Lovelyish

That’s a stupid question. Of course, they’re beautiful. 

I think that’s some bullshit. beauty comes in every color. and I’m not just saying that because that’s the pc thing to say. I think there are people who come in beautiful creamy pale colors, medium caramel colors and rich beautiful brown chocolate colors. 

gorgeous. regardless of shades.

The title of this post is misleading.  Very different than the point the OP makes.

That being said, there is a lot of white privilege in the world.  People who are lighter-skinned are often treated better because they are white.  They are held up as the standard of beauty.  That does NOT make them more beautiful.  It makes them more privileged, and it seems to me that the OP is unmasking this problem.  Not only that, but the OP also handles the idea of “exoticness” as being another problematic thing women of color deal with.  Very well done. 

All colors are beautiful.  Racism/privilege are ugly, but gorgeous is gorgeous. 

interesting post! i feel the same way .. i come from a south-asian background and they generally have some twisted views on colors .. and i am a bit darker than the rest .. sometimes i feel if i was 3 shades lighter, people would look at me differently .. its totally disgusting .. thats why i always tell myself i will find someone who thinks im beautiful exactly the way i am

All colors are beautiful! That guy was a real douche and don’t let him get to you!

As for me I’ve always accepted my skin color and the body and shape that I have. Yeah I used to be a little insecure about my body, ethnicity, when I was alot younger. But I then realized that this is the body that I have. And if I can’t accept me for who I am then, who will? We need to find guys that will look beyond the color, and any man who is just seeing your skin color is not worth your time.

You are beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

@movealongnow@xanga - to each their own. It is what it is.

I feel bad for staring sometimes. I was at target the other day, and this woman had dark skin (however I couldn’t tell what her ethnicity was) but OMG, I was staring at her, she was so pretty, enchanting actually. Thankfully, she walked past me without realizing (or acknowledging anyway) that I was oogling over her. Seriously, some people on this earth really just need to add to the gene pool, and she was one of them.

People of any color can be good looking, I just don’t find people of African descent attractive. Nothing wrong with that skin color, but the nappy hair really gets to me.

My parents who grew up in South Asia believe that the darker you are the more unattractive you are. There are days where I’m taking a walk outside in the sun and my dad says to come inside otherwise “nobody will marry me”. My skin dark as it is, tans easily, so God forbid I step out in the sunlight. Sigh.

But I also have to agree. Beauty exists everywhere. And I’m not saying that to make dark-skinned people feel better but it’s true. These features make us who we are… And in the end, your friend was right. People have to see you for who YOU are, not what skin you’re made of.

@TheSecretLifeOfPandas@xanga - Same.

 And it’s not the PC shit either. I really do believe that. There are some beautiful dark skinned women. I wish I was as beautiful as them. I’m so pasty pale. Lol

you forgot to mention iman and tyra banks

of course there are dark skinned women that are gorgeous

@ntancin@xanga - Iman is the epitome of beauty and class.

@arenfro@xanga - Your reference to white privilege made me smile, only because I have a hard time trying to explain to people that it is very much so a relevant issue.

To the OP, I sincerely believe that people of all skin-tones can be beautiful, and I agree with your friend. I would never date a guy who only sees me for my skin color or ethnicity. I really don’t like being fetishized, and would rather be treated as an individual.

Growing up, I did get some prejudicial comments from people because I was darker than my sister. I remember once when I was younger, some kid told my sister that she could pass of as Middle Eastern or Hispanic, but that I definitely looked Indian. I remember being perplexed because I knew it was supposed to be an insult, but not really how since we are Indian. -_-

I think it depends on the person’s preferences. There’s a light skinned majority so maybe it just leads to a preference for whiter skin IN GENERAL, however, I’ve always found very dark skin to be captivatingly beautiful.
It’s weird, too, because I have typically preferred caucasian features, but have always liked dark skin. It’s all a personal preference, I think.

@Sirius_Fan_Girl@xanga - I don’t really think there is a light-skin majority, I think there is a disparity between the skin tones that are shown in the media which further enforces an idea that lighter = better, more normal.

i love dark skin but to each his own . my friend is Asian and her parents have this thing about “dark skin” even though she’s tan . apparently the darker you are the less pretty you are and i think this applies throughout the world i’m not down with the ignorance movement but i love this post.

