Today I finally signed my life away first apartment lease in the city.
I was super nervous on the train this morning, thinking that my not-so-trustworthy broker was leading me into a horrible trap like:
All I could think about was how much money my mom and I were about to hand over:
No sooner had I started contemplating how my social life would be non-existent this year, when my mom began lecturing me on the importance of getting a job, and budgeting my money, and not going out, and saving, like:
And I know it’s important so I sat there and listened like:
Then I started talking about how I already have an interview for a job, and I’ll get a second job if I have to. The more I go on about this, the more horrified my mother seems to get. She looks at me like:
She says, ‘I don’t want you to worry about it that much though, you’re still in college and you should focus your efforts on school.” I’m like:
Was she not just talking about how I need to find a job and help her out with expenses? As soon as I mention concrete plans about being independent, she gets all:
Two seconds ago you were chastising me about money, and now you’re telling me that I should enjoy my time in college. CONUNDRUM.
Do your parents ever go bipolar on you?
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Lmao. Love it!
And yes, all the time.
daisy / 696 posts
you’re*
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I have a theory that when someone has/adopts a child, there is a chemical reaction that immediately goes haywire promoting manic-like states that make them notice when you’re too quiet, tell you exactly what you don’t want to hear, and enable them to ignore you when you want something in Toys-R-Us.
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It’s not bipolar. She’s terrified. I get the same feeling with my niece and nephew. It’s like you don’t want to hover, but you want them to do the right thing, and you don’t want them to make mistakes but you know it’s healthy to make mistakes because that’s how you learn.
Imagine being on her end of it. It’s probably worse O_O
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One day my mom will tell me I’m too young to have kids, and the next day says she’s given up hope for me having children. I’m 25. Now THAT is a conundrum.
magnolia / 1357 posts
All the time. I totally sympathize with this post.
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Yes!! haha great post!
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my dad literally does that every single day ughh
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LOL this happens to me all the time with my mom XP.
sunflower / 300 posts
i wanna know how the hell you afford school and an apartment without a job. i can barely afford school with a job, let alone an apartment.
orchid / 179 posts
AHHHHHHHHWWWWW
the kittyhug gif was perfect!!
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yup, my mom can be give two contradicting advices in the span of 10 minutes, and she sounds exactly like your mom.
it can be very confusing and unhelpful…it’s like…do you want me to be more independent or not?
@ohforrealson@xanga - That’s a very good point to make. I guess it can be both difficult for the mom and child! but it wouldn’t hurt for the parent to have a little more faith in their kid’s decisions :[
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WE…are parents… you did it to us so..paybacks.. heh… heh…heh…
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Omg this is seriously everything that’s ever happened in my life. A+
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@lovelyxbones_x3@xanga - Did you miss the part about her mom and her handing over money? I’m guessing it was mostly mother’s money.
magnolia / 1066 posts
i love the hugging kitty cats video d’awwwwwwww <3 <3 <3 <3
rose / 791 posts
It’s not being bipolar. It’s her being terrified that her daughter is growing up and leaving home and becoming independent.
@ohforrealson@xanga - exactly.
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Yeah, only it’s actually bipolar, not conflicting emotions about her child leaving the nest. Like, sweetness, love, and normalcy, followed by disinterest, hate, and depression. I try not to be around her much.
rose / 795 posts
Awesome GIF post!
orchid / 173 posts
This. Is. My. Life.
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@bakayarodane@xanga - It wouldn’t hurt, but it is very scary.
@written_conversations@xanga -
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I wouldn’t say parents are bipolar. They just want the best for you, and they freak out because you have a mind of your own and will choose what you will. The choices you make will not always be the same thing they would choose.
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@WaitingToShrug@xanga - I feel you. My mom is.. special.
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My mother is EXACTLY the same way. She’ll yell at me about being more responsible, and when I actually do what she wants, she will tell me not to worry so much and that she’ll handle it.
“Mom…. PICK ONE. Do you want me independent or dependent?!”
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Yeahhhhhhhhhh.
daisy / 696 posts
@Ashley Nicole Anders@facebook - ”now your telling me ”
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Sometimes parents confuse us more than we already are.
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Parents are always like that. They want what is best for us, but sometimes they aren’t even sure haha.
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Yeah, they’ll do that.
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AHAHAH the first cat gif – that’s me almost every time I talk to my mom
My mom flips on me all the time – she specifically told me that she doesn’t want my current summer job to go into the school year, she wants me to just concentrate on school but then she goes and tells me to get a work study -_____- When we’re arguing she tells me to stop talking back so I stop talking and then she goes “Are you listening to me?! Why aren’t you saying anything?” So I look her in the eye to show that I’m listening then she thinks I’m staring her down. Lose-lose situations hah.
lily / 5148 posts
Nah, it’s not bipolar. The views of your mother aren’t exactly too extreme, if they were, I’d consider it bipolar. But I think she wants you to get a job but also enjoy your time at college. She wants you to have a balance between the two.
I think that’s what she meant to say really.
You can have both really, it’s just a matter of a balancing act.
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lulz
rose / 834 posts
Lmao I hate that “You need to be independent/I’ll help you out if you need it” BS.
My parents sent me out to the wolves and were like well you’re on your own
Now my dad’s like if you ever need help u can just ask, but since my mom’s like the bank vault door there’s no getting around asking her and if she doesn’t want to help me out then it gets known by everyone.
That’s why I don’t ask for or accept assistance from my parents unless they send me gift cards.
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I literally JUST went through this. My parents demanded that if I wanted to stay in my apartment for the summer up at school, I had to get a job. Now that I have a job, they insist I work too much and should come home to visit more often. UGH.
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YES. I love the face you showed when your mom said that you shouldn’t worry about money that much. That is EXACTLY the face you want to make!
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Lol
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I get it. It’s tough because I currently have a job, and will hopefully find one at the new college I’m transferring to… but even if I were to keep working, how could I afford school if I didn’t have my parents? My job doesn’t pay that much.
If we took out the expenses of a dorm and replaced it with the expenses of my own apartment, then REALLY, how would I afford this?
Your mom wants you to realize that you need to be responsible and get a job (like you’d need to if you didn’t have her) but to also enjoy college life (because currently, you DO have her help).
It’s a weird place to be, but still, a very nice place. Enjoy it while you can!
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@lovelyxbones_x3@xanga - At my school, at least, it’s actually cheaper to get your own apartment than to pay for the dorms & meal plans when you do all the math.
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Haha I love the gif of the shark getting eaten o__o