Having just turned 21, I haven’t really had a real ‘bar scene’ experience yet. Sure I’ve gone to a couple dive bars with my friends, but never a big one where there are lots of cute college boys to eye from a distance.
At least not until last night. My girls and I had all gone out to dinner, and one of our girlfriends had invited us to her boyfriend’s friend’s party. Funny how people are connected to each other. His friend was throwing a going away party with an open bar, at a newly opened sports bar in town. Things were interesting as soon as we walked in.
Once we sat down, my friends started making weird faces at me motioning to the bar. The bartender was not facing me, so I had no idea who it was. And then he turned around and, go figure, it’s this guy that tried to get with me in high school. Awkward times. We had a drink at the bar, and then went back into the party room to meet the host.
We didn’t know anyone at said party, and it was mostly all dudes, with some random bitchy girls sitting in a corner. We took the other corner. It pretty much felt like the segregation you experience in the lunch room in eighth grade. We weren’t introduced to anyone, and no one came to talk to us. So we made our own party.
In the middle of our girl talk, one of my friends came back to the corner from talking with our friend and her boyfriend. She whispered something to one of my other girls, who looked at me and started laughing. I was like, “What?” “One of the guys over there thinks you’re cute.” She said. “Go talk to him!” All of a sudden all my girlfriends were trying to drag me off my very comfortable bar stool to go talk to some random stranger.
All I could think about was eighth grade again. Like when a guy liked you he would send one of his friends over to talk to you. I said,”If he wants to talk to me, he can come over here himself.” I am not in eighth grade anymore. I’m 21, not 12. Our friends boyfriend went back over to talk to him. Really? And suddenly over he came.
Woah. Okay he was definitely really hot. Like. Oh. You are probably 6’4”. Ummm. And again with the eighth grade awkwardness. My girls stood around to act as shields for awhile before slowly sneaking off one by one. Now, when I get nervous I tend to blab on and on. So I was doing a lot of talking. It was also really loud at the bar so I was sort of screaming at him, and I kept having to say ‘What?’ like, a million times.
In the end he asked for my number, and I gave it. And he texted me. And I might see him tonight. So apparently I wasn’t as obnoxious as I thought. All in all, it was a good night, if not a tad reminiscent of my pre-pubescent years. My girls and I had fun, and I met a hot guy. So I guess my first bar experience was a success!
What have your bar experiences been like? Ever met a hot guy at a bar? Or maybe you’re a newbie like me?
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ranunculus / 3285 posts
I’m still newbie-ish. I have yet to run into someone I actually know so it’s good.
lily / 5148 posts
Never went to a bar and don’t plan to.
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Oh boy. I feel old. I’ve met lots of boys at bars, but never had anything serious come out of it. The experience of going to a bar really depends on what kind of bar you go to. I used to love going to dance clubs, but I just went to one again recently and it wasn’t nearly as fun as I remember, maybe because I’m married and get annoyed with men who try to dance with me or because I don’t really care for music that loud anymore. I think I prefer bars where you can just sit around and relax on a patio or play pool now.
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I’ve never been to a bar, but I hope that if I ever do go no one tries to start a fight with me, because I’ve heard there are a lot of fights.
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Bars do not appeal to me at all. Too crowded, loud, and dark.
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i know exactly what you mean. same shit happens at clubs too. everybody awkwardly avoids eye contact until someone makes the first move, and then suddenly everybody’s grinding on each other like they’ve never seen an attractive person before.
sunflower / 350 posts
Hahaha this was kinda funny. I’ve been to my school’s college “bars” though — yuck.
rose / 786 posts
I’ve never been to a bar, probably never will be, because I don’t really see the point.
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the tall nightclub bouncer at a las vegas night club was hot
he reminded me of lex luthor from the smallville tv show
he was flirting with almost every girl that walked by, so he isn’t my type. I prefer the arrogant ones that look serious and don’t really talk to anybody
so when he pays attention to me, it’ll seem semi-special lol I’ve noticed cute bartenders at casinos, but I don’t drink, so I don’t really go to bars, just quick eyecandy. I used to like dance clubs featuring electronic djs.
daisy / 599 posts
It always sucks trying to have a legit convo in a loud bar. I prefer to bars with some kind of fun activity going like pool or dancing, not just sitting around. I like going dancing and some hot guy starts dancing with me and it’s great chemistry even though he hasn’t said a word to me and then we can get away from the loudness afterwards and have a real convo. I always hate the ones who try to ask me about my life story and I’m like “Hush and just dance right now!”
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Walked in. Got hammered.
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Never been to a bar.

I’m the quintessential nerdy girl.. and it’s amusing to picture myself in a bar.. probably sitting alone, with an OJ (I don’t drink) and a book!
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Interesting post.
*Xanga’s Batman Out*
magnolia / 1066 posts
I’ve never been to a bar, per se, but I’ve been to a gay club/drag show and an Australian bar in Paris, which I’ll be going back to tonight for club experience #3.
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I’ve never been to a bar or club where there was music and lots of people and partying and stuff going on.. I usually just go with a few people and we sit down at a table and talk and drink.
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Never been.
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Bahahaha I loved this story. It made me giggle.
cherry blossom / 30 posts
Never had an experience like that at bars I think it was just the group of friends you were with.
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i go to pretty chill, lower key bars. I don’t go to a bar to have people on top of me or be in a crazy environment. I’d rather enjoy my drink and be able to talk to people without having to yell.
your circle of friends is important. choose good ones. if good ones aren’t around, then you’re better off without the bad ones. overrated.
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You’re going to the wrong bars lol that sounds awful. The bars and clubs I go to are great – people are friendly and eager to meet each other. I dance with strangers all the time, buy people drinks, people buy me drinks, we “yell” conversations if it’s loud or talk if it’s quiet, I generally have a blast. I tend to meet a lot of people out there, and when I find a good bar/club that I like to frequent, I often run into the other ‘regulars’ and we have a lot of fun there – even if we never talk outside of that particular bar/club on that night! I really love it.
I do have friends who sound like what you went through above. They go to a particular western bar up here that I despise – and it’s just like you described. People in childish. I have refused to go there ever again, I always get annoyed. I want to meet people, and I’ll walk up to them or they can walk up to me, it doesn’t matter but I’m not going to sit in a corner and eye people. Weird.
rose / 853 posts
Can’t wait to see what my first bar experience will be like! I turn 21 in a month!
sunflower / 405 posts
I have about 3 more years to wait so I can experience that.
orchid / 146 posts
My dear, your adventures are just beginning.
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I was pregnant when i turned 21 and married soon after but eh, sometimes i wish i had the bar experiance.
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………never date someone you meet at a party / bar (this goes for guys and girls alike).