Lovelyish reader neverlovedhimmoreasked:
My boyfriend and I have been together just little over a year, in this year we’ve been through a lot, he lost his nan, i lost my great nan, i even fell pregnant and we both made the hardest decision and felt the time wasn’t right for a child, I am only 18 and he is 19, and we are both alike in wanting to achieve things and be successful. Throughout all our downs this year, we had stayed very supportive towards each other, even after the abortion, although i felt very depressed for a while, he stayed by my side and together we got through it. We have arguments like normal couples, the odd few being worse than the normal petty ones, but on the whole we have a great relationship, we do a lot together, and see each other regularly, we both get on with each other’s friends and family, and i love him very much, and i know he loves me the same. no doubts.
However, the last couple of weeks, we have been bickering a little more than usual about seeing each other’s phones, him changing our plans at the last second, etc. normal things (i hope ) and we seem to be irritating each other a lot more. things became so bad that we talked about ending it altogether, but we both re-thought and decided after everything, thatt would be giving up too easily, instead we have decided on a break, we both know where stand with this, minimum contact, no seeing other people and we have said 1 week.
I am scared that i will lose him. So, what does a break really mean?
Breaks do not necessarily equal breaking up. They are a completely conditional thing when it comes to relationships as some couples constitute it as a mini-break up and see other people, while others take it as a time away from one another. It seems that you have established the terms of your break and also set a time set but don’t let that necessarily limit you or your relationship to your boyfriend. If you feel you have the need to speak to him then address it.
If you fear that he won’t want to talk just remember that if he truly wants to, he will. Also keep in mind that if you forget what you want and remember what you deserve you’ll find yourself where you want to be.
You both have apparently been through a lot, trying your best to support and comfort one another. But during that period you may have both lost time and efforts from focusing on yourselves as individuals. Remember that a break is not simply just a time to think about your relationship but also a time to reflect and really think about yourself and remember what you want.
How do you define a ‘break’?
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