Datingish user lotte810 asks:
When you put “how to get a boyfriend” in the Google bar, some links will pop up saying that being social, outgoing, friendly and presentable are key to get a boyfriend. I dare to say I meet these “requirements” but I still have never had a boyfriend in my life. Don’t get me wrong! I’m not desperate for a boyfriend but being 23 and never having had a boyfriend just makes me think if there’s something wrong with me.
Social outcast would be the best term to describe me when I was a teenager because I never got invited to party or events. Instead, I always just sat at home and studied for exams. Until college, I changed drastically to the point that I attend events and party even weekend and I was genuinely happy because I had never had so many friends in my life. In college, my friends and classmates always got me involved with their activities and I felt so included. When you’re being liked, your confidence level automatically pumps up. Then I started putting on a little makeup and buying stylish clothes. I did get guys’ attention and got compliments all the time. However, I rarely got asked out on a date or pursued by guys. I mean I went on dates with only one guy in my history and he eventually went back to his ex-girlfriend.
Back home, I still continue my social life and have met more people but still I have many friends and that people like me. The situation now is even worse, I haven’t got asked out at all since I moved back home early this year. Sometimes it makes me wonder if I will be single forever since I have no luck in the dating department. My close female and male friends both said this to me ‘You seriously are very normal. You’re very friendly, approachable and beautiful. Your case is very odd because I’d have guessed you must’ve had a lot of boyfriends since you’re very attractive.”
I really don’t know the reason why guys only like being friends with me and saying that I’m attractive but they don’t wanna date me? Why?
First all, you should never think that there’s something utterly wrong with you! Confidence is such an important trait so don’t ever let others make you doubt yourself. Perhaps you just need a change of scene from home and maybe to shake things up a little. Also, if you’re constantly looking for your next prince charming you might overlook the imperfect person that could make you perfectly happy! Often times love can be found in the most unexpected ways so just try not to worry about things too much and keep an open mind out.
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