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Whale!

I was going to launch into full-on discussion-about-weight-again-”really,again?”-”yes,again”-mode, but I am tired of it.

So, cool story, bro. 

This is bullshit and whilst it directly puts down skinny and even healthy people, it indirectly demeans curvy women with its stupidity.

I’m a…merman!

That’s not very nice! I’d wanna be a mermaid because they seem like magical creatures. (:

Neither. I don’t want to be a mermaid. I don’t want to make my body be anything is was not meant to be. I’m happy being the size I was meant to be but I do not want to be a “whale.” As someone who used to weigh 300lbs I would NEVER want to be that size again. People treat me better. I get hired now. Sad. Sad. I know I should just be like everyone else and blame society for their ideal image but–they do it. And I can’t stop them. When I went to high school people were actually afraid of me. I know that many view that as the true problem, and it is one, but I had my own denial. I’m 140lbs lighter than I used to be and, yes, I would described my figure as quite hourglass. (Starting to become muscular too! ^_^)

I used to be one of those people that thought, “I’m not unhealthy.” But eventually I got sick and while I’m no longer obese today I will unfortunately have permanent health complications due to my old lifestyle. So, yes, I used to have the mentality of, “I’m overweight but I’m not unhealthy.” And, that was true from the better part of my (young) life. But now that I have health complications and I’ve lost the weight now I think, “Why risk it?” Maybe you feel fine today. Tomorrow. 5 years from now. But why risk it?

I don’t want anyone to be pressured into a body image that isn’t realistic, but as someone who has been a true “whale” I really hope people take care of themselves. 

are those seriously the only options?

Are you kidding me? Look, being overweight is not healthy and this stupid “devil may care” attitude is what is upping our obesity rate and leaving kids without their mothers and fathers. GET ON A TREADMILL AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! Be happy! Sure, but get real your killing yourself! I’ll be a dolphin : D

i saw this on facebook too

definitely a whale. 

my friend put this on her facebook -_- mermaid bitches!

I wanna be a Starship Ranger.

I don’t really like sea creatures.  Can I be a giraffe?

@ask_ashleyyy@xanga - haha best answer ever I was hopping it was a reference to Zoolander.

I really like her answer!  

She needs to stfu. She’s basically just saying that fat asses are loved while skinny girls aren’t happy and are lonely.

false dilemma; why does it have to be one or the other?  

This is one of the most stupid things I’ve ever read.

And like it or not, fat girls are NEVER preferred by society. If that was the case, we wouldn’t be photoshopping women to look like anorexics.

IDK every body is their own person. They can do whatever they want to their body. They can eat it into oblivion…or then can starve themselves to death, or they can eat healthy, enjoy what they eat and exercise and take care of their health and not care what they look like..I think there is a healthy balance between taking care of yourself and going over board..Personally? I like to do the girly stuff get hair done and nails done…I also Like to exercise and eat right (for the most part But who doesn’t splurge?)…I’m not super stick thin…by BMI standards I am “overweight” if you saw me, you wouldn’t think so…because not every body type can be explained or expected with the millions of different people out there making more millions of different people. There are different body types..not to get all scientific but People can have any number of body types but these are the three most basic: Mesomorph, ectomorph and endomorph……Ecto is the thinner leaner naturally skinny type, mesomorph is more stocky and muscular, endomorph is more…plump, fuller, curvier type….I am a mix between meso and endo (meso, muscular and endo I have have a nice ass)…I can’t be an ecto no matter how hard I try, and honestly..I don’t want to be anymore… I run I exercise I enjoy the body I have and strength I have and I flaunt the beauty I possess. I don’t want anyone else telling me I need to be a twig to be beautiful..because there are many different types of beauty…

I was at a concert in vegas and this fat man was invading part of my seat space, so I had to lean to the left near my friend to have shoulder room. the tickets were free, so I can’t complain much, but still…I don’t care what people choose to do or not do to their bodies, but it becomes a problem when another is invading on my space/rights. that’s what I get for free tickets

sounds like something peta would say. 

