyfriend would feel really uncomfortable if I did this for him.

@ChelseaSmilesMore@xanga - Awesome, that’s what I’m planning to get my boyfriend, too. (Though maybe not glass ’cause he keeps breaking those…)

I think it just depends on the person. My boyfriend likes functional things, doesn’t really like gifts that aren’t practical. I just think it’s the thought that counts. I’m easy.

@ask_ashleyyy@xanga - That’s a really nice idea. I want to put together a scrapbook of our mementos one of these days ( I have a bunch saved) but don’t seem to have the time or really know where to start in starting a scrapbook.

Seems like some of you have weird relationships -  your boyfriend wouldn’t even appreciate it?? Jeezee.

My
boyfriend may not be the most emotional/sensitive type, but he would be
happy with anything I gave him, whether it was made or bought,
expensive or free.

In fact, when I told him he didn’t have to buy
me anything for Christmas (and no, it wasn’t a trick – meant it) because
he is buying my engagement ring for my birthday next month, he insisted
on buying me something…

Ohh I hope you don’t mind but definitely stealing your idea!! It’s wonderful (and your boyfriend sounds amazing). My bf would probably cry if he walked in and saw that on the wall hahaha.

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - it depends lol… because my boyfriend is VERY much an “I don’t know where the future’s going, don’t talk about it or I’ll run” kind of guy (and this is after 2 years), but I know this would make him extremely happy because he DOES care about me. if he only cared about himself, then I could see him finding it weird.

Or, if every note was some version of “propose to me!” lol… understandable. but I think for a guy not to appreciate this from his loved one–it means he either doesn’t appreciate the relationship very much, or he’s eighteen years old and wanted mf3 more.

yeah, that’s nice.
but my man’s getting 500$ to best buy.
because i know the way to his heart. lmao

@heyitsjuliet@xanga - He is pretty amazing, and feel free to steal my idea.  You might want to add something to it though and make it special to your beau

Hah my fiance is such a softie and would love something like this.  He never wants anything that I can buy for holidays, so I usually just do a card and cookies or something like that.  

I did that during high school, oh my naive days :T

aww. this is so cute  

Idk, I love my boyfriend for a million reasons but I don’t really feel the urge to spend that much time writing them out. I’d rather get him a wu-tang clan shirt or something.

Maybe just a little detail, nothing too expensive would be great, dunno, but I do like receiving gifts.

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - agreed. Blowjobs as gifts FTW. 

@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - that is the ideal flashy, pretentious, expensive, not unique or personal gift ever!!

@undeclared1@xanga -  i always get him personal gifts. last year for his birthday i got him a  grill because he loves grilling. he LOVES x box so I ot him a kinect. and he loves bass in his car so actually, i’m writing him a note with the giftcard to tell him its for a system for his car..
its quite personal.
i think very long and hard about what i get my man,  i have an awesome job that enables me to get him great gifts.
there’s nothing ideal or flashy about my gifts.
i love to get my man great things because i’ma  great girlfriend and if someone got me a stupid sappy letter i’d laugh in their face.
we’re not a sensitive lovey dovey couple.
my gift is none of the above, and frankly, i think you’re jealous you CAN’T get anything that awesome for your man.
but you can go ahead  send me anothing comment arguing and saying how you’re not jealous.
but damn, you just personally attacked my comment. we all know that truth. LOL

I think this is precious! I’ve actually always wanted to do something similar. I don’t know about other people, but I think the thoughtfulness of a gift is what makes it great. For example, my best friend got me a giant mug for my morning tea and a Justin Beiber calendar for my birthday and I loved it!! I don’t like Justin Beiber, but she knows I love a good gag gift! The best gift I ever got from a boy was homemade. It was a necklace with a key and a heart with his name on it. It cost him about 50 cents, but it was thoughtful! I think what you did for your boyfriend was wonderful!

  Me and my fiance’ decided not to get each other anything for Christmas, because we’re happy just to have each other and we can’t really afford it, but we’ll probably just spend a day together doing something fun instead.

I think it’s a little too much for Christmas, which is more about family
than your relationship. It’s a day where you feel a bit like a kid again and can act that out without being looked at weird. The above is a little too ‘us’ orientated for such a day, in my opinion.

I did something similar a few years ago, but it was like a poster-type thing I designed in Photoshop with around 10-20 things I loved ABOUT him. This was however, for Valentine’s Day, not Christmas.

Really, all the things you could do for free are not appropriate for Christmas but Valentine’s Day.

@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - I sympathise with you. I’m not judging undeclared1 per se but I do think a lot of females are deluded as to what the average man wants for Christmas, his birthday or whenever else your would normally present someone with gifts. In truth, guys don’t particularly like fluffy, cuddly bears that express your affection for them, they want something practical and useful, something they can use again and again as per an XBox Kinect.

The sooner some girls realise that males are different from us in the way that they think and in the level of sentimental attachment they place on things, the sooner they’ll be getting gifts their man actually wants

@Shytooth@xanga - You are so sweet!  My favorite present was when my sister took my old, worn out ballet (pointe) shoes and framed them in a shadow box.  Couldn’t have cost ten dollars, but it meant a lot to me.

@princesscookiex@xanga - Agreed – I went the practical route with my boyfriend for Christmas this year after being a bit lovey-dovey for our anniversary. He’s been putting a lot of work into getting his kitchen put together, so I know he’s going to be WAY more stoked about his new grill and kitchen gear than he was about a framed photo of us, or a surprise souvenir from our trip to Disney. Haha.

@princesscookiex@xanga -  thank you. exactly. they’re just put together differently. we have our close, sappy moments but for christmas i’m getting him something awesome! I mean, I understand that not everyone has a job or can afford to give gifts… but I just am not one of those people. And everyone is different and I just happen to know my man would not enjoy a letter full of why I love him… haha he already knows I love him. He’s just not one of those sentimental types.

My boyfriend would love this, but he’s also going to love the Minecraft Periodic Table t-shirt I bought him and the journal that you fill out as a couple.

I did something like this for Valentine’s day along with a small gift. He liked it. But that year we agreed to get creative. For Christmas, we always buy gifts. We try to get things that are needs as well as wants though.This year..he asked for new sneakers to wear to work.