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you should’ve told her you hated it.  she might have not charged you for it.

You can’t write a post about someone ruining your hair if you don’t have the balls to publish a picture to go with it!  Mega fail. 

My hair is curly. You can’t GET it cut without it being a disaster because nobody knows what to do with it. I suppose I sorta feel your pain in a “welcome to MY world” sort of way.

I don’t color my hair anymore. I’m a redhead but I used to make my hair other shades of red. Now I just keep my own. I didn’t stop coloring because the color looked bad, but because it started to break my hair.

As far as cutting; I won’t let anyone but myself touch my hair anymore. I’ve learned to trim it myself. I always ask for a simple trim and I used to keep a classic long haircut but I always walk out looking like someone took a weed whacker to my hair. I’ve explained and shown in person how much I want taken off and how long I want my layers but my stylist always tries to give me some sort of choppy nonsense complaining that my hair was too simple. I LIKE it that way. My old stylist also used to get argumentative with me because she doesn’t like my alternative hair care. Really? Because her hair was fried and mine was like a lion’s mane.

Now, about three bad hair cuts later I decided I couldn’t stand it and started over.

I recently got my hair ombre’d, too.
The sister of one of my best friend’s is in beauty school, so I let her do my hair. I have brown hair and I asked her to use a shade as close to my natural hair color as possible. You can barely notice that I had my hair done because she did exactly what I asked her… and the truth is, I loved it. I’m going to get the ends a little bit lighter next week.
I tell you this just so you know that you cannot generalize that EVERY hair stylist will do the same thing to your hair, you just got the bad one…

If they do not do what you asked… don’t pay. Complain. Make them fix it. Make them find SOMEONE ELSE to fix it… but don’t waste your money walking out with something you’re going to go home and dye to fix yourself!

i don’t really like going to hair stylists, and it annoys me so much when people say the only way to get a decent dye job on your hair is to go professional. i’ve been dying mine since i was about 15 with slices and highlights and what not, and i’ve never had one dye job that i’ve disliked because i know exactly which bits of my hair i want dyed and which bits i don’t.

as long as you do your research and are careful about the colours you choose, i think dying it yourself saves you a butt load of money and at least if it goes wrong, you only have yourself to blame.

I wanted to try an at-home highlighter kit when I was in middle school, so I enlisted my mom to help me. I literally had like streaks of orange in my hair. It was AWFUL. So we went to the closest Hair Cuttery and had them dye it back to a normal-looking color. Needless to say I’ve stayed away from DIY kits ever since.

People expect way too much from hair stylists. First of all, it’s not like you walked in with virgin hair. You already had color in it, which she had to work around. Not and ideal situation especially when going lighter. Your hair isn’t the same as anyone elses so.you really shouldn’t expect it to turn put exactly like someone elses. Also, you got the same boring layers? Well what did you want? She’s not a miracle worker. She works with what you give her. If you tell her you want some funky specific cut and she just gives you plain layers that’s one thing, but you can’t expect her to invent some new do specifically designed for your head. She just went with what you had going on because it suited you. And if she did give you a new cut, you’d probably cry even more because you left looking even less like Jessica Biel.

@ohveryoung@xanga - well she probably didn’t think she’d blog about it until after she tried to fix the hairdresser’s mistake and had already dyed it back to a drugstore color.

oh well. i don’t think you should swear off professionals forever.  maybe do a lot of research and yelp reviews and stuff like that before you settle with just the cheapest.  maybe don’t even look at price until after.

The only bad experience I had was back when I used to relax (permanently straighten my hair) I went to someone new and I didn’t ask to see her license or anything.  She was probably a student as it was in the student center.  The woman didn’t wash the perm out of my hair completely and I ended up having to get a few inches cut off my hair from the damage.  Lesson learned for me.  I’ve never had a bad dye job though.  I’ve always love my hair when I had it dyed.  

Oh my godness Im soo sorry!

That’s happened to me but not with colour with a cut!

I showed a picture and she totally ignored it!

Grrr the nerve of professional hairstylist!!

xoxoxo

I would have told her to do it over. There isn’t much she could’ve done about the cut (at least it grows back), but she could’ve fixed the color.

I’m sorry that happened to you ;( Maybe it can be fixed?

