Lovelyish

“Oh baby, I’m so horny for you. Let me pop my Valtrex.” Instant boner loss.

Since when is wishing you a good day or God’s blessing creepy? Sheesh…

i hate creepers.. sometimes they scare me..

why do they think we would get in a car with a stranger?! i don’t understand these offers…. any decent girl would never take them. 

When I get creeped on I just say, “I am doing xxx, I require no personal interaction at this time… Please leave now.”

If you want to talk about creeps… “Have you ever been approached by a pedophile?”

haha i find this really cute. good job!

Lol, this makes me think of the youtube video about how to get people to stop talking to you.  (The youtube username is JennaMarbles for that video.)  Just try to scare them off by being weird!  It works wonders.

@Itinvolvedwhippedcream@xanga - I love JennaMarbles! Lovelyish should post her video about “how to trick people into thinking you’re good looking”, haha.

super creepy creeper incident which occurred in sf a while ago: i was at the beach, keeping to myself up in the sand dunes – away from people (a nice idea, but not very smart thing to do in reality).  it was a rare hot day, and i got baked very quickly under the sun.  i decided to walk to the water to cool off a bit, and on my way down i notice the creep laying very close to a lone bikini-clad chick, who had her towel pulled up a little like she was trying to hide from his view.  after cooling off i made my way back up to my spot, and after a few minutes the creep shows up and asks if he can lay down next to me.  i’m prostrate on the ground in a very vulnerable position, and i figure it’s better if we’re on even ground if i’m going to run away. so i say okay, and he lays down next to me, facing me, staring at me.  i get up quickly and say i have to leave, to which he responds, “can i take you out to lunch?”  i say no and hurry away, appropriately freaked out.  as i am crossing the street, waiting for the light to turn in my favor, i look back and see him standing on the dune watching me.  it was a great way to ruin a beautiful day.

I remember one night in New York I was walking back to my friends place in a

really

 shady area of Brooklyn… this guy followed me for three blocks trying to talk to me and get my number. He didn’t get the hint and kept trying to shake my hand and stuff. I was creeped out.

I usually say “you should check a girl’s ring finger before trying to hit on her” because I’m married…that usually catches them off guard too because I’m so young

At a friend’s graduation party back in ’09, I was sitting with my closest gay best friend on the host’s front porch bench, and this one dude who always hit on my friends tried sitting on my other side and was like “hey beautiful…”

So I was like, Tim, he’s talking to you, answer the poor kid!  And my buddy was like uh what the fuck. hahah
I don’t know, I didn’t respond well because that kid was really… well, a creeper, in the true sense of the word

Another experience was ninth grade, when this guy who sat next to me in my computer class tried putting his hand on my leg and asked me if I was nervous, and I was like don’t fucking touch me ever again, and he moved to the other side of the room ha!

oh, i use a fake name. and then i tell them i have a boyfriend.

@Itinvolvedwhippedcream@xanga - lol is that the one where she makes that face?

When I really can’t get them to walk away… I’ll give them a fake number and say I really have to go because I have a class. 

@MiaJoyTheWriter@xanga - it’s the way it’s said…

Sadly almost every guy that makes the effort to speak to me (I’m pretty shy) who isn’t a friend of a friend, is usually a complete stalker and texts me once or twice a day repeatedly… and I don’t answer. They just don’t stop. I did have this homeless guy in New York hit on me the other day, though, that was fun… it was three AM and he was following me. He told me he had just gotten out of jail, too, which was the best part

I was walking somewhere when I noticed this car signal the blinker lights as he gradually slowed his car down close to where I was walking in attempts to kidnap me. I wasn’t going to stop and see what he wanted, I just walked faster in the opposite direction, and he couldn’t back up his car fast enough to catch up to me. his dark tinted white car windows is what kidnappers often have

there was this cute guy, who suddenly sat down on the floor indian style at the barnes and noble bookstore, but he wasn’t creepy and didn’t say anything to me, just quietly read his book as I continued to look for my book in my experiences, it is often the unappealing guys, who are bold and creepy, while some of the cute guys are shy, so the guys that I want to talk to me, don’t, while the boldest are usually the creepy men with heavy spanish accents, who shamelessly stare, too.

I wear my promise ring and pretend I’m married. To a woman.

That line usually works, except when they’re creepy enough to be like “Well he isn’t here now, baby.”

I’m not sure I’d even qualify that as creepy.  It’s what guys do, and he sounded nice.  Creepy is like when they tell you how much they can rock your world and they haven’t even asked you your name yet.  Then get miffed when you aren’t convinced they can rock your world. hahaha  Good luck!