I’ve had issues being incredibly light-skinned. I have alabaster/porcelain skin. I used to get called Casper and pasty and all kinds of other unfortunate names. Luckily, I found a man who tells me that my porcelain skin is perfect- especially with my “pale blue ocean eyes” and “fiery red hair”. It helps a lot to have someone remind you that THEY love your skin because it’s part of you – not who you are.

i’ve never had anyone tell me that i’m too dark to look good, but i have seen how dark, dark skinned women get shit for being their shade. it sucks balls. no one should have to go through that. we are all beautiful, regardless of shade, color, whatever. 

God made all human in the colors of the rainbow. Everybody has a feature thats beautiful about themselves. 

Oprah is NOT beautiful— she’s just rich. 

I just talked to my beau about this the other day after seeing <table cellspacing=”0″ cellpadding=”0″ border=”0″><tbody><tr><td valign=”top”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ym4XtxCZ88 
I was like, “does the world really look at us like this?” But, I guess they do. I love who I am and am usually pretty confident about myself… But this video brought me down. 
Who would be comfortable with marrying me knowing that others think this way about me (even if they’ve never met me?) And, they’ll think the same thing about my children… 
He loves me. I love him. But, what are people thinking when he introduces me as his wife?
I am beautiful to me. Absolutely stunning, in fact. But, what am I to others? They see color and not a fellow human being. It creates a weird feeling in the pit of my stomach. 

im light skin i cant relate so readily, nut i recognize the struggle. and i have had guys tell me they like light skinned girls better. i always got offended by that because all shade are still black but they create division between light and dark. i  think your struggle is more unique because youre spanish and typically spanish people are light skinned. when i piture spanish tanish-yellowish complexion comes to mind so he had slight reason to assume. as with any other physical feature, those who dont have the ones america idolizes might struggle in dating. overweight people struggle, short-haired women, tall women…i never thought either complexion was prettier than the other but the media did. i guess since i didnt watch much TV or read magazines. a long history can explain this if i felt like tying it…

“I even considered bleaching my skin to give it that beautiful look.”

Oh, girl, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER do this. Never. Dark is beautiful; light is beautiful. I am the goddamn whitest girl who ever lived, & I used to worry about it a lot – people always gave me crap for it, especially in the summer, telling me I should go tanning if I wanted to stop looking so pasty/see-through/disgusting.

I caved. I went tanning twice – & haaaaated it. And I burned, besides! Darker skin isn’t for me – it’s just not what my body does or wants or needs. And you know what? I’m finally OK with that. I am of Russian & European Jewish descent; I was MADE to be white as a sheet with dark hair. And I live in Ohio! Why on earth would I need to be tan 10 months out of the year when the weather is atrocious?

Love who you are. The more you do, the more everyone else will. It’s not skin color that’s unattractive; it’s a lack of confidence. Own it, love it, embrace it, enjoy it. <3

they sure are not unattractive. psh.

Just remember that being comparatively pale is only attractive in Asian countries… in America it’s definitely not desirable compared to glowing tanned skin. I can’t say for sure about Europe. I have definitely felt less than attractive at the beach when I’m all pale and without a tan.

I had that struggle when I was in elementary school. I was tortured because I was the darkest person in class. It went on for a while. People called me “Char night” instead of “Chardae” and I still remember it. I’ve come to terms with my beauty and I wouldn’t trade my dark skin for the world. Never bleach your skin girl it’s apart of what makes you beautiful.

There’s this girl in one of my classes who is absolutely gorgeous. She has incredibly dark skin. Beauty comes in all shades. 

I have to admit though, I used to have issues with my skin color. My grandmother is light-skinned and she used to try everything she could to “lighten me up a bit.” Clearly, it hasn’t worked. But I’m comfortable in my skin now.

One of my really good friends has dark skin and she’s one of the most beautiful girls I know… I really do think they’re gorgeous.

When looking at someone’s outer beauty, I don’t pay attention to skin color. I had a class with a lot of black people and they were talking about how people within their own race weren’t even attracted to them because they were darker or lighter. People used to make fun of me because of how pale I am but now that I’m older I am starting to appreciate my skin tone more.

A lot of guys do prefer lighter skin (I’m pretty tan). There are tons of guys out there who like dark skin too though. Sometimes it’s just preference and you can’t do anything about it. However, you should never change yourself, there are guys out there who like you for you

ive heard horror stories from people but that may be from where they live. Where i lived i was treated nicely. and i havent been called ugly ever, well not to my face. but of course you get the ignorant comment here to there… but i think any skin tone is beautiful if its nice smooth and even.