Suckors. I remember when I got a horrible cut a few years ago and I wanted to cry…al you can do is watch as they snip it away..

Never have, and don’t plan on dying my hair until the gray creeps up. I use Henna to bring out my natural highlights…but that’s it. My mom always complains how dry her hair is because of dye. Guess I’m lucky I have natural highlights to begin with.

dude, calm the fuck down. it’s hair. it grows back.

As a cosmetologist I can safely say that not trusting ALL professionals and just doing things yourself is a BAD call.

When I was in high school I always colored my hair with box dyes. Now, I know better. Box dye has metallics in it, which ultimately fucks your hair…hard.

Also, you told the stylist that you didn’t want a lot taken off your hair…she listened to what you said. You were the one who didn’t let her have the freedom to cut it into a different style, not to sound rude.

The color thing….yeah, she fucked up. However, you should have said something (though, if you’re like me you’d rather avoid her fucking up worse while being pissy about you setting her straight and just do it yourself).

Anyway, I’m sorry your hair isn’t what you wanted, that really sucks.

aww that sucks! ive cried over a bad haircut too, don’t worry. i tried the ombre trend too with my hairstylist and im surprised yours came out bad since its so easy to do! she probably left the bleach in for too long and killed the color on the bottom half of your hair.

I understand your frustration and can understand your first instinct was to go dye your hair yourself since you had done it before.

But I agree with what other posters have said, you needed to tell her and the manager you were unhappy.  Most salons have a week “refund” if you will policy.  You can go back at any point during this time and say that you are unhappy and want it changed.  Most stylists appreciate you coming back and letting them correct their error instead of losing your buisness all together, and the bashing of their work.  With this case I can assume you wouldn’t want her or her comb within 10 feet of you, and you could have said someone else in the salon could fix it.  A fix could just mean they died to back to your original if that’s what you wanted.  By dying your hair when you left you “voided” the warranty so to speak.  Since a manager can’t look at the job that was done they cannot fix it or refund your money.

I’ve had my hair professionally died for years and while it isn’t for everyone, I’m sorry this has given you a bad impression of salon coloring.  I’m also sorry you didn’t give them the chance to fix it.

I usually dye it myself, but my hairstylist has always done a nice job putting color in my hair as well.

I will, however, never forget when my beauty school friend convinced me in letting her bleach my hair underneath and dye it pink. The pink was actually sick, but she fried my hair so badly that I’m lucky it didn’t fall out. I was super pissed at her for a long time.

Where did you go?  Most places will redo it for free.  Always get recommendations from friends before going to get your hair done because… it’s your hair.  You definitely want to make sure you’re going to someone you can trust.

this happens to me every single time i go to a professional, thats why i avoid it at all costs. “i just want short layers” okay.

hair to my tits ends up to my shoulders. UMM, i’m pretty sure thats NOT what i said -___-

If you mention to a stylist that you don’t enjoy what they did, they will generally give you a refund or offer to fix it, free of charge.

So while I do understand your motivation to complain about it to Xangans who can’t help much, it would have been more proactive to say it there and then. If they don’t do a good job the first time, they are more than willing to fix their mistake because they realize that 9/10 of people who get a bad haircut/color will go around to people, complaining, and tell them who did it and which salon they’re at, while generally 2-3/10 of people who get an amazing haircut or color will sing its praise to their friends. And since the industry is based so much on reputation, you could have easily milked her for a fixer-upper appointment.

And also, given that you had black color on your head, the problem was probably a bleach solution that was too strong. Stylists prefer to use a tint to lift the hair to a lighter shade, but that can only be done on virgin hair. Given that she used bleach, … it’s easier to make a mistake.

I would say the WORST reaction to have to something like this would be to swear off of professionals. Boxed colors contain obscene amounts of ammonia, which do awful things to your hair, or metallics, which do awful things as well. And when lightening, an at-home job is definitely not going to work out as much in your favor as you would expect. You may have left the salon unhappy, but doing it yourself is in no way a guarantee for a better result.

I get my hair done ONLY professionally. However, the one time I had it colored I went to the Aveda Institute instead of the salon. The student took six hours to do my hair, but it was perfect.

I had my hair like in the middle picture when I was a senior in hs. I did it myself. I just don’t do the professional route, when I can just buy the salon color and mix it at home.

I just went to the stylist yesterday and she fucked my hair up. Half of my hair is longer than the other side – and she only did layers on one side! I’m basically freaking out. She doubled the price, too, and completely ignored what I wanted. So upset

Going cheap on hair salons is never a good idea UNLESS you have seen their styles and you liked them. Otherwise you never know what you’ll get!

I had my hair taken from black to red at a cosmetology school a couple of years ago; ever since then I’ve maintained the color on my own. It’s not hard to do and it’s not really time-consuming like salon trips are (you can’t really multi-task when you’re there– I can do my homework while my color is processing at home!). My friend from school cuts my hair (she cuts everyone’s hair, lol) when we’re in school, otherwise I go to my trusted salon lady when I’m at home.  

I hate when you don’t like your hair cut/color but you don’t feel comfortable telling the stylist. I have gone to my car and started crying too.
I usually color my own hair, but in April I decided to get highlights from a pro. Well they came out a lot lighter than I wanted (I have really dark brown hair) and I hated them for weeks, but now I’m used to em. I spent A LOT of money on them so I sure as hell wasn’t going to just color over them. Everyone tells me they look good, so I take their word for it. 

I feel you, I’m only going to a hair dresser to die my hair who I know is experienced and I have tried before.  Last time I got my hair dyed professionally, I wanted light brown/blonde highlights but it ended up turning a pretty bright maroon/red.  And she dyed the top of my forehead too, which was stained for days :/.  I do better dye jobs on my mom.

Now I specifically ask for a certain hair stylist that I know and trust.  Good thing you were able to dye your hair to something more suitable.  That’s what I ended up doing as well.

I am sooooooooo glad my mom’s a hairstylist and just taught me how to do hair in addition. I hear such horror stories like this, I am grateful. That sucks! I’m sorry to hear about this.          

The same this JUST happened to me. Last Wednesday, I went to my stylist, who charged me $275 for what was supposed to be ombre hair. I ended up with almost ALL blond hair up to THE CROWN of my head. THE CROWN!!! I had a straight line going across the back of my head that separated the blond from the my naturally dark (100% dye free) hair. The next day, I went back and had her try to fix it. She couldn’t. She used a certain type of bleach, I think, that is difficult to dye over. A week later (this past Wednesday: 6-29), I was referred to a different stylist, whose ombre I had seen and liked. Anyway, he tried his best to fix me up (which cost another $130), but unfortunately, was unable to get a dark color that was close to my natural over the blond (which is now completely orange). Furthermore, he had to ‘trim’ my hair because of the severe damage from the previous bleaching session of my other stylist. 

So, basically, I wanted long, wavy, dark hair, with a little blond underneath: ombre!I got SHORT (because my hair was a little past my boobs before the trim; now it’s an inch past my shoulders) orange hair…. completely orange, other than the dark brown roots at the very tip top of my head. Ugh! I HATE it and I want to cry every time I see it. It took me two years to get my hair as long as it was. Now it’s so damaged it won’t even hold a curl and the natural wavy I once had is now FRIZZ.
I wish there was a way to at least fix the color, but I heard if you dye over blond or orange, there’s potential to turn your hair green….  o_O

I do have to say that it takes a while to find a good hair stylist. Or, at least, one that will listen to what you’re really saying you want. It would take a few visits to know how a hair stylist really cuts hair. (Or at least, that’s how you find the good ones.)

I’ve gone to my current hair stylist for years now. And I’ve experimented with a lot of hair colors as well as cuts. Honestly, I’d only experiment with hair cuts/dyes only with hair stylists that I trust and know.

A good hair stylist (it doesn’t matter if she does hair out her basement or in a salon) will NEVER be on the phone while doing hair. AND she/he (yes, I’ve had a straight guy do my hair) will take constructive critisim when it’s presented. TELL them that you’d rather not have her/him on the phone. Be honest with said person. That’s how people grow and learn in any business.

I went cheap to a hair salon and I’m in love. If my dad didn’t point out this place to get my prom hair done, I would be charged more for simple haircuts and driving farther.

Nonetheless, you should have told the stylist you did not like it at all. She probably would not have charged you.
Do a little research too. My stylist has a portfolio of her work. Ask around like your friends of their stylists. I’m sure at least one of them has been getting their hair dyed (with great quality of course) somewhere by someone.

I honestly wouldn’t swear off professionals.  I feel like as soon as one bad thing happens, people blame the whole group. You’ve had one bad experience with one professional hairdresser (who doesn’t sound very professional anyway), and you’re swearing off ALL professional hair stylists?  Its a little juvenile.  Even though your life doesn’t depend on it, finding a good hairstylist is like finding a good doctor.  Just because the first one sucks doesn’t mean you stop going to the doctors.  You find a better one.  I personally have had the same hair dresser since I was 12.  I deviated for a few cuts because of my poor college girl status and never came back as happy as when I went to my original hair stylist (who works at a bit more of an upscale place.  I’ve found that she’s worth the extra money). 

Good luck with everything.

My friend did my hair for years but she hasn’t touched my hair since the incident on my birthday.

I had hair down my back and wanted a change for my 25th birthday.  I wanted that cute Katie Holmes bob but what I ended up with was pieces on top that were literally an inch long.  It was awful and I cried all day on my birthday.  It took two years to grow out since those little pieces were so short.

Worst haircut ever.

You should have gone back, shown the manager the picture of what you wanted and how your hair actually turned out.  Most salons have a color professional that only does color.  Usually they can fix it.

I just hate when you tell them to cut your ends and they end up cutting your darn hair more than they should.

I only had my hair professionally done once, when I was 14. I asked for layers and highlights all over. She cut like, five inches off of my hair, fried it with the hair dryer and gave me one highlight every two inches or so. It looked horrible. And she charged me $120! I started crying before I even got out of the chair. The lady was like, “Ohh, Sweetie you look great!” I wanted to choke the bitch. I do my own hair now.

I work in a hair salon as a receptionist and while we cater to guys and don’t do dye jobs at all, if you really didn’t like it, you shouldn’t have paid. At the salon I work at, if you don’t like it you can come back within a week or two and they’ll redo it for free. As far as the length goes, I know every time one of the girls at my work cuts my hair, they don’t care what length I say I want it at all. They’re just cutting off all the dead ends. Whether it’s an inch or four inches haha. I used to dye my hair myself when I did dye it, but now that I’m back to my natural color they keep warning me not to dye it with store dye because it strips your hair really badly. They say to at least go to a beauty store and buy the dye from there that they use in salons. The best hair cuts I’ve ever gotten have always been when I just tell them to cut it how they want to. It always turns out awesome. 

I feel like every time I go in for a new cut, I just end up with the same thing I’ve always had.  I got red highlights when I was 10, which was waaay too young. Over time, my dark brown hair turned blonde and frizzy. I had it all chopped off at the end of my freshman year of high school, cried over the hideous haircut, and just waited for my hair to grow out. Never. dying. my. hair. again.

thats why you save up and go to a good hairstylist or you go to a stylist that others have recommended and see the finished product of their hair. I used to go to this girl and she always did an amazing job, only problem is she was 40 a hair cut and i never came out of there paying less than 100. Now i go to a girls home and she does cut, colour, and style for 60! My family recommended her to me. 

Make sure before you get it dyed to look at portfolio of what they can/cannot do. If they don’t have one, don’t let them touch your hair. I found a lady that does it out of her home. She doesn’t charge much ($30 bucks for cut, color, shampoo and style)  but she’s better than most people I’ve gone to in larger more expensive salons.  She has plenty of awesome photos in her portfolio, ranging in styles, colors and hair types.   

if you would have told her or the salon manager that you didn’t like the way your hair was done, there wouldn’t have been any charge and they would have at least dyed it all back to your original color (or close to). 

my senior year of high school, i was verry last minute for taking senior pictures. my hair was a mess (i decided to dye it all dark brown, thought it was going to look OK since i am a brunette… HORRIBLE idea) and i couldn’t get in with either of the people i usually go to at my friends mom’s salon. so i decided to go where my old hair stylist was. told her i wanted chunky blonde highlights/peekaboo streaks. even had a few pictures to show her. i didn’t really get to see how it looked until i was home, the lighting at this salon was horrible. I cried when i saw it. i looked like a skunk! the blonde “chunks” were not hidden under the hair very well. needless to say i had to take my senior pictures that way.
the two people i go to now though, my friends mom & then the youngest stylist at the salon. they do exactly what you want, and their work that they do is always A+. they fixed my hair after that incident and have ever since. if the color is wrong, they’ll fix it on the spot, if they see something that they wouldn’t personally wear themselves, they’ll fix it.i’m sorry that you had a not-so-nice-and-good stylist, i hope if you ever do go back again, that the person is actually good. you can always show them (when you go to a new place) a picture of how your hair is now and say that this is NOT how you want it and that’s what the person before them did. they’ll understand (at least should) and should be able to do everything you want done right.
p.s. stylists a lot of time forget that when hair is wet it is longer, when the hair dries it’s shorter due to volume/natural waves/curls. my hair is curly, so i always have to tell who ever is doing my hair (if they don’t already know) that my hair shrinks up a lot when it’s dry. so when it’s trimmed/layered, they always have to go a little longer than they think.

sorry to hear about your bad experience at the salon, but there are so many things that you mentioned in your blog that’s on you and why your hair didn’t turn out the way you wanted it.  Like a post had mention earlier, you already had color in your hair and the only way to make it lighter is to bleach it.  Not only was it a color, but it was BLACK and black i tell you, lifts to an unnatural color.  That was your first mistake.  Second mistake is that you didn’t want much of the length cut of so of course your gonna still have boring layers.  There are only two types of hair cuts, layers and a one length bob.  The rest is called style.  Jessica Beil’s hair doesn’t look like that on it’s own, she has professional stylist to STYLE her hair.  If you walked out of there with boring layers, that’s because you or her, didn’t take a curling iron to it.  Hope that helped!!

Tip for the ombre look: when your stylist does it, she should back comb the tips of your hair and then put the color (for virgin hair) or bleach (hair that already has color on it) on it only up to where it was back combed.  That’ll give it more of a natural look. 

I am a biracial twenty year old woman mixed with black and white thus the texture of my hair is naturally curly, soft, and some times a little puffy. I had been going to the same stylist since my sophomore year in high school and she seemed to be doing a great job with my hair. In till when i turned 19, and decided i wanted a new look and switched from my usual flat ironing to curls. Over a years time, she began to trim my ends more than usual but re assured me it was necessary to do this to keep my ends healthy. Recently, i flat ironed my hair at home and noticed that my hair was 3 inches shorter and didn’t notice before because it was always in curls or wet from just getting shampooed. Worst day of my life, i was totally in raged. I blame my self for not noticing sooner. 

I feel ur pain. Been there…thought if never be there again, and actually had someone I trusted in the past ruin my beautiful intouched hair of three years.
Truth: most colorists are evil.
Sorry colorists. I am forever now convinced.
This time, I learned to leave well enough alone. The color is flat, I have major damage,.,,,totally out of portion for virgin hair, and it’s just a terrible highlight job.
But is it totally unbearable? no
And here’s why.
Do you know about those Aveda color enhancing conditioners? USE them. I’m flat and ashy, do the gold brightens me up.
Is it expensive? Yes. Do I have to use it every few datys? Yes. would it be nice if it could be permanently fixed? sure. do I trust someone to do it? NO!
In my experience, use these VERY temporary brighteners, and just let it be. In 3 months, you’ll see almost two inches of root, in 6, 3-4 inches. With a center part, that’s 6-8 inches of your natural total on top. Once that gets aroung your face, you’ll feel better.
And after a year, it will just be a memory….and at that point you can play around with the ends only.
Moral of the story:
Learn to love your natural. Colorists are the antiChrist. And be happy you are not (hopefully) getting married so they’ll be no photos of the disaster.
Good luck’

I have had some great experiences and some terrible ones. The best truth I’ve found. My natural hair is more beautiful than any color…..yet it took me years to be convinced of this.
I’ve been platinum blonde and it was quiet lovely for a number of years. In the early years I was a light reddish brown. I then tried a color,….darker…. and that was a disaster. So then I went back to blonde after my disaster color, and lost half of my long long hair. This was all with “professionals” over the years, mind you.
So Finally, once the blonde settled in and was a nice medium lenth platinum blonde again, I just stopped.
I was just done.
And I watched my roots grow in.
And It was the most beautiful experience ever! To watch hair that I had messed with since I was 16 reveal its true beauty. I found myself going, LOOK at this beautiful color! my hair. It’s a beauitful dark brown with subtle red tones….and I was coloring it WHY????

