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Kids are REALLY mean at that age, and they often get better as high school starts… and especially when it ends… it’s not my place to say, but I think her parents should have known that and waited until at least mid-high school.

I dont know if I’d let a child get surgery done that young, but corrective vs cosmetic is different.

However, this really really highlights how far minor teasing can go

Although I’m pretty open minded and what makes people happy isn’t any of my business…. however.. it’s called the awkward stage and it lasts from 12-16 (or something). I thought every girl bursts into tears at this age because they’re “ugly”. I know I did. 

Her nose looks deformed. I could see where it is corrective.

Aren’t you still kind of growing into your face at thirteen? It’s amazing what a difference a few years can make, not only how your face settles, but how you perceive it. I know I hated my nose at her age (I wasn’t teased like she was, though; just saying I hated my nose) but I’m pretty fine with it now, especially after I’ve gotten it pierced.

Wouldn’t there have been less extreme ways to go about this? Put her through counseling if she’s that emotionally distressed? (I’d suggest trying to stop the bullying but I doubt anything would make an actual impact). Anything other than altering her body at that age? Getting plastic surgery that young isn’t exactly the same as getting it at eighteen. Your body’s still changing.

Also, is it just me, or do those pictures look like two entirely different people? Not just the nose, but the skin tone and the shape of the eyes and lips?

I feel like with the way kids are these days and with so many young people committing suicide because they are being bullied, maybe plastic sugery isn’t that bad. While I am all for people embracing their bodies and seeing themselves as beautiful, I think that maybe her parents were right to allow her to get the surgery at 13 and save her from the potential mental abuse until she turned 18. My friend’s little sister had her ears pinned back when she was little because of teasing. She’s a beautiful girl but let’s face it, kids today are mean and have more channels to harass others through.

@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - its just make up and her tan. lol

It’s corrective surgery. Her former nose was crooked and broken twice before, it’s better for her have the surgery before somebody broke it for her again. She has her parents’ consent, which is important.

Well if it was corrective why didn’t they correct it when she broke her nose? maybe they wanted to see if she would grow into it? hmmm. but yea I could see why she wanted one….there is a difference between just having a large nose and a large crooked nose. But I really don’t think it was that bad…I mean we all have stuff we want to change, but that doesn’t mean we should get surgery for every little thing. And if the kids want to make fun of her they’ll just find something else to tease her about.

I would have told the little brats that my nose was like that because I was a witch, and if they didn’t stop I would hex them. lol hahaha. Or I would have turned into my bitchy self and said something like “yea making fun of my nose sure isn’t going to change how stupid you are” (or something about them that isn’t perfect). Or we could go with punching them in the face, breaking their nose, and hence everyone has the same nose! hmmm…maybe we shouldn’t go with my advice.

That’s sad, actually. I used to hate my face.. but it got better looking, I think. lol

Honestly, the new nose bothers me more than the old one did. It just doesn’t look like it fits her face to me. I at least wish they would have waited a couple years for a couple reasons: 1) Yes bullying is rough but at that age, kids pick on everyone about something. If she was “popular,” then she wasn’t getting the worst of it and I don’t think they should have reacted by giving into the bullying. They probably instead should have taught her good ways to cope with the bullying. She really didn’t actually deal with the issues the bullying caused, just what the kids bullied her about. They might find something new to bully her about now (like maybe the fact that her nose is fake). 2) They could have waited for her to finished growing. She’s only 13 so her body still probably has some filling out to do. A lot of 13 year olds look weird, especially with their noses. At about 18 I’d look at surgery if she still wanted it. Only earlier if it started causing her physiological problems.

plastic surgery is pretty drastic, and a huge decision to make at any age. but then, if it’s corrective surgery I think the situation is a bit different.

@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - she looks super tan in the second photo!

If she broke her nose twice, I don’t see anything wrong with it. 

@thepsychoticraccoon@xanga - I also thought it was a totally diff person…plus she got a tan going too…

although bullying often cause kids (these days) to break down and attempt more extreme methods to curve the teasing or self-esteem (or suicides) upgrades, I think now the 13 yr old will view plastic surgery a way that you can  be satisified with yourself and others. Yes, kids are super cruel. Myself at her age was teased for having bony joints (it runs in the family, plus with high metabolism, etc) others would call me anorexia which is never a pretty thing to be teased with or some bully girls would spread rumours that they heard me throw up (i ate 5 meals a day as I burned it off with high metabolism, that would make ZERO sense) in the washroom, etc. But in that time, no one in my position would seek out plastic surgery or some exterior method to better my image.

