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It’s called trolling.

That’s because people are mean. We are a much more self centered culture than we were say, 30 years ago.

And the mask of anonymity doesn’t help, its enables us to do it even more.To rid yourself of mean people on the internet, you have to rid yourself of the internet.

This is the internet, friend. People feel they don’t have to be nice because they don’t have to deal with your reaction in person. That is how it has been and always will be. If you don’t want to deal with it, I’m afraid you will have to find another place to write that doesn’t involve an audience.

Hey I’m not a mean commenter But I agree, and it’s the same in real life. There are so many downright mean people and they’re like that for seemingly no reason.

this is true! some are just plain stupid

Try being fucking nice when asking people do be nice while commenting

While I believe there are a few genuinely nice people on this planet, most people are naturally assholes but don’t act like it when there are consequences.  When the consequences of being a asshole are removed, people will be the natural assholes they are.  In person, you’re not going to deliberately cause harm to someone because it’s possible that person will come and punch you in the face, and then you will have to punch them in the face, and then the police come and you end up in jail, having to go to court, etc.  Or they could just beat your face into the sidewalk.  Online, an asshole can cause harm to someone and sit back and laugh at the pain they cause another person without having to worry about consequences.

It’s kind of like… how a person wouldn’t steal a pair of nice shoes from a store where there were employees, shoppers, security, etc. present; but if you give that same person an opportunity with an empty store, no chance of getting caught, it’s likely that person will steal the pair of shoes.

Integrity of character is only worth what it is when no one is watching or when there are no consequences.  Unfortunately, most people will fail.

I think people act that way because they figure they will never EVER meet the other person face to face… It’s a shame, but it’s a fact of life in regards to the internet.   I agree with @slackersociety…  folks are a whole hell of a lot different than they were 30 years ago.  I’m not sure, but I think ‘common sense’ flew out the window & is never coming back!

It’s the internet, people sadly like to try and tear you down. Make a note though, whatever they type just reflects the type of heart they have, and you have to act better than that.

P.S You have to be strong, and not let petty comments bother you. You know who you are, so keep that in your heart.

Because kids are a lot more brave when hiding behind the anonymity of their computers. 

agree with some of the above commenters. i really liked what @arenadi@xanga - @nihaokeisha@xanga - and @MzSilver@xanga -  had to say.

i thought people were being extremely disrespecful in one post i saw. but than again they never met you, do not know you, and are only reading through their view. they might’ve been skimming. and everything they say is just a reflection of THEM.

in the four agreements. one important rule is… Never take anything personally. the older we get the more we realize how true it is. its not about you.

When people start trolling or throwing insults I don’t get mad anymore. I just label them in my mind as a coward and a child. If I chose to continue the argument with them, which is rare, I remain civil enough so that overall they just look like a damn fool and in the end I win.

How about you get a backbone and some thicker skin? I mean seriously if this is how you react to a bunch of strangers saying mean things about you on the internet you are going to have a rough road ahead of you.

Xangans tend not to be trolls, so when you piss them off usually there is a reason for it.

Here’s one problem, you wrote in an article:

“andddddddd feel super gay for having braces at my age.”

People tend not to like homophobes.

Normally people aren’t attacking YOU, as they don’t know YOU, they are attacking your OPINION. 

Even people I truly respect and love, I think that incredibly shamefully stupid cunt-like opinions.

BUT if you wrote what ShimmerBodyCream says…. you kinda, well really, deserve it.

Not so much theory but personal opinion. Kind of a huge difference.

lol.

The anonymity of the internet brings out the nasty side of people. And the lack of communication can make it easy for people to misinterpret something you wrote, and therefor be easily offended by it.

yeah they are; don’t pay attention, they are just people with no lives.

I do notice quite a few internet commenters act like assholes because they don’t have the balls in real life to do it in person.

you could’ve worded your other blog post in a less offensive or immature way as mentioned in other comments, such as “wearing braces makes me feel awkward.” versus what you actually said, but yeah, you have the right to your opinion to word it however you want and they can react to it.

I think you should get over the mean things… although I admit, I have seen some pretty-much-really-close to evil things said in comments.  Those are uncalled for, but yeah.  Toughen up I s’pose.

The only person we’re universally allowed to be mean to is Jenn on Datingish

People like to hide behind the anonymity of the Internet. It makes them brave. It’s stupid, but it isn’t going to go away. If you’re going to write posts for sites like this, I recommend you grow thicker skin. I’m not trying to be one of those “mean” commenters…I totally agree with you. I’m just saying that  yeah, it sucks, but it’s not going to go away, so you’ll have to live with it, unfortunately. As long as there is an Internet there will be bitches and dicks trying to tear you down. Just ignore them.

what were some of these horrible comments? must’ve been bad to warrant a whole post about it..

maybe you shouldn’t portray yourself as a homophobe.  

@ask_ashleyyy@xanga - so sayeth the lord

and yeah tell us what the comments were! that’s why i opened this.

Girl, just get over it.

Awww, you’re crying because the world doesn’t think the sun shines out of your ass – how cute.  Grow up and accept that not everyone is going to like you.

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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Even so from that statement I wouldn’t call this poster a homophone. Just badly worded language use. I’m sure you remember it was a crazy phase to say “It’s so gay..etc” I’ve even had it pop out of my mouth once or twice but it doesn’t necessarily mean homophone by any means. It can even be said about the improper uses of rape or even nazi in this time and age. It doesn’t particularly mean anything. 

@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - No one deserves anything even if they did say something mean or offending. It’s that kind of behavior that degrades a society even more. It’s not right. It’s not justified by any sort of logic. 

OP:

I’ve had to grow thicker skin myself and I’m not usually for that. I still get worked up if friends say something mean to me online etc; I think that’s a bit different though. Unfortunately, there will always be people like that and I’ve even met some real life trolls..I think it’s worse in real life versus online (where you can ignore it. I tend to do). Just don’t let it get to you but I understand your ponderings though. Why are people like this and that? I don’t subscribe myself to humanity or people anymore because of a lot of reasons really. 

I think a lot of people here(in the comment section) actually express your point. There is a way to say something without being mean about it or even sympathizing at least. Not everyone can be a hard ass (I’m still not despite my attempts to be so. It’s just how I am) and that has to be understood but the thing is we can better handle ourselves with people online. 

 It’s true that a lot of people won’t like you (It has happened with me) and it’s so hard to get over but you have to and I know I struggled with it, but I don’t think you are whining by any means, maybe surprised and perhaps pondering why this happens and and all I can say is people are just like this. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was their true selves at times.

You should word your posts better.

I think there are tactful ways to write, and using the word ‘gay’ to describe something negative is not tactful at all. Had you done that, there would have been less personal attacks…and your audience would have (hopefully) focused more on your actual article. That’s just my opinion.

Also, I agree with what you’re saying. Going on YouTube (or any website really) and reading comments, there’s always a 5:1 ratio of negative to positive comments. Some people are honest, most people just like to be rude. Meh.

The things you say are just more accessible to a greater number of people. A greater number of people who have a greater chance of completely disagreeing with you. Maybe they feel personally offended by your everyday ramblings. Perhaps you said ‘i ate a yummy pickle today’ There are people out there who find the idea of having eaten a pickle absolutely disgusting and unbearable. ‘how could you eat a pickle? you’re disgusting and vile and i hate you.’ Its easy for them to express their feelings without thinking about yours. Because they don’t see you, they can’t really hear you, you are not really registered as a person to them. And why should you be? You eat pickles after all. Its just an aspect of the internet that everyone has to learn to live with, I suppose.

Most commenters on Xanga are atheist liberals, so they have no moral values whatsoever and thus feel no remorse for posting nasty comments.

I think type can take away some of the meaning behind a statement. Sometimes it’s just the way people talk and they don’t expect you to take it seriously. Like, just now, @Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga ’s comment. I can’t tell if sarcasm or not.  I don’t know if all your negative comments are because people don’t like you. They don’t like what you said, and they personify your opinion maybe? 

Also, people can just be jerks. It’s a little easier to be a jerk on the internet because there’s not much to stop you. 

@arenadi@xanga - Well said.

@MysticalInverseDrummer@xanga - Actually it’s true, and any voice of dissent on this site gets flamed, ridiculed, stalked, complimented with death threats, etc.  Just look at what happened to LoBorn.

@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - I see… I did honestly think you were joking, or at least overgeneralizing to make a point. I don’t purposely ridicule people (When I have accidentally insulted someone I did feel bad) and I have moral values, but those facts have nothing to do with whether I’m an atheist liberal or not. 

You don’t honestly believe that atheist liberals have no morals do you? If you told me you were a Christian Conservative I wouldn’t make assumptions about your morals… Extremism views excluded, I don’t think belief in a god or political stance are a good way to measure a person. How people act on their beliefs is much more telling.