Lovelyish

Like you, I’ve never been cheated on, nor have I been the cheater, but I have been the other woman. It’s a really confusing feeling after you find out. You feel guilty, but at the same time, there’s no reason to because he’s the one who did something wrong.

I was in a pretty messed up position once, where I thought I was this guy’s girlfriend, but it turned out that I was considered the other woman. And I found out months later. It devastated me. All the signs were there, but I was such a lenient “girlfriend” back then that I didn’t bother to look into them, even though I could have. Now I’m a super paranoid girlfriend who rules her relationships with an iron fist lol.

I would break up with the person and never look back.

I don’t think you can blame yourself when a guy lies to you about being single. You’re also being cheated on if that is the case.

I’ve been cheated on. It’s terrible. It feels like you’re constantly walking on shifting sand because a lot of the times the person who is cheating on you acts erratically. He can accuse you of cheating then the next minute be nice to you, then the next minute be mad at you for answering the phone, then be sweet to you again…or just act cold and distant most of the time unless they are in the act of lying to you in which they will act nice and warm so they will be believable. If you really love the person it can feel like you’ve been stabbed in the gut.

To get back at my husband who was running around on me, I semi-cheated too (no actual sex was involved but what I did was definitely cheating), which made me feel just as bad except that I felt dirty and terrible about myself. Before, I just felt bad about the relationship and that maybe I wasn’t attractive enough. After that, I felt like I was a dirtbag scumball who was as low as a dog, on top of all the negative emotions I was already feeling. I wouldn’t recommend it for anybody.

I was cheated on by my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, and because of the pain of that I would never cheat. It was the most horrible decision of my life and I spiralled into a deep dark depression that has also led to body issues, etc. I could never put anyone else through this pain.

Cut his fuckin nuts off, or punch her in the ovaries. I don’t put up with that shit, they get cheated on back and then kicked to the curb.

play, and be played.

thattts how i rooolll. (;

I’ve never been cheated on physically. But, when it comes to emotional cheating, that’s happened to me multiple times….by the same guy. He still had feelings for this girl that he never even dated. But, while we were dating he would go out to the movies and dinner with her all the time. He said this was his way of figuring out if he still had feelings for her. What a jerk. I’m glad I got away from him before I did get cheated on physically.

And I’ve never cheated. I couldn’t imagine even thinking about causing that kind of pain on someone.

I have a much better boyfriend now. He really knows how to treat a girl (especially one who is going to be his wife someday). He’s been cheated on, but he was never really in a serious relationship before us, but cheating hurts either way.

Never cheated. There was one instance where I could’ve easily and still didn’t. I was dating this guy that I didn’t even have strong feelings for and my ex, who I was still somewhat attracted to, tried kissing me. I still didn’t budge because this is how I see it: People deserve the respect of not being cheated on. If you wouldn’t want it done to you, then don’t do it. That simple. 

note: I broke up with the kid soon after that instance.

I was cheated on in both of my previous relationships (one of which was a 4.5 year marriage).
The man I’m with now has been cheated on as well, so we both have zero tolerance for cheating and that’s been clear from the start.
I have never cheated. Never will.

I’ve never cheated or was cheated on. I think I’m pretty lucky in that regard. 

I’ve never cheated on anyone. I’m a firm believer that if you even think about cheating, then your relationship has truly come to an end… and if not so, then it is at a crossroads. You can mend whatever is going wrong or just leave.
My ex cheated on me with his ex. I didn’t even know he’d done that until after we had broken up… and someone else told me. The balls this guy had to call me up one day after I was already over a year in with my current boyfriend surprised me.

i have cheated and been cheated on. it is terrible. because i have done the deed myself, i know that a person can change if they really want to…so i am forgiving BUT the person has to exhibit serious regret, and be willing to give me proof they’re being honest anytime i ask for it. trust has to be rebuilt if you want forgiveness…and i would not forgive a person twice. i will forgive someone who learns their lesson, but not a CHEATER. a person who has cheated and a cheater are not the same thing. that’s like saying a person who was stealing from a store for a week, but changed their ways, came clean, made restitution, and never did it again is a thief. i’d also need to look at circumstances.

tough subject, really…