I understand where she’s coming from, but 13 is very young. I think that if someone wants to get plastic surgery, that’s completely their choice but I don’t think someone should get it because their bullied into it. If she had waited 3 years and learned to accept her nose and realize she is much more than her looks and THEN got it because it was something SHE wanted to fix for herself, then that would’ve been better and she would’ve valued it more.

definitely looks more corrective than anything to me.. and if they were going to get it fixed eventually, why not? what’s 5 more years. clearly the nose was messed up due to accidental reasons. 

I absolutely support it. I see nothing wrong with wanting to improve your appearance At any age. I’m all for plastic surgery and plan on some for myself in the near future.

I think that her parents made the right choice by looking out for their daughters best interest. Her nose was broken twice so its considered corrective surgery…either way its viewed plastic or corrective…Bullying can really take a toll on children and teens. I would do the same for my child just to spare her the painful experiences and memories that would come from that.

People are made fun of at every age. Honestly, yes, it’s sad that she “had” to do this, especially at 13, but if it’ll make life easier for her…

Sometimes there are things about us that we will never be able to accept. The way I see it, it isn’t worth it to spend so much of your time hating that part of you (whatever it is) when you can change it so that you can actually see what it feels like to be happy. That may sound pretty bad, and honestly, I wouldn’t say that if I didn’t have to deal with something I hated about myself every day. But I do, and I can’t wait to change it when I finally get enough money for it. I’ve dealt with it since I was 13 and I am now 19. It’s not getting better, and it has affected the way I’ve lived my life. And I’ve had enough. When you know how it feels, it is easy to understand why this girl did what she did. I do agree that maybe with time she would have accepted it more and more until it was no longer a problem, but it was obviously serious enough for her to change it completely, so…it is what it is. She won’t be spending years of her life trying to accept it. Sounds good to me. (Plus, if it’s considered corrective, it really isn’t that much of a big deal)

To me she looks more hideous now. In profile, it’s prettier now, but facing the camera, I think she was prettier.

Everyone gets teased. It’s part of growing up, and part of growing up is getting over it. Of course if it’s extreme bullying it’s another thing, but just being teased? Bah, that’s nothing.

Did she get a melanin transplant as well?? 

@rafi09@xanga - EXACTLY, just because she got surgery doesn’t mean the bullying will stop. If anything, I bet the kids WILL tease her about getting surgery. They’ll probably resort to calling her “fake” or “plastic”.

Also, does anyone else notice how drastically different the two pictures are? Disregard the nose for a second and look at the face she’s making. In the before picture, she looks bright-eyed and has a slight smile. In the second one, she looks like she has a fake tan, she’s covered her face with makeup, her eyes are narrowed, and she’s making a kissy face. Maybe this is taking it a bit too far, but it looks to me as though the surgery could have gone to her head. She even has highlights in her hair! If you ask me, rhinoplasty, even when it’s corrective, is just not a good idea for a girl her age. She’s still developing, both physically and mentally. Letting her get surgery at that age is teaching her that if you have a flaw, all you have to do is get surgery. Put makeup on your face to cover up your imperfections. Go tanning so you’re not pale and “sickly” looking. If she still wanted it at 18, THEN she could get it, because she’d be old enough to know the consequences and aftermath of a surgery like that. But at 13? No way. Hell, she could have been okay with it by the time she turned 18.

Say what you want about the procedure being necessary, but unless her nose was mangled, they should have taught her to deal with it and MOVE ON. Think about it: she’s already “popular”, and now she has the Ashley Tisdale post-op nose to complete her look. I can’t imagine her remaining humble when her second picture looks like she’s turned into a fucking Barbie.

my only concern is that she is still growing and that there might be problems later on with that. otherwise, i think she looks better. minus duckface.

also, facebook bullying? that’s what blocking and defriending are for.

I was teased mercilessly as a child for my deformed left ear. I had had corrective surgery on it when I was four, but it was still obviously not normal. When a group of mean girls left a gross half baked chocolate cupcake in my locker smeared sloppily with green frosting with a note taped to it saying “here’s a deformed cupcake for your hideous deformed ear” I went home bawling and begged my parents for surgery. The summer after 6th grade I had my ear reconstructed for the most part. It is still a little different, but if they altered it any further I wouldn’t have feeling in the tip of it and I wanted to maintain that.

