Three months after her separation (and eventual divorce) from Marc Anthony, Jennifer Lopez graces the cover of Glamour magazine looking as fabulous as ever. In an interview with the mag, the celebrity divulged the newest relationship lesson that love taught her.
“You’ve got to love yourself first,” JLo said in the interview. “You’ve got to be OK on your own before you’re OK with someone else. You’ve got to value yourself and know that you’re worth everything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can’t really have a healthy relationship.”
Lopez also admitted that it’s important to her to get to know someone outside of the public’s eye. So any future relationships probably won’t be acknowledged by her in the press until she’s sure it’s going to be serious. [via E!]
This is the end of Lopez’s third marriage. She married her first husband Ojani Noa in 1997 and divorced him 11 months later. Her second marriage was to Chris Judd in 2001, but that ended in 2003.
Jennifer Lopez’s music always gave me the impression that she was confident in herself and proud of her accomplishments while still remembering her origins. I mean, look at one of her most famous songs. “I’m in control and loving it / Rumors got me laughing, kid / Love my life and my public,” Lopez sings in her hit “Jenny from the Block.” The lyrics in that song sound to me like she had confidence in her value and love for herself, so maybe she just needs to get her 2002-self back.
What is the most important lesson that a relationship ever taught you?
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I can’t say I’m really looking to her for relationship advice.
I’d rather visit old couples who’ve been married for most of their lives- to each other- if I want to learn something about marriage. I mean, are you going to study someone with a record of failures in the area they’re talking about, or success?
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she just have really bad luck in guys.
hopefully she’ll find someone who is right for her.
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To not let people walk all over me and feel guilty! lol. But I guess that goes with her saying to know your self worth. =)
sunflower / 321 posts
She never married Diddy? Weird. Anyway, she’s right. Those words “love yourself before you love someone else” always get written off as the stuff inscribed on garden rocks you order from SkyMall, but if you know what it feels like to rely on someone to identify you, and then to finally love yourself, you know exactly what she’s talking about.
daisy / 506 posts
@kackie - Truth!
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I think JLo’s the last person who should be dispensing any advice regarding relationships. I mean, c’mon. She has three marriages behind her.
Anyway, with past relationships, I’ve learned to never settle and that actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
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Am I the only one who assumed she was referring to Marc and not herself?
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Well despite the fact that she might not be someone with the best track record learning to love yourself IS one of the most important things you can do for yourself after a long relationship has failed. That was something I had to learn after my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me. It was devastating but it was a real wakeup call that I had to learn to be by myself before I could expect to be with anyone for years and years.
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I don’t think what someone says (sings) is a very good indicator of how they really feel – a lot of people who are always talking about how confident they are really don’t have a very good sense of self-worth at all.