How do you get over first date jitters? I’m going on a date tonight with a guy that i literally didnt get more then 5 minutes of conversation in with before we exchanged numbers and I had to run. There was an instant connection and we have texted and what not since meeting a week ago, but tonight we are going for a drink. (BTW, ladies – He has the sexiest Irish accent ever!)
I’m nervous – like really nervous.
I guess this isn’t my typical first date, where I either know his friends or hung around him all night before something clicked. It was a quick meeting and then texting and chatting from there.
Here are somethings I’m trying to do to ease my nervousness:
1. Remind myself it’s not all about if he likes me, it’s about me liking him too!
2. Remember that if he has a hot accent, so do I! I am from Canada (eh?) .
3. Call my friends for a quick pep talk. My girlfriends and I always do this, so we walk in feeling great and looking confident.
And then I have rules that I follow on a first date:
1. No more then 2 drinks. How are you suppose to know if you like someone if you get intoxicated on your date? And, you also don’t look your best after downing a few.
2. Watch the food you eat – no garlic, no messy pasta, no chicken wings. Also no salad with light dressing on the side – you don’t want to look too high maintenance! You can always work off those extra calories tomorrow at the gym.
3. No sex on the first date if you like him. I strongly believe in if you want things to continue, you need some standards. If you sleep with him on the first date, there will be thoughts that run through his head. Make him wait. But heck! If you really don’t want to continue seeing this character but like his bod, then do what you need to do!
Any other suggestions? The nervousness is creeping up already!
guest
These are pretty good tips
GOOD LUCK!
guest
Just keep reminding yourself that the most likely worst-case scenario is that you two just don’t click. After an hour or two of awkwardness or boring conversation, you’ll both be free to move on with your lives with no hard feelings. And if things REALLY go downhill, at least you’ll have a great story to tell your friends!
guest
I just be myself and if he can’t accept me exactly the way I am, he’s not right for me. My first “date” with my ex (not our official first, but it was the first meal we had together in person) was at a Buffalo Wild Wings. We ate finger food and I didn’t dress up at all. It just felt right. I figure if you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with someone, being phony on the first date isn’t going to get you very far except maybe in deeper trouble or with a tinge of regret (what if I didn’t act this way?).
dahlia / 2382 posts
I agree with all except the food part. You dont want to order too expensive yet you dont want make him look cheap. I go mid-range & eat what I like. We’re all human. Eating onions or garlic wont make your breath like foghorn wailing bad & if it’s MY first date, he’s not getting that close to be smelling my breath. LOL
guest
I wouldn’t worry that much about what you order. If somebody is going to judge me for getting a certain type of salad dressing, I probably wouldn’t last long with him anyway. Although I do understand not ordering super-expensive foods if he’s paying – that’s just polite. I try to see what he orders (or ask, “so what are you planning on getting?”) and aim for something in a similar price range.
But just be yourself! I know it sounds stupid, but you really won’t want to be with a person if you’re always having to pretend to be something you’re not!
guest
Interesting. Thanks for sharing.
guest
M’kay, now i’m fully convinced Datingish has died. Lol.
Good article, though. I would also say make a huge effort to have a phone conversation before a date because people come off way different texting than they do when they actually have to use their voice & words & think on the spot. With texting it’s so easy to say the perfect things.
peony / 2 posts
On a first date…
1. Don’t mention that you’re imagining what your date would look like with no skin on; some things shouldn’t be disclosed until date number two.
2. Don’t say the word “bitch” after every sentence. Bitch.
3. Never tell your date that you used to sleep with his Dad, especially if your date is old enough to be your son.
4. Never steal your date’s car; CCTV always catches up with you.
5. Don’t stick your chewing gum to your dates head, people in the bar might get jealous, especially those with no heads.
6. Keep health tips like…
“Never dip your willy into a bucket of HIV infected blood”
to yourself. Whilst this is good advise, your date may not be a legitimate male and therefore the reference to certain appendages could be unwarranted and make him feel self conscious.
7. Refrain from saying that you do things because God tells you to, especially after going to the bar or to the toilet. Bitch.
8. Don’t get shitfaced and projectile vomit on your dates face.
9. Don’t have sex on the first date in the back of his car at a dogging site with the windows open.
10. Definitely moan about things being shit. Men love women who complain non stop about random things and can be often heard saying “I wish there were more women who moan about crap”.
11. Break awkward silences by telling your date you love him. Even though you’ve just met this is a really nice thing to say.
12. Flirt with everyone in sight, make your date jealous, drive him wild! Gyrate against a table or chair, improvise!
13. Bring some hallucinatory drugs and slip them into your dates drink if he gets a bit dull, fuck it, dull people deserved to be drugged.
14. Be confident. Men love a confident woman. Tell your date you think you’re too good for him.
15. Always remember, a trip to the emergency room will only bring you closer.
Follow these tips…you can thank me at the wedding ladies!!
rose / 903 posts
Mmmm. Irish accents. LOCK HIM DOWN.
sunflower / 370 posts
My best advice is this: Stop texting! Get used to actually talking with people. You won’t be nervous anymore.
Also, leave it up to him to make all the first moves: don’t call him, let him call you, let him ask you out, etc. Trust me. It works.
guest
@andnowwhatmiami - HAHAHAHA solid.
peony / 2 posts
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