To a degree, I understand what this girl is going through. Throw in Facebook? I can’t even imagine.

In this case, while I would say it is a rare one, I do believe the parents did the right thing. It is controversial, but I agree with their decision.

@ConfessionsOfAWhore@xanga - No, it looks more like simply the lighting. The before photo looks like it was taken sitting in an office or somewhere with fluorescent lighting. The after photo looks like it was taken in a setting with warmer incandescent lighting. I think people are looking too hard at the photo. Hell, maybe the first photo was taken in the winter time, and the second one, later on in the spring. I know my skin gets a whole lot paler in the colder months, so this would make sense to me.

If it was necessary, like corrective rhinoplasty, then it’s fine. but if she only did it because of the bullying, she might regret it when she’s older. 

@blackspiders@xanga - It still looks really extreme. I mean, I know people whose skin looks quite different pending lighting, but even so, it looks a great deal darker. 

My nose job is better than hers.

Oh, goodness, she looks a like a stripper now. >__> 

I’ll admit that I’m willing to give a kid wiggle room for corrective surgery, but this just seems to be vanity. If she had problems breathing, I would definitively support it. This just shows a thirteen-year-old girl turning herself into a prima dona, as she’d rather be made fun for surgery than looking different. Which will happen. Horrifically.

Yeah it’s corrective, but she didn’t just get it because of that. She got it because kids teased her so her parents gave consent.

Actually, when I was 10 I just accepted that I was ugly. It didn’t really hurt, it was just a fact.

the only thing that worries me now is that the bullies win. they teased her and it got so bad that she was willing to change her appearance for them- what does that teach a child?

If she’s happy then who the fuck cares?

Good. Her nose wasn’t ugly but it didn’t look normal.
Now she looks super pretty. she will never have to worry about it.

good for her.

good for her! she looks amazingg, & definately needed her nose done. but im sorry, 13 is way too young for fb, & exactly..if someone is bullying you on fb, then delete & block them, it’s SO easy…

Bullying Gives An Excuse for Someone to Change How They Are: Parents Take The Easy Way Out*

There, I fixed the title for you.

People tried to bully me when I was a kid. I just ignored it. If it did get to me, I didn’t let them see that and they eventually stopped. I killed them with kindness and instead gained a reputation as being a strong individual that people respected and went to with their problems.

I think we should be teaching young girls like that to hold their heads high and be proud of who they are and what they look like. :[

her nose looks really good after

I would say no in any other case, but the fact that hers is corrective changes everything and makes me agree with the parents. Not that it’s relevant, but I think her nose looks a lot better after the surgery. Too bad she doesnt know most of the kids are just jealous of her. And I think the tan and curled eyelashes were a more noticeable change than her nose..

i can almost see why she would want it done. as a parent, i would have made her wait until she grew into herself more. if it was corrective, it should have been corrected when it happened. not because of teasing. i’d be on her side more if the before/after picture wasn’t so drastically different. fix her nose, but if my mom saw me tanning and putting make up on when i was 13 she would have grounded me. there’s no need for a 13 year old girl to tan and wear make up. it just shows it was a cosmetic change. i understand bullying and i understand how her nose is because mine points as well but that’s a major thing to think about undergoing. she says she can ‘handle bullying better’? what if they find something else to pick on?? it’s not about fixing what’s made fun of, it’s accepting that everyone has flaws. accept yourself. this honestly irritates the crap out of me.

if she broke her nose twice before, who’s to say it won’t happen again? sounds like she’s pretty prone to it. and to add on to everyone else, before she might’ve been known as “big nose” but now she’ll be known as “nose job”.

While I totally dont fault her parents on their decision I would have suggested waiting until she grew into her body and face more. It would have only been two more years or so for her to wait, and really by that time they teasing might have even slowed down.

I definitely wouldn’t let my child get plastic surgery that young. You have to learn that God gave you the body you’re in. I realize how bad bullying can get. It’s horrible. But getting a nose job is no way to deal with it Especially that young. Your body is still changing when you’re that young.

why is this story posted twice?

It was corrective… meh, fair enough

Her nose and face are still changing at that age. I remember having a cute button nose until middle school when I started to get more structure in the bridge part and now it looks like any nose out there.

