Lovelyish

1. Your sense of self-worth should never be contingent on your physical appearance.
2. You don’t need to have a boyfriend to be happy.

Only 5?  my list would be about 7 trillion.  I’d clear a forest with all the paper I’d have to use for my list.

Don’t worry about having a boyfriend. All the girls that have/had multiple boyfriends, now have multiple children.

Don’t let others get in the way of your happiness/ stop you from doing what you want to.

Those can be tough years! My biggest is I would like to tell my younger self that I was liked by more people than I knew. Did a lot of second guessing and that got me nowhere.

1. Avoid clown makeup.
2. Being a goth/emo/hipster/insert trend makes you look like a douchebag.
3. Boyfriends, and even most friends, in this stage of your life aren’t worth caring much for.
4. High school is a huge waste of time.
5. (I know this is not true for everyone) Parents usually don’t actually have a huge plot against you.
6. Be selfish. Don’t do things because your friends want to, don’t ruin those A’s just to hang out, don’t waste your money on  others. Most people in your teenage life won’t matter in the long run, but how well you did in school, how well you saved your money, etc, will.

I would tell myself there is no way to control your sickness, but to know that’s all it is: a sickness. And I would tell myself to do what I needed to do and ignore everybody else because I’m the only thing in the entire world that could cure it

hey, I really like that girl’s bathing suit.

Have more fun. High school grades don’t matter as much as you thought they did.

-Don’t drop out of highschool.

-Relationships and friendships come and go. Especially with the crazy people you happen to hang out with.

-Continue working on your mental health. Even when things seem fine it doesn’t mean it suddenly went away like everyone wants you to believe. Try DBT therapy.

Stop trying to please everyone because it is futile as all hell. 

Do what you want and if they don’t like it, OH FUCKING WELL. 

I’ll tell my teenage self:

- not to make hasty decisions, especially if it’s a life changing decision. Like what my mom tells me, “You’ve got to think, think, think. Think really hard about the possible consequences of your decision and see the bigger picture, not the momentary result.”

to not date jerks! 

mistakes are made so we can learn from them. 

Don’t waste your time on him.

I’m still my teenage…self, but still I’d say stop obsessing and just live your life! (:

I’m still a teenager…can I give advice to my middle school self?: Smile more, you look pretty

@nihaokeisha@xanga - Yup! It was never that I was desperate to have a boyfriend, but at the same time, it was hard to look at these girls who got ALL the guys. Most of them didn’t end up in great spots, though.

Nice list.

Too many things really.

Stole this. 

Maybe 21 isn’t far enough away from teenage years, but I wouldn’t change a thing!

@IWannaBeAnAmericanJetSet - RAmen to that!

for one thing, it’s not too late to revisit the teen you. many things we tell ourselves NOW originated from what we told ourselves THEN. don’t be afraid to change the inner voice and the damaging words we spoke over our teen selves.

for me, i would tell myself that my feminine ways are beautiful and NOT something to be ashamed of.

1. be yourself
2. quit smoking NOW
3. do NOT do cocaine off of the toilet at the porn store, no matter how fun it may seem in the moment.
4. do not loose your virginity to {him} its not worth it
5. do not under ANY circumstances drink Everclear. the out come is not worth it
6. do more hallucinogens, because when you are “all grown up” you wont be able to.

1. don’t be someone you’re not
2. who cares about being popular, those people don’t matter now.
3. relax a little, grades didn’t matter that much in highschool (i was waay into school)
4. Don’t fret about not moving out after highschool.

1.  Do not wear oversized Winnie the Pooh t-shirts, it does not help your cause.

2.  You know you have some things off-kilter in your mind, so admit it and get them fixed NOW instead of living the next 5 or 6 years dealing with fear and intense depression.

3.  College will be way easier if you start exercising and eating right now…will save tons of grief later on.

4. Keep going against the grain because most people here are hicks, small-town heroes, and good ol’ boys.  You’re going places even though you’re at the bottom of the social ladder now.

5. Devoting all the time and attention that you do to music will be the most important thing you can do right now.  Keep on practicing and fuck all the idiots that call you a nerd for it.

1. stop working so much.  no mattter how much money you earn, your family won’t love you.  you’re tired and used.

2. eat whatever you want because you’re a 3 and tiny and nobody cares what you look like.

3. don’t drink diet coke.

4. drop out before it’s too late and you’re stuck with college as a life path.  it isn’t for you. 

1) For God Sakes don’t date that guy who is 26 when you are 16, you will waste 8 good years of your life and spend it sad, alone and angry.

I think that says it all.

Rage more. it’s healthy.

Um, how old are you now? You sound… much older than the demographic for this site.

1. Dont worry about what people think about your choice in men. You made the right decision the first time.
2. Dont be insecure with your body. Your fucking gorgeous.
3. Let him know that hes replaceable, and your not because you actually love him.
4. Go to class in the beginning of college, no matter how depressed you are.
5. Dont hold on so tight to the idea of being the good girl.
6. Put your emotions first.
7. Dont let everyone know exactly what you feel all the time.
8. Dont put people on a pedestal for selfish reasons. They dont want to be there.
9. Dont be so desperate for a man to understand.
10. Have more sex.

I think about if I could just go back and comfort myself a bit as well. 

My only complaint: I’ve certainly done the get wasted and hook up with acquaintances thing.  But I was on the Deans list the entire time.  My major gpa was a 3.78.  Doing well in school and having some uncontrolled fun are not mutually exclusive.  Just sayin’.
Otherwise I like this post.

1.) Weight is not important. Being healthy is.

2.) Enjoy these years, for being a youth won’t last forever.
3.) Don’t hate yourself. You have many good qualities.
4.) Try figuring out your religious foundation (I’m still struggling a little while in college.)
5.) Avoiding friends and eating and sleeping all the time (during senior year) will not help resolve your depression.
Now for college advice:
1.) Don’t invest time into someone who hardly invests that amount of time into you. (Never make someone a priority who only considers you an option.)
2.) Don’t worry about what people think about you. What matters is that YOU are happy.
3.) You don’t have to be friends with everyone. If someone wants to hang out and you don’t want to, don’t make up excuses to them. Just tell them or avoid them and they’ll get the picture.
4.) Never waste your time feeling angry/sad/depressed. It’s time you’ll never get back and it surely goes quickly. 
5.) Love yourself and you will be able to love others.
6.) Thank God that you are alive today and for the day you were given to live and see your family.

–Go with your gut feeling on everything.

–Spend a ton of time with your dog..you’ll regret not doing this when he passes away unexpectedly.

–Stop driving everyone around!

–Hug your mom every day

I’d tell myself to stop worrying what others think about me… too much stress to worry about all the small details

Im a teen and I love it. The only thing i can think of is find yourself. No matter your age, if you find yourself you dont need a long list of donts. (:

yh id tell my teen self; – being thinnest, prettiest and blondest isnt all that lifes about, id tell myself to go kick my abusive boyfriends ass, id say have fun now cause it doesnt last forever, then tell her to go eat some cake and smile