You’d think, after attending college 1500 miles away from home for two years so far, that I’d be a pro at keeping in touch with my friends. And to some extent, I am; I still have a handful of besties from high school that I love to death. Of course, going to school so far away showed me who my true friends really are, and most people I hung out with in high school I have no real desire to see anymore. And that’s okay.
But it’s the friends that fall in between that throw me for a loop.
There are a couple of my close friends that make staying in touch so horribly difficult. When I write on their facebook wall about making plans, they answer vaguely. When I text them for plans, they don’t answer, or they’re always busy. They’ll ask me when I leave for school and I’ll answer and ask the question in return, thinking they’ll say “we should hang out!,” but they don’t, leaving me to make the first move.
I know what you’re thinking; “if they’ve stopped making an effort, you should too!” Trust me, I’m good at doing this. There are a number of friendships that I’ve let go over the years because it started feeling one-sided. I’m not one to cling. If you don’t want to be my friend, than I don’t really want you to be my friend.
But the thing is, these friends that I’m talking about still initiate conversations. They just conveniently evaporate when we’re trying to make plans to see each other, so we’ll go months without speaking face to face.
It’s so frustrating! These are some people who I’ve been super close with, that I still love dearly. They just make me want to tear my hair out and never see them again, because making plans with them is like freaking pulling teeth.
Lovelies, what do you think I should do? Should I make the effort to keep these friendships, or let them fall by the wayside?