She is too young to have had it done, even if she did break it. I mean her parents basically created another materialistic idiot. I see girls who look like this all the time and they end up as 40something housewives with bad shopping habits with the same dyed hair and fake tan they had when they were young- with a splash of botox of course.

Bullying should not be “fixed” this way because you are glossing over the psychological aspect and only dealing with what other people see as physically wrong. Also bullying never forced anyone to do anything; this girl chose to have plastic surgery and her parents chose to let her instead of helping her cope in a different way.

If it was a breast augmentation because she was flatchested I would think differently but her nose was broken twice and now she has the confidence in herself with a nose that isnt broken anymore to deter the bullies.  I think her parents had her best interest at heart.  The doctor who did her surgery said that in younger patients the do not work on teenagers until they can determine that the girls are pretty much finished growing.  Girls noses are done by 14 anyway. 

Good for her!  She looks great in both photo’s, I hope the bully’s will leave her be now, and also that she won’t become a bully.

If the surgery was based more on corrective procedures, I’m okay with that.  Lots of people’s noses change a lot after they get broken.  

i must admit…when i was a kid i used to hate my nose. now that i’m my late 20′s, it doesn’t look bad after all. 

first thought: the new tan is amazing! lol.

too young is when your face still grows and the result gets sort of detroyed later…I’ve heard 14 is when doctors start with nose corrections. I don’t think she NEEDED it, people live with a nose like she used to have and not everyone gets bullied…but if she did go through it it may always hurt her self esteem and associate her nose with helplessness. Like people are allowed to change their name if they get or got teased with it, I think its good for her. I hope she learned some coping skills for bullying too BEFORE that though, because it’ not the only way to deal with it, but it seems like she did talk to her parents at least. I like the result too, it looks natural, not too small.

This won’t stop the bullying, but if she likes it, that’s what matters.

I think it depends on the case.  In this instance, I agree that it was corrective.  You can tell that it was damaged from it being broken.  I don’t think kids should be allowed to have procedures for no good medical reason, but in the case of correction, I think it is ok.

I mean, sometimes braces are purely cosmetic, but it is perfectly acceptable for a kid to get braces. 

Typically I would say no, but I don’t know what her nose looked like before it was broken twice. I can only imagine having my nose look crooked after it had been fine at one time. Maybe she was insecure that the effects she was seeing in in response to the nose breaking. If it was just her anxious about it without reason, I’d say no, but she had a traumatic event happen twice. Not my place to judge.

On one hand, if your nose has been broken twice and it’s deformed, I understand the desire to get that fixed.
On the other hand, as many have mentioned, she is still growing and because the surgery didn’t have any medical immediacy, she probably should have waited.

I hate when the answering to bullying is trying to fix the bullied instead of the bully. That is like when overweight children try to lose weight so they won’t be bullied anymore. Becoming healthy and not overweight is good, but they shouldn’t feel compelled by bullying, they should feel compelled by loving parents and friends, and themselves.

They also apparently let her tan, and got her lips done… 

In my opinion, 13 is way too young since a lot of people grow into their faces later in life.  I would have switched her to a different school or, if possible, homeschooled her.  Kids are little shitheads and are very mean, especially in middle school, but one thing I’m going to instill in my children is that you shouldn’t let other people get to you and you shouldn’t change yourself because of what your peers think.  I think that’s an important thing to learn and the earlier you learn it, the better off you’ll be.  Understanding that will improve your life far more than plastic surgery.

I would just switch schools.

in this situation i totally  agree with the parents. though she sure looks tan. which worries me a little. her new nose IS beautiful!

@xllxo0o_0_Kara_0_o0oxllx@xanga - i know right?! that tan scares me more than the rhinoplasty. 

{as a parent} i think other parents need to teach their children how to deal with the bulling before they go and allow them to have surgery. being a teen is tough as hell, it wasnt that long ago that i was a teen and got teased allll the damn time for how i dressed and being chubby and shit, but it is all in how you deal with it. teach your children that the people doing the bulling are usually just as insecure as you are and they are pointing out your faults to hide their own.. teach your children to handle situations with humor and grace. also it is ok for your child to be sad and even depressed, its all a part of growing up. { altho you do have to be VERY aware of the signs that your child/friend/whoever is suicidal, that need professional help}we need to teach children that it is not ok to freak out and have surgery just because some one doesnt like how they look. learn to love yourself… NO ONE will treat you with love and respect until you treat yourself that way.