I was at a friend’s band’s show and this guy came up to me in the middle of their performance and asked me if I with the band so I pointed at my friend on stage and told him “yeah, that’s my bf!” but that totally did not stop him from hitting on me. He just continued telling me about how he was in a band too and how they’re getting ready for a big tour up and down the coast and how he’s a pilot but was thinking about quitting to pursue music full time. He even rested his hand on my thigh (we were right in front of the stage too!) 

Good for you

not interested, bye * & you give him the little wave * <3

/dirty look.

works perfectly.

great post Nicole! ugh, I’ve totally met some creepers in that Borders, too

“I was wondering if you would want to watch me jack off.” That’s a true story. Maybe carry around a cracker jack ring and wave your hands around.

If a guy is truly creepy, and not just some guy you aren’t interested in, why do you care about being polite to him?

Have you tried looking them in the eyes and saying “Piss off, I’m not interested.” ?

I love it when I’m on the subway and the nasty guy in front of me is giving me the “rape eye”, makes me feel soooooo good about myself!

@MangoWOW@xanga -  with that as your profile picture, I wouldn’t be surprised if guys thought they had a chance.

“you smell so nice *blank stare* ” still tops my creepy list. I generally just smile, say I must go and leave (+ go inside a shop if they still follow me)

LOL! you’re obviously never been hit on by a true creeper then. I  went to school in DC for a couple years and no matter what you told those men, they would not leave you alone. Didn’t matter if you said “i’m a lesbian” “i have a boyfriend” “i have the clap” they kept right on you, EVEN if you were walking with a guy. They just did not care -__- you would just have to keep on walking until they tired themselves out.

But I do agree that avoiding eye contact and being short with them helps shorten the experience lol

I used to work in the city and EVERY black man that walked into our building would hit on me. (I am white but apparently i have enough junk in my trunk) One even got to the point where he wouldnt take NO for an answer and insisted I GIVE HIM MY PHONE NUMBER.

In turn, I bought a fake wedding ring to stop the harassment. 

@MiaJoyTheWriter@xanga - I know what she means, though. It’s all in the way they say it. The over-eagerness and creepiness shines through their ‘casual’ have-a-nice-day. There’s a difference between a regular “Have a nice day” and a creepy one where they keep staring at you out of the corner of their eyes or something.

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - woooow that’s a first. 

That always works. Until you get the slime balls that don’t care

@MiaJoyTheWriter@xanga - Because their intentions are never pure nor are the related to the goodness of god. Duh.

For some ungodly reason I usually get hit on when I’m out eating some place on my own and reading at the same time. Apparently creepers think girls stuffing their faces like pigs while they have their nose stuck in a book it uber hawt and don’t seem to see the total immersion as a giant neon sign that says “go away”. They’ll start by asking me what book I’m reading. I give them a vague answer. They ask what it’s about. I give them a two to three word answer. This throws them off so they say something random while still trying to get my attention. I ignore them, and after awhile they eventually go away. Really, really annoying….I don’t know where these people come from. Even when I go out with my friends in the evenings- and these are pretty burly big guys- they still come out of the woodwork. I had a friend claim to be my boyfriend after a bar owner came over just to rub my back. Twice. *shudder*

I don’t see how guys telling you to just have a nice day or give you god’s blessing is creepy in any way. D:

You call people who wish you a good day creepers? :\

And for that matter, men who ask your name and potentially perhaps for a date are simply, universally “creepy creeps”?

You sound like a bitchy bitch.

Your “About Me” says you love trying new things and surrounding yourself with positive vibes.  Just thought I’d point that out for the sake of irony.

Great move!

I bet they were just unattractive men, so you thought they were creepy. If they were all hot I bet you’d be flattered. That situation didn’t really seem creepy to me, just a little ballsy. 

@Shytooth@xanga - ewwww ;_;

which borders were you at? i thought all borders shut down like the one on 32nd and 1st ave. I live in NY, too.

I have to agree that perhaps that guy wasn’t trully a creeper. Even if he wasn’t cute or what have you. Creepers entail saying something like what was said to a few of these girls. I for one get hit on a lot and by drunks because I work attached to a bar. The creepiest thing that happened was when someone told me they wanted “to take me away from this place. A girl so beautiful should not work so hard. I am very rich, you would be very comfortable until you died- and even then your coffin would be lined in silk.”

Yeah. Wow.  Anyhow. You should always be polite they’re merely paying compliments!

