I ran into my ex’s best friend yesterday, and had an awkward chat with him before taking the quickest exit in sight. I thought my ex and I were on good terms until I texted him to tell him who I ran into, and got one word answers in response, and then nothing. It made me think: can you really be friends with an ex-boyfriend?
My ex and I have a long and complex background story. We’ve had good times and bad times, and I’m finally at the point where I can think of him as a friend. The problem is, I’m not sure if he’s at that point or not.
I wish that we could talk about our separate lives without it being weird. I’d like to know what he’s doing, how things are going for him, but I also don’t want to lead him on, or have him think I’m interested again. That seems to be the problem with exes. They always think that you showing an interest in their lives means you want them back. I’m just trying to be a good friend.
It makes me sad that we can never just be friends. Our time together was too emotional, and we were too attached to each other to ever have a normal friendship. Now that I’m thinking about it, I don’t keep in contact with any of my past boyfriends. I think that when you have those kinds of feelings for someone, you can never go back to being friends, especially if you were never just friends in the first place.
What do you guys think? Are you still friends with anyone you’ve dated? Do you still keep in contact? Or do you think that being friends with an ex is impossible?