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I don’t think cyberbullying is an issue, you can block people and delete their comments, it’s not that hard.

i don’t get movements like these. maybe i’m just cynical, but people aren’t going to stop cyber bullying just because there are movies or whatever against it. chances are, they KNOW it’s wrong, they just don’t care. simple as that. :/ it’s sad, but true.

Cyberbullies belong in jail and banned from the internet, cybercafes and computers for life. PERIOD.

@theflowerstem@xanga - someone’s never been a victim… don’t assume that

l o l

Bullying is always wrong but will never be stomped out completely. It’s the weapon of choice for the weak

@theflowerstem@xanga - It’s an issue because not everyone has the logic to block somebody, or they feel they can’t for whatever reason.  You really have to get inside people’s heads, because generalizations never work.

In my sociology class last semester, we started talking about this girl a classmate knew from North Dakota who hung herself after a cyberbullying incident.  Someone else in the class spoke up and said “if you’re that weak-minded, you deserve to die”
Needless to say, I pounced on her because I got so defensive.  I basically told her that she had no idea what she was talking about because you never know if one little comment can tip off a severely depressed person, or what have you.  I told her she didn’t know what it was like to walk in that girl’s shoes and she shouldn’t be so judgmental, because if it happened to someone she loved dearly, she wouldn’t be saying the same thing.  And she didn’t have the balls (or the comeback) to respond.

I think everyone has been bullied online at some point. It is damaging because sometimes you never even see an attacker but you are still being bullied, sometimes even worse than in person. It’s tough, and I think the only way to end it is to act individually. Just don’t do it.

cyberbullies are the biggest cowards ever. 

@theflowerstem@xanga - 

It’s definitely not that simple, because it sometimes isn’t even a matter of direct attacks. In the 7th grade, I had people sending out chain emails that contained made up rumors about me, and it wasn’t even supposed to reach me, but it did. My blocking these people wouldn’t have stopped that email from getting around, nor would it have lessened the pain at the time.

I agree with the message but disagree with one thing: They know EXACTLY what they are doing and how it is affecting someone else, which is why they do it. It gives them a sense of power. More often than not the cyber bullies have more self confidence as once believed. They seek out those who are weaker.  I’ve taken a few psychology classes. I’m not an expert, but I believe if they cause someone to take their life it should be charged as murder. It baffles me how someone could treat another human being like that, knowingly, and enjoy it. Doesn’t matter what their age is, faded stains of crimson will always be on their hands. 

@theflowerstem@xanga -  Ever heard of topix.com? Yeah, I was cyberbullied there. In order to get a comment about you removed, you have to pay the website administers $20. After you pay the money, and they take the comments off, someone can just start a new thread about you.

@theflowerstem@xanga - Seriously?… 

@theflowerstem@xanga - You’re an idiot. Congrats.

Also, I have the shirt mentioned in this entry! Check out my latest post, I’m wearing it

I am so with you. I really hope that they make more laws about cyber-bullies… 

@theflowerstem@xanga - Believe me a “block” doesn’t work if they’re a true cyberbully. They create new accounts repetitively to continue to harass you. Apparently you’ve never had something like this to happen to you… It’s extremely hurtful and it wears you out just as if you were bullied in real life 

I agree with this post. I’ve been cyberbullied on multiple occasions on two separate websites. It’s hurtful and it sucks like hell. Sites have to be stricter on these cases and make it easier for those who harass others to be banned from a site all together. Blocking doesn’t work in all cases. Deleting accounts doesn’t help if the IP address isn’t blocked.

Also, cyberbullying doesn’t just end after you get out of high school. It extends into college and it can extend into adulthood. I don’t think people realize that sometimes.

some people are way too emotionally invested with random strangers online and snap at differing opinions. I used to try to be civil and logical, but nowadays, I often tell people, who don’t mind their own business to kiss my a** then they call me immature but they don’t deserve the satisfaction of a logical explanation

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - There’s a line between differing opinions and full on harassing someone about their race/gender/disability/sexual orientation/life/etc. 

@sugarandlemonade@xanga - if the website does very little to stop the bully, who makes multiple accounts, then maybe make another new account. that’s why I keep my private info private and don’t put my real name like on facebook,etc, for them to find and continue their charade. if that doesn’t work, I reverse bully them and shut them up:D if that isn’t your thing or won’t work, then I don’t know…

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - That works if you don’t have family on Facebook. I hate when people have no sympathy for victims. Until it happens to you, you have no idea how much it hurts. 

@theflowerstem@xanga - I am going to have to agree with you even if other people are not.  Yes, you can never stop what other people are saying about you, but it is not that hard to walk away from a computer. 