Oh goodness…. why must everyone be so touchy nowadays?

@AubreyBird@xanga - If I were an animal, I would be a monkey and I would throw my poop at people :p

These responses are killing me. “blah blah blah, oh em gee being a fatass is like the worse thing! oh gosh why are they always hating on skinny people? oh man let me use the word ‘your’ instead or ‘you’re’, etc.”

pleeeeeeease!
being fat is unhealthy. yes. we get it. it’s major. I for one need to super control my weight and what I eat because diabetes runs in my family.
but fucking shit. if lady felt bad about being called a fucking whale let her fucking voice her opinion without people jumping down her fucking throat about being a fatty.

Look, I think the woman’s response was awesome. she rocks. kudos to her for not keeping her mouth shut.

While that response was sweet and all, it didn’t exactly say what it needed to say, which is what being a whale (overweight) *isn’t* always unhealthy and it’s ridiculous for there to be only one type of pretty which is skinny. Why is this concept so hard for people to understand? You can be underweight and be healthy just as you can be overweight and be healthy. 

@TheSecretLifeOfPandas@xanga – But she’s lying.”Dearly loved, which everyone defends and admires”. If fat people were preferred by society, you’d see fat girls on movies, magazine covers, etc. They’re not. There’s plenty of beautiful fat people in the world, like Adele, and that model in the picture who name I forgot, and so forth, but to say, yeah EVERYONE prefers fat people is just being flat out delusional; a very great majority prefers normal to skinny people. And I say this as a person whose ass is too big and who is too short to be considered attractive. It would’ve been better if she said “whales are just as gorgeous as mermaids” or whatever.

Not only that, she resorts to the tactic most commonly used by fat girls: bashing skinny girls. She calls them lonely, sad, sexless. She’s being a huge whiny bitch about skinny girls, and that never ever makes fat girls look good.

Lying and insulting to get your point across just proves you: a. have no self esteem and b. are not able to come up with true reasons why your point is better.

Everyone has a choice. If eating donuts makes you happy and putting on weight does not bother you and your close ones, then so be it. But I think it is important for every self-respecting person to try and be the best person he/she can be. I think that every woman should take care of herself and not give up on being beautiful, looking attractive and healthy. This article demotivates. And it’s not about mermaids and whales, It’s about being healthy, beautiful, serve as a great example for your children and being attractive for your man versus being fat and lazy.

Eat donuts, enjoy your life, but MOVE your A$$

@winterEnds@xanga - Lol…that’s what I thought.

My response here is the same as on healthkicker…I don’t want to be either one.  I want to be a rainbow-colored shark.  The only one.

I would rather be skinny. I would never want to be fat.

Awesome point, but I’d rather be a mermaid.

Maybe it was just me but when I read this I did not necessarily think by whale she was referring to someone with actual *whale* proportions. I took from it that she was talking about a persons natural size, rather than the perfect “mermaid” image that is often portrayed. Especially during swimsuit season. Its unrealistic to say we dont all feel that  pressure to be better when summer roles around.

While we should all feel confident and beautiful, I don’t want to promote unhealthy habits either. I don’t want to be a “whale” in the pejorative way that it is often used– not because I don’t want to be fat, but because I don’t want to be unhealthy. I’m all for girl power, but I’m not one for diabetes or one of the many other health issues that come with being overweight.

@AubreyBird@xanga - Haha, love your comment. I agree.

“Curvy girls” put down skinny.
Skinny to the curve.

Neither can be deemed better.
It’s what the individual wants.
This is a rather dumb debate because it comes right down to opinion.

Great job on defining a whale.
However, the description of the mermaid is wrong.
Someone hasn’t done their research….tisktisk.
Can’t make a statement like that if you haven’t all the facts.
And either way, they’ve taken symbolism and made it literal.
Boring.
What would the world be without symbolism?

