If you’re my age and you’re a female, there’s a good chance that you’ve seen the Reese Witherspoon movie Legally Blonde. In the movie, Reese Witherspoon is just another university sorority girl with the most sought-after bachelor in her university and surrounding universities. In the beginning, he takes her out to dinner, where she thinks he is going to propose. After they’ve gotten there, he begins explaining that if he wants to be a well-known and respected lawyer, he would need to have a “Jackie, not a Marilyn” by his side, comparing Reese Witherspoon to Marilyn Monroe, the iconic blonde. Her proposal hopes are quickly diminished through his drawn-out break-up.
This brings up the decades-long argument that brunettes hold an intellectual precedent over blondes.
I’ve heard men say that while blondes are fun for a fling, brunettes are the ones they want to settle down with. This is especially concerning to me, as I have been a blonde for the majority of my life. I was blonde as a child and when my darker roots began growing out, I started dying my hair blonde. A six-month stint in 8th grade and another six-month stint this past year landed me a total of one year as a brunette in my entire twenty years of life. I found that my fiance thought I was ‘sexier’ as a brunette, but he also liked the idea of dating a blonde, because it brought to life his fantasy of dating a ‘playmate’. After going back to blonde in April, I’ve decided that I never want another hair color other than blonde. It just feels right. It’s me.
So, why are men like the fictional Warner Huntington afraid that they won’t be taken seriously in their careers if they have a blonde significant other? Is it because of the bad rap that blondes get for their sometimes lax intelligence?
That being said, I believe that Marilyn Monroe and Jackie Kennedy-Onassis were beautiful in their own ways. Just like I think that Audrey Hepburn would be beautiful no matter what hair color she sported. Needless to say, she was more iconic as a brunette, but the roles she played in movies would stifle the argument that blondes should be taken less seriously than brunettes. I remember watching her in Breakfast at Tiffany’s and thinking she was so aloof and in all honesty, a little goofy. At some points in the movie, her mentality could even be compared to a child’s.
If men are planning on growing old with brunettes and using blondes for flings, then I suppose I’m doomed to a life of singledom because I refuse to give up my signature and best hair color.
Lovelies, how do you feel about this argument? Should blondes be respected less than brunettes because of their hair color? Why do you feel this way?
daisy / 617 posts
Hahahhaah, really? No one gives a fuck about hair color. And if they do, screw ‘em. That’s just silly.
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R U kiddin?
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It’s actually funny that you bring up Audrey Hepburn’s role in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, because the person who wrote the script had Marilyn Monroe in mind when writing for Holly Golightly. Audrey Hepburn was just insanely popular at the time so the producers wanted her instead of Marilyn. So technically, it keeps in line with the point that some people think of blondes over brunettes as being a bit lacking in intelligence.
I for one think hair color certainly does not define intelligence, it’s just a silly stereotype
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You look good as a blonde. Your face pops and it’s great. Stick with it.
But yeah, as a black woman, there’s a slight difference with our hair that isn’t so much the color but the texture that determines whether or not we’ll be taken seriously. Since I’m currently transition to natural, I’m already well aware of the stigma that comes with being the hair type that people can’t take seriously for whatever reason. I say, rock what you got, what you WANT, and the right person will realize that you are a great person to settle down with. Be like Elle in that movie and don’t change just so you look the part; be you and the rest will follow. I think that IS the main theme of Legally Blonde, so it’s obviously a good lesson to take from it.
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…Is this a serious question?
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This might have held some weight in the early 00s, but I don’t think it matters, especially not now.
ranunculus / 3285 posts
The next post is blue eyes vs. brown eyes.
daffodil / 1601 posts
Hair color doesn’t mean a damn thing and if anyone is stupid enough to think it means anything doesn’t deserve your time.
And what about red hair? We’re supposed to have short tempers and be promiscuous. Haha. It’s all fun and games but to take it seriously is a joke.
daisy / 598 posts
Yeah this is silly. Blondes will think that Brunettes get more attention and then Brunettes will think that Blondes get more attention. There is no sway with hair color. People’s preferences differ so much. A blanket statement like this is ridiculous. Sure some types of men may prefer a certain hair color but you can’t generalize it to determine your success with love.
sunflower / 282 posts
What I read here is stereotype vs stereotype.
Can we all just get over this putting people against each other bullsh*t?
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@Murphy_Rants@xanga - I agree. And it doesn’t really make any sense when it seems that most women get their hair color from a bottle.
rose / 759 posts
Why is this even being discussed?
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@ohveryoung@xanga - Biish you juss sayin dat cuz u BRUNETTE, im from blonde east side and imma kick yo mouthy brown hurred bitchy azz yo
daisy / 617 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Hahhahhahaha, come at me, bro.
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I won’t date a guy with permed/curly pube-like hair of any color.
daisy / 617 posts
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Not even if he was Corey Matthews?!!?
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@rabbitsarecool14@xanga - I like that you bring both sides. I definitely do feel like men like blondes more…which is silly cause they actually SAY they like brunettes more. It doesn’t really matter, I just like that you pointed out the “grass is always greener”.