@sugarandlemonade@xanga - most of my family is computer illerate so they don’t have a facebook or even know how to turn on a computer. I’ve been bullied when I was in high school, so I mainly relate to it when it happens face to face. I’ve managed to avoid or deflect bullies online. every situation/person reacts/deals with it differently, so yeah, in other situations if the person can’t relate then I don’t blame them for not being able to relate. that’s why I don’t often get personal online. ttfn.

I hated that movie.

If someone is calling me names, and spreading rumors about me online, then they better be spelling things correctly and not using chatspeak. Otherwise I just laugh.

This is just an attack on net neutrality. You get enough people fed into this bullshit and they take it to the voting booth and before you know it you wonder why the government blocked certain websites until you realize America has become China.

Really just shut down your accounts and walk away from the computer if you can’t deal with it. Shit I’ve had this happen to me and I just laugh it off. Or if it’s personal and I know these people I end up punching them in the face. These bullies have so much time on their hands to do this shit they should be laughed at not feared.

Besides the Internet is not real unless you put the information (i.e. personal info) out there for it to become real.

Also that ABC movie was hilarious. “I CAN’T GET THE CAP OFF!” is already an Internet meme on 4chan.

All I have to say is that kids are spoiled and just getting stupider. Maybe their parents need to learn to raise their kids with a backbone. The fact that NO ONE in that movie told that girl anything like “don’t listen to them, people always have to find someone to pick on in high school, they’re stupid, just walk away from it” or SOMETHING shows that they themselves had no idea how to handle the situation.

I was bothered by the fact that she let them get to her. It wasn’t like there was no way out of her situation. She had the option to shut down her site, ignore those people completely, or heck, even make fun of that other girl with her friends. I know they’re teaching teens and everyone not to bully back, but having close friends that you can joke around with helps without having to turn into the other person.

Also, her mother was being kind of an idiot. That was way too much restriction, and when time came for her to finally get a little freedom, her daughter couldn’t handle it. She also could have told her daughter to not worry about it, and to actually have a serious conversation instead of saying one or two things that just got Taylor pissed off.

The whole movie irked me. I know this is starting to happen everywhere, but it just makes me sad that this is what the next generation is doing, and this is the new major problem teens are encountering. I feel like the ending shouldn’t have been her trying to take them down, but her actually growing up and realizing what they say doesn’t matter.

I’ve been cyberbullied. Not fun.

@snarkius@xanga - 

yeah, it’s not that hard until you hear about it in person anyway

@omgroxie@xanga - You just cyberbullied me. I don’t even know why you bought that shirt because you’re such a hypocrite.

As much as I would love to @reply to everyone I won’t because I don’t feel like it and no one really gave me any arguable responses, so I’m going to say this: For those of you that don’t have mental issues, how are you going to handle a bully in real life? Are you going to contemplate suicide or are you going to gain some confidence and learn some people skills so you can stand up for yourself? For the people that do have mental issues: stay away from things that trigger you. I’m not trying to sound unsympathatic, but there are too many ways to avoid cyberbullying for it to be a problem.

@ohforrealson@xanga - the world needs more people like you. 

@theflowerstem@xanga - HAHA if you consider that cyberbullying you’ve clearly never been through what an actual cyberbully does.

Also, people who are cyberbullied generally don’t do anything to deserve it. I did NOTHING to those kids in Middle and High School and they tortured me anyway. Your comment was deserving of being called an idiot. Sorry.

It is not simple enough to just turn off your computer, especially when you’re young. That isn’t the solution to cyberbullying. The solution to cyberbullying is to STOP CYBERBULLIES and make it illegal to threaten or constantly insult someone online. Cyberbullies do not back down. If you block them, they make a new screenname. If you delete them, they make a fake profile and re-add you. If you get off the internet, they go to the phones and text messages. It’s not just internet. So you’re telling me that, in order to not be bullied, I need to rid myself of all my online profiles, and screennames, and get rid of my cell phone, just to stop those cyberbullies from reaching me? No. That’s not fair. They should be stopped. Not me. I have a right to have a facebook and a myspace and an IM screenname and a cell phone. And I have a right to use those things to reach my friends. The bullies DO NOT have a right to drive me away from what I enjoy, and that’s exactly what they do. They also drive you to suicide and they spread things around the school too. It’s not just online. Maybe you should watch ABC Family’s Cyberbully and see what happens to the girl in that movie. That’s just a scratch on the surface of what I went through actually. I had people threaten to kill me and burn down my house and kill my family. You have no idea what you’re talking about, and your ignorance absolutely disgusts me. Just because you weren’t a victim doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make an effort to understand. Please, do us all a favor, and shut up.

@TheDeadWhale@xanga - Again, ignorance is bliss. Read my last comment.

