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That it is inevitable and to enjoy the years we have here. I’ll be 22 in August, so I can understand. I remember being 18,then suddenly 20. It’s like a blur to me really.

Well you’re still in my age group (18-25) and I worry about wrinkles and exercising and I’m four years younger than you. I thought that I would never get old, but the day I turned 20 I went into a depression. I don’t want to have to wear business suits or dress more sophisticated, I just want to be a kid forever.

Think like an old lady and you’ll be an old lady. Period.

I’m only 19, so I’m in a completely different stage, but I can relate to rapidly changing thoughts about life and what I need to do and what my goals are. A year ago my only focus was staying with my boyfriend while we started our first year of a long-distance relationship, and now I’m working on saving for someplace to live after college, and planning how I’m going to raise my kids, it’s frightening how quickly it’s going by.

I guess I’m trying to prevent the inevitable freakout you’re experiencing, but it’s not working too well

Yeah I know how you’re feeling, I’m 25 and I never worried about getting old until I recently, its so depressing, I look at people who are 30 and started to get the wrinkles around the eyes and mouth and think thats soon gonna be me. It sucks but its apart of life. Really we shouldnt complain about getting old because theres so many people who never get the chance too. 

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and should do just fine no matter how old you are. It’s just a number, you are as old as you feel….your health is everything!!!

Booooo! I’m turning 30 next year and I am really freaking out! I’ve got gray hair already. And I eat dinner at 5:00 like senior citizens do (we eat early because of my toddlers). I’m up at 7:00 everyday and 10:00 is starting to seem late to me.

I’m only 18 and fear 20 lol. Irrational fear of getting older, right here!

Okay, first of all, when did the little people start getting so darn cute?!?!  Because I’m 25 (about to be 26) and I’ve recently started catching myself admiring the little people and thinking “Man, do I want one of those one day.”  And “one day” has started to feel like next year… or tomorrow.  The lack of a male counterpart, however, makes this goal feel so very far away that a mild panic sets in and I begin to wonder:  Will I ever marry?  I mean, really, who’s going to promise to love ME for the rest of my life? I’m a HUGE pain in the ass.   

Needless to say, you’re not alone.  There are tons of 25 year old females freaking out about _these_very_concerns_ every day.  

You shouldn’t worry about your age until you are 105, then you should worry about why you’re still alive. hahaha Just kidding.  In ten years, you’ll see how silly you’re being right now.  It’s not that you’re getting old, you’re realizing you are far from being a child now.  From what my older friends tell me, it’s your 40s where life rocks.  You have so much to look forward to.  

I’m turning 28 in three days.  I feel like I’m merely a breath away from 30.  I had big dreams to complete by the time I hit 30.  And while I’m not doing bad on my list, I definitely need to pick up the pace.  I got married young, had kids young, so I don’t have that stress, but as far as my career, umm, what career?!  I’ve been raising my kids for the past 4 years, and while I wouldn’t change it for anything, I just feel like I’ve lost myself in the shuffle.  What about the things I wanted to do?  I guess I’ll get to them as my kids get older, but it’s just hard in the mean time.

But anyway, I think what you’re experiencing is normal.  You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders!

I just turned 25 on Friday. Right there with ya!

You do realize you have 100 years to live– if you’re healthy & nothing gets in your way– right? That’s 75 more years. Look at the good. You’re 25, you’ve had a good life. You have the chance for some room to grow AND  meet new people… 

I highly doubt you’ll have any trouble. Have faith.

I turned 25 in December. Everyone around me made it seem like I was a weirdo for having these worries. Its good to know I’m not alone!

@Hinase@xanga - I agree. I remember when I’ve just graduated high school. After that, the years flew by I barely remember my community college years, all a blur. Now, I am 25 going on 26 and I am like, “Wait, I just turned 25!”

So, I know exactly what you mean. I think it’s because, we really don’t notice our age and how old we are getting when we were younger. You feel as though you have so many years a head or that you will be young forever. I didn’t feel this way after high school. That is why I try to get what I have to get, the years are flying!

@Japanesenightpurplegeisha@xanga - Yeah, I still remember when I graduated high school myself. Yeah, you enjoy life and it all passes by. I make sure not to waste it

I’m freaking and I just graduated from high school. 

But maybe it’s how many and what kind of things you did that really make people old. 

I turn 20 in October and I’m totally dreading it.

But 25…thats the PERFECT age. You’re young enough to still have fun, but you’re old enough that people take you seriously. Brilliant!

@theflowerstem@xanga - Me too! I’ve been freaking out all over the place about “the future” (as my parents put it) for the last year. Turning 21 this year… don’t even wanna think about it!

I am 19, turning 20 in September. I am so dreading it… I almost had a mid-life crisis at 19. I feel like I need to get a management job and have more responsibility once I am 20 years old. Sigh…. and times moves on. It’s part of life, do what you can do, and do your best! 

