Xanga user missbartleby asks:
…I’m going to be a senior in high school, and I’ve seen my cool friends wear make up almost everyday since we were freshmen. Although my wardrobe ‘progressed’ over the years (Serious, I used to wear men’s clothes), I never smeared myself with any of that make up stuff with the exception of lip stick for choir concerts. Here are the reasons I’ve been holding out:
1. I use friends’ skills for free: I never bothered to learn it. Every time I go to a show or a dance, I ask my friends to put on make up for me. I would just give them a make up kit to use, close my eyes/do whatever they tell me to, and thank them immensely and get on with it. Actually, every time, I would run around like an immature child and laugh, ‘Gah! Don’t look at me! There’s something on my face!’ Then I’d get on with it.
2. It feels awkward: Afterward, I’m eager to wash it all off after an event, because I feel insecure and not myself when wearing it. I’m afraid my lip stick will smear, my eyeliner will run, my mascara will be messy, etc. I overall, can’t look in the mirror with make up on without a feeling of weird, like ‘o_O.’
3. The whole idea of make up: I always believed that my face is my face, if it’s not good enough then whatever. Putting on makeup sounds like painting my face like a mask and that my real face is too plain or not good enough (‘accentuate this!’ ‘bring out the color of this!’)
I’ve got the grades, nerdy hobbies, and volunteer work that boosted my confidence in high school. But what about after high school? If I just want to look decent in college and in the workplace, should I care beauty standards as an adult? How does society in general view women who wear zero make up? Why do women wear make up in the first place?
I’ve never been a big fan of taking time out of my day to apply makeup. I usually save it for special occasions, but I also know people who feel naked going out without. It’s an individual thing. You shouldn’t feel pressured to wear it if it’s not what you want.
If you’re worried that you might need to know how to apply makeup in the future, then ask your friends to teach you a few basics. I find that just some natural-colored eye shadow and a little bit of mascara is enough to get me through special occasions. When I go out during the weekend, I add some eyeliner, but that’s about it. Majority of the time, people can’t even tell that I’m wearing any makeup at all.
Coming from someone who usually doesn’t wear makeup, I can say that “society” (AKA the people I know) often say that I should wear makeup to appear more grown-up and fashionable. They tell me that although I don’t look bad without makeup, I look better with it. So there’s definitely an idea that women should wear makeup, but I don’t think society necessarily condemns those who don’t.
After having a conversation with Lovelyish‘s editor Beca, we decided that most girls wear makeup to boost their confidence around other women. Girls will put on makeup because their friends do, which explains why you might feel the need to do so as well. It’s natural to want to do what everyone else is doing, especially when it comes to beauty. It’s important to remember that you don’t need the makeup just because you might have friends who like it.
Overall, I would say if you feel confident sans makeup and you don’t feel comfortable with it on, then don’t force yourself to wear it. It’s not worth the trouble if it makes you worry and feel bad about your appearance.
What do you think, Lovelies? Do you think women who don’t wear makeup are viewed differently than those who do?
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