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As a black woman, this is like when we debate when to relax a little girl’s hair, except that is more extreme [permanent straightening]. So considering some people relax 3,4, and 5 year olds hair, i’d say this is not too bad lol But  either way, I’m not big on manipulating young children’s’ hair.

well I think its a little over the top.. I mean she’s 3!

My mom used to curl my hair when I was little, I never thought there was anything wrong with it. As long as you’re being careful and not hurting them. 

I don’t think a 3 year old’s hair should be straightened…maybe mom should condition her hair more so the curls are more managable!  Besides, what is she moves while mom is using the flat iron to fix her hair and burms the kid?  Better off with pigtails, I think.

@MissLady2012 - you basically said what i was thinking. i thought this post was about a black 3 year old’s hair being straightened.

i think parents can decide to do what they want with their children’s hair, as long as it’s not dangerous.

um, not a big deal.

OH MY GOD!?!? NO SHE DIDN’T!!!!! [/sarcasm]

Seriously people, there are bigger fish to fry. 

I think it’s something you do need to be careful about. It’s just not very logical either, she is three years old. I think it should be enough that parents give their children good clothes and care for their health but to start fucking with their hair and placing a personal style on them is just unnecessary to me. I’d be pissed if my mom started straightening my hair that young. Not even giving me the option to have healthy, non-damaged hair. 

As long as it’s kept at a low temperature it should be fine. My mom not only relaxed my hair when I was around that age, but she also used a curling iron on occasion. Just tell her not to move. She’ll be fine. She’ll probably tense up and know not to move b/c she can feel the heat from the flat iron.

Yea, I thought this was about chemical straightening as well. But a flat iron? If you can braid it, put it in ponytails, etc, why not? Long as you’re not being extreme, and remember it is a child after all! Let’s use some common sense ppl, I know it’s hard but let’s try.

I think what actually bother’s me more is that the bitch named her kid “Princess” and he ex let her get away with it…

@babybug329@xanga - That is bloody traumatizing actually XD When I was young my Dad was curling my hair {school pictures or something, at my request} and fried my forehead…. That took me awhile to get over and He hasn’t been allowed near my hair in the 14-15 years since.

That being said I Really don’t see why one would Want to impose such hefty social conventions at so young an age. A Girl should be taught to appreciate her own natural beauty before She is taught to Change it.

Wait so its not okay to straighten a 3 year olds hair but its okay to put on pounds of makeup, curl hair, make little girls wear heels at pagents right? 

People look at the bigger picture. Just bc mommy wanted to brush her daughters hair without say ripping it all out i think is perfectly fine. I mean if its done once in a while its not gonna kill her scalp/hair. 
Calm down and maybe bitch about little girl beauty pagents like “toddlers and tiaras” instead of something this pointless. 

SURE! If she wants her daughter to have hay straws as hair before she turns 10. 

There’s nothing illegal here; let the woman do whatever she wants with her child’s hair! After all, it is just hair… dead matter.

she’s only 3.. thats all

Awww, that makes me sad. Her natural hair is so pretty!

I guess there is no real fundamental damage done, but  she may grow up not loving her natural hair. But, hey! It might not effect her in that way even.

Other than that, I think it’s doing nothing but unnecessary damage to the little girl’s hair. Also, it just doesn’t seem…practical…her hair doesn’t even look particularly unmanageable…to me it just looks like extra work.

It sounds like to me her mom needs to learn how to take care of curly hair. It doesn’t have to be difficult. Sure it is if you think it’s ANYTHING like taking care of straight hair.

her natural hair is so pretty, so theres no need to straighten it. i would kill to have curly hair. <3

Ugh, this bugs me. Maybe just as much as it bugs me that she named her daughter Princess.

theres always gunna be a peanut gallery deciding if youre raising your child right… its her child she can do w/e she wants to do with it. haha

when I was three my mom gave me pigtails and french braids and curled my hair.. of course this is ok the father is an idiot cuz he doesn’t realize that her hair will go back to the way it was as soon as it is washed.

that little girl probably loved it

I don’t inherently see a problem with it, but I wouldn’t have the patience to sit a toddler down to straighten her hair.

I think this is ok…its not that big a deal, its not like she’s forcing her to go through eyebrow plucking on toddlers and tiaras

it’s hair….It is however, NOT OK to name your child “Princess.” That should be left for your cat or you little yippy dog in a sweater

I think people can do what they want to do with their own child’s hair.  I would never have the patience to do it if I were inclined to straighten my child’s hair.   Clearly from the pictures of the little girl on the internet this is just a sometimes thing.  Maybe they played dress up or something.  This bickering from the dad is most likely more about something between him and  Katie Price and less about the girl’s hair being straightened. 

What happened to the days when three year olds played in dirt with spoons, or tried to jump in every mud puddle around. If my child ever told me at that age she wanted to straighten her hair, I would take her outside and throw her in a mud puddle personally.

of course! didnt most of us have big curled hair in the early nineties? i dont think theres a single family photo after the age of 2 where my hair isnt curled, this is just the modern day version of that

The girls name is Princess. I think that’s a problem in itself.