Look forward to cheaper car insurance

Seriously, you’re freaking out over being 25? I’m 22, my boyfriend is 26. There really isn’t much of a difference between our ages. Age is just a number, what matters is how you act and how mature you are.

It’s great that you’re taking precautions so you’ll age well, but if you’re eating dinner at 5 already, I can’t imagine how you’ll be when you’re 50. At 5 o’ clock my boyfriend is still at work, we eat dinner around 630 typically.. but, last night we didn’t eat until 10 because we were out.

My 94 year old great grandfather doesn’t complain about being old, or act like it.

Quit acting old and you won’t feel like it.

I’m 22 years old and will be 23 in a little less than 8 months. I’m feeling a little pressure. I just got married and I’m pregnant with my first child, so I’ve already started down the road to my new life as an adult. What I worry/think about often is “Where did the time go?” I’m a wife and a mother now, it seems like just yesterday the only care I had was what I was going to wear to school. My last birthday was like any other day – it wasn’t as exciting as any of my other birthdays. I feel like I’ve passed the time period where being unsure and carefree is acceptable. However, I am loving entering this phase in my life because, honestly, being a teenager was a miserable time in my life. I’m much happier now than I ever was as a confused, angsty teen.

bahahahaha i soooo could have written this! lol. i am 25 now but man, was i sad about it. something about being under 25 is okay but once you hit 25, suddenly your now in your late twenties going on 30. a time to analyze your life and what you have done. its awful. im thinking that man i did finish a lot of college but im still at it, havent had a relationship in a while, and man this job wont cut it for a house! lol. and the babies! dear god, keep me from the baby aisles in stores. suddenly my hormones go crazy over babies nad i want my own. then i realize i need a man for that and its depressing. lol. i decided ill be done with all schooling by 32 and if not wed by then, artificial insemination. lol. gotta get a baby someway. how romantic. haha.

good luck to you!

I turn 25 next April and I already feel the way you do. I have this urge now to make sure I’ll be financially okay to move out next year so I may pay my bills. My fiance and I are planning on getting married in a couple years, so we’re planning that. Every kid I see, I WANT. 

I’ve basically noticed how selfless I am compared to my high school years. Wow, I sound so old.

sounds like your being silly. I’m 22 1/2, so Im only 2 1/2 yrs younger then you. I am very different, although I do have a love of my life(only b/c it was love at first sight and we’re best friends) I never want kids and he does, I dont even cared to get married and people tell me I will change…hahaha Im such a kid at heart. Im even without my best friend for like 6 more weeks b/c he is in rehab.  I do however think life is very short, for example, night before last I went to sleep at 3 am and had to get up at 9.15 am and had big wrinkles under my eyes, it did freak me out a little, so i put this stuff i have under them.  i feel in a way women who aren’t fast at things kindave have to chose, kids or their career, depending on how big their career is, I want to be a professional singer and travel all over the world until I get older and tired,(as in when Im 60, lol).  I also dont believe you should have kids until your stabilized which I think is between 30-40, ok maybe cut off 37-40 if you personally think your to old to have a kid, but maybe im young at heart.  i cant stand children so its weird that your discovering how kids are cute, cats are wayyy cuter to me then kids! i dont care to look at baby pictures their all the same anyway! anyway enough rambling i guess.

I’m about to be 26 and I definitely feel you there… Suddenly I’m not thinking “Oh I have forever” to do what I want to do.  Suddenly my friends (many of whom are YOUNGER than me) are getting married, and having kids, and nobody is telling them they are too young… because, well, they aren’t.  My mom was nearly three years younger than me when she had me.  And I’m only dating someone now and have been for only a few months – definitely far from being serious enough to use the M word. I guess I finally finished my undergrad degree, am starting on an actual career and just bought my first NEW car, so I’m getting somewhere.  I also can’t stay out as late as I did because I get tired early, and I find myself worrying about savings.  I feel like this wasn’t supposed to happen so soon!

I feel this way all the time!  Like you know you’re going to get old when you’re younger, but you almost don’t believe it.   And so long as I was in college and whatnot it felt like I hadn’t really started yet.   And now that I’m 22, it’s all like… wow, I really am done growing, I really will start getting older, my body will start to betray me, if I have kids at 30 that’s less than 10 years away.   It’s definitely… something that takes getting used to.   And I eat sooo many blueberries (antioxidants) :p   

Yay, another 1986′er.  I thought the same way when I turned 24, but really there’s no need to stress over your age.  Make an effort to stay healthy and keeping a good head on your shoulders is all you need.