To answer this question, take GOOD look at how often you see blond hair and blue eyes in the media compaired to ANY other combination. How many readers date outside their race? Ill never forget a day I worked at Mickey Ds they had two miniture dolls for happymeals, one ‘caucasion’ the other ‘african american’. I purposely handed out the wrong dolls to see who would take issue. Then I gave them out correctly. One little girl (white) marched up to the counter and asked for a doll that looked like me. (A Black woman). Placing her Blond haired blue eyed doll on the counter while waitng for her new brown doll. I remember when we didnt have that choice.

im mixed black and white i feel like i cant belong with either sides, it kinda sucks

This is the usual case I think. Regardless in America or Asia, people always regard fair skin as beautiful. Beauty should not be just on the surface like the color of your skin.

“Her beauty cannot be measured with standards of a colonized mind. Darker than blue darker than her blackness .Unblemished her features are broad and striking . She cradles his body with her large hands Her fingers stretch endlessly into his world of pain Her caresses warm and penetrating she loves the black boy. His existence predestined to be one of no remorse, no compassion nor is it clouded with the delusion of equality . But the love he gives (a doxology for her) He praises and cares for her,adores what he can never be .There’s such purity in a love that is essential to the loving of one’s self “

Above poem by Michelle Ndegeocello

Ive always wanted a dark skinned friend though Inever seem to have living in this place =/  n’ Me& My friend thinks that dark skinned womans &mans are SEXYY & they’r really beautiful . I really mean it. =)

Clearly you’ve never walked through Glasgow on a Friday night. Almost every white girl out there has self-tanned herself into the Hispanic regions, that is if they apply the stuff correctly. If not, I get a great laugh out of them hugging their friends and getting covered in orange sludge. So everyone here is trying to be like you.

those 2 in the picture are gorgeous! i find dark skinned women to be very beautiful.

How’s that saying go? “The darker the berry…”

Now ‘n days, most of the prejudiced comes from religions/races rather than the color of skin. Unfortunately racism still exists everywhere, but as far as ethnicity and skin color go, I believe everyone is truly beautiful, and it’s an accepted fact. Don’t let two ignorant guys let you believe anything else. Everyone can be beautiful regardless of skin tone, weight, height, etc. if they let the beauty shine. I’ve learned that trying to grow out of my self conscious days. I’ve grown up the past 21 years with the prettiest, light skinned, perfect girl as my best friend, and yes she gets attention and attraction in a heart beat, When I’m with her, I feel invisible. But when did we start to become so hard on ourselves? When did we decide that looks/skin tone/features is going to be the deciding factor on if we are beautiful or not? I’m sure you’ve heard this many times, but it all comes from within. If you believe your beautiful on the outside, then not even the color of your skin stop you from being beautiful. Trust me it works. You are beautiful. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Call it cliche, but I call it the truth.

I think there is something about every one that they don’t like and would like to change. What other people prefer as attractive is just their choice, and you can’t let yourself be too bothered by it. Some people prefer lighter skinned women, and that’s not a crime. Some people prefer darker skinned women, and that’s okay too. It does hurt when someone doesn’t find you attractive because of something that you can’t change about yourself, but it does happen to everyone.

I love dark skinned people, they’re just sooo beautiful, esspecially the almost black skin colour thats just looks incredible.

But thats not to say i don’t like pale skin either, hell it all depends on the person. Anyone deciding simply down to skin colour is literally the definition of shallow, and the very thought of it saddens me.

Honestly?  I’m not attracted to very dark complexions (Like Gabourey Sidibey, just using her as an example of complexion, not unattractiveness).  Some women/men are exceptions but as for the majority?  Not so much.

@The_Tudor_Rose@xanga - Well classy post from you. I wish everyone was like you

@isipstarbucks@xanga - To me mixed people are a representation of what the world should’ve been like long time ago & that’s the integration of all races in one society where as we’re defined as the human race. So in other words, labels should have never been an issue because God designed us all to be one & that’s why I think mixed people should never feel out of place because of the uneducated society we live in.

Every culture and every person is going to have there own definition of beauty. It may not stand for others, but to me, skin color is about as important as hair color. For some people it can be a strong defining factor, and for others it simply adds to their looks.