I remember I often used to argue that if you have a secret admirer and your a girl, if he’s hot it’s awesome; if he’s not he’s creepy

I usually feel for these guys because my friend tried to get me to open myself up by saying hi and stuff like that to girls so I probably did stuff that many of you would say came off as creepy even if it was just shizah liek saying hi. (I remember once I wanted to make a legit friend with a person in my dorm, and she walked away mid conversation) I don’t really do that and a lot of that goes with increasing social practice and learning about it just like baseball pitchers get better by throwing the ball over and over again now but looking back I saw when I ddi that and other guys do it its just really awkwardness, women really don’t understand how lucky they get in terms of social practice. Most women passively get social practice with all those guys running up to them so on average its much easier for women to come off as less creepy as a result I feel. Most the guys who do these things get ignored because not rich or popular or hot or tall or whatnot, so as a result of being ostracized it gets much harder for them to get even basic conversation often, so when they do get conversation it comes off terrible. It’s like learning a foreign language as well, if you never get to practice it your accent comes off as distinclty stilted and American. In this case, the accent is just confidence and understanding of give and taske in concversation.

Most guys I know who do that stuff are actually really good, honest guys, and just do what other, more popular guys tell them to do and it just comes out awkwrad and creepy no lien for your notice, the other side of the spectrum is guys who don’t come off as creepy but  social butterflies who then use whatever great social skilsl they have to approach you to hit it and quit it no?

Either way yes guys that are creepy do exist come off in a bad way out there, but girls do take this whole thing about looks seriosuly often I feel. Oh well, at least when women hit 40s or 50s I imagine the creeper complaints must taper off at least (sarcasm obviosuly)…

They say men don’t know how to communicate with women. Well I think it’s the other way around. See guys are the ones who have to do all the approaching. You girls just sit there an smile, and giggle, annoyingly i might add, you dont even have anything interesting to say, and guys are supposed to be attracted to that??? You women need a reality check. 1st off, judging by the examples you have given, I don’t see how they can be considered creepy, annoying yes creepy no. Are there creepy guys out there, yes im sure there are. But there are 2 sides to that coin. See I think there are alot of women out there who 1. Don’t know how to take a compliment and 2. wouldn’t know a good guy if he fell outta the sky and landed on your face. 

I find it amusing that you girls get the attention that you do and most of you don’t even deserve it to begin with. You need to wake up. You women give yourselves way more credit than you deserve. Trust me, you’re not as cute as you think you are and you’re not that interesting either.

More than half of you girls have never even approached a guy. All you do is come on here and complain  “omg this weird guy hit on me today…i was like uh ewww noo” or “i was at the store an this dude kept checkin me out…it was soo creepy”. It makes you look very immature. It shows that you don’t know how to communicate like an adult. All you do is focus on the negative bullshit, you don’t know how to be positive and it shows. Im a firm believer in “You are what you attract”. And if you can’t see that then I feel sorry for you.

@Kyuketsuki_no_Megami@xanga - ”Because their intentions are never pure nor are the related to the goodness of god. Duh.”  ~ How do you know? Are you saying that guys are incapable of being sincere? The way you worded this just shows how jaded and blind some women can be.

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - And your naïevité makes you a prime candidate for daterape if you think the passing male oogling you on the street is A-OK. I’d rather be safe than sorry, thanks.

Is it just me, or does this story not sound like you avoiding a creeper, but more like you being kind of catty to an innocent guy?

haha I loved how you addressed this!
“Sorry, I’m 18 yet..” is what I used to say to make men run for the hills.

“Sorry I have a boyfriend” can back-fire though. I remember I told that to a guy whom I thought was hitting on me when it was actually his gorgeous friend who had him as if I was single..

Oh no!

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - I wish I could recommend your comment a thousand times, but I’m going to have to settle for just one. Brilliantly told. Thank you. 

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - Good lord win for so many reasons

Yes, it’s funny because once women hit their 30s and 40s and people don’t find them attractive enough to be creepy on they long for those days…and people also find out how woefully underdeveloped their personalities are…

Yes most women DON’T know good guys when they see them then whine over and over again about the lack of guys to date in the city/teh bar and club scene/etc….it seriously cannot be that hard to find a different way to find different guys but no it’s much easier to blame it on the guys for being jerks or creeps rather than themselves for purposefully looking for something different.

And god yes sadly most women are ghastly boring I have to say, be it whether because they think it’s cute or normal to act dumb but yes most women just arent that compelling especially when they think all the guys that do are “creepy”

And WIN on daniel tosh screenname

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - Amen.