No, naming your child “Princess” though, should be illegal.

Little black girls get their hair chemically straightened around that age, so a flat iron really isn’t that bad.. Plus I highly doubt the mother did it herself, she most likely brought her to a salon.

there’s nothing wrong with straightening a little girl’s hair, people curl their little girls’ hair all the time and no one freaks out about it.

@MissLady2012 - I understand your point but highly disagree since relaxers aren’t even supposed to be used on children younger than 8!! The parents that put such harsh chemicals in their young child’s hair are just as dumb & neglectful as she is!

There is something extremely wrong with using harch chemicals or extremely hot tools to style a young child’s hair. Not only does it damage the child’s hair & skin, but it sends the message to that child (very early on) that they aren’t “good enough” or “pretty enough” they way that they are. As adults & parents we should be sending the message to kids that they are wonderful, spectacular, and amazing in every way, not giving them self esteem problems before they start school.

@CioccolataDea@xanga - I wasn’t saying it’s okay, I’m natural and will never relax my daughter’s hair. I was saying, compared to relaxers, flat ironing isn’t that bad.

Some people ( okay most) can’t pull off frissy, puffy, curly hair.However, it looks perfect on that girl!

Seriously though you think this is bad? What about those American Pageant Tiara Contests for kids that are serious. Now…that’s just…..wow.

@CioccolataDea@xanga - Damn straight! >=D We should be teaching children to love themselves and accept themselves for the way they are.

i just think she looks cuter with the curls

who cares, black people give perms as young as 4 now (my neighbor did to her baby girl). as sad as that is, it’s happening out there :/ let her ruin her daughter’s hair on her own, millions of others do.

Her name is Princess and her mother is Katie Price. What more can you expect?

I don’t really see the problem, especially if the little girl seen her mom doing it or whatever and asked.. Besides, no one would be throwing a fit about it if the girl had naturally straight hair and wanted it curled. I mean it’s not like it’s permanent. You wash it, and it goes back to natural.

@WordsandThoughts@xanga - agree’d

Seems a bit extreme and unnecessary, she is a toddler… let her be.  I wouldn’t do it.  But….. is it really that huge of a deal? I don’t think so at all.

The bigger issue here is that she named her child Princess…..

@CioccolataDea@xanga - I already posted saying it wasn’t that big of a deal…. but you kind of changed my mind a little.

My mom is a hair dresser.  As a child she’d just throw my hair into a ponytail for school, but if it was a special occasion, she’d curl/straighten my hair (my hair is wavy). Of course I didn’t have hair until after I was 2.
She permed my hair when I was 6 and I thought it was awesome. Not because I was influenced by fashion/style, but just because i thought curls were pretty. My hair didn’t suffer.

In this instance, as long as it’s not everyday, it’s whatever. Hair grows back.

…it’s called getting the fuck over it.

it’s flat ironing the childs hair once. my mom curled my hair when i was younger all the time.god, people are so damned uptight now a days.

i dont see the harm. i think its the parents prerogative. HER parents, not other parents. obviously, her parents need to discuss this together, not through the media. if anything, the public bickering and accusing might be more damaging that a warm flat iron.

Dumb. But why would you wanna straighten it anyway? That little girl has cooler hair than I do!

If the kid is patient enough to sit completely still and if it’s only done once in a while, I don’t see an issue with it. If you use the right straightener (which aren’t that expensive anymore) and use heat protector, you can minimize the damage. I straighten my hair every few weeks to couple of months and my hair is pretty healthy because I use a tourmaline straightener and a heat protector. So if she’s only doing it every once in a while, even though it is a child’s hair, she can avoid it becoming really damaged. And who knows, maybe the kid did ask for her hair to look different. Little kids can want things like that. We don’t know that she wasn’t given a choice. Now once she’s older, the effects of straightening should be explained to her in more detail so she can decide whether or not to continue. But like others have said, it’s better than her putting a relaxer on the girl’s hair like other mothers do at times.

That is diffucult. To keep it at a low enough temp. would be perfectly fine, but once you get past a certian temp., the hair will fry. My moms best friend is white, and had a daughter with a man of color (she definatly got his hair). She wanted to see what her hair would look like straight, so we did it. She was a little under a month away from turning 5 (which I know, it’s not 3), but it was an experiment. I think the arguement lies on how often she does it/ and what temp. she keeps it at. I do agree though with letting it be natural. Toddlers with curly hair are just adorable !!

Yeah if you named your child Princess you have bigger problems than a flatiron.

Not that big of a deal, my mom was putting curls in my hair for pics when i was 3 so, plus my 9 month old has TONS & TONS & TONS of hair and its really long, & its kinda crazy curly like the girls pic, so i may straighten her hair when shes 3 lol. idk.

