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I’ve gained 20 pounds in the last two years due to a massive amount of new pills resulting from a stroke. As an active teenager I never had issues with clothes not fitting and I could eat whatever I wanted, and now that I feel bigger I’m overly critical of my weight. It’s a struggle but I’m learning how to deal with my body.

It’s easier to make peace with your body when you come to the realization that the pressure for girls to look perfect is a patriarchal and misogynistic ideal to keep women worried about their looks instead of worrying about becoming presidents, CEOs, and seen as equals to men. :3

I’ve lost weight due to an illness, and it’s hard looking in the mirror and seeing small breasts and a butt that no longer fills out my jeans, but when I’m onstage, none of that matters. Because I can still sing, and there was a time when I was too sick to sing. And when I’m onstage, I get to feel like the most beautiful woman in the world for half an hour.

I think most girls coming up today aren’t going to feel bad about their bodies because they’re going to be around fat people like themselves.

I love that celebrities that are “flawless” advocate for such a great cause. I think every girl has days where she struggles with her own body, and it can be really difficult.

all my life, i was never your typical asian girl.  yes, i was petite but never thin.  my weight has always been an issue of mines but as i got older, i realized that i am beautiful no matter what others think.  if i think i’m beautiful then others will see it too.  i’m healthy, i work out, i may not be a size 0 but i’m sexy and i’m confident and there are people who think i’m sexy the way i am.  

When Seventeen Magazine stops Photoshopping their models and advertisements, I’ll sub to their message a bit more.

I’m really self conscious about my thighs. I have always been really lean, but my thighs hold almost all of my fat, and make it impossible to find jeans that fit– for having a boyish figure, I got fitted for Levi’s curve-id Jeans and got the most curvy fit: solely because of my thighs. :’( I’ve always been really active, so I have a lot of muscle on my thighs as well, but it’s obvious that my thighs aren’t proportional to the rest of me.

@superGchik@xanga - I can relate. I wasn’t your typical Asian girl either. I was petite in height, but I was never this tiny thing. In junior high, I had these boobs and I was teased because of it. Apparently, Asian girls aren’t supposed to have breasts. Not to mention, my eyes were made fun of because I lived in an area with practically no Asians.

My eyes were continuously mocked so much so I seriously considered having surgery to “correct” them. When I told my mother I wanted surgery, she was aghast. She said even if I went through surgery, other people will find something to critique. At that moment, I realized my mom was right. How can others accept you if you can’t even accept yourself?

Now I’m not saying I don’t have my moments when I look in the mirror and I don’t like what I see, but I have to remind myself what my mother told me.

I remember when I got Seventeen in the mail every month, and I remember seeing this “Body Peace” stuff in there. I thought it was great and the perfect way to spread such a great message to girls, considering a lot of the girls my age were reading Seventeen and other magazines a lot as well. Then I turned the page and saw “Tops That Will Make You Look Thinner.” I’ve stopped reading Seventeen ever since. This “Body Peace Project” is just a bunch of bs. They’re still a magazine that loves their photoshop and “ways to look thin” articles. 

The best way to promote body peace is by confronting the issue with your friends, then getting them to confront the issue with their friends, and slowly but effectively helping others around you realize that they are perfect just the way they are. Even if it only helps a few people, it’s worth it. And it’ll probably reach others eventually as well. I went on Facebook and posted a status promoting acceptance of our bodies, and I even helped my mom one day when she was uncomfortable with the dress she was in, and thought she would look bad in a picture. I told her to stop thinking that way and that everyone’s body is unique and beautiful just the way it is. She looked at me right in the eyes and told me no one had ever said that to her and thanked me. She had no problem taking pictures that day after I said that. It’s little things like this that can help. It certainly helps me. 

wow looks like quite a few people on xanga are worried about their weight.

personally i’ve never had to worry about my weight, but ever since i was like in 6th grade i have terrible acne and now that i’ve finished high school it’s getting better, but i still have breakouts sometimes. i’m trying to make peace with the scars it’s left me by trying at home microdermabrasion. and makeup.

