I will be the first person to admit that for a good portion of my life, I was very shallow. I wouldn’t give a guy a chance if he wasn’t physically attractive (in my eyes). That all changed after my first love, which taught me that true love is blind.
Upon meeting my fiance, I was very physically attracted to him. He’s the picture of perfection in my eyes: tall, slender build, dark brown hair with natural red highlights sprinkled throughout, fair skin, and blue eyes that take my breath away every time I see them. I’ve never seen eyes like his – they’re like the eyes of a doll. But, this is half of what made me want to be with him. The other half was his personality: sweet, caring, honest, romantic, charming, funny, innocent, and because of his past relationships, the continuous need for affection and attention.
Personally, I find his looks to be the added bonus. They’re the cherry on top of an already perfect sundae. Without them, he would be perfectly wonderful. With them, it’s just an extra something wonderful. But, in my life, I’ve heard most men say that a woman’s added bonus is her personality. They could deal with dating her if she was hot and had a shitty personality. For me, I could never do that again. I dated the extremely handsome guy, but he had a horrible personality. That’s why I’m not with him today.
I used to talk to a guy who wanted to date me and the feeling was mutual, but because of some weird force in the universe and the whole “right place, wrong time” deal, we never dated. He used to tell me how beautiful and attractive I was and I would say, “Do you only wanna date me because you think I look good? You don’t even know me that well personality-wise.” And he would say, “Your looks are just an added bonus.”
I know some people consider the personality to be an ‘added bonus’ on top of good looks and others consider the looks an added bonus on top of the personality.
What do you believe is the ‘added bonus’ on a person?