Well, I’m 22 and I already have 3 different anti-wrinkle creams, next to my zit-blaster thingies. I also wear sunblock daily so as to make up for all the damage I did to my body before I turned 20.
I do see couples with their babies and wish that were me… but I still have three more semesters of university and then I’ll go to get my Master’s on Ergonomics, the subject I most love about Industrial Design.
I don’t think you should be pressuring yourself too much into the family thing. It’s awesome that you’re saving money with that in mind… but everything falls into place with just a little push from your part. I don’t think it should become your profession to find someone suitable to spend the rest of your life with.

@theflowerstem@xanga - I also had a terribly hard time when I turned 20… which is why I had a huge party and got unbelievably drunk. I literally drank my sorrows away.

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I’m in my early 20s and I’ve already had all these thoughts, mostly triggered by a serious relationship that later fell apart. So now I’m left with everything you’ve just described but nowhere to put it. Ahh, life is a strange thing. I think we’ll have enough time.

You should be excited! Your car insurance premiums are about to go down!

Uh.. I’m 19 and I’ve been worrying about all that above stuff you listed since … the beginning of high school. Plus school stress.

So, what’s the big deal about growing older? 35 is still consider young in my book, so don’t even worry about hitting a quarter of a century old. Young is all about the mindset.

@ChicaLaLoca@xanga - I feel exactly the same way! I’m only 21, but my daughter is 3 and I just had a son a month ago. So I’ll be a SAHM until he goes to school in 5 years. I really want to take some distance learning courses soon.

I turn 25 in September and I’m totally freaking out about it. Mostly because I feel like I haven’t  accomplished anything (still in college, STILL working on my first degree, STILL, kind of living with mom, STILL in a crappy job)- mostly because of money issues and medical stuff (UGH!)

STILL figuring myself out; STILL, no special someone in my life, but only because I haven’t pursued guys who are interested- I want to be more established I guess but the thought of being with SOMEONE is constantly on my mind.

The good thing about ME aging though; I still look 21 or younger (I’m constantly asked what  highschool I go to, FML!) so technically, I still have about 4-5 years before I get to 25…..

interesting post!

@NinaRose_85@xanga - lol, I believed tha same thing (“I have forever to do what I want to do”) and now my friends are having children and not by “accident” anymore. The good thing about getting older though, you have a better sense of self and direction, which you sound like you have

Im sorry get a life… im 27 whine whine whine whine……25 is NOTHING. i think you need to grow up your young.

@feelslikejuly@xanga - dont panic at 25 im 27 everyone needs to stop freaking out at 25! thats freaking young calm down!

@Faded2fade16@xanga - this blogger is clearly stupid and suffers from anxiety disorder. im 27 and she is gripping about 25! XD! 

@Jeremy_Sheer@xanga - Stop being a bully, Sheer. Get out of here. 

@private__property@xanga - My mom passed away this year right before her 50th birthday, completely agree. Getting older was never a factor til I hit 25 in March; it’s not such a big deal when you consider how much some others missed out. We could be the lucky ones.

@Jeremy_Sheer@xanga - lol. The OP is expressing quite normal views. The fact that you’re 27 and judging her pretty much states you have no business saying shit.

Hmm, I’m about to turn 26–25 wasn’t so bad. Life’s too short to be worrying about getting older. (But regular exercise, taking vitamins, and using moisturizer are good things to do in terms of taking care of your body, and you should continue to do them–regardless of whether or not it is to stave off looking older!)

Getting older is the most terrifying thing ever, unless you’ve done everything you wanted to do by this time…. 

Aw, don’t feel bad about it! My boyfriend is 25 (I am 20, but am commonly mistaken for a 16 year-old) and it’s not that huge of a deal! You’re just getting older, right? Not that there’s anything you can’t already do (I’m still impatiently waiting for my 21st so I don’t get ditched all the time for bars) but still, you’re nowhere near “old” – Which is just a number, really My best friends’ grandma is well into her seventies, but she’ll still talk and gossip like a young girl and doesn’t seem to care that she’s aged, ’cause she’s still the same fun, vibrant woman on the inside. I think it’s all in how you look at it. I’m trying to gain a more positive perspective myself, right now I have to keep reminding myself of the same thing.

I had similar thoughts when I turned 25. Got serious about my savings/IRA, and also got serious about enjoying my life and staying young as long as possible. I turned 26 this year in the best shape of my life (and I danced ballet for 12 years, mind you, so I was no slouch). I am WAY more active and well-rounded as a person, and although more serious about my future, I also make it a point to continue enjoying life as if I were a teenager, when it’s appropriate.

e.g. Definitely did a keg stand at my BBQ a month before my 26th. Also definitely continue to play tackle football with the guys. Also learned how to surf a couple months before my birthday.
My point is that it’s a GREAT thing that we start thinking about our futures and getting serious about them at the quarter-century mark. But it doesn’t have to mean your life is over. There’s a lot of life to live, a lot of laughs to be had, a lot of new friends to make and adventures to take. Just make sure you don’t miss them for lamenting your age. Age is just a number, and it’s really relative to the day you die, not the day you were born. 

