Lovelyish

Once at a video game midnight launch party, and a few times at the library, but other than that not really.

“Would you like information on a walking tour?”

What kind of pickup line is that?

It is in these kind of moments when girls are most approachable, thus, they get hit on. You are not surrounded by friends so the only person he can embarrass himself around is you.

why is it when we find a girl attractive and simply wish to talk awhile we are accused of “hitting” on them?
sure.. drop your drawers and ill do ya in the street but common..no one can simply try to be friends first?

dont’ you have gps on your phone considering this generation is filled with advanced technology? i always make sure to remember where i park anywhere i go.. i’m paranoid of getting lost especially at night..

yes and the older i get, the more i just accept it…it’s always a compliment when someone’s hitting on you whether you like them back or not.  

Your story is both hilarious (losing the lot is, I have to admit, totally funny) and adorable (he thought you were cute even if you looked like a hot mess)!

Not exactly the same situation: About 3 or more people have complimented my nail polish, my nail polish that has been rather chipped for days. xD 

Aw lol, I feel like that stuff happens to me too, but not exactly when I’m gross and sweaty. It’s more like when I’m in a hurry and not planning on staying somewhere, in a really bad mood and wanting to go straight home, or just not realizing that they’re hitting on me until later when I’m like, “Damnit, maybe I should have gotten that dude’s number.”

I just have to say, one time I was really, really hungover and driving home. So I had to stop at this stoplight and puke. And the guy in the car next to me is acting all concerned and I tell him I’m fine, and then he asks me for my number. I was so shocked I just straight up said no and then the light was green and we drove off.

haha, it’s hilarious, because I’ve had a very similar thought process today.

I rarely ever get hit on–but when I do, it is when I have no makeup on, and look really bad (at least in my estimation). Yesterday and today, I get hit on by the same employee at a local health-food store–I only was dropping in to get soup and herbs, because I was obviously out of it–with my hair up, my pajamas on, my skin makeup-less. He was so persistent that I actually was saying, “Please..please, just. I am sick, and I am trying to buy soup. Just..leave me alone.”

Aw, I thought your story was pretty cute XD.

yes, attractive has no boundaries 

Aww, that’s actually a cute story. I have completely been there but probably in an even more embarrassing circumstance, considering it was outside of a mall that has about 3 stores in it…and not being able to find my car…minus somebody finding me attractive…

       Well, anyhow…yeah, I’ve been hit on and thought “why the hell is this man even looking at me. This is one of those days where it isn’t even a compliment..you’re just desperate or on drugs”

  Good times waking up and not caring.

SWEATPANTS HAIR TIED CHILLIN WITH NO MAKEUP ON THAT’S WHEN YOU’RE THE PRETTIEST I HOPE THAT YOU DON’T TAKE IT WRONGGGGGG

@Kill_GaryLarson@xanga - hahahahaha.. that’s fantastic.

I got hit on once at the grocery story buying a new coffee pot. I looked horrible because I had biked to the store and was all sweaty, hair wild etc. Needless to say I got a number looking like shit and smashing my face with sample ice cream

lol never ever get hit on!

I have gotten hit on before..it always has been annoying when I recant it ;/ 

@beforedawn@xanga - I’m sure the guy was showing more signs to her that he was hitting on her. You can’t really tell until you’re in that kind of situation like she was. I’ve even had a lot of guys hit on me by these methods that this guy used. It’s hard to convey the kind of tone he probably was using with her when he was asking those questions. I’m sure there is more to this than what she says about him taking interest. Like I said, if I was in that situation or you, we couldn’t probably either tell but then again, it all comes down the matter of perception really and people do see the same things differently. 

I got hit on several times while pregnant. I truly didn’t understand that. Especially after mentioning that I was happily committed/married.

because some females, who wear lots of makeup or are dressed up, seem more intimidating and snobby, so some guys are hesitant to approach them for fear of their bitchy attitude while rejecting them or that’s probably the impression they get for high maintenance looking females-stuckup diva versus plain jane-not always true of course but if going by first impression, then there’s a possibility that that’s how some guys look for an easier target to talk to. the casual looking with no makeup and looks like an everyday average female and especially if she seems lost or there’s one or another opportunity for the guy to ask a question to help her out or something else to break the ice, then these females might be easier to approach and they hope that they’ll thank them for the help and maybe give her number to go out for drinks later or whatever.