There’s been so many times I’ve flipped through magazines and wondered if I would be as pretty as Katy Perry if I could be more pale, or wondered if I would be as stunning as Halle Berry if I could be darker.

But at the end of the day, skin color is just one facet of a woman’s beauty. There is no color better or worse than others, it’s all unique to each woman.

I think its in the structure of the face not the color. I see beautiful women of all colors all the time. I don’t think its about color. Tho i do see there is often a misconception about African American women and the way they act. I’ve seen it many time but other colored women act annoying to. Just remember men like class, long hair curly or straight, and confidence but not cockiness . 

i shouldnt even be talking since im asian (no offense) but…

im confused.  doesnt america/americans love dark skin??? or they wouldnt be tanning so much and trying to go for the dark look  

nothing wrong with being dark skinned though.  its only color.  dont forget the body, hair, clothes, makeup, overall appearance and of course character/personality.  things people should actually focus on.

Never change who you are just so everyone can say you are beautiful, because you truly are beautiful in your own way. Embrace your different type of beauty and never try to fit in with the other people. If you think people only compliment “lighter” people then you’re wrong. You are unique and when someone says “you’re beautiful” you will know they mean it. Only special people see the unique beauty; others just go for the “normal.” Those are the type of people you know are not worth your time. :] <3

@arenfro@xanga - Agreed, I was offended until I read the actual text. Nice one lovelyish… :/

Of course dark skinned women aren’t unattractive.
In fact, my girlfriend is dark skinned.

i didn’t even read the post, everyone is gorgeous/beautiful/pretty no matter what the skin pigment is.

@The_Tudor_Rose@xanga - Women with really rich dark skin and a clear complexition, they glow, it’s gorgeous. Everyone is beautiful. Gah, that sounded so fucking fake. But, it’s true. Let’s all just agree on that, yeah? For once.

erm@ everyone saying that white girls tan just to become black…

We don’t tan to “become black” we tan to look like we’ve been in the sun… that is just silly…
I’m perfectly happy with my white skin and whenever I tan I don’t do it to “become like a black person”, *sigh*…. such misconceptions

(I’m not responding to the article btw, above comments say enough)

Unfortunately what happened to you is a common thing esp. amongst black and Asian people, all over the world (it seems). I am black and live in England and have observed this in England, Africa and America- funny enough it is normally ethic men that do it!! It goes back to our history that is ingrained (incorrectly I may add!) that the “lighter is better”, you could have a beautiful dark skinned girl and an average light skinned girl and people will always seem to go for the lighter girl. Until mentalities change, this will always be the case… So I think of it this way- why would you want to be with anyone that ignorant in the first place, they did you a favour by not noticing you! lmao
By a fellow dark skinned girl

Light skinned women spend entirely too much money, en masse, to make their skin darker through tanning. 
I think we all want what we don’t have. 

Among my friends I am considered dark skinned, although I’m more of a light brown color. Stand me next to most of my friends and yes, I find that people do seem to make an issue out of my darker skin.

So she’s pissed cuz the guy didnt fall for her at first glance? This always happens with two girls being measured like meat with one guy judging. The color thing isnt the problem. Prettiness isnt a one person perspective. I dont like black guys but that’s just me. Its not a character thing…. I just find white guys attractive.

i think dark skinned people are gorgeous too! maybe it’s because i’m so muchmore open minded than some people, but i don’t think we should base beauty on the color of people’s skin. dark or light skinned, every girl is beautiful. Women from say Senegal are just as beautiful as women from Egypt or Chad. Women from the Caribbean are just as gorgeous as women from Argentina. I think every skin color is beautiful :]

http://whatsuptwin.com/index.php/2011/01/23/10-top-african-supermodels/
I couldn’t find the two I was looking for b/c I never remember anyone’s names.  There is a pair of models who accompany a certain Parisian fashion designer.  Their skin is the color of expensive dark chocolate and they are two of the most beautiful people I have ever seen.
No one can say these girls aren’t drop-dead gorgeous.  Okay, actually, they can.  They can say anything they want; they can believe anything they want.  And they can be totally wrong.
I think really dark skin is prettier than most pale skin.  White people show all the veins and freckles and junk.  I’ve definitely gotten put down for being so pale–my skin won’t tan, but it goes bright red at the drop of a hat.
The thing is, though, that it seems all of us want to change our looks. That’s why are there both curling irons and flat irons, tanning and bleaching, push-up bras and minimizer bras…I could go on.  Basically, it’s “the grass is always greener…” principle.  Bleaching sounds just as damaging as tanning, so personally I wouldn’t recommend it. 
If a guy chooses someone else based on either looks or race, why would you regret him?

