Apparently, there’s a whole science to this kissing business. If men are from Mars and women from Venus, then maybe that makes a difference in how and why we kiss?
According to studies conducted by Gallup, men are more likely then women to initiate tongue contact. Some theorize that this is because men have small amounts of testosterone in their saliva. By French-kissing women, they can pass some on women, thereby raising her levels of testosterone and increasing her receptivity and libido.
This coincides with previous research conducted by Susan Hughes, a psychologist from Albright College, that indicated men have more of a tendency to be sloppier, wetter kissers (um, I can definitely see that) because they “perceive a greater wetness or salivary exchange during kissing as an index of the female’s sexual arousal/receptivity, similar to the act of sexual intercourse.”
And–though this may come as no surprise–Gallup found that men often kiss for more ulterior motives. As in, to get lucky.
What do you think about these findings? Do you think that men and women kiss differently (and for different reasons)?
lily / 5148 posts
Of course men and women kiss for different reasons. It’s just not one thing.
dahlia / 2382 posts
I was reading about how kiss patterns tell things like these too. I love little scientific tidbits like these!
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Actually, I tend to do french kiss way more often than anyone else I kiss (not that they’re opposed). But I’m also a lot more manly then the regular girl.
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bahaha, i can believe this
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Well I see why he’s kissing sloppy but the sloppy kiss is the reason he’s a bad kisser, :p
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Yes.
sunflower / 296 posts
You know us men. When we are in the mood to kiss, there’s no half-steppin’.
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they do. that makes a lot of sense. the wet kisses used to bother me, but now i get how it can be sexy…. *shrugs*
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when I kiss a guy, it is because I adore him and expect to get a reaction of—>wow, did she just kiss me
then he falls in love with me
in essence, a poison ivy kiss to hypnotize him
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makes sense to me. men and women rarely do anything in the same way for the same reason.
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I usually french kiss first? I like kissing
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You mean “men are more likely THAN women to initiate tongue contact” right?…….
Sad.
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if you like this study, look up facial symmetry and attraction. its really interesting.
i can def, believe this..Really awesome post
rose / 786 posts
Haha. Funny story. When my boyfriend kissed me for the first time, I really wanted to french kiss him. But I held back. Then as the night went on we did french kiss. He told me later in our relationship that the only reason we got that far on the night of our first kiss was because he could tell that I wanted to…he was so right.
rose / 944 posts
Dude, I love french kissing. Does this mean I have a high libido?! Oh, wait…I do. I wonder what the actual statistics are that men’s libido is higher than women’s. I’d like to see if I’m as small a minority as it seems.
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geez, this is completely dead on, and makes so much sense!
magnolia / 1296 posts
my experience finds all of these to be true
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Haha, this is hilariously true. Excuse me whilst I get some ladies to mate-assess me, whilst I try and gain reconciliation and sexual favours from them *nods*.
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Hahahahaha, I usually kiss wetter then he does but he does initiate the tongue action! LoL! But I’m def not more masculine and my voice is very young sounding and high pitch. LOL!
Hmmm, very weird!
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I’m gonna start initiating tongue first a lot more often now hehe. But interesting facts. The final facts about why guys and girls kiss though was pretty obvious.
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Hmm…..
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@alwaysxloved@xanga - Me too. I thought “the only thing this tells me is that I’m more masculine in my snogging too.”
orchid / 140 posts
In Friends, the girls think kissing is just as important as sex, while the boys compare it to the opener for a band, it’s good, but they really want it to hurry up so they can get to the main event.
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Hmm.
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haha yes i find this to be true too.. this is all my ex bf wanted was to french kiss lol
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i kiss to let them know I care about them
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WOW THIS IS ALL TRUE.
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at first I thought my b/f was using me for his sexual thirst, and reconciliation and still kind of do, but I think he really likes me now because he cares a lot about me and I can tell by his actions/ behaviors towards me, I kind of do too. I kiss him because I like him, but sexual desire is a plus sometimes, I have to admit.~
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I guess you can also say that the nature of the relationship also changes the nature of kissing. When I was single, if I was kissing it usually meant that sex was about to happen. Now that I’m in a relationship, if I initiated sex for every time that I kiss my boyfriend, I’d never get anything else done.
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yes yes yes. as a woman who used to only kiss men and now only kisses women…this explains a lot. The two guys I’ve been serious have both been big tongue kissers. I did enjoy it. I have rarely, if ever, french kissed my two girl-friends. I do love kissing her though…And we kiss more often for kissing’s sake, not just as a prequel to sex. That’s not to say that we don’t get plenty of use out of our tongues
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This isn’t true on my end, but then individual examples cannot be used to address a population. Or at least, it needs to be a representative sample, which I am not.