@Hinase@xanga - hmm lets think on this… i suppose that to talk with another strange man i must find something about him as well to be attractive..maybe its their line of work matching up with mine or some other thing, ya know like bromances are not unheard of… so in the same vein i must be, in a way, hitting on them as well. hmm never thought i was gay afore.  lol rather happy but… so i cant find a woman attractive and wish to simply speak with her, wither that attraction is to the same line of work, possibly how the sunlight just caught her hair, maybe i was curious as to what may have fixated her gaze.. lol nope jus leave em the heck alone.  lol good thing there are still women who simply wish to be paid for their hour or so. tells ya what… instead of complaining about the lack of good men out there mayhaps all of you will simply decided what the heck you all truly do want and when you finally do get your acts together enough to decided lol decades from now… tap one of us on the shoulder and let us know k?

Yes! I once got hit on by the guy behind the counter in KFC after a night out. The night before, i’d done my make up, worn a cute dress, and done my hair. No attention whatsoever. The next morning, I was very hungover, had greasy, frizzy hair, last nights make up smeared down my cheeks, with a hoody and sweatpants on. We went to KFC for hangover food, and the guy behind the counter was making no secret of the fact that he was hitting on me. WTF is all I can say! Love your blog x

Darci!! Sorry you got lost!

When I was living in NYC, I felt like I got the most catcalls when I was all covered up and not looking that hot. Sometimes I wonder if it even has anything to do with what you’re wearing.

@ashleya - Oh my God I know. I get catcalls in NYC no matter where I go or what I’m wearing. Far cry from Warsaw, right?!

@chicbananas@xanga - Haha so right! People up here have no idea what real catcallers are like. 

I feel like I get hit on the most when I’m not trying to look good.  Much of that time I feel gross and like I’m not dressed up enough.  Maybe there’s something about someone’s natural personality that is attractive to others.

Happens to me too. A few weekend ago I went to a Bachelorette party but I seriously didn’t try at all to look good. Shorts, tank top, and converse and a big fuck you attitude. This guy followed me around all night lol. I was shocked, but hey, I ate it up.

The weirdest place I ever got hit on was walking barefoot from the courthouse back to the church where I parked (because churches have free parking in downtown) whilest grumbling to myself that I had all this paperwork to fill out now, I was running late, and they didn’t take my God damn envelopes. apparently, I looked absolutely GORGEOUS doing it. ….honestly, it made the whole stupid court thing a lot easier to deal with.

I have been hit on when I was also walking and sweaty. I was like: “really? you want me when I’m walking my dog and sweaty in 93 degree heat?” I think our perception of our own cuteness is quite a bit off from that of guys.

My boyfriend also says I’m sexiest when I work out because I’m red and sweaty… And cute when I just wake up. Men..I dunno.

@beforedawn@xanga - haha, you’re right. It is really possible. But experience tells me that that’s hardly ever the case. It could be just me though. I’ve wanted to be just friends with so many guys, but they always ended up hitting on me.

@beforedawn@xanga - I didn’t say that now. I’m merely talking about her situation and no one’s else. Actually sometimes guys do lay it on thick and as someone that was hit on a lot, let me tell you, it was annoying. I always politely declined. Also you gotta realize that some guys and girls actually do that. But again I didn’t say you couldn’t find a girl attractive or go talk to her, you’re saying that, I’m just talking about her(the OP’s) situation. She honestly wasn’t interested and the guy kind of continued. It’s kind of important to pay attention to body language. Actually you did miss the point of this post. It’s not actually saying anything that you are or expounding on what women don’t know what they want. It varies differently from woman to woman. We aren’t part of any collective or the borg for that matter. We all don’t want the same things. Men are probably different as well. You’re talking about a whole different problem there. Though I kind of figured it would end up going this way but not so soon.

