Before, I would stare down sorority girls for their superficial smiles and caked on makeup, annoyed at all the fliers being handed to me during the first week of school. But after seeing them practically everywhere I decided to give it a chance and I’m so glad I did.
I’m not saying that all girls should join a sorority because it definitely isn’t for everyone, but people (including myself) tend to assume negative aspects about sororities which I only understand now being on the other side. Of course all sororities are different depending on school and location but here are the five most common reasons I hear for not joining sororities and why they aren’t necessarily true:
1. “I don’t think you should have to pay for your friends”
I agreed with this beforehand but after being integrated into the sorority I realized that yes, there are certain fees sororities require you to pay but they are for national membership fees, social events, and the actual sorority house not for the people. Of course you could still be friends with girls from the sorority without being in it, but there are certain events and bonding experiences that you could only encounter within the sorority.
2. “Sororities are too much of a time commitment”
Being in a sorority is indeed a bit of a commitment, but what isn’t? You ultimately decide and prioritize your life and it also depends on how active and involved you want to be in a sorority.
3. “Sorority girls are sluts and all they do is party”
Honestly, in college, drinking and partying is practically inevitable wherever you may be. How people want to spend their nights and time is completely up to them but just because you witness a number of girls partying ever night does not necessarily mean that all girls are doing the same.
4. “Sororities are basically social clubs you have to pay for and aren’t even beneficial”
I know this sounds cliché, but sororities are great for networking! They are nationally recognized and most have multiple chapters around the U.S. Why do so many people join organizations and use interactive websites like Facebook and Google+? To network! Networking is so important in society today and I’m not saying that being in a sorority will land you your dream job instantly, but you never know what people will become and who you’ll run into again later in life.
5. “Sorority girls are fake and vain”
I’m not going to lie, some can be superficial but that doesn’t mean everyone is! I have met plenty of girls in sororities before I joined one, who were unexpectedly so down-to-earth and genuine. As for vanity, sorority girls do dress up and care about the way they look but who doesn’t? When you’re representing something you want to look polished for yourself, what your involved in, and for others. For example, if you were sent to a convention on behalf of your job you wouldn’t show up in pajamas.
I have been on both sides of the grass and I’m not explicitly saying that being in a sorority is the greener side but people should definitely try to give it a chance before judging!
What do you think about sororities?