I’m only able to share on this topic because of the anonymity of internet postings. Believe me, this is not something that I go around sharing with the general population. If you don’t want to read about something sexual, feel free to click away now, because this post is dealing with a “naughty” piercing.
In a recent post on Lovelyish, a blogger expressed her distaste for piercings, most of them pretty vanilla. This post is NOT a response to her, as I feel that everyone has the right to their opinions on attractiveness, and those of us with non-standard body modifications shouldn’t be upset when others don’t like them. That’s not why we get them. However, in my comment I mentioned that I had a few piercings, one of them a vertical clitoral hood piercing, and I was asked to write about it.
A little background is key here: Politically, I’m a libertarian, and many would call me extremely conservative. I am intensely private in real life. I’m married to a former soldier. I’m 25, and I got the piercing when I was 23, about 15 months ago. I’m a normal married girl, I don’t party hard, I don’t cheat, I’m not anything like you would expect for a person who would get her stuff pierced. I work in a construction company’s office, I’m close with my family, everything’s very normal.
I got it purely for myself and my husband. It wasn’t a fetish or anything he ever brought up or asked me to do. I heard about it from a couple of friends that had it and was intrigued. I did some research online and toyed with the possibility, and asked Mr. B if he would be into it. He researched it. LOTS of research, in fact. When I finally decided to do it, I did even more research to find a piercer in Germany, which is where we were living. I should mention the fact that he was in Iraq, on his second tour at this time and I had several months to heal before he came back.
That day, a close friend of mine drove me to the piercer, who was very professional and highly recommended for these types of piercings. She charged about 100 euro, I think, and I tipped her liberally. I don’t think I would have been comfortable having a man do it, by the way. But then, I also prefer a female gynecologist. I was, of course, extremely nervous, and asked her to first check if I had enough flesh to even get the piercing- some women don’t, but I was all good. The ring is tiny. It was, unquestionably, the piercing that hurt the least. I don’t have a lot, but my belly button, earlobes, and cartilage were far more painful. In fact, I felt nothing more than a slight pinch when it happened. It didn’t hurt at all. Well, not right then.
On the way home and for the rest of the day, I got a slight soreness between my legs. Very, very slight. It healed in one week – I’m not joking! I kept it clean using the Very Private intimate body wash. I was really careful with that sucker, of course, it would be awful if it were messed up. Anyway, the healing process went smoothly and I waited eagerly for my husband to get home. And on that note, I can say that I recommend it.
And now, what’s it like just day to day? Well, I don’t keep it in all the time. Sometimes I start feeling over-sensitive, and then I take it out for a week or two and put it back in- no big deal. Of course, I still make sure to keep everything very clean, but really, everyone should be doing that anyway. And yes, it still “works”. And since the tissue is so soft, if I decide to take it out permanently one day, I won’t have a gaping hole or anything- when it’s out, you couldn’t tell I’m pierced.
So yes, I recommend this piercing. It’s the only one I have that serves a real purpose. It’s an intimate thing that my husband and I enjoy. I don’t tell anyone- in real life- that I have it. If it’s something you’re interested in, be sure to do your research and find a piercer who is experienced and highly recommended for this type of piercing. And be sure to specify what it is you want- the hood is very different from the clitoris itself, which most piercers won’t do.
Would you ever get a piercing below the belt, so to speak?
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I have a vch piercing as well
loveee it! Ive had mine since October. Best $100 I ever spent haha
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i dont even have a ear piercing…
i am scared for the pain. LOL.
but this sounds very intimate…
maybe i’ll get one as a wedding present for my future husband!
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Piercing the actual clitoris?! OWIE.
But the one you have, I always imagined it’d feel uncomfortable when I cross my legs or something… ._. Not something I’d be into. xD
daisy / 568 posts
Wow I just couldn’t do it. I cringe just thinking about it. But kudos for you getting it! My cartilage didn’t hurt but my earlobes did. It hurt like hell! I know, I’m a baby.