13-17 I was pretty self-conscious of my weight, even though I was never overweight. After awhile I just got kind of whatever about it? I mean, there still are times when my weight can bother me, but its nothing like it use to be. Generally, I try and exercise for my health, not to lose “another 5 lbs.” I can be pretty damn beautiful at any weight anyway.
How I made peace with my body? Realizing my “ideal weight” was never ideal for me because it would take way too much energy and pain to get it that way. The little meat I have on me looks good on me anyway, at least for the most part.

I wish every girl would think she’s fucking beautiful. Cause she is =). Unless she’s ugly on the inside of course

I’m horribly self-conscious about my weight, among other things. As weird as it might sound, working at Lane Bryant is helping me come to terms with it though. I’m usually a size 14, making me one of the “smaller” girls there, which is a totally new experience for me. But what’s really helping is seeing all the plus-sized women who come in to shop every day looking absolutely gorgeous. Of course, I’m still going to work to be healthier and drop some weight, but it’s empowering to finally feel that I can be beautiful despite what the bathroom scale says.

I’m 3’7″

but I’m cute. so it’s ok

@AmayaDoll@xanga - This hell yeah. 

@DoRi_dOrI@xanga - You are cute and darling too

@MiriamBeth@xanga - That’s horrible! I hope you’re doing much better than that..

eh this is all in good intentions but seventeen still uses size 2 models and photoshop. 

@ohforrealson@xanga -  Hahaha.. I was going to say, doesnt anyone think its weird that Seventeen magazine is doing that?… A magazine about photoshopped girls, and whats “in”.. hmmm…

 @bass_chick57 -  Omg, the worst part I have with finding jeans to buy… The thigh part seems to fit, but then the hip part is always too big so my pants always fall down   (belts are a no to me.. Im allergic to the material it uses   )

This is the dumbest thing, but I’m self conscious about my eyebrows. Like, I posted a picture on Tumblr a year ago and people made rude comments about them and now I hate posting my photos online. I was bullied in school and called stupid things like albino and “no-brows.” I’m really fair and I have blonde eyebrows, but they’re naturally really thin and spaced further apart.. like the opposite of a uni-brow, I guess. I do not tweeze or pluck or shave any part of them. People have actually said to my face, “why do you shave off your eyebrows?” Fuck off, I don’t. They simpy do not grow in a 2cm space where most people’s brows start. 
I guess this isn’t EXACTLY the kind of thing we’re talking about.. most people’s insecurites are with their body and weight.. but yeah, this has always frigging bothered me. 

@writemyheartt@xanga - heyyyy, you look gorgeous in your pic! haha. and if it helps any, i don’t think most people care about/notice acne on others.. you’re your own worst critic!

I always thought this was completely tacky. To me it’s annoying because I don’t think it really even helps most people.

@MiriamBeth@xanga - I gained a lot of weight from pills too : / It’s so hard when you realize the clothes you’ve been wearing forever don’t fit anymore. I had a really hard time coping…I still struggle.

I love my body…except for how one of my legs is thinner than the other. It makes me feel really self-conscious, and it’s difficult to find anyone who relates to me. Most of the media attention is given to girls who wish they were thinner, and no one focuses on how psychologically damaging birth-defects and things of that note can feel to someone when comparing themselves to the visually perfect women in Celebrity-land.

I know the weight issue is more wide-spread, but I wish people like me had more of a voice.

I did a research project on the body peace project along with a few other movements for girls to become more comfortable with their bodies and I find it to be extremely inspiring.  This project that Seventeen launched a few years ago is a step in the right direction and something that other magazine should try to make strides towards.  You can criticize Seventeen for still using models and such but if you look at the positive they have sections with clothes for different body types and various articles that might not be seen in other magazines.  Theyre taking a step in the right direction and eliminating the use of photoshop or models is something that is not going to happen and theres nothing wrong with that.. its just how this generation has evolved. 

Exercise, a good diet, a fit man and fashion sense is the best way to find peace with your body. I’ve hated my body up to the age of about 22, I’m not going to list the faults, but I’m 24 now and I appreciate my body so much now, it’s not great, but it’s totally functional and appreciated by others as well!

I gained 100 pounds since high school, 5 years ago. I’ve recently decided to lose weight. I’ve lost 23 pounds so far. I won’t be at peace until I’m at a healthy weight.

No matter how much weight I lose or how many sit ups I do I will always have a pouch on my stomach. I was 5’6 and 114 pounds and still had a very unattractive midsection. I will never be at peace with it because it will never go away.