@omgroxie@xanga - wow.
like other people said, one comment can tip a person off and send them
into a depression. Just because you said one thing doesn’t make it okay
either! If you’re trying to get your point across there isn’t a need to
be insulting back because it is considered bullying and harassment too.

Let’s put it this way: it’s illegal to kill, steal, and do other things
in America too. But people still do it. And when there’s things like
that going on, cyberbullying isn’t going to be put at the top of
everyone’s To Do list. Don’t get me wrong, I do agree that it is a
serious thing and it gets taken very far, but after a certain point,
like you stated in your comment, it becomes actual harassment according
to… well, “The Books” (meaning the law I guess.)

You do have a right to have a Facebook and screenname, but you should be
able to understand what people could use those things for. Just like
having a phone and an e-mail address: this is a link to get to you
personally. Which is why everyone online cautions you before you make a
site or anything. It’s probably listed some where in those terms and
conditions that no one reads lol.

I’m not saying people shouldn’t try to stop cyberbullying, but it seems
like it’s going to be a never ending battle. However, teaching and
helping the kids who do get cyberbullied would probably be more
effective too.

Freedom of speech… not always a good thing I guess.

@omgroxie@xanga - How is anything I said ignorant? Ban people harassing others on the Internet would get rid of YouTube and 4chan and Facebook and Myspace. You do realize that? If you personally know these people call the cops or deal with it yourself. My god just because you don’t know how to deal with bullies doesn’t mean I’m the same as you, and don’t infer that I’ve had it easier than you when it comes to being bullied. That is ignorance, no it’s just downright rude. Everyone has been bullied, but it’s how they react to it that makes all the difference in the world.

@omgroxie@xanga - Calling someone any negative name over the internet is cyberbulling, even if it hasn’t been as bad as what you’ve been through. I don’t deserve to be called an idiot for what you went through.

Your thrid paragraph made you sound extremely weak and ignorant. A law isn’t going to stop cyberbulling just like it doesn’t stop bullies in real life. If you can’t take the heat then get out of the kitchen. You’re the ignorant person that keeps re-adding your bully, opening the messages and reading them word for word. You’re the one that won’t block the bullies calls, you’re the one that keeps answering the unknown calls and messages and listening to the entire thing. You’re the one with a low self-esteem that takes those words to heart. Just remember that you’re the one that does those things to keep it going.

I have seen that movie, it was poorly written and the acting was terrible. I understand the message it was trying to get across, but like someone previously stated, no one told the girl to ignore the messages and think highly of herself. Also, she KNEW her bullies, that one girl (the popular one) was posting the stuff on her page, she could have blocked it then.

@ohforrealson@xanga - this. What you said is the reason why the shooting at Virginia Tech happened. 

I don’t understand why people can’t grasp how difficult it is for some people (including myself) to cope with bullying. I was bullied a great deal in Elementary school and I still feel repercussions. I can’t even comprehend how people deal with cyber-bullying. 

it is def worth watching. i watched it & yes it made me get teary eyed as well!

blocking people doesnt always work. what if they make up a page about you? that happened to my niece when she was in jr high. all because a boy that she was just friends with, wanted to date her & she didn’t like him in that way.
i have had friends (had being the key word) that harassed people via myspace & facebook just for the hell of it. those same friends turned on me once i grew apart from them, and got away from their petty lives.
those making comments along the lines of “oh they deserved it” have never experienced it. 
most of the bullying stems from someone disliking someone over jealousy. 
i even had a crazy ex bf post nasty things about me on videos online. (i’ve done a bit of acting so i can even be found on IMDB)
when you are the victim of things like this, it makes you not want to be on the internet. i had erased myself the best i could & it took me years to feel comfortable enough to put myself out there. even now i’m still very careful of who i friend, and what i give out, in case someone tries to track me down & start crap.
i guess what i am saying in my rant is that, its not as easy as others make it out to be. it can be tough. and very very hurtful. and until you experience it, you may not understand it. but please dont be so judging & rude. 

edit to add.i do not feed trolls but this has nothing to do with american internet being like china. their government wants to ban free speech as in “anything that paints their government in a bad light”
right now youtube censors protest videos at the requests of governments. google hides search results for the same reasons.
the government doesnt care about cyberbullying. they care about people cyberbullying them. thats it. not what sally sue says about linda loo on facebook.
just thought i would shed a little more light on a subject someone was trying to get at in the comments.
my apologies for the novel i have now created in the comments section. just my 2cents

@theflowerstem@xanga - 

how is an adolescent going to know how to stay away from things that trigger he/she? yeah sure, they’ll know by the time they’re older, but campaigns such as these are directed at people in this age group. it’s really too bad that these kids can’t be as thick-skinned or wise as you advise them to be, but victim blaming does not solve or prevent incidents such as tyler clementi’s or megan meier’s. 