it can get confusing when you don’t look like your ethnicity i guess? i wish i was darker so people wouldn’t assume that i am “just white.” but yes, you could be blue(HELLO AVATAR) and still be fricken gorgeous!

i think thats a crazy question to ask. i’ve seen just as many beautiful dark skinned women as i’ve seen light skinned women, and the same for unattractive women. of course some people may PREFER women with a certain skin tone, but thats just like how some people prefer blondes over brunettes, or curvier girls over thin girls. 

Thats like saying Are white girls unnattractive?
Well duh some, people arnt like one single cookie, we have many different flavors. lol

I think that each person has a different opinion of what they think is beautiful and just because one person doesn’t find you attractive doesn’t mean that you aren’t attractive.

I believe at the end of the day, more than your skin color matters what
you do with your skin.  If a person takes care of their skin, that
skin, no matter how dark it is, would look better than skin that is
lighter in color but isn’ttaken care of.  There is this one black girl
that is in one of the clubs I’m in on campus, and while her skin is
very dark, and she’s kept her hair’s natural texture, I honestly
believe she’s one of the prettiest girls I’ve seen.  Her skin is so
smooth, and when she smiles, she just looks so…happy and glowing. 
I’ve never told her (because some girls often find it odd to receive
compliments like that from other girls), but I think she’s absolutely
gorgeous, despite me also coming from a culture that has generally
looked down upon darker skin.

@tomorrow_may_rain@xanga - I’ve had the same problem.  One of my closest friends on campus is tall, light skinned, with big brown eyes, where as I am short, darker, and have normal-sized dark brown eyes.  Everyone always pointed out how easily she could be mistaken as an Arab…and I’d always get, “Oh no I saw you and I always knew you were South Asian”, with that same underlying insulting tone. -.-

I think everyone’s uncomfortable in their skin to some extent, not just dark black people or light white people. As a light-skinned black girl I grew up getting poked fun at for not being “black enough.” I used to wonder what it would be like to be darker so people wouldn’t automatically see me as one of “those” kind of black girls who thinks they’re better than everyone because they’re light-skinned. I never thought I was better than anyone, it’s just everyone likes to ASSUME this because of my skin tone. It’s everyone else forcing this idea upon me, not the other way around. I definitely even use to wonder what it was like to be white and have no obligation to act the same way as the rest of the people who look like you.

As of right now, I love who I am. I love my skin. And it’s perfectly natural for people to go through that period of questioning. Bottom line, we’re all different and we’re all beautiful because of it :]

WTF?????  Of course they’re not unattractive

I call BS to what your friend posted.

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
And people can be so messed up
I have a friend who’s also a dark-skinned latina and she told me her that one time at the library the librarian told her sister that she’s not supposed to use other people’s library cards ’cause the librarian didn’t think that it was hers (’cause of the hispanic last name)…

I’m an old, hopelessly white man who has known many, many women.  I mean I saw God’s flower garden and decided to smell every single flower if I could.  And I am very happy I made that decision. I love all the different fragrances I have experienced and eagerly hope for more.  That’s me like it or not.

I’ll tell you what I absolutely hate to hear!  Words like “She’s very attractive for a black woman.”  They tell me immediately that the speaker is a bigoted idiot.  Bigot = Idiot! End of story for me.  Sometimes the end of genuine relationship with me.

First thing I notice about a woman is her skin color and skin health.  I love all the colors from creamy white to shiny-tar black, and everything in between!  And I’m attracted to healthy skin.

Second thing I notice if a lady will just give me the chance is her eyes.  I want to look into those eyes and try to catch a glimpse of her soul, her character and her mood.

These two, taken together make up a woman’s countenance, which is what I’m most interested in.  And for what it’s worth, I think every skin color is beautiful.  And since this article is for dark skinned ladies: Yes, black IS beautiful, Ladies!  And brown.  And bronze.  And tan. And……..

I personally think dark-skinned women and people are very beautiful…..but then, so are women and people from every color.  Glad the world isn’t monochrome:  it’d be a VERY boring place….