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I wouldn’t even come close to getting my nipples pierced, but that’s just me
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Good on you for doing your research and answering a lot of questions in your post. I wouldn’t do it only because I don’t like piercings on myself that much and even if you said it didn’t hurt you, just imaging it makes me cringe anyway lol. It was an interesting read though.
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I’m glad you did your research. x___X some people don’t and they get freaked out. I don’t think i’d get that piercing myself, I’m not a big fan of it. But interesting post.
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i wanna get my nips pierced, but OMG the pain would kill me, id have to get both done at the same time. you are brave
lily / 5148 posts
Good for you =D I just have two piercings on my lobes and that is. I think that is enough for me. Glad that you researched it and made sure you both wanted it =D
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I had mine done for….5 years? But took it out a while ago, being pregnant made it feel uncomfortable to me. The hole is still there, though, and I check that occasionally, and I hope I can put it back in after the baby is born! I really loved it, it healed so quickly, and I’ve never had any problems, only good things. Thanks for sharing your story!
rose / 944 posts
I am intrigued, although I’m pretty sure I’m too chicken to get one, even if my tattoo and other piercings would have hurt more.
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“Sorry”, but to me that is just always going to scream ‘trashy’, no matter how hard you to attempt to convey otherwise.
hydrangea / 81 posts
I’m pretty open to piercings (so long as they’re not in the mouth), but this is something I’ve never considered. Seems like something I’d be scared to do. Then again, I was scared to do my nipple, and now I can’t wait to do the other.
@diannisforever@xanga - The pain isn’t that bad, IMO. It’s just afterwards, when you forget about it, and snag it on your shirt or something. Then it’s “ouch”.
ranunculus / 3457 posts
I want this one so badly but I don’t have enough flesh for it
daffodil / 1579 posts
Good post. There will always be closeminded people out there. A piercing does not make a person trashy *rolls eyes*
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most likely not. my libido is already high. I’ll probably go crazy with this extra stimulation reminder.
daisy / 598 posts
Huh so does it increase pleasure that much?? Is it just like having something nudging your clitoris constantly that makes sexual pleasure more sensitive and whatnot? I could never do it. It took me forever to do my ears lol I’m just a baby, I have a low pain tolerance. I’d be so paranoid about things shifting down there and any sort of tearing.
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@HeLLo_Bianca@xanga - Ugh, I rolled my eyes at that one chick, too.
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Being a guy and all I can’t really imagine how it’d feel, but I know guys get their scrotum and even the shaft of the penis pierced…and I don’t think I would ever even consider it hehe. I’m with that one girl up above and scared of the pain. Though a clit hood ring always seemed interesting to have on a partner, could be fun I guess. But dang…painful heh.
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I have very seriously considered it, I think I would love it, but I don’t know that I could actually go through with it.
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yeaaaa i just don’t think this piercing is a good idea. i’ve heard that if you leave it in for too long you can lose feeling there. plus i just wouldn’t want some person i don’t know all up in my business like that.
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Good for you for doing your research! I have nine ear piercings, but I don’t think I’d ever get a more “intimate” piercing, but, then again, never say never!
sunflower / 255 posts
sounds awesome! love your post
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@wien7@xanga - having a genital peircing is about as “trashy” as using a sex toy. both are only viewable in a private setting. i actually think the more visible piercings are the “trashy” peircings (i.e. belly button ring, tongue ring, etc.).
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Neverrr. My belly button is the lowest I would go..and I haven’t even done that yet haha.
sunflower / 334 posts
not that anonymous since it shows to the right who posted it! lol
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@xxSHhHxxBExxQUiETxx@xanga - nahhh, with a vertical clit hood, the jewelry goes through the skin directly above the clitoris.
But some people do get their actual clit pierced.
I think I’d die….
magnolia / 1357 posts
I would love to someday have a piercing like this one … but even though I have a very high pain tolerance (which actually worries my doctor), I am too damn scared of needles.
I’m glad you did your research and that you and your husband are enjoying it, though
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@sweetboxc00kie@xanga - Well if you say so, then forgive me, it must not be trashy in the slightest. Pft, please, don’t be a child. I didn’t address you with my comment, and don’t make the mistake of thinking I want to know what you have to say to me again. It’s trashy – it is. Done.
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@wien7@xanga - you need a sex life. it would make you a happier person. <3
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@sweetboxc00kie@xanga - Hahahaha. That’s one of the stupidest comments I’ve ever read on Xanga (and that’s obviously saying alot) that I won’t even dignify it with anything other than the following piece of advice: perhaps you should look into being a little bit less of a waste of flesh and cheap whore, and refrain from making ridiculous assumptions about other people’s lives.
Don’t bother replying as there’s no way that I’ll waste another second of life addressing you about anything.
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You payed WAY too much for that piercing. LOL
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Wow this post kinda made my change my ways about this piercing. I know a girl who has it pierced and Ive heard stories about her. She made it sound so nasty and dirty. I dont think I will ever consider getting it done but now I know that its not so icky.
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Interesting. How does it work exactly? I’d google it but as I’m on a public computer and that would probably be frowned upon.
I was raised uber conservative but I’ve never though piercings were trashy. This one is so private, like you said, unless you told someone, no one in your life aside from your hubby would even know about it.
Glad you did your research! I’m sure if not done right it could really cause problems.
Thanks for sharing!
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Like everybody else said, good job doing extensive research first
My boyfriend is a body piercer and girls have come in asking for a vch piercing in like ten different ways when they actually want something different. There’s sooo much that goes into planning a piercing like that, so I’m glad you looked for a professional who’s had a ton of experience in that area.
@wien7@xanga - How the fuck is that ‘trashy’ if nobody is going to even know it’s there except her husband? Dumbass.
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I’m intrigued, although I think this is one I would balk at getting, only because I have visions of doing something, and not paying attention and having it torn. While it’s a risk I would run with any other piercing {I’m a girl that likes my body mod :p} That is something I’m just a little bit to attached too. You post however was Very informative, you answered any questions I would have thought to ask, and then some Kudo’s and such things ^^
@wien7@xanga - Such a peircing can be trashy If the girl with it done is trashy. I’d bet money that if you ran into the author on the street you wouldn’t be able to guess, and wouldn’t get a trashy vibe XD
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@raspbxrrryjam@xanga - In America you should never pay LESS than $100 for a piercing like that. There’s a lot of risk involved if you have a piercer who isn’t experienced, and if you’re going to get a piercing in a sensitive spot like the nipples or genitals, you should always ask for a portfolio and ask about his/her experience in those areas.
Cheap work isn’t good and good work isn’t cheap.
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@IWasAnIsland@xanga - 100 euro is more than 100usd.
And I’m not sure why you’re lecturing me about asking for portfolios and piercer experience… I have two genital piercings… and both nipples double pierced… Pretty sure I understand what to look for in someone who does that type of piercing.
Believe it or not… there are clean, reputable shops with very talented piercers… who charge reasonable prices. Unfortunately… the norm is that shops charge ridiculous prices like that whether their piercers are skilled or not. As a result… somehow price is now associated with quality even though this is not the case.The cost of materials for a piercing is less than $5.You really think that $95 (or more in the case of this post) is a reasonable price for labor for something that takes 60 seconds?Good work doesn’t have to be cheap… but it shouldn’t involve you getting completely ripped off.
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@diannisforever@xanga - it’s really not bad. my helix piercing hurt more than my nipple.
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Aww, I smiled when I saw this post! Yes, I have a vertical hood piercing. I’ve had it for.. 3 1/2 years. I absolutely LOVE it and never had a problem – other than in the first week of having it, I had orgasms constantly at work (riding race horses) lmao. But it has been awesome for me, I love it! Most guys I know think it means I’m crazy kinky or a slut or whatever, but it doesn’t mean that. I’ve seen that probably 60-75% of men like when a girl has it, but the rest don’t. I’ve met some that don’t like it at all, which is fine – it’s for me not them. I used to keep it SUPER secret and only my sexual partners ever knew about it, but over the years it’s become a pretty open subject. The majority of my family, friends, coworkers, etc. know about it. No big deal.