@TheDeadWhale@xanga - The problem with that is..that your computer has an a ip address and that can be traced….and I’m sure you can find addresses of where the computer is at and it goes on and on.  It’s harder these days not to because we even up our credit card information up to buy things online. I think, you can’t really avoid it as much as you try. You can try by being anonymous. Or if you do put up personal information, make sure not to put things up you will regret later.

@feelslikejuly@xanga -Same here. I’m only recently trying to shake nearly my whole life worth of bullying from friends and family. It’s hard to. Not impossible but very difficult. 

@snarkius@xanga - Unless it steps out of the realm of the internet and into real life, and they are threatening to go to your house etc. I believe that has happened here on xanga to a few people.The problem is that people over step that boundary and really do give out real threats out like that can endanger someone’s life.

@theflowerstem@xanga- Sometimes that doesn’t work, especially if you do all those things, flag them or even contact the people in charge of the website. Sometimes it may work, sometimes it doesn’t. It depends on how relentless the bully is. Some even go beyond the realm of the internet and do threaten real life. At that point, people should either contact the police etc; because that’s serious. Again, it really depends. But either most of the time, a lot of people just get randomly attack, but some do instigate a lot of it. But I always try not to let it get to me, especially strangers. Friends are different…

@IniquitousxAffliction@xanga - True. They do it because they enjoy it. It’s a shame that I’ve noticed it in real life..so disturbing. 

OP:

I’m hurt more when friends do it than strangers. I’ve had that happen here and thus I got rid of them because of that crap. Also the thing is, not everyone that gets bullied is weak and deserving of it (no one deserves it)- . Most of the time, they don’t want to fight and are just passive or just peace loving (like myself. That is why I hardly fight with anyone) or they don’t like fighting over anything period. That’s just how a lot of people are. I’m sure at certain point, people do stand up but only when extremes are taken. 

But the thing to remember is, that even if you do have thicker skin, things still hurt. Unless, you’re an emotionless human or a robot. It’s still going to hurt. Usually it depends on the severity of the comments etc; but you’re still human of course.  It just takes some time to affect you or if they hit in some sensitive areas (which I’m sure that a lot of people probably do have).

@ladymerelda - It has everything to do with it. If you get the government involved in what lindy loo says to whatsherface (like someone said about banning harassment on the Internet) it will become somewhat like China’s internet. You’ll get so many people saying so and so did this to me that they’ll decide to shut down Facebook altogether. It’s not outside the realm of possibility. (And inferring I’m a troll is hilarious.)

What one really needs to do if it’s so personal is get a restraining order or use violence not involve the government’s control of the Internet in their silly squabbles. That’s the only point I’m trying to make with my comment.

@Hinase@xanga - Or just know how to handle a bully. But
I’m a violent person by nature so it’s been easy for me- well after I
went through a few years letting them win. I just wish everyone could learn a few fight moves or find
that weakness in their bullies to use against them so that stuff like
this wouldn’t have the attention it does. I know there are weak
creatures and I know you can’t run away all the time. People need to
have immense courage, to find that in themselves, and to face things
head on. Bullies only have the best of you if you let them and sadly some people even let them have their lives.

Not to make this comment longer than it is but you know that time during the teenage gay suicides? The one about the leaked sex tape onto the internet is the one that really got to me. I kept thinking about what an emotional impact that must of had on the kid who wasn’t ready to face everything behind being gay and having the world know it, not to mention to be that exposed. Hell thinking about being in his shoes made me want to kill myself. And then I thought about, low and behold, the Internet. Other sides of the Internet. That there are whole worlds on the Internet that would of took this kid in their loving embrace and accepted him for who he is, exactly who he really is (or was I should say.) If he had just found one of those communities and really had a connection there perhaps things would of ended differently. I know that’s the way I feel about Xanga (even though I’ve had bad moments here as well as good.) My anonymity here on Xanga let’s me be who I really am, depressive reclusive morbid sometimes misanthropic, but without it I’d probably be like that kid right now.

But I’m biased since I love the Internet like a mother loves her child. That’s why I’m so uptight when it comes to anything that may hinder my access to any part of it and I can just see cyberbulling being used as propaganda for voting elections and it tears me up inside.

Now to totally discredit myself: slipperyslopes.jpg

@TheDeadWhale@xanga -

 I just wish everyone could learn a few fight moves or find 

that weakness in their bullies to use against them so that stuff like 
this wouldn’t have the attention it does. I know there are weak 
creatures and I know you can’t run away all the time. People need to 
have immense courage, to find that in themselves, and to face things 
head on. Bullies only have the best of you if you let them and sadly some people even let them have their lives.