Also, don’t do something crazy like bleaching your skin just to please some dude that isn’t worth a minute of your time.  Be who you are, and you will be amazed at how much you will be loved by the people around you….

Yeah, I am a dark skinned woman and you do hear about lighter skin colors are preferred. My great-grandmother’s sisters were all jealous of her because she was light skinned and they were all dark. The world can be harsh for dark-skinned men as well. My great-grandmother tells me to never marry or date a dark-skinned man because he will only hurt me. She gets this view because she raped and she watched her sisters be abused by their husbands. Both the rapist and the husbands were darker skin colors. I think my skin color is beautiful especially in the summer when I darken even more. I am actually jealous of the models that are darker than me because their skin looks so beautiful. But, now that I am at an HBCU, I get a lot of looks and guys approach me. You have to be happy with who you are and don’t bleach your skin. M.J. should be a perfect example on why not to do it.

I love dark skinned people, the skin is so pretty, and they look very exotic.  It’s not plain and boring.  I’m dark-skinned, and I used to hate my skin color, because I grew up in a mainly white neighborhood, and would get rejected by all the little kids sometimes.  But since growing up and seeing the beauty and advantages that comes with dark skin, I now fully embrace my ethnicity, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. 
Advantages….
-Dark-skinned people age better,
-We are already tan, year-round,
-We don’t need to put on tons of makeup to dress up our faces,
-We don’t turn red when embarrassed(a feature I love) 
-We don’t bruise(well we do, but you can’t really see any of them),
-If we sit down in one position for too long, the skin doesn’t turn as red, sunburns don’t turn red, or we don’t get sunburned because we don’t necessarily try to stay out in the sun,(I know though, because I do get sunburns,)
-And we come with all different facial features, hair types, and can do cool things with our hair. 
To the person who said that nappy hair just gets them… well, (being African-American) we can straighten our hair, braid it, twist it, let it fly loose, cornrow it, gel it, but a lot of straight-haired people can only curl their hair for a short amount of time, until it falls straight 30 minutes later.  At my job, people comment on how frequently I change my hair.  I really go all out with the different looks. I can wear it up or down, and it doesn’t fall in weird places, it does exactly what i want to do, I can change up the color without actually coloring my own hair, and if I want to wear a fro, just pick it out when it dries and go. Nappy hair is cool hair.       

Eh. Honestly, I’d say that 95% of dark-skinned women are unattractive; in my opinion, at least. Not trying to be rude or anything; they are great people, just like anyone else, but I don’t think they are attractive at all. 

There is some bias out there towards dark skinned people but I believe there are beautiful women in all shades.

@xxsharkiexx@xanga - Smh.

*Xanga’s Batman Out*

@A_NY_Zone61@xanga - Meh, judge me if you want, but I have my opinion. I’m not saying they are bad people or anything’s wrong with them, I just personally think that lighter skin is more attractive. 

I have a lot of self-esteem issues. This is not one of them. Thank God.

@xxsharkiexx@xanga - Not judging you, just your opinion.

*Xanga’s Batman Out*

@ultravioletskies08@xanga - You’re lovely.

*Xanga’s Batman Out*

I have always had a thing for the dark skinned type.  i personally find the ladies in the picture very attractive.  but it can go either way.  sometimes i’m like omg look how effing pale and white that chick is!   skin shade doesnt matter though.  if your hot your hot no matter what the color!!!

The more I hear peoples’ preference for lighter skin, the more resentment I feel towards my dark skin. It has always bothered me.

Oh, and Oprah is far from beautiful lol.

Dark skinned girls are hot! So are pale skinned girls with dark hair. I’m not into gingers with pastey skin and freckles and not into blondes or red heads. That’s just my taste though. Then again I’ve had a few non-darky’s turn my head on occasion. 

This is silly, of course it’s related to a person’s preference. I personally don’t find most dark skinned women attractive (except Indian women for some reason), but that doesn’t mean anything in the grand scheme of things.

I don’t like coffee or ham and cheese sandwiches either. Are you going to tell me there aren’t people out there who don’t love those things?

I kind of have the opposite complex! I’m white, average-looking and mostly Caucasian and I think that darker-skinned women are beautiful! I imagine marrying a very dark-skinned man so that my children can be darker skinned and have beautiful hairrrrr and skinnnn and teeth! I think I’ll probably end up marrying a light skinned ginger boy, hahah but still, I do wish I were born darker skinned sometimes.  