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@ohveryoung@xanga - cory is cute but I had a thing for his cuter older brother, eric matthews(will friedle)
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i think anyone who still questions this, needs to move on. lol. i think its been proven time and time again that it isnt your hair that determines intelligence but your brains. so anyone who stereotypes people still over hair color,their intelligence should be questioned instead.
daffodil / 1615 posts
Everyone should be respected the same, regardless of hair color. Duh.
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Hair color has nothing to do with intelligence.
magnolia / 1369 posts
i won’t date a ginger . like who the hell told them that they were allowed to even talk?
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what about black haired?
I think hair color is just hair color. who cares if it’s blonde brunette black blue green gray white.
it’s what inside that counts. not the outside!
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well, i personally think that people who constantly bleach their hair for the bleach blonde (im just talking about bleach blonde, as there are many other blonde colours that look nice dyed) look are less intelligent than people who constantly dye their hair a darker colour, such as brown. but thats just because the bleach blondes are killing their hair majorly :p
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My sister is naturally blonde and I’m brunette/auburn. In my opinion, she is much more intelligent and funnier than I am. The stereotype is a stupid one. The only thing I can think that might lend some validity to it is that maybe having a certain hair color can help you to feel a certain way, such as carefree or dangerous. I don’t know…
I will say that I died my hair pitch black and I felt more powerful (after I got over the shock of how very dark it was). Guess I watched underworld a few too many times.
cherry blossom / 26 posts
Psh people have their preferences. But if someone would turn a girl down due to her hair color, that person is obviously not worth it.
orchid / 217 posts
I’m a brunette & guys only date me for ‘flings’. I’ve been told that I’m a ‘nice, cool girl, but just not what they’re looking for in a gf’. I swear I’m a ‘speed bump’. They date me for a lil while, we break up & they start dating the girl they eventually settle down with. All of my exes, with the exception of maybe 2, have all gotten married, are engaged & have kids.. And I’m still single.
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My friend literally tells me to go brunette all the time.
She use to be blond & dyed her own hair dark, prolly because she believes this reasoning.
That being said, she’s had healthy long term relationships as both a brunette & as a blonde.
I don’t think the color of my hair is why i’m single. If it was truly that simple, all the blondies in the world who want a serious boyfriend would be breaking out the Revlon.
tulip / 24 posts
who cares what everyone else thinks and feels, I’m glad that you’re comfortable with your hair color and you’re sticking with it no matter what.
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I want to say it is all a stereotype perpetuated in movies but then I read that this post was written by a blonde. Now I’m questioning if there is any truth to it.
daisy / 734 posts
@ohveryoung@xanga -ShirleyD@xanga - @Murphy_Rants@xanga - @PunkRockCowboy@xanga - haha I actually got berated by a random high school dude (who happened to be dumber than a box of rocks, yeah southern MN!) because I dyed my hair from brunette to red. At first, he thought I was a natural red head. He had never seen me as a brunette (obviously), we had a mutual acquaintance who brought it up… he couldn’t believe that I would
want
to be a redhead. some people still shit bricks about hair color.
I got a great laugh from it. Even if he was someone who I knew I wouldn’t give a shit though because I’m (in my own, not so humble opinion ;] ) pretty damn hot no matter what my hair color is (this applies to every woman/man/person), and hair color stereotypes are really just dumb. But it actually does still happen.
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first of all, i absolutely love reese witherspoon. shes a great actress, so wholesome, down to earth and real.
second of all, if i was a guy, i would go for brunettes. they have such dark exotic features than again, its just hair so who cares.
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hahaha this is silly. i didn’t know anybody still profiled people according to hair color. i thought that was a middle school thing.
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This will never be settled mostly because it’s a stupid argument.
I’m a natural brunette but sporting auburn now and loving it. Audrey Hepburn, fuck yeah. But yeah, everyone’s equal, hoooooray.
lily / 5148 posts
Are we really still going on about this? I thought this fell into disfavor..
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This is going to sound like a typical blonde thing to say but… go blondes!! haha. Seriously, what’s the difference? It’s like asking if blondes really do have more fun? (They do, btw)
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Yeah hair color doesn’t really seem to matter anymore…at least not to people who matter. I’m naturally blonde and have gotten darker over the years, and I’m intelligent and am currently in a long term relationship. I have dyed my hair dark brown years ago before going back to blonde…and my life was exactly the same as it was with blonde hair.. not a big deal.
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Of course they deserve the same respect. Is that a real question?
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I feel like the issue is that a lot of blonds go along with the stereotype. In all seriousness, a lot of girls who are blond, or dye their hair blond just start acting stupid. I WISH I was kidding. It’s like…they think they have to. I’m in college, and I was taking a really high level class last semester…and there was one blond girl in the class…and she was always like “OMG! I like…don’t gettttt iitttttt” and stuff like that. Thennn one of the brunettes dyed her hair blond, and all of the sudden “OMG! I like….don’t gettttt ittt eitherrr!” Follow that with high pitched giggles.