I do too ;/ It took a long time for me to learn to do that especially in real life where I really needed it. On here, or even on the internet, nowadays, I hardly get much get to me (unless a friend does something) and I always try to be nice to even people trying to bully me. It usually deters them. 

Yeah, the internet can be cruel but at the same time, it can be supportive. It’s like a double edge sword really. 

Yeah, boy do I remember those suicides. That was sad ;( 

Iwas bullied out the ass growingup.

But best part about the internet, you can log off.  Ignore it.No ones making you read that shit. And if people bring it up IRL then ingnore it.  Smile at them.”BOOHOO T__T” = provoking them

internet is a harsh place.  so nut up or go home

I’ve seen 5th grade cyberbullying online. It’s like subpar trolling at it’s worst. It needs to be stopped, or the dumb little kids should learn better comebacks to at least entertain me.

@theflowerstem@xanga - trololololo

for the record, i HAVE been cyber bullied, not to mention, bullied in real life.  but, i didn’t kill myself.  thanks to friends and family, i was able to handle it healthily.

“@omgroxie@xanga -
“No. That’s not fair.”
life’s not fair.  no one forced you to have an online presence, or forced you to keep the same cell phone number.  grow up and take responsibility for your own choices.  just because you were a victim, that did NOT mean you were some helpless little thing.  the internet is a privilege, not a right, and if you are incapable of staying in touch with people without it then you need to brush up on your social skills. write letters if you have to.  and where were your parents in all this?  when i had cyber bullies sending me messages telling me to kill myself (online as well as in my locker at school), my mom banned me from the internet for a year.  

@Kaythan@xanga - don’t bring up that Meier girl.  i’m from St. Louis.  what didn’t get out on the national media was that girl was certified depressed, and her therapist had already instructed her parents to prevent her from having any access to the internet.  her parents are just as much to blame.  

Growing up this wasn’t an issue. Yeah in middleschool everyone started their “mean girl” phase and did the stupid “you are too much of a loser to join our clique” cliques. The teachers had the balls to tell them they were straight up wrong and to change the attitude. Parents were even like, wtf I didn’t raise my daughter to be a bitch. Nowadays, no one tells their kid how to interact with other girls and to have the mindset that words can be hurtful no matter how powerful and cool they make you feel. No one is taught decency anymore.

@Kaythan@xanga -  @Alliecat15@xanga - THANK YOU for explaining to the closed-minded people out there that there isn’t always such a thing as blocking people! I’m not trying to be rude to anyone, but like really, sometimes there isn’t a solution to being bullied, even on the internet. It pisses me off, having been bullied myself, in prerson and on the internet, to see people sitting there saying that you can do something about it. No you can’t always do something to stop bullies. So thanks. Hopefully some people will open their eyes a bit more and stop being so damn ignorant about issues like cyber bullying.

@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - Again, it’s not that simple. I just, I can’t even argue with you ignorant people anymore. You know what? Some people aren’t strong enough to handle it like you. After everything that happened I became mentally ill. And you know what? Clearly I didn’t kill myself either, or at least succeed at it, since I’m sitting right here right? Your mom did the wrong thing in my opinion. I shouldn’t be kept away from the things I love doing because of cyberbullies. Yeah, life isn’t fair, but this is something that can be changed. By staying off the internet for a year you gave them exactly what you wanted – they drove you away from something you enjoyed. Good job.

@TheDeadWhale@xanga - @theflowerstem@xanga - @xplode_2day@xanga - There’s just nothing I can do to educate any of you people. Again, obviously none of you have been inside a Middle Schooler/High Schooler’s head…some people aren’t as strong or as fortunate apparently as you people were, you clearly didn’t go through anything like I did, and maybe you guys bullied yourself because clearly you condone it. It’s not as simple as just blocking someone. It’s just not. So get over it. Nothing you say is going to change what happened to me or any of these other girls or how awful cyberbullying is. It’s taking a toll on a lot of people and people are killing themselves over it. Call them weak but being driven to mental illness and wanting to kill yourself is not okay. The solution isn’t to “make kids stronger” because again, when you’re 12,13,14…it doesn’t work that way. The solution is to stop cyberbullying.

By the way, I did try to get the police involved, the phone companies involved, the schools involved, the parents involved, etc etc, and you know what? No one did a damn thing about it. And yeah, I knew perfectly well who the people were that were doing it. It doesn’t matter. People do nothing about it.

And one more thing – for whoever said 4chan…4chan is trolling, not cyberbullying. There is a difference. I’m not going to get into it, and I’m sure you’ll write out a book of a comment on how trolling is the same as cyberbullying but it isn’t. Sorry.