@Hinase@xanga - nope actualy i do get the point of this post, he found her attractive when she felt least attractive.  due to the way she felt about herself she had to shoot the cute guy down.  soo again we fall into the infallible.. I WANT WHAT I WANT WHEN I WANT IT … of the female mind. tell ya what… i will go toe to toe with a dude 3 times my size far more willingly then step into a position of experiencing the embarrisment and humiliation of being shot down k? lol me and about 95 percent of the decent males out there.  think about that for a bit.  it must be something about her to bring up my attention and yes i would like time to figure out just what the heck it is. ahh but that’s hitting on them sooo.. again figure yourself out lol then tap us on the shoulder with the plan k?

You know why? Because you look human and approachable.

I’m far more likely to talk to the girl in jeans, a hoodie, and no makeup than I am the to the girl walking down the street in a tight dress with makeup all done and stiletto heels.

Haha, this sounds like something that would happen to me and I would be too darn frustrated and panicky to even give him the time of day.

I was dressed in sweats with hardly any makeup, and I had had only 4 hours of sleep. I was with my best friend and we were going skydiving even though the weather was terrible (rain makes my hair super frizzy). My skydiving instructor comes to introduce himself and he’s a really cute guy my age. He’s strapping me in and he asks if I’m seeing anyone. This jump was tandum so I basically had to sit in his lap on the plane. I was super nervous and he asked if he could feel my heart beat right before we were going to jump off the plane. After we started free falling and he pulled the parachute, he asks AGAIN about why I don’t have a boyfriend right now and whether I’d give him my number when we got back down. I was pretty shocked to say the least. lol. 

Only if the concept of getting hit on is weird I suppose. Go mum 

Once I got hit on when I was stuffing my face with vanilla slice. It was packaged in a paper bag = super messy. This was also straight after uni in the summer so I was super frumpy and sweaty. Not a good look.

aw, that was cute! 

I got hit on in the crafts section of Wal-Mart.  This guy was so freaking persistent, too.  It was really hard to shake him.  I kept wishing over and over again that my husband had not wandered off to look at electronics, because this guy didn’t seem to believe I was married.  After a few minutes, he started making me uncomfortable.  When a guy looks you up and down repeatedly, it’s obvious what he wants.  He asked for a hug before finally walking away, which was so creepy to me.

I have low self esteem so maybe that’s the reason why I never get hit on (literally). But once my friend got hit on at the financial aid building- it was very entertaining to watch since the wait line was so damn long 

hahaha nice! I’m usually too dense to figure out when people are hitting on me, too.

interestingly enough, my boyfriend finds me more attractive when I’m not trying. there have been times where I dressed up real nice, had my jewelry on, even put on some makeup, nothing. then when we’re hanging out and I’m in yoga pants and a tank top he acts like I’m america’s next top model.

I don’t understand it either, but I certainly appreciate it!

Cause girls have this dumb idea that just because they’re not hiding behind a pound of makeup means they’re not cute.

Here’s a little insight: Girls, if you’re cute, you’re going to be cute regardless of makeup/clothes/hair. So even if you don’t pretty yourself up, have you hair in a bun and wearing sweatpants, if you’re cute, guys are going to hit on you because YOURE CUTE

@SupperMick@xanga - This seems like common sense.

Girls aren’t really my thing but I will admit the ones I tend to find the prettiest are the ones who aren’t working hard at trying to look good. They definitely look more approachable and in my experience tend to exude more confidence. I know some girls who won’t even walk to their mailbox unless they’ve got some make-up and decent looking clothing on.

I always get hit on.

The weirdest/creepiest situation I had was “Are you underaged?” NO! “I love me some underaged girls”

-> Boonstock 2011 (figures XD)

@beforedawn@xanga - Really? Because I don’t get what you’re trying to communicate to me. I’m already dating someone and I already knew what I wanted . I don’t think she was even going that way….or even reaching that kind of conclusion. You’d be surprise that a lot of people know what they want already or even woman. Some people just don’t like to be bothered or hit on when they are worrying about something else or when they aren’t prepared for it. 