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - It’s not worth arguing, she is the kind of girl who gets pleasure from rejecting men. She will reject you, too.

ive had a very unusual experience with real creep. He didnt even say one word to me. I was walking home from the bus stop at around ten at night and this guy crosses the street in a hoodie and a backpack. Hes ahead of me and i notice he keeps turning back and slowing down so i can catch up to him. He stops at this parking lot enterance covered in bushes and out of nowhere he turns around looks at me and takes out his lighter and sets something on fire and looks back at me then to whatever he set on fire. After that he hid behind these bushes, and i had a feeling he was waiting for me to pass. I go across the street and look back to where he was and from the other side of the street he was trying to keep up with my pace. Luckily a Walgreens was still open so i hid in there for about 30 minutes.

@writemyheartt@xanga -   I agree. I’m a guy and even I don’t understand how men can bold enough to ask a complete stranger to get in the car with them. I wouldn’t even get in a car with a girl unless it was Beyonce lol

@Lost_In_Reverie@xanga -  LOL I agree because it’s not like he was trying to follow her out of the store so how does this post equate to stalking?

I get hit on a lot…no matter what I’m doing. I’m polite about it though. I just find it weird someone would be doing that to me. 

@Emilythefairy@xanga - ”(I am white but apparently i have enough junk in my trunk)”

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA NICE!!!!

Wow, you got it so rough, I mean how can you take so much of it? It seems like everywhere you go you attract men’s attention, after all it’s “happened to me so many times that I didn’t think twice about it”.

The attention of men that some women can only dream about, your blithely cast off as a creeper if not up to your standards. I guess you are cursed by your beautiful face and hot body. We call that being jaded. It’s only human nature. 

I find “I have a boyfriend” means absolutely fuck all to most men. It’s only when they meet my boyfriend, a 6’2″ ice-hockey player with an overprotective streak, that they back off

This!

Okay, I don’t do that. I usually just ignore them, pretend like I can’t hear them, pretend like they don’t exist. Planned ignoring works with most people unless they’re super creepers, then you just have to get out your handheld taser.

@im_not_honest_but_ur_intrsting@xanga - If a guy is blatantly more than 10 years older than me, and I look 16 at age 22 might I add, then it’s fucking creepy. I’m very forward with men that I want to attract (how I obtained my current bf).  I’m also a generally nice person, but that can be mistaken for weakness. Because of our small-statured, often weak bodies, we are easy prey for some men. I’d prefer not to take that chance if I can avoid it.

@readyfortheworld1@xanga - Right. I don’t see anything mentioned in the post that indicates that he was offensive, or acting inappropriately. Is it a crime for a guy to approach a girl in a public place and ask her out? And furthermore, is it necessary to gloat at his discomfort when you intimidate and shut him down? Seems bitchy to me.

ouch… =( i guess i’m not pretty enough to get hit on xP 

avoiding eye contact is THE rule of avoiding creepers. if only it didnt take me this long to find this out.

a creepy guy is equivalent to a crazy girl

@nihaokeisha@xanga - Yeah, you pretty much hit the nail on the head. The good looking guy is confident, the ugly guy is a creeper…..the good looking guy is hilarious, the ugly guy is corny…. if the good looking guy stares at you, he is mysterious….if the ugly guy stares at you, he is a stalker.

I would laugh because I had a friend that was really good looking…..and he had the WORST game in the world. He couldn’t talk to girls, and he would stare at them. And you know what? He’d get a lot of girls that way! haha, I would think to myself….WHA DA HECK? HOW does that ever work? If normal mortal men used his crappy tactic, the girl would be calling 911!

@wizexel22@xanga - I’ve seen so many great guys get insulted because they weren’t attractive when they would approach women. It’s so saddening how there are so many conceited women out there, and so many great guys that get the boot because of their looks. Just by how the writer explained each encounter she had, the less creepy they seemed and how cruel she appeared to be in my eyes.

I don’t think lying is very polite. 

A problem being is that many women post all over the internet that men are suppose to keep pursuing–that playing hard to get is the way to treat people you’d be interested in, so they encourage creepers to keep at it. 

I make sure my promise ring is visible, and pretend I’m married. Unfortunately, drunk men at work tend to be fine with overlooking it…sigh.

Ha-HAH! I am woman, hear me roar…… I love this.

People like you that take approaches you get for granted like this should have their appearances reflect your ugly hearts. Everyday, millions of women wrap their faces in burkas. Others stare at their bodies and cry, wishing they were thin. Even more pray they can get the attention you supposedly do and what do you do with it? You flaunt your vanity in some half assed blog with no substance or meaning. Maybe one day, for one reason or another, you will lose what you so carelessly posses. After that, it is my sincerest hope some meaning will come to your pitiful existence and you will gain the ability to write something that actually inspires confidence. Seeing as you’re the rule and not the exception with today’s society, I’m saddened to think that will only remain a pipe dream.