@xplode_2day@xanga - I was raised with a backbone thank you and cyberbullying doesn’t just stop after high school. I’m well aware it trails into adulthood too. When someone personally attacks you on your disability, come back and tell me I need a backbone. I tolerate with a lot of crap that I shouldn’t have to and excuse me if I get hurt by something.

@theflowerstem@xanga - You don’t know everyone’s story. Get over yourself hun

Yes, cyber bullying is bad, but it’s also the easiest form of bullying to escape from. And since when did an outreach program ever stop criminals and thugs from being criminals and thugs? What needs to be focused on is how to protect yourself from it, because unfortunately, bad things will probably happen to you at the hands of another person.
And of course, what would a social issue post be without me asking, WHERE ARE THE PARENTS? Okay, a kid gets mad when you try to regulate their internet usage… so what? Does that mean the parent just stops? No! Parents need to get a clue, because they could stop most of this.

Being a 22 year old woman now, I don’t think cyberbullying would get too me too much, however, I know that the teenage years are so incredibly hard. You try to fit in and your reputation is everything (at least you think it is). I have not been “bullied” but I have had one harsh thing said about me from a once good friend via facebook. While it did, in the moment, anger me, it didn’t hurt my self-confidence or cause a long-lasting desire for revenge. That’s because I know there are plenty of people who love me and that one person who said that has some issues of his own. I know I am a child of God and I am not called to seek revenge or to hate anyone. It’s still not easy to let things roll off your back, but you just have to have your priorities in place. I’m sure I’d almost be amused if some teenage girl tried to cyber bully me now, but I probably would’ve had a harder time with it if I were 15.

@omgroxie@xanga - Even if you create a law against it people are still going to do it. There is a law against murder, but people still kill. It would help a lot to teach kids to be confident in themselves espically when they’re preteens because that’s whe they’re the most insecure. After reading your replies to me, I think you just want to be a victim, I also think that you bring some cyber bulling onto yourself because of other things I’ve seen you write to people.

You can get cyberbullied by not having any social accounts  or computers either. I remembered a “hate group” page that was made against towards an acquaintance. She found out about it within a week, and she moved to a different school as things didn’t get better. She managed to make nice friends. Those people who made such comments, needed help too. I spotted them around my community in the past, they looked unhappy too. 

@ohforrealson@xanga - thats awesome, i wish i saw her face after you told her off in front of the class lmao

@omgroxie@xanga - who said i was mentally strong?  i’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and am currently on medication for it.  by no means am i a mentally strong individual.  

but seriously…. the internet is not the be all, end all of communication.  it’s not a hobby, so i’m failing to see how you “enjoy” it.  unlike you (maybe), i remember a time when Facebook didn’t exist, and very few people i knew even had a computer.  if you wanted to get in touch, you used a land line that was not your own (and therefore very heavily regulated by your parents), or you just waited until the next day at school.  
you talk about me giving the bullies what they wanted…. who cares?!  the only thing that should matter is your well-being.  if preserving that means avoiding the internet for a few months, it’s worth it.  if you don’t believe that, i just feel sorry for you.  it’s extremely pathetic how wrapped up in technology kids are today.  if more kids had a life outside of their computers, cyber bullying wouldn’t be an issue.  

@omgroxie@xanga - who the hell said none of us went through it? It sucks that people you know went so damn far and I think it’s ridiculous that all that happened to you. No one should go through that especially when they’re that young. I went through a good amount of it too. Not as much as you, but that doesn’t mean that it wasn’t bad. I had my “best friend” at the time all of a sudden turn on me because I was still letting my mom do my hair and dress me in 5th and 6th grade. I wasn’t “cool” enough for her I guess. She bothered me online for no reason, waited for me to log on and made the whole hour I was allowed on the computer impossible by messaging me and e-mailing me. Her friends made a chat room and invited me in and made fun of me and then they all had my screenname (AOL days) to message and e-mail me bad shit. I went to school and had eyes following me and people laughing. I KNOW what it’s like. I KNOW what it can be like. So stop thinking just because you had it go to another level makes you an expert on all of it.

Middle school kids and high school kids are the worse. That age is when you’re most vulnerable and everyone takes advantage of it. But you know what? I had cousins and friends that did like me and told me to turn my back to all the people saying that shit to me. I had my mom tell me how beautiful I was, how all the heads turned when I walk into a room. I had people boost my confidence And make me feel better. And I hung out with them because of that. I didn’t feed into peoples gossip and let it ruin me. So the people around you have the power to help you. And I feel like it would be more effective if we encouraged people to ignore the “haters” and hang out with the right people.

I think there’s a commercial on one of the Nick or cartoon channels that shows a kid being bullied and how his friend told a teacher and then said “hey, sorry that happened to you. Don’t listen to them”. That’s what we need the most. Because as hard as it is online, the internet is becoming the most important thing to society and no one’s going to shut it down or put a restriction on sites just because some kids, who shouldn’t even be online in chat rooms before the age of, like, 14 are being irresponsible and inconsiderate.

If you try to stop cyberbullying, it doesn’t mean you’re going to stop bullying altogether. People are still going to push other kids around at school, follow them home, physically abuse and harass them. Being a kid is hard in too many ways.

@sugarandlemonade@xanga - i apologize and i see that my comment(s) might not be helpful for those with disabilities. those who bully people with disabilities are just sick and stupid.

@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - agreed… even though i feel like my life is on the internet too… =/

@july37@xanga - That was the sweetest comment I’ve ever heard thank you.

@theflowerstem@xanga - You wouldn’t understand being bullied through technology unless you went through it yourself.  Again, you might be strong enough to walk away from it, or handle it.  I was 12 when a stranger in a chat room told me he was going to kill himself, and I started crying, trying to convince him not to, just to find out it was a cruel joke.  I’ve since gotten less naive, but a lot of people aren’t.  You cannot throw a blanket statement out there like “just walk away” or “deal with it” because not everyone is strong enough to handle what YOU might find easy to handle.  Life just doesn’t work that way.  People vary so much.

@omgroxie@xanga - I’m so with you on this topic

@zzzzzulavalle@xanga - Lol I didn’t see her face because she started huffing and puffing and turned around in her seat (I sat in the back of the room, she sat in front).  But I was shocked because she was extremely argumentative and confrontational with EVERYONE about EVERYTHING.  I think she just realized she was wrong, for once

@feelslikejuly@xanga - I don’t understand it either.  I was so shy through middle school and most of high school (until my senior year), and I believe it was because of bullying in elementary.  I moved around a lot and didn’t make friends easily, so that contributed, along with the fact that I wore glasses (it’s sad, the little things that kids will pick on one another for!).

People need to realize that not everybody is the same.  Not everybody is going to get up and walk away for SO MANY REASONS, not just because they’re being illogical.  It needs to be taken on a case by case basis, and no other way.

@ohforrealson@xanga - hahaha ew i hate people like that

@omgroxie@xanga - You’re a really rude person. Read my comment to Hinase on the previous page. (I never said 4chan was the same as cyberbulling proves you didn’t even read my comments.) And stop trying to be the victim here. Don’t you ever want to be the hero? That is why I hate that ABC movie. It presents a girl exactly like you who will never learn words are words are words or at the very least how to stand up for herself or have the confidence in herself to move the fuck on. What I’d really like to see is people standing up to bullies and showing people how they can extract themselves from the situation, find courage in themselves, instead of a fucking pity party.

@theflowerstem@xanga - It is an issue. You will still get comments and messages even after you block a person. Cyber bullies will find a way to hurt you.

I’ve been cyber bullied many times. I’ve been told that the world would be a better place if I was dead, so I should just go cut my wrists now and save someone the trouble of killing me. I had to go to therapy for that one. I was told that my sophomore year of college, so yeah it doesn’t end after high school. Unfortunetly, there isn’t much people can do about it. If you have an account on any website, you’re at risk. It’s a hard truth, and it really sucks that it happens. 
Personally, I don’t agree with you saying life goes on. Sometimes it doesn’t. There have been numerous suicides from people who have been through this, and people like me who have gone through therapy to try and get over it. 

@At_Sixes_And_Sevens@xanga - All hail Sonichu!

I was bulled online once when I was 14 for choosing to stand up for a friend, I was the only one who stood by her. They hated me cause they failed to make her all alone. But I survived relatively unscathed, but cyberbullying is a horrible thing to go through, especially when you weren’t even “involved” or “at fault” in the first place.

this is a really good blog regarding the severity of cyberbullying. i personally think it’s not addressed enough but due to the accumulation of technology, the online world is getting harder and more difficult to control and manage. I think ‘prevention is better than cure’ should be more enforced as the only strategy left is to monitor the young as they grow up within this kind of environment. 

Cyberbullying is spreading.

Ugh, the whole “cyberbulling” thing is such bullshit.  There’s a thing called a “block” button people – if someone is being a pain, you block them and *BAM* problem solved.