However, live and learn, In all the trails and tribulations, I have learned much from many colorists…..a few of whom I trust. I will share them and hopefully help someone out by doing so.

Here’s the scoop (10 items to remember)

1. ALL process damages hair.
Even the first process on virgin hair IS damaging. Can it recover if done properly? of course….but will you get damage and dryness and some breakage? Yes, though often not noticeable the first time. Which leads me into point #2.

2. Understand that your hair is essentially dead.
Really get and understand this. You hair is alive as it forms and grows from your scalp. Once it has gone through it’s 3 stage growth procss and is out of your head, it is done. It’s is not alive. It is healthy, but it is done. Kind of like the ends of your nails. If you damage them too much, they break.
You can not “stimulate” growth on this part of your hair, though products try to sell you that you can. The only hair you can stimulate is that growing out of your scalp….and you do that best by diet and gentle scalp massage.
Since you hair is dead……you can, however, moisturizer and maintain it. You can protect it. But if you damage the shaft beyond repair, it’s game over. Nothing you buy or do will bring it back.

3. You hair can only handle so many processes….especially if you are lightening and bleaching.

4. If you EVER meet a colorist who says that they can run more bleach over already bleached hair, RUN AWAY! Colorists probably don’t like the term “bleach”, but it gets my point across. Whatever the chemical is that lightens hair. Be warying of it.
ONLY new growth on virgin hair should be bleached to match the already bleached hair. You hit that bleached hair again, it will break. It’s amazing how many colorist do not even address this.

5. ALWAYS ask what type of hair color the colorist is using. NEVER let them do a permanent or even a demi-permanent color over processed hair if it’s your first time with them. Start with a semi-permanent. It washes out in 2 weeks to a month, but if they handle using the semi-permanent well, then you can probably feel comfortable in trusitng them with the demi-. You’ll pay twice, but it’s worth it. And as I pointed out, if you don’t like it, it will wash out or be lifted out far more quickly instead of being left stuck with an awful color.

6. Ask questions. Question HOW a colorist is going to apply color. Especially over processed hair. If you are light and planningon going dark and they are planning on using the SAME COLOR all over your hair, RUN! Ends always grab darker. and need to be processed with a ligher shade to get an even result. Don’t coach them or tell them this. Just listen. You will learn what they know.

7. If you are getting highlights for the first time, start sparse. You can always add more the second time around. STRESS the word sparse. It means very different things to different people.

8. I also suggest never doing whatever highlights you’re doing close to the root if it’s you first time. Leave like 3 inches of natural at first. It is stylish now to see roots AND if you hate it, you’ll still have alot of natural. If you love it, you can go back and say, ADD MORE PLEASE, and some closer to the root, Be conservative.

9. ALWAYS do a consult and always on a separate day from your appointment. Meet them when you aren’t feeling nervous or desparate. You’ll be clearer. Meet with at least 3 colorists for consults. They are free and it’s amazing the information you get. You can also observe how they are with you and feel if you like them. If you don’t like them, chances are, even if they have done good hair for others that’s good, they won’t for you. It’s just how it works. If the sense energy doesn’t match, it’s an indicator.

10. And ten, know it’s always a bit of a risk. EVEN the BEST colorist mess up. And this is the sad truth. I have paid $260 dollars and have hated my hair. I’ve paid $80 and loved it. I saw the same woman every month for 4 years, and even then, sometimes, if we did something new, like adding lowlights or varying the blonde, I wasn’t happy.
The comfort was, she knew my hair and she could easily fix it. This is not always the case.
I say, if a NEW colorist messes up your hair, let them know and maybe even listen to their ideas for fixing it…. for future FYI, BUT I wouldn’t go back to them. Go somewhere else. Research your options, calmly, and don’t go into a crisis, fix-it immediately mode. Breathe. Ask around. Look for someone with 15-20 years experience and preferrable a specialist in color correction. THAT’s who you want. Someone who tells you straight that you’ll have damage with correction (truth) and someone who is upfront about what you can expect.

I now sign off, in bliss to be at a place where I am colorist free. If you can stay natural, do it. It’s the way you were supposed to be anyway ; ) However if you must experiment, be wise.

bye!