Sometimes people are horrendous make-up appliers and when they get hit on while not wearing their clown face, they get shocked.  Just saying.

@Hinase@xanga - lol k… then in the fewest amount of words possible describe what “hit on” means to you… 

@beforedawn@xanga - Why does that matter? This is not my post and I’m trying to keep it relevant to the OP, not to myself. Whatever the dictionary says about it though to be fair, it can mean something different from people to people but if you must know, it’s really the general meaning of the word. 

i don’t get hit on, no. but i’m sure you do more than you notice. 

@Hinase@xanga - heh a man smiles, a man waves, and heaven forbid he actually tries to talk..because all these are seen as “hitting on” and being ” hit on”. our lives are so busy and everyone in such a hurry that a fleeting instant is all that’s given for a contact.  lol into that fleeting moment throw in mood swings, pms, and all the sundry other aspects of a females life lol..heh the human race will be ended by the pure fact of one meeting their perfect person and turning away because that smile they have seen screams HIT !!! lol … heh im glad im old and not in the circuit any more lol..

@beforedawn@xanga - There’s a big difference from waving hello or smiling to actually being hit on. I’ve had guys follow me around around work or even call up my work to see if I was single. There’s a different body language and tone to it all. Generalizing women doesn’t do you any good, you know? Not every woman is like that, you know? 

YES! 

I went to Italy this past summer by myself. First time traveling by myself and I’m only 19! So i was a nervous wreck the entire traveling experience. I had a connecting flight so I flew Canada to France, then France to Italy. I had been traveling for at least 20 hours by the point that I got hit on. I was on a train in Italy to get to my hotel. I had not brushed my teeth or hair, or fixed my makeup since Canada. I was still in my pants and long-sleeved shirt so I was sweating my ass off in the Italy heat. OF COURSE this is the time when a cute Italian man hits on me!
I was so confused and taken off guard! Although, I was pretty proud of myself that in the first 2 hours of being in this beautiful country I got an Italian man’s digits

lol yes they are, pretty much, heh all… and i did in all actuality ask you to define your definition of being “hit on” and lol was referenced to a dictionary. now your expanding the boundaries a bit i believe.  the fact that we sit back and argue an already given is another mark of the female mind working. you are never wrong lol or even underprepared. life is what you see it as and thats how it will ever be lol and yes i have to sit back and laugh because there aint a damn thing i can do about it. you are a woman, the the world will shift itself out of its orbit just to give you what you believe you need and lol it better start shifting NOW lol

Not to sound harsh, but there are some dudes who will hit on any vagina out there. Seriously. I know you know who I’m talking about. I mean some guys have an age limit or a hair colour but most guys don’t care about hair and make up. If there is a 1% chance that you will somehow respond to them to boost their ego, this dude will make the effort.

Then there are those women who believe they look like shit, when really, to a guy, sweaty and vulenerable and confused is perfect prey for the horny dude.

But yes, the times that I get hit on are the times when I least expect it. And really – those are the times when I’m being my true self. I think that once we let our guards down we attract. We may not attract the good ones… that’s my issue. LOL

Three times AT WORK in what may be the least attractive uniforms known to man.

Oh, definitely!  Haha.  I’m glad I get to share this story.  About a week and a half ago, I was at the college football game because I’m in the marching band.  I was sitting in the stands, in my uniform (if you are in marching band or have even seen a marching band uniform, take note, they are definitely not attractive in the slightest) when a guy I know came up to me.  I haven’t seen him in a while and we get to talking.  After a while we exchange numbers so we can catch up.  He goes to sit not far away from me.  He texts me during the game.  This is the text:  “You look so good in that uniform!” along with other blatant pick-ups and come-ons.  Okay, I’m thinking, “NO ONE looks good in these uniforms, so the guy must really like me!”  LOL. ;D

Nice story.  I got hit on while washing my car =/  no make up, sweaty, hair in a pony tail, and I think I was wearing my glasses ( which I hardly wear because they make my eyes look very very small) usually I wear my contacts all the time.  eww I was gross looking