People need to grow the fuck up and not cry just because someone doesn’t like them.  I have no respect for anyone who’s too stupid to use the block button and complains about being “cyberbullied”.

hiding behind texts and a computer? so easy. you can say anything you want!

but whenever i hear someone saying something about me over the computer, i find them. if they’re in my area..and whenever i confront them in person, they cower in fear. the biggest cyberbullies, are the pansies in real life.because if someone is mean in real life, they dont necessarily have to waste all their time being mean on the computer then. they’d rather do it in person.
i wish more people had the balls to seriously, confront cyberbullies.they’re usually bigger chickens than the person they’re making fun of. 

@TheDeadWhale@xanga - It is sad that ppl make comments like this, when right above the comment there is an intelligent conversation of other commenters which shows that it is not so simple.

so whatever… I’m going to repeat what has been said and state the obvious.

Stand up against them in case they from rl when it’s like all of your classmates? or “simply block” a person when they might create other accounts to haunt you? or when blocking them will only cause more drama in rl like ” you whiny baby blocked him/her?” …well good luck if you are ever truly cyberbullied.  Perhaps you are also confusing something here…it is not about random people calling you a bitch once or twice, and you block them and it is goodbye for ever. There are far worse things happening. Like people an create entire websites or acconts that claim they were yours to put you in a bad light, or like I said they always find new ways. This is how bullying works. Regarding “get off the computer”…believe it or not the internet is not some second universe, it is a real part of the real world. There are real people behind the computer and writing real words and those who are attacked know this. It doesn’t matter if their names are faked. You are not in people’s heads…obviously. Do you think people kill themselves because they are just stupid?  

as for your concern about net neutrality…I think you are totally paranoid. This post was not about censoring the internet or something, it was just about bullying. It doesn’t go as far as suggesting solutions, but possible suggestions, or ideas readers could get, could be something entirely different than internet censorship. My first thought was to broadly raise awareness by telling people that this IS a serious issue. I think many bullies don’t even know what they are doing bc they are behind a screen. Parents should consider the internet when raising their kids, even if to them it is not as important since they didn’t grow up with it. Kids could have classes about how to deal with it at school etc etc.  While I think that things like the above are more effective, there could be things done on the internet itself too, yes. It could be made easier to report a person, and sites could start controlling wether their members violate their own terms of use. Like I said, the internet is real too, and in the real world, when you misbehave at your job for example you get kicked out as well. When people exagerrate with their “freedom of speech” which sems to be your concern, and it turns into discrimination or calumny there is also someone to turn too, and why shouldn’t it (actually) be so on the internet as well. This has nothing to do with “China”.

Wow, such a coincidence! I just blogged about people cyber-bullying Jenn on here. Good post!

@TheDeadWhale@xanga - glad i could make you laugh. I was just trying to provide some more insight into what you were getting at is all.

the gov. will never shut down facebook. they helped fund it. they use it to their advantage.

more people should just block those people, or get off all social networking. sometimes that isnt enough. does there need to be new laws. i duno about that, people tend to abuse power.

perhaps there should be a group of renegades that go around kicking a$$ of internet bullies in the RL. LoLs.

I understand the point you were making. agree to disagree? ; )

@ladymerelda - Like Jay and Silent Bob did, only to find it was mostly 12 year olds saying crap about them. Also, I understand.

@under_the_carpet@xanga - 
Read my comment to Hinase. I’m tired of explaining myself over and over.

@omgroxie@xanga - All I want to say is that I’m so sorry that people are making it seem like your experience was your fault. It wasn’t, and they’re fucking retarded. Keep your head up.

I stopped reading when your point suddenly became ‘it causes suicide’. Fucking hell, ANYTHING can ’cause suicide’, just like everything can give you cancer. If something someone says on the internet bothers you, it doesn’t say anything about them but everything about YOU. Pick a new reason or get over it. 

@Xcite_Me@xanga - If only that were a plausible solution…

..I think bullying should be stopped online, just like it should be stopped in the halls of school. Just because something can and probably will happen doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be punished when it does.

..We all need to be more compassionate. It makes me really sad seeing  people being so cruel and unloving toward total strangers. ALL people have been hurt in some way. It is not right to pick and choose whose hurts are more legitimate. 

@omgroxie@xanga - 

I am deeply sorry for the hurt you’ve gone through–and even still go through because of unsympathetic people. You have shown a lot of strength by going forward, in spite of obstacles. 

this is what you do if you get cyberbullied…call that person out, and beat the shit out of them in front of a large crowd…who’s laughing now BITCH??? hahaha

You can leave your computer, but the thoughts won’t leave your mind.

This is why cyber bullying is such a big deal.Isn’t it obvious?

@xplode_2day@xanga - mine totally is, especially since i work all the time now and my socializing can only happen between the hours of 11pm-2am  but i also know that i wouldn’t suddenly stop having friends if i decided to cut the internet out of my life altogether.