And from there I must ask, what would the world be without large people and skinny people?
We’d all be the same, and who wants that?
I’d rather die then be like everyone else in the world.
SOOOOO, which would you rather be, a whale, or a mermaid?

How about neither? I don’t want to strive for an unrealistic, unattainable ideal of “beauty”, but I don’t want to be morbidly obese/unhealthily overweight, either.

I do believe that there are societal pressures everywhere in first world countries that make women want to be skinny. And these days, skinny is viewed as beautiful, and every woman wants to be beautiful. However, I think the saying of “being able to accept yourself” is true. Even if the societal pressure is there, if you yourself believe that you’re beautiful, who gives a hay about whatever anyone else thinks? And don’t worry, there are plenty of kind people out there. They’ll all give you a reason why you’re beautiful and reassure you. Of course, don’t be extremely prideful, but believing in your own self isn’t all that prideful, is it? Well, this is just what I think. I hope other girls find better luck.

I posted this on my site a really long time ago…

So bored with this thing and so bored with all of this body image talk. Just accept yourself and worry about yourself only. Leave everyone else alone. Everyone has different preferences. Yes, health should be what is most important, but at the end of the day, leave other people and their bodies alone. They’re of no concern to you and it’s none of your business. End of story.

I’d rather be a dolphin. They are smaller than whales and more real than a mermaid.

I mean, I’d rather be a human….but that seems to not be an option :/

Her response was inspiring, but not all that realistic. I liked that she argued against the notion that being skinny is the way to go because it is NOT. But being fat isn’t the way to go either. Find a healthy middle. The 2 important things: mental and physical health.

If you’re overweight, don’t be depressed and have all sorts of eating disorders because you want to lose weight. You have to have self-esteem and see that you are beautiful, but just need to lose weight for a healthier you. Stay confident, and keep working hard. At the same time, you don’t want to be proud of being overweight, because in the end you’re not as healthy. And if you’re a skinny-minny, you need to put some flesh on those bones, because being super skinny is just as bad as being overweight.

Can’t I just be a storm trooper?  

Just because you are a “curvy” woman doesn’t mean you are obese. Everyone is always taking it to the extreme, it is very possible to be classified as a curvy women but still be considered healthy.

And for people to sit there and put all of us curvy girls in the “Fat and Lazy” pile is an insult, some of us take care of ourselves and can’t help that we have a little bit more meat on our bones then society would like.It’s how we are made. this whole argument about Curvy vs Skinny will never end.

Honestly neither side should put down the other, you should love yourself for who you are and worry about making yourself healthy, and stop worrying about the weight of someone else.

@LoveeeLikeASunset@xanga - I love how you say “fat asses” but there is no derogatory name for “skinny girls”
how about calling them “anorexics” it would be just as fitting as saying “fat asses”.
fucking rude.

@ohletitbe@xanga - Because I wasn’t talking about anorexics. 

@LoveeeLikeASunset@xanga - right, you were just calling people that aren’t what you consider “skinny”, fat asses.
so what is skinny, really? Skinny is obviously something you think is good, because you didn’t remark badly about it.
you only said that people that weren’t skinny were fat asses. so- I don’t see your point except to tell call people that aren’t skinny, fat asses. and why would you do that unless you’re SO sad with yourself, that you have to put down others. ???

@Alyssa Watson@facebook - lol. I’ve never seen a size 2 girl with curves. do you know how much a size 2 woman weighs?? probably about 100 -110lbs. they have no curves. they’re verrrry thin. 

@ohletitbe@xanga - Um no I meant that if you put it in terms of “whale vs. mermaid” the whale would obviously be someone who is fat and the mermaid is skinny. And obviously you don’t have to be just skinny or fat, you can be in the middle and be a decent size.

Also, learn to fucking read. I never said that people who weren’t skinny were fat asses, I said nothing about that. I said “She’s basically just saying that fat asses are loved while skinny girls aren’t happy and are lonely.” Which is me saying, that it seems like she’s trying to imply that if you’re skinny, nobody cares about you. Don’t play dumb.