She had a reason to do it, and the surgery actually did a good job! However, I think the parents should have expressed how looks and confidence aren’t correlative, and that those kids are evil for making fun of something that nobody can really help.

Kudos for her parents to helping her out, though. Most would ignore it.

hrm, i can see where you could equate it to braces.

@Love_never_fails - its cause she has some eye makeup on..and she is puckering her lips

@not_your_concern@xanga -  I was thinking the same thing. She looks completely different in the second picture… She’s 13 right?…… Doesnt look like it.. I dont know if its just what she is doing with her lips, but.. Did she get injections or something too? :S Also very tanned…

One time at work  some guy (a coworker to make matters worse) randomly asked me If I were italian because of my big nose… That really hurt, and I wish I made a comeback to him, but I guess that makes me more mature But… Im not going to get a nose job, I dont ever want to get any plastic surgery, unless its to help me

Her nose was really big. I think she looks prettier, but no responsible parent lets their kid get plastic surgery.

it IS corrective surgery. a broken nose completely changes a face, and sometimes gets in the way of breathing correctly. in this situation i can forgive the parents….

…but before reading that it was corrective, i wanted to slug them. it sounded as if they were confirming what the bullies were saying – their daughter isn’t good enough the way she was born. how awful! i was entirely pissed. bad enough she hears it from “friends,” but to know that your parents think you ought to drastically change your appearance in order to be accepted? emotionally debilitating….

so they get are spared my anger…that wasn’t her nose, anyway, it was the result of an injury. she would never have her natural nose again, no matter what, so a corrective surgery is fine in my opinion.

bullying sucks, but now she looks like a stuck-up little bitch. and since she’ll

be a cheerleader, stereotypical of me, but she’ll probably turn into a bitchy, stuck-up,bully herself. who knows. if it was corrective, they should of done it when the incident happened. 

She kind of looks like Leona Lewis o.o

The question is generalizing, so my general answer is: No, young girls should NOT get plastic surgery. But considering the context, I don’t think this is a bizarre or even wrong thing. I think society is fucked up but that is not going to change for the better. When young teenagers are forced to be around each other all day (public school system is bad fucking idea) and then are allowed to have facebook and shit, this kind of bullying is inevitable. And her father made a good point: fixing her nose is like fixing her teeth, which occurs in young kids all the time. If the question were about if it should be legal or not, I think there is no reason for it to be illegal. It’s just a moral issue and only affects one person’s body. I remember my mentality when I was 13, and I am in my third year of college now. I don’t think that is too young to understand and make choices about your body, contrary to popular belief.

A friend of mine had her ears pinned back when we were in 6th grade. 

Because it’s corrective, it really is not that big of a deal. But even if it was just the way her nose was, I don’t think she’s too young. Kids today can be very cruel, and kids her age are committing suicide because of bullying like this. Hopefully now she will grow up being confident in the way she looks.

well for those that say “I don’t get i. You should accept who you are” have obviously not been bullied lol if you can afford it why not. I doubt if the family even had money they wouldn’t give me lipo, rhinoplasty, skin bleaching lol fuck it. You go girl!

I believe in it. My mom had ears that stuck straight out when she was little. And got plastic surgery at about that age. It did wonders for her confidence.

I don’t know, its tough. because part of me is like suck it up, but another part of me is saying that poor girl’s nose was way too big, and it’s not even a “nature made her that way” argument, because she broke it twice…

Bullying didn’t force her to do anything.  She chose to.

i think he’s right about comparing it to braces. if her nose was a little bit smaller, i think she could’ve dealt with it late in life

Oh My God! What the hell. It is things like these that piss me off. Something else, something less dramatic should have been done to change her self- image, esteem and allow for acceptance of her body. She should undergo plastic surgery for herself not as a response to jealous, mean spirited people. 

I find this heartbreaking. If I listen and internalized to all my bullies calling me an ugly stupid black girl, I would be white, blonde blue eye with size 36C and bulimic. Christ! This totally undermines creating any real and permanent self-esteem.  

If her nose looks like that from being broken twice then I wouldn’t even question having it fixed. If it makes her happier it isn’t hurting anything. She’d be upset about it for the rest of her life, she might as well get it fixed now. As a parent I’m sure they were willing to do anything to take her emotional pain away.

It was corrective so it’s not at all bad parenting.