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I would not have the courage to do so because my threshold of pain is super low. I wanted a belly piercing for years and I haven’t got the courage to do so yet.
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hmm…I was throwing around the idea in my mind. I’m sure I have enough skin.
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I’m not sure if I’d ever get one. Knowing me, I might consider it at some point because I’ve considered getting like every other piercing haha.
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oooh this does sound kinda good. maybe later on … teehee
peony / 3 posts
Like. I’m going to start researching this too (as another wife of a former military guy
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hydrangea / 56 posts
I’m kicking myself for not getting mine done months ago. there are no safe piercing places around here, I have to wait to get back to virginia beach to get anything done, and money. I need money.
sunflower / 432 posts
I would never do that, but that’s just me.
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This was super informative thanks! I really admire not only your motivation behind the piercing but how willing you were to share
good post
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I cringe at the thought of having a piercing so close to such a sensitive spot!
sunflower / 397 posts
Um so you made a post to talk about how you got a vag piercing to increase pleasure in your sex life and that you don’t care what people think about it? Good for you, pointless post in my opinion, and a little TMI…
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What’s the point to that?
sunflower / 337 posts
I’m amazed! This is not something I would do, not because I think it’s wrong but because I’m a wimp. ._. Good for you for doing research though, I wish I had the guts to get a piercing down there! When I got my ears pierced, I was scared to death hahaha
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I’ve wanted to get one but I am afraid of losing sensation down there…
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haha yeah I would get it, but i don’t know much tattoo/piercing shops where i am right now(oh college…)
my sister got it while she was in college, and she still has it. It seriously is small(i’ve seen hers, isn’t like SHABAM HERE I AM!) and she kept in in during her pregnancy and during birth, and it didn’t bother her at all.
so tempted! ! !
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@SentimentalDoll@xanga - Um, she said at the beginning what it was about. Don’t read the article if you’re not interested in that kind of thing.
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Good for you for [seemingly] doing it for the right reasons:)
I, on the other hand, could never, and would never, do it.
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I’ve thought about it for a long time, ever since my college days, which ended about 4 years ago this year. I’d never get my actual clit pierced, but the hood? Possibly. I’d like to do my own research too, I’d not want my lady parts to lose sensitivity, which is what I’m most afraid of.
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Awesome and informative post. I think it’s funny when people assume that pierced/tattooed/modded people are somehow “freakier” than other people. I may not look vanilla, but family is incredibly important to me, so is monogamy, and other “conservative” stuff. I wish I could rec this a million times.
magnolia / 1369 posts
I think the closest I got to an “alternative” piercing was getting my nipples done. It was fun but my body rejects piercings.
I’ve thought about getting my hood pierced but like I said, my body rejects them. So I don’t see a point in spending so much money only to have it last a week or two.
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Hrm.. interesting. I have the 2 most common piercings ever – earlobes. =D I would actually consider getting cartilage piercings, but I’ve heard it hurts like hell and I’m poor right now soo.. probably not.
I just had to comment though, because when imagining having the type of piercing you got, I thought of how sometimes when i sit I just grind my heel into that area without realizing it… it would be like ow. I’m talking nonsense. x.x
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Gross. Keep your pants on around me. LOL
A MAJOR turn off.
sunflower / 370 posts
@Nipsyyy@xanga - I love mine too.
@xxSHhHxxBExxQUiETxx@xanga - In my personal experience, I’ve never felt uncomfortable when crossing my legs or anything. Of course every woman is built differently, but for me, it’s never been a problem.
@prettykay04@xanga - My husband loves it.
@twenty_twenty_surgery@datingish - LOL, I was the exact opposite, my cartilage hurt so badly that I was sick to my stomach. This one didn’t hurt at all, so I was pleasantly surprised.
@TequilaKisses@xanga - Me neither! It probably sounds weird, but the nipples seem like they would hurt A LOT.
@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - I’m glad you liked the post. The piercing isn’t for everyone!
