A few nights ago, a friend of mine posted a status that said “Every color is beautiful, but the world can be a hostile place for the dark skinned.”
I could not help it but think about it. As thoughts raced through my mind, I kept asking myself: Do dark skin people really have it that bad? Are we ugly? Are we not good enough for anybody?
I started to think about an incident that happened to me a few years ago. My friend (Frances) and I were on our way home on a dark cold night. Two guys were walking towards our way, and we were trying our best to avoid them. One guy shouted “You are BEAUTIFUL! Can I have your number?”
My friend turned around and asked “Me or her?” When the guy pointed at her, she rolled her eyes. “They really must be blind,” she said as she leaned towards my way.
The guy got all excited: “Damn. I love me a Spanish Chick.”
Again my friend rolled her eyes and said, “You know she’s Hispanic too”
The guy looked over at me and said “Really?!?”
When I nodded my head, his mouth dropped. His friend then said, “Yeah, I can tell. Look at her curly hair.” The guy was still shocked until he managed to say “You’re beautiful, too!”
My friend rolled her eyes again, and refused to give her number away. When the guys finally left she told me, “Don’t ever date a guy who only sees the color of your skin. If they didn’t see your beautiful face, they must really be blind. Those are the kind of guys who always see a color, but never a character.”
I remember her pinching my cheeks like she was my grandmother. All I can think about is all the beautiful things she said to me during our days, because she knew how I felt about being dark skinned. I’ve had similar incidents some years later with someone choosing someone else just because they were “lighter” and “prettier”…So I was told.
I even considered bleaching my skin to give it that beautiful look. But with my features, I don’t think it would look right on me. Images of what beauty truly is really brainwashes you. But, I had to learn to love myself for who I am, because I can’t help what the way I look.
Over sometime I had to think about all the beautiful dark skinned women like Oprah Winfrey, Mary J. Blige, Gabrielle Union, Jennifer Hudson, Kerry Washington, Kelly Rowland, Naomi Campbell, Fantasia, and so many more people.
What are your opinions on dark skinned women? Have you ever had personal struggles with the color of your skin? Share your stories.