Symmetry, poise, compassion, and confidence are much more important for beauty than just a person’s features. That’s why I don’t find supermodels attractive. They all look like they’re dying inside.

I’m porcelain white.
But for most white people, being darker is considered more beautiful. We tan like no body’s business (I don’t tan, I burn, so I stay out of the sun all together.)

But I consider some of the most beautiful women on the planet to be the darkest black in the heart of Africa. But I also think Indian women are gorgeous too. And there’s nothing wrong with a red head with pale skin.

@sonnetjoy@xanga - Supermodels do have those features.

Everyone is beautiful. Those guys you met should be punched in the balls.

very dumb title!

@MZ_BUBBLEZ213@xanga - i agree. i’m dark skinned to and i’m proud of it!

@movealongnow@xanga - 

I LOVE me some nappy hair, but really, to each their own :3

I’ve never had struggles with my skin tone. I’m very light skinned. But being so light, I have seen other friends around me who are darker be affect by their tone. They always seemed so sensitive about their color, and it never dawned on my why until an incident in college opened my eyes. 

I was on tour with my friend (who Is very dark, if it matters), and I ran into this woman who looked EXACTLY like my auntie. I told her so, but I added that eveything is to a T, but that my auntie is very light skinned. She seemed to be offended, and I honestly didn’t know how I offended her. My friend had to later explain to me that darker skinned women sometimes don’t like noticing that they are darker. I though that was ridic, but then again, me mentioning that my auntie was lighter than her seemed to offend her…I honestly didn’t mean to offend, and t bothered me.
And I just made a status about this: I HATE being called a frickin redbone. It sounds so nasty to me, like we’re a piece of meat.
Anyway, always love the skin your in! I don’t have a tone preference when dating, but I noticed I’ve mostly dated lighter men and women. I haven’t met a darker person I’ve liked yet (personality or attractive wise).

I’m a really pale white person. I’ve been made fun of soooo much during my childhood because of it. People always tell me to get a tan -_-…. Of course dark skin is beautiful. And your friend is right, never be with someone if they only see your skin. Psh. Don’t bleach your skin either…then you’d have to bleach your whole body to match! How annoying would that be? :p No, but really…no one should have to feel like they need to change their skin just to feel better. And think of it this way, since you have darker skin, you could probably pull off orange lipstick better than me ._. (I wish I could..)

For me, personally, skin color doesn’t play a part in who I find attractive. It’s not something I pay a lot of attention too, because it doesn’t matter so much to me. And I don’t know anyone who it does matter a great deal to, either, but I suppose some people may have their preferences when it comes to such things. I’m just not really that aware of what most people favor though, so I don’t really know, and honestly, it doesn’t interest me.

Never had any real struggles because of the color of my skin, aside from the fact I’m ghostly white, so I’m often teased a bit here and there about being incredibly pale, and not getting a tan or something. But I don’t really tan well. XD Being caucasian I likely can’t relate to most of the struggles people of other ethnicities have to endure sometimes.

But personally, I don’t think skin color factors in to beauty much. In my eyes, it’s other things that make someone beautiful, so I know a lot of dark skinned people I find very attractive… I also know a lot of other people with other skin colors I find attractive as well.

I’m sure you’re beautiful just the way you are. Don’t fret so much about it, or consider going to such extremes to change yourself to fit the standards of beauty that some ignorant people set for others. It’s not worth it.

i can’t say i’ve ever had problems regarding “beauty” based on my skin color… i’m not dark skinned or anything (just a little tan).  most people think i’m “asian” (the typical go-to word for ignorant people), though i’m irish, english, and salvadorean.  i personally have seen a lot of beautiful dark skinned women of a huge variety of races and ethnicities.  i think that beauty is not a skin tone, but more bone structure and that kind of thing; not to mention what wonders a beautiful spirit can do for a person!  I think that society still has a very white-washed perception, so it’s no surprise that it’s difficult to find many people of any color to represent new standards of beauty.  unfortunate, yes, but always a chance for women to break the rules of what defines beauty.