My mom used to curl my hair when i was 3. No problem with it.

I don’t suppose it’s all that different from the curling I do of my daughters’ pin staight hair on special occasions.  That’s SPECIAL OCCASIONS (holidays, weddings, recitals)….because seriously, who has time to to do this on a regular basis….most moms are happy to get their own hair “fixed” on a daily basis.  LOL 

My hair dresser actually straightens her three-year-old’s hair; sometimes she curls it or puts it up in a fancy ‘do. I really don’t see the problem with it, as long as the person styling the hair KNOWS what they are doing and uses a low heat setting and minimal products.

I find it hard to believe that this is justttt becoming a public issue…I mean, really, has no one seen Toddlers and Tiaras?

Doesn’t’ seem that bad to me.. Considering I can’t even remember when I had my first relaxer. Some of my cousins and friends had their’s young before 5. And I think a relaxer is much worst than straightening, because it can burn like hell if you so much as scratch your head. I think it’s okay as long as she doesn’t make it a habit because it can damage her hair. Pass the fact her natural hair is pretty

I think its fine, better than using chemicals at least. As long as she doesnt burn her or anything, but im surprised a 3 year old toddler would actually sit still long enough to get her hair straightened. 

Her hair is beautiful curly. And what if she wiggled while her mom was straightening it? She could get her face burned.

…it’s hair. my mom curled my hair when i was younger and i turned out fine. 

I see nothing wrong with it. 

You guys are looking at it from the wrong angle. Didn’t you ever play dress up as a kid? You wanted to wear mom and dad’s clothing and pretend you were a grownup? You wanted to get your hair done?
Besides, getting your hair done is a very attention-oriented activity. Little kids fucking love attention. So yeah, no big deal. STFU to all of you weird social psychology commenters.

… seriously ? how is this such a big issue ==”

Kinda sucks for the kid cuz her hair will be more damaged before she can have a say in it, but meh. Not that huge of a deal.

I know lots of moms who have tried straightening their young daughters’ hair once or twice or even dolled them up with a little make-up– the point is that they’ve only done it once or twice and they did it either A) out of boredom and their daughter didn’t mind or B) because their daughter wanted to emulate what they saw Mommy doing.  

 As long as you don’t cross over to the Toddlers and Tiaras hair-and-make-up frequency, I think it’s fine.

i’d be worried about burning her!

I don’t think it’s a huge deal, if it’s not done often enough to cause damage.

Personally, though, I thought her curls were adorable.

If Mom was doing it because SHE wants someone else’s hair straightened, then it’s wrong.
If Mom did it because daughter asked for it, fine.

I personally can’t imagine any 3 year old setting really still long enough to get all her hair completely straightened.

From the looks of the picture, her mom is just to lazy to take care her natural curls or simply to ignorant. Appears as though she just took a brush and went at it. With naturally curly hair you can’t do that or it will frizz up and poof.
When our daughter was little I always combed/brushed her’s out while it was wet. Used either leave in conditioner or detangler.

Fear in the long run, she is doing more damage than anything to her daughter’s hair.

Why not? I see straight haired 3 year olds who get their hair curled all the time… What’s wrong with the opposite?

@Lost_In_Reverie@xanga - @FahtiSama@xanga - @crystalball3r@xanga -@WordsandThoughts@xanga - I’m pretty sure permanent hair loss and damage is bad. Even adults in their 20s and 30s are advised NOT to curl or straighten their hair that often. Preferably once or twice a month only to avoid damage. Can you imagine what it does to a 3 year old? It’s different for each person, some can dye their hair every week and style it every single day and use tons of crap in their hair and still have beautiful hair, but most can’t. If your moms did this to you, then I feel sorry for you. Kinda sad how a mom values the appearance of her daughter over the health of her daughter.

@diannisforever@xanga - So if she decides it’s okay for her kid to drink alcohol at the age of 3 it’s okay because it’s her kid? Didn’t think so. Burning and damaging hair is bad, she can’t just do ‘whatever’ she wants just because she’s the mom. And let’s face is, all this woman has done is porn, fake boobs and getting naked, what in heavens name could she know about raising kids properly? Clearly her own mom messed up good, otherwise she’d have some dignity and find some other job than pornstar.

@CoolXwhip@xanga - If this post was about pageants then we would bitch about it.. but it’s about a 3 year old getting her hair straightened. I think you can pretty much assume anyone being against the straightening of the hair of a  3 year old is also hardcore against any pageants. Common sense.

I think anything that involves makes up/hair/’fashion’ on
little kids is stupid. They’re kids.. why does she need straight hair?
Just because ‘mommy’ thinks it looks really really pwitty
right now so it’s worth the hairloss? Why would a kid need make up? Oh I
know.. because the flawless skin of a lil kid isn’t flawless enough and
let’s face it, kids should look sexy! Why do lil kids need ‘fashion’
items like high heels? Because moms want to ruin their kids feet and
spine. Mothