It’s all about life perspective. There are a few things I’ve learned that have helped me become a better, happier person.
- Things I thought were important don’t define me. For example: being a super student. Yes, it’s good to be one and I do strive for excellence, but even if I’m not perfect all the time, which I won’t be, then at the end of the day I’m still me. I can’t let grades, money, social status, etc. define me because those things can fizzle away and you will still be here…and that’s all that matters; the you that is still here.
- Be happy alone…because apparently that’s when the right people come into your life. I was super happy being single before I met Edward and I don’t know if he was drawn to that or what.
- Don’t let others determine your happiness. There’s a difference between having a someone who you depend on for happiness (ie. a boyfriend, best friend, etc.) and being happy by yourself and enveloping others into your happiness when they come into your life.
- Love life. I’m happy to be alive, simple as that. I want to be a positive influence in the world and not be evil or wish ill-will. I am grateful for my good qualities. I am grateful for myself and everyone in my life. I am grateful that I am healthy and don’t have any major problems.
- Haters are your foundation. They’re the ones that help you build yourself up. Their negativity is just another piece of the foundation. Because guess what? Haters are the strongest support you will ever have and they deserve to be on the bottom. The good people are the ones who make your “house” beautiful and full of life and happy.
- I’m not perfect. Happiness doesn’t mean everything is going to be great all the time. It just means the bad doesn’t control and consume you. Yes, I still have days where I feel like crap and I’m sad…but that doesn’t mean I think of myself as ugly or fall back into a depression because those are temporary feelings. They’ll go away and there’s no need to make them bigger than what they are.
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YAY!!!♥ I’m trying to live by this..:)
and its working..!
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This post couldn’t have come at a better time.
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Great life lessons!
lily / 5148 posts
Great lessons but it’s been said before. It’s harder to do than say. Still, it’s great to be reminded.
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Wonderful!! <3
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These are great.
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This is a FANTASTIC post. I really needed that; soooooooo much better than reading about PhotoShopped photos and girls making fun of people’s weight whom they don’t even know! All the props in the world.
sunflower / 255 posts
awesome post- thanks!
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I’m in a current bout of depression. I read this page and no I’m not cured or suddenly happy, but I do know this will pass. I will, in time, feel happy again. I’m enjoying the positivity on this page and seeing people connect. I guess that’s what’s great about xanga. Knowing that others sometimes struggle to be happy makes me feel better. Not that they are suffering, of coarse, but that they are suffering too. If that makes any sense. I don’t know.
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Rec’d
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Thanks for this post! It was much needed since I’m currently unhappy with life right now…thanks!
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i am gonna try it!
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This is a really good post.
tulip / 8 posts
no shit sherlock.
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love this post : )
magnolia / 1369 posts
loved this post !
sunflower / 286 posts
great post <3
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very true! the best way to be happy is to just accept life as it is instead of wasting time wishing how you want it to be
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love
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beautiful.
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Does this dimestore affirmation really work for people?
hydrangea / 59 posts
@Crossed_Out_Name@xanga - Actually, the thing that most people get wrong is that they think that they can just read this “dimestore affirmation” and suddenly get happy. If it were that easy I wouldn’t have been depressed for 11 years. BUT, sadly, depression can’t be cured with just cheap affirmations, I know. Actually, my blog says a lot about what I had to do to deal with it…this is just the end results. These dimestore affirmations are at face value just affirmations, especially to those that are depressed/sad it means shit…but when internalized they become so much more and it DOES work (at least for me anyway). So no, I wasn’t trying to just write something in the hopes that people will instantly feel better and skip along the road to happiness…this is just the way Lovelyish formats their posts…
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If only I could follow these now….haha
Great post. I loved it!
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@Daniella_Aalyiah_Li@xanga - That was a great clarification! You have to put these things to work inside of you to be happy. Not just read them!
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I agree with five of these, but the one about haters, I simply cannot interpret it at all. I have no idea what you are saying with that one. My key to happiness that involves haters would simply be “ignore them. They do not matter, and they are not worth one second of your time.”
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Absolutely love this post.