@theflowerstem@xanga - I just want to be a kid forever.

Who says you can’t? I like to think of my self as a big kid with a paycheck. Ice cream for dinner, bitches.

In your 20′s, you’re still wandering around life asking: “What am I going to do as a profession?” “Who will I marry?” “Am I going to have kids?” “OMG – has it been 10 years since I graduated HS??” “When will older people start taking me seriously?”

In your 30′s, you’ve answered most of those questions, and then begin second guessing if you made the right ones. Sometimes you divorce or change jobs or go back to school. But – people begin to take you seriously, and you finally begin to understand how to handle life (insurance forms, tax returns, buying cars and homes, medical expenses, etc).  HS hits the 20 year reunion and becomes far less important. You wish you had your 18 year old figure, but don’t obsess on it.

In your 40′s, you generally have figured out who you are. You’re in in your family years and suddenly spouse and kids are infinitely more important than a gray hair or wrinkle. You work out to stay healthy, not be ‘pretty.’ People begin to respect you at your work and when you make phone calls on important matters. You begin showing other young adults how to get past HS and College mind sets. 

Spiritually, mentally and emotionally speaking – much, much wiser.
In short … older is better.  Really.

This is what happens in life.  I hit the big 3-0 over six months ago. It was scary for me – I’m still single, (been engaged once and extremely close a second time) I have a good job, great set of friends… but what I’ve learned on the way is that:

-People come and go in your life; the good ones stay through the good and the bad. Those are the ones you hold onto because they’ll teach you life lessons just as you will teach them.-You start to prioritize more and focus on your future and what your next steps are. This is where you start living for tomorrow and less about today.-You become more aware about things outside of the bars, the next big “event” and your group of friends. Life becomes about where you’re going…You’re becoming an adult and people will respect you when it becomes more about “what you can do” than “what people can do for you”.
Embrace it. I know you’re sad that you’re getting older – but you’re getting wiser, you’ll make more money and you will contribute more to the world.

I’m 21 and this post is making me freak out a little. I’m making the most of my time at uni, going to music festivals and holidays abroad with my friends. Doing it all now, I don’t want to regret not doing things when its time to settle down. 

I think you’re overreacting just a bit, haha. 25 is far from old. If I were you though, I wouldn’t stress about getting older (quite yet anyway) because you’ll just make yourself miserable. Just get excited about all of the wonderful things that are in your future and stop worrying about how/when they will happen. Life’s what you make it! Don’t waste your youth telling yourself that you’re old – because you’re not!

Rewrite this post when you are turning 50 or 60 and maybe I’ll have some sympathy. :-p

I’m 25.

Just embrace getting older – it’s just another stage of life. Don’t worry! Enjoy!

I look forward to getting older; my life seems to get better with age!

Dude I totally feel you. Except I was freaking out when I turned 20. My birthday came along and I was literally like HOLY FUCK! I spent 2 decades on this earth and have nothing to show for it. I”M A WORTHLESS PIEACE OF WATER AND SKIN. It was bad I’m still dealing with the trauma but look at it this way you aren’t realizing this at 40 or 30 your realizing it now, and NOW is all we ever have so live your life how you want to, do the stuff that makes you happy and years and days won’t feel like ticking timebombs they will be great times and fantastic memories so take a deep breath and enjoy everything that 25 has to offer you. Personally I like to go to an amusement park and relish on the fact that yes I am tall enough to go on this ride that when I was 8 I was crying about how much is sucks to be young. Live it up, that’s all we have to do.

I know i’m a man and all but I turn 28 on the 15th and I been on a similar manlier boat. lol  Like I enjoyed talking to women just casually with no strings attached but I’m starting to think about finding someone to be tied to.  ”No kids at almost 30″, that thought got me a lil off balanced cause i wanna run and play ball with my lil ones to come.  I got to thinking that our generation is just a little different then our parents.  With the heavier focus on education and establishing a career there is little room for thoughts of settling down.  I thought I was the only guy feeling like I was behind time with starting a family but one day during a conversation with some of my boys i found out they had been thinking the same thing.  Peace.

Jeeze o’ Pete’s!  I’m staring 40 in the face, and would almost give my left arm to be 25 again!!!

@Jeremy_Sheer@xanga - well, did you freak out when you turned 25? you’re 27, so you had 2 years to get used to it….

@wayno20@xanga - very insightful sir!

I’m 20 dating a 36 year old. …age is hott. But seriously, I mean, SERIOUSLY be healthy. I’ve already started to get a workout routine and I’m buying WAY more veggies, WAY less junkfood. My dude looks fine as hell and then he’ll introduce me to his friends who.. you know. beer + pizza + cigarettes. Not as pretty.