I was making plans with a friend the other day, when he asked me if he should invite one of my former best friends to come to lunch with us. I thought about it for a second, and realized that I had no desire to see her, and that it would be really awkward if she came along. I haven’t seen her or talked to her for years.
I felt kind of bad, because I was the one who cut off ties with her. She was a great friend, but when I moved away to college, she stayed in the same town with the same job and the same boyfriend. I felt bad telling her about all this great stuff I was doing in New York City, when she was stuck at home doing the same routine.
As college went on, I changed and grew and became a different person. She stayed the same. We no longer had things in common, and therefore nothing to talk about. As much as I feel like a bitch saying that, it’s the truth. I just can’t see us being friends anymore.
This made me think: is there anything I could actually say to her to let her know how I’m feeling? Not really. There’s nothing either of us can do to put things back to the way they were. How do you tell someone the truth when it hurts? Even if it’s a friend’s haircut that you hate, do you tell them what you think, or bite your tongue?
Let me know what you think ladies. Would you tell someone the truth if you knew it would hurt them?