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I thought his rejection of Elle had more to do with her lack of obvious seriousness. She was a design major, who pranced around in pink clothing and concerned herself with primarily fashion and her sorority. I thought he just wanted someone more…”serious” like a lawyer/doctor.
Damn straight though, if someone can’t accept you as you..screw ‘em.
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Come on, really? And brown eyes means a person’s boring. And large breasts mean that the person is promiscuous. Tall means a person is authoritative.
Whatever.
dahlia / 2103 posts
@turnyalightsdownlow@xanga - Have you seen the episode of South Park where Cartman becomes a ginger? It’s pretty awesome
dahlia / 2103 posts
It’s all just about stupid stereotypes, and God only knows why they even exist anymore because they shouldn’t. I suppose sometimes having a certain hair color can make you act in certain ways…I know that whenever I dye mine red or pink I feel a little more foxy and outgoing than usual. Right now it’s very light bleach blonde and I don’t think I’ve gotten any dumber. Overall I don’t think hair color matters at all, especially since a lot of people (such as me) don’t keep their hair its natural color anyway.
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I am sorry but if a guy doesn’t like you for your “hair color” then he’s an idiot. This should always be about personality not the “looks” of a person.
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Honestly, being a natural brunette who is box blonde, so two EXTREMES of the spectrum… blondes have MUCH much much much much more fun.
And I’ve never had that used against me in terms of seeking out a partner.
If it ever did happen=not worth my time. ;P
tulip / 20 posts
To everyone who said “this is silly” or “I didn’t even know this was still an issue”, I wrote this discussion piece on RECENT observations, not just the one I saw in Legally Blonde. It’s not an obsolete or middle school stereotype. This is still an issue for some men my age (20+), believe it or not. Sad, but true.
tulip / 20 posts
@AmayaDoll@xanga - Thanks
daisy / 727 posts
I really don’t think hair color makes a person who they are. I had white blonde hair as a kid and now my hair is brown/blonde so I guess I get the best of both worlds regardless, but I’ve never had anyone judge me based on hair color haha. Like no guy has ever told me he likes my hair color really or likes me because of it. My boyfriend always tells me not to dye it though because he tells me I look beautiful natural. I went through a stage of dying it often still though. My favorite color was definitely red.
magnolia / 1369 posts
@needmoreink@xanga - no i haven’t but now i wanna go check it out .
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I don’t think hair color should matter!
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I have naturally blonde hair, but I dye it brown. My eyebrows are really dark, so I don’t like having blonde hair.
I was actually thinking about the whole blondes vs brunettes thing the other day, and one thing I did realize was that most of the more popular celebrities that guys find ‘hot’ are brunettes (Megan Fox, Kim Kardashian, Angelina Jolie, etc)
& a side note – I hate bleach blonde hair, it looks awful. I have never in my life seen anyone who can pull it off.
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Beauty and hair color should not be linked as one. If you are beautiful, you can be beautiful with any hair color. And intellect, well that’s incredibly hard to see unless someone is trying to broadcast it on their t shirt..or weblog. And generally the people who do that are average.
I think the last time that I ever compared blondes and brunettes, I was 14. And to be completely honest, I have been every hair color under the sun. And with every hair color, I have always been the same me. Wonderful
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I have to say, as messed up as it is, I am less attracted to blonds than I am to Brunettes or Red Heads (mostly brunettes). It is probably the only superficial thing about me, but i cannot help it.
rose / 980 posts
Naw, forget blondes and brunettes, go red! Why are redheads always forgotten, do we not breathe too? lol
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“Should blondes be respected less than brunettes because of their hair color?”
Oh, Lovelyish. You so silly.
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I think the stereotype that blondes are dumb is quite stupid. But I do believe others do conclude certain things about a person on other haircolor stereotypes. That one about guys love to date blondes I think is true. I don’t know about them marrying brunettes, personally I think that one is bullshit. There is a reason a lot of hollywood actresses go blonde…it attracts more viewers. Next time you see a movie see if the leading “hot girl” is blonde. Plus, black women get judged hardcore on the texture of their hair. A friend of mine tells me everytime she goes to a job interview she will always go to the salon to get her hair relaxed because when she doesn’t interviewers rarely call back. That documentary Good Hair brings up a lot of these issues.
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…I think you’re taking the movie and whatever else far too seriously. Intelligence has nothing to do with it. Somewhere it became a stereotype and it’s just ridiculous. It’s a waste of time to be upset about it, though. I always make jokes and blame my mistakes on being blonde. Whatever. Anyways, I don’t believe this is a real “thing” or study or science that proves anything. I believe people can be more attracted to people with different hair colours and styles, sure, but I don’t think anyone can generalize that males prefer serious relationships with brunettes.
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I thought hair color stereotypes were fake, you know, not for real…
@turnyalightsdownlow@xanga - I am hoping you are kidding. I can understand having hair color preferences but I think my ginger boyfriend has every right to talk lol?
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4 realz?
magnolia / 1369 posts
@articulate_silence@xanga - …yes, i was kidding .
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So pretty much you’re asking is if we should be prejudice. That’s what i got from the last statement.