@MyFaire@xanga - Thank you! I’m glad you found it interesting to read about.
@diannisforever@xanga - Haha, I’m not that brave- I would have been too afraid of the pain if I hadn’t known other people who had done it and told me what it was like.
@Hinase@xanga - Oh yeah, I was definitely NOT going into that unprepared! And especially not if my husband wouldn’t like it, how nonsensical would that be?
@radicalsounds@xanga - I’m glad you brought that up. I’ve been wondering how it will do when we decide to have children. I hope you can get it back in!
@Wait_by_Moonlight@xanga - It’s definitely not for everybody. My tattoo did hurt a lot more, and the other piercings as well, but that area is something you really don’t want to mess up!
@wien7@xanga - I always thought my behavior was what determined if I was trashy or not. If I’m polite, kind, intelligent, a modest dresser and I don’t show it to anyone except my husband, am I still trashy? I respect your right to not like or approve of my piercing, but if you met me in public, you would never guess that I have it.
@LyricallyCharged@xanga - I’m the opposite- I would be scared to do my nipple! I think I’m done with piercings, because there aren’t any more I’m interested in, but I hope you enjoyed the post anyway.
@MoonFaeEyryan@xanga - Awww that sucks. I would have hated to prepare myself and then find out I couldn’t get it.
@HeLLo_Bianca@xanga - Thank you.
I’m not worried about it. Now, if my husband thought it was trashy, that’d be something to be worried about, but people on the internet don’t bother me.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Haha, it would probably be dangerous on you!
@rabbitsarecool14@xanga - The biggest change I noticed is that I get aroused faster and climax more easily. At first, you do feel turned on all the time, but that settles down quickly. Basically, it’s just a lot of fun.
@airbornerose@xanga - It’s all good, she doesn’t have to get one. ;D
@JusticeCho@xanga - Male genital piercings do look like they would hurt- a lot. I wouldn’t want my husband to get one, because I haven’t heard that they enhance pleasure much, like a VCH does for women. Mine didn’t hurt, and I know the hubs enjoys it.
@justXforXyou_beautiful@xanga - It’s definitely something that takes a lot of deep breaths to go through with! I was so nervous.
@hunger_isbeautifulxx@xanga - It’s not for everyone, for sure.
@individually_surveys@xanga - LOL, that’s for sure- up until I got it, I was absolutely certain that I would back off and not go through with it.
@sassij - Thank you!
@sweetboxc00kie@xanga - I agree with you, I do tend to think of it as a sex toy.
@xSerendipity713x@xanga - My belly button was the most painful one, surprisingly. But I wouldn’t ever encourage someone to get it if they didn’t want it.
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@Thumper49047@xanga - I said, “the anonymity of internet postings”. I was referring to how we tend to spill more on the internet because no one can be certain that we are who we say we are.
@not___enough@xanga - Yeah, I wouldn’t ever get the actual clit done. Ouch.
@not3000@xanga - Me too.
@raspbxrrryjam@xanga - If I can afford it and I got a great service, I’m okay with how much I spent. In any case, I was in rural Germany, and an upscale tattoo and piercing shop can charge what they want, because they know that they are the best in the area.
@CoolXwhip@xanga - I think it depends on the person. It’s certainly never seemed icky to me.
@Rorslover@xanga - Basically, they pierce the flesh over your clitoris in a vertical line. The ring looks like a teeny, tiny belly button ring, it’s got the same shape. I’m also very, very conservative and believe me, NOBODY sees this thing but hubby! But that makes it more special, since nobody else knows about it.
@IWasAnIsland@xanga - Man, I even brought in a picture! It surprises me that people would come in and not know exactly what they want- that could be messed up so easily! Thank you for the support.
@xKateElizabethx@xanga - LOL, I think I will be keeping this one a secret! But I’m glad that you’re enjoying yours as well. That’s hilarious about the orgasms on horseback- I was a bank teller at the time, so no such fun for me!
@Candilicious_Meanie@xanga - It was pretty nerve-wracking- sometimes I’m still surprised that I went through with it!
@deemure@xanga - I’ve had nothing but good experiences with it, but I had a great piercer. Experience is key.
@yearswithouttears@xanga - That’s so funny! What’s weird is that I’ve never wanted any other piercings- only my ears and belly button. *shrugs* What can you do?
@sastsuki@xanga - LOL, it’s great, just make sure you get a great piercer.
@shallowhal - You know, I missed so much time with him, I guess maybe I wanted to make the remaining years extra special…
@callist0@xanga - Definitely wait! It’s so worth it to have a professional.
@thisiswhereItellyoueverything@xanga - It’s not for everybody.
@islandmonkeylover@xanga - Thank you for the compliments.
@Problematique120@xanga - It’s not something everybody should get.
@SentimentalDoll@xanga - Well, no, I made the post because Jessica suggested that it might be an interesting topic for other Lovelyish readers, and from the number of views and comments, I would say it is. You’re entitled to your opinion, but the title made it clear what the post was about, and I wrote a warning in the first paragraph. The point was to entertain and interest, and I think it did for most people.
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@Japanesenightpurplegeisha@xanga - The point is to increase sexual stimulation.
@meta_k@xanga - I was so nervous that I was shaking- I’m still not sure how I managed to walk in there! But I’m glad I did.
@firetyger@xanga - I don’t know a lot of people with it, but I haven’t heard of that happening except in the case of an incorrectly placed piercing.
@ohmyits_erin@xanga - I’m glad to hear she was able to keep it in during pregnancy and birth- that’s something I’ve heard mixed reports about. It is so incredibly tiny, that was one of the things that convinced me to get it. If it were big, I think I would have been too scared!
@heyfirefly@xanga - It’s not for everybody.
@haloed@xanga - I’ve never had a problem with that, but a good piercer is key.
@TheInappropriateSkirt@xanga - Thanks! I’m very conservative as well, and I probably look the part- people who know me would be shocked to hear about this!
@Yukihimekumiko@xanga - Cartilage did hurt like hell. This one was much less painful, which was surprising.
@MangoWOW@xanga - Yeah, there wouldn’t be a point to that. *shrugs* Every body is different.
@Bricker59@xanga - I didn’t get it to show you.
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@MrsJenBean@xanga - Oh, okay. Whatever floats your boat. There are other ways for sexual stimulation that doesn’t involve piercing there. But that’s just me, whatever makes you feel good.
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@MrsJenBean@xanga - Upscale shops aren’t necessarily the best in the area. Just more popular.
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but what does it feel like during sex?
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i’m pretty (maybe even very) conservative, and i don’t think this is trashy at all. now if you were sleeping around with lots of people and got it and talked about it publicly – that would be trashy. as a private thing between you and your husband? that’s about as opposite of trashy as you can get. like @sweetboxc00kie@xangasaid, a belly button piercing that you get to show off to the public when wearing a short shirt or bikini iswaaaaaay more trashy.
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loves it.
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i have mine done also. i got it done a couple months ago. my boyfriends in afghanistan so i figured it would be the best time. i have only told him, and one of my best friends. i’m not the type to go tell everyone, like i’ve seen some girls do. and like yourself, it was specifically for my boyfriend and i. i’m happy i got it done.
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@Drinktillwespew@xanga - It’s difficult to describe. You can’t feel the ring (unless something is pulling on it), but you are definitely more sensitive. You get more pressure on your clitoris, in a very good way. I was never a multi-orgasmer before, but I am now.
I’m sorry I’m not being more specific… I guess the main difference for me was that before, I needed specific kinds of touches and amounts of pressure to become aroused, but now, just about any way he touches me works.
@porcelain_alice@xanga - That’s what I’m thinking. I dress very modestly, so I have a hard time thinking that it’s trashy. Sure, if I got it and then showed people- I’m not even sure how I would go about that- but yeah. that would be bad!
@KBBxo@xanga - Me too!
@thinparadise_x@xanga - I bet! I’m so glad I did mine during a deployment also. It’s the best time, really.