         My nose looks identical to her side profile, maybe a little less drooped down. I have a short tip that is more “upwards” but with a hump. Also, my nose isn’t wide and otherwise looks normal from front face. I don’t know… I have been made fun of because of my hump nose before, especially when I got into highschool. I literally had this one kid tell me that I needed surgery on it, and this was at a christian boarding school. So much for “nice christian kids”. All kids can be cruel. I still kind of would like to have my bump shaved down a bit to be flatter…but I don’t obsess over it like I did in highschool. I literally would have gotten the surgery if my mom had the money and allowed me to. Some people have told me it makes me look unique or whatever, I don’t know. I wouldn’t compare it to being insecure about something like your boobs not being double ds. It’s on your face and everyone sees and notices it all of the time. Plus, when you’re a kid, something like people calling you big nose and saying that you need surgery can take a toll. I couldn’t imagine if I encountered adults who constantly made fun of my nose at my age. I’d probably feel the same way as when I was highschool. Let the girl be happy. I just hope she doesn’t become a stuck up bully with her new confidence and look.

In no way can I judge her parents for allowing her to get rhinoplasty. I got teased a lot because of my vitiligo growing up so I completely understand how cruel kids can be. I would do what it takes to keep my child from going through the hell that I had gone through.

i think it looks better. i don’t think she needed to add a tan and duckface to it though. TOO FARRRRR. 

i think it is okay in her case. what a sin to be bullied that bad. kids are such assholes 

It makes me sad that parents would let a 13 year old do this.
What messsge does that send?
“Yeah, you really could use plastic surgery”

I just don’t think it’s right.

And how is she to grow stronger and cope if her parents pay for bullying to go away and what not?
And I’d think she’d get made of now for getting her nose worked on, if kids were that mean.

AND every person is made fun of for something.
…goodness.

It’s just sad.

Bullying.. bullying can just push people too far rather than loving oneself.

weird. she looks totally different; it’s not just the tan but the shape of her lips.

         Wow, as the parents of this girl I would have made sure this never got to the media…..people have corrective surgeries all the time for broken arms and legs, so if it is just a corrective surgery of the nose then leave it at that. Why is this on the internet though? Because she was bullied? Every 13 year old girl is bullied and/or bullies.

@Celtic_haven@xanga -  I kind of have the same nose you’re talking about. A bump isn’t bad, I think of it as artistic..which can be either extremely beautiful or ugly depending on who is looking at it. You don’t want to look exactly like everybody else.

The title of this article bothers me “Bully Forces 13-Year-Old. . .” No. Bullies did not force her to do anything. It also bothers me how different the pictures are just with the added color to her skin, the more perfect hair, the plucked eyebrows. However, when it comes to actual surgery, I find no issue. It looks corrective similar to the way a child might get braces to correct an overbite.

At the same time, a close friend of mine had an enlarged nose that way when I first met her. We were 12 years old. Over the years, her nose has naturally corrected itself. She looks fantastic. Personally, I think the parents should have had their child wait until she was older before getting the surgery.

She looks a hell of a lot better with the new nose….thought the way she’s pursing her lips in that pic makes her look stupid.

Now she can be bullied about having plastic surgery. That’s totally way better.

Hey, it was their decision, and they seem happy with it, so good for them. If I had a daughter who wanted surgery, I’d have to consider it on an individual basis. I’m not in favor of it as a general rule, but there could be exceptions.

First, kids are cruel.  I got bullied in elementary school for liking sailor moon.  A popular TV show was cause for me to be ostracized, verbally assaulted, physically assaulted, and humiliated.  Imagine what kids would do over a PHYSICAL distaste?  They would be at least twice as brutal.  If I were in her shoes, I would hope my parents would be as considerate of me and what’s going on with me, to make sure that the bullying stops any way necessary. 

I support the decision and surgery, however, what worries me is that it looks like she’s cooked her skin in a tanning bed.  And *THAT* is bad. 

WOW she looks great after! I wish I could afford a nose job!

If she’s happy with it, then why not? It’s her face. And it was a corrective surgery. However, I think I’d rather teach my kid about being happy with what he or she is given. That he or she is beautiful or handsome the way he or she is. But I wouldn’t hold it against her. Especially because she was so happy when she saw the results. 

i totally understand, i know plenty of people who get facial moles removed or birthmarks or anything else that kids will pick on. if it makes her happy, then good

I’m of two minds about it, really.  I don’t think such decisions should be made hastily.. but if she was really under duress, aside from the fact that her nose was in actuality, deformed, hence justifying the corrective surgery, I think the procedure was acceptable.

It’s amazing how badly such things can affect one’s self esteem, even if adulthood often brings more self acceptance.  I still think she’s rather young to have had this, and don’t typically encourage it, but I can understand why.

@haloed@xanga - You were ostracized for liking Sailor Moon?  Damn… JOKE’S ON THEM, BECAUSE SAILOR MOON IS AWESOME

@nimbusthedragon@xanga - Yeah, I was pushed around, got a few cuts, bruises, slivers, once they took my gym shirt and tossed it around over my head in the girls’ change room.  While I was only in a training bra.  They verbally bullied me a lot and it would have been heartbreaking if I told my mom.  All over Sailor Moon.  Losers eh?!

@haloed@xanga - You should have tiara-tossed those bitches…

If it was solely for corrective purposes, that’d be okay, but to change something about yourself to stop the bullying to me, is like saying “You win,” to the bullies.

@nimbusthedragon@xanga - I did pwn them in frisbee.  No one could match my skillzz

I was teased many years as a child and into my teens about my “wide” nose. My mother told me from a young age I could get a nose job when I turned 16. So at about 2 week shy of my 17th birthday I got rhinoplasty. Now at 24 I can say the surgery was life changing in a positive way, although I admit I’m still not content with my nose and hope to one day get a revision. I think the Doctor who did my nose could of done a better job, or perhaps I should have gone to another Doctor. It is still way better than before though. 

I know everyone is to teach their kids love yourself the way you are but we have to be realistic. For example with me, I inherited my fathers very large nose which was too big of a feature for my face. Just because I was able to identify that doesn’t mean I didn’t love myself. 
Plastic surgery isnt for everyone and there are those who will get it and regret it and there are those who will feel its the best thing they ever did. 
I say if it makes you happy and feel good about YOU then do it, even if you are young.

Great, now they’re going to bully her because shes had plastic surgery…

I feel like since she broke her nose, and she wasn’t born with the bump (so it’s not like a family trait or something) then she should be able to have it fixed if she wants to. However, I feel like you also need to make it clear to the person getting plastic surgery that you have to feel good about yourself for who you are and not what you look like. So many people forget this and think “fixing” their physical appearance will make them happier.

Little kids with protruding ears have surgery to pin them back all the time. Nothing wrong with that. 

God gave everyone every part of their body to love. Some people just have so much hate in them, they will be taken care of. Never change yourself because of something that someone teases you about, they will get their turn in the end. Love the body you were given!

@Gosalyn223@xanga - Corrective surgery is fine, but the fact that she’s 13 is what’s concerning people. I think they either should have let her get the surgery after the first or second incident, or waited until she was 18. A lot of people actually learn to accept their looks over time, but if she still didn’t accept it by 18, THEN she could get the surgery. That way she’d actually know what she was doing, how different she’d feel, etc. 13 is just too young for something so life-changing. A lot of people on here are also talking about how kids get their ears pinned back all the time, but I personally think that a nose job is much more noticeable than pinning ears back. It’s the center of your face, and it makes you look completely different. At least ears can hide under hair; changing your nose really alters your appearance.

Kids were really mean about my nose when i was growing up, i got made of sometimes during highschool and i always wanted to get a nose job, and i use to have dreams about it and it always killed me to see all my friends have perfect little cute noses. Now that I’m 20, and i am no longer in high scool, i really don’t mind my nose and i rarely give it a thought. Plus my boyfriend think it’s cute. :p I understand where she is coming from and honestly if i had enough money at the time i woulda done it too. 

Well if she broke her nose that surgery was way overdue.

Shes` really pretty I can understand why it botherd her! Im so glad She did it but I would of seriously thought do the surgrey and then Let her go to a brand new school ! I get That her nose is big but If you dont like it why do people have to look at something they dont like, I dont get it? Kristen

My biggest concern with kids getting cosmetic surgery is setting a precedent that any time she’s insecure about something (especially being in the relatively superficial industry of modelling), her instinct is to fix it. None of us are perfect. I’m not against cosmetic surgery but a little maturity goes a long way in weighing the benefits/drawbacks of elective surgery and perhaps just accepting some of your imperfections.

That and her original nose was prettier… it seemed to fit her face better, especially from the front (I guess I can see why the little hump from the profile would have bothered her). I would have at least waited until she was older… kids faces can change a lot even after 13. Whatever though, at least she feels more confident. Happy ending.