Yes, it’s beautiful! All colors are beautiful! There was this sing-along song in elementary about different colors of people and how it makes the world a beautiful melting pot of rainbow colors.
It would be sad if we didn’t have the dark-as-night people, the paper-white people, and everything in between. We’re all beautiful and though skin color shouldn’t define us, it should be a proud part of who we are. It’s just unfortunate that we’re not always treated equally.
I’m glad you decided not to bleach your skin (OP). Just thinking of it brings to mind a harsh tone – like stripping something away. It’s nice to keep natural skin. Warm brown tones are beautiful.

I personally wish I was a bit darker. I get decently tan in the summer, but  become pale again in winter. It causes red tones to show up on my skin when it’s cold outside – which I do not appreciate. Then again, too-dark skin doesn’t really go with my looks. I do think that tan I get in the summer makes me a bit more defined-looking though.

I’m hispanic/sicilian, but I don’t look it. I look white. I’ve always wanted to have beautiful dark olive skin, but it’ll never happen. I’m as white as white can be. Just once, I’d like to look in the mirror and not see a pale mess. 

I’m naturally pretty pale myself, unless I spend time in the sun.  That’s not me though, so I think I look odd with dark skin.  I’m not impressed by people who spend their lives in tanning booths, but I love the different colors of people who are naturally dark.  I think it’s beautiful, especially when they accept and glory in the color of their skin.

That is a really great thing she said.. not dating anyone who sees the color of your skin. I’ve definitely been looked at as inferior for the opposite reason.. being a very pale-skinned white girl who refuses to immerse herself in the self-destructing tanning trend. Anymore, I’m an anomaly. But I don’t care. I’m not sacrificing my health and premature skin aging to be something I’m not. The same goes for girls who have dark skin and decide to have it bleached. Instead of downplaying your beauty, celebrate it. If my skin were dark, all of my hideous spider veins wouldn’t be so transparent, every pore wouldn’t be so easily scrutinized, and I wouldn’t have to glob as much sunblock on my skin to avoid adversive affects from the sun. Dark skin is also a beautiful silhouette for bright colors in clothes and makeup. 

The most recent “my strange addiction” on TLC featured a young girl who was addicted to bleaching her skin. She felt that her dark skin was ugly.
Beauty most definitely comes in all shades.

HELL YA.

WHAT KINDA BS IS THIS

Beauty is very subjective, really. I find all kinds of women of all kinds of races beautiful. Beauty to me depends on individual people. If a woman has a beautiful body but a bad personality or lack of brains, I can’t go for her, lol.

I’ve come across people who are literally repulsed by the idea of doing anything sexually with a black woman. I don’t find this too shocking, but I do think these people are guilty of shameful stereotyping.

As for me, there have been numerous occasions where I did double takes on a few black women just walking by me because they were so hot, lmao.

I am so pale that I am almost transparent. I wish I had a bit darker skin, it would make finding makeup so much easier.

I know a few dark skinned girls who are gorgeous, beautiful, lovely. This is where I insert my sigh of envy…. Beautiful comes in all shapes, colors, styles. The trick comes with working it well.

you know what? i think women with more ethnicity have better facial features. many caucasian women have smaller eyes which isn’t as attractive to me but there are still many stunning light ladies out there, like the french. there is a range of beauty in between all cultures but when it comes down to it, all the beauty comes from within yourself, not the outside.

I don’t even want to read this entry, honestly.

Of course they are attractive.

@lonelystrangergirl@xanga - she said “um” WAY to many times

personounly I like being pale

its what  Ilike on me
but differnent things look good on differnet people.

Dark skin is

extremely

beautiful; a LOT of people think so, not just people of color. 

As a woman of color to another woman of color I find it unfortunate that you even ask the question. 
I have 4 nieces, each are 1/2 or 3/4 black. The oldest (3/4) expressed self-consciousness about her skin color at an early age. It was heartbreaking since she is significantly darker than her half sisters. I’m proud of her, and I’m proud of my skin and my kinky hair too. 
We are all of the human race, regardless of color. It’s tragic that society imposes ignorant views on young girls. 

I love dark skin. 

I’m friends with mostly black and hispanic people. Not a conscious decision, life just turned out that way. I love it, but being the only white girl I’m constantly overlooked because I’m just not pretty comparitively. I know how you feel, although I think you’re crazy to think dark-skinned people aren’t GOERGEOUS!!

wow. i love how i was reading this story. and there was an advertisement on bleaching cream.it reads “get flawless BROWN skin now” with a dark skinned african-american woman. In a picture comparison of her skin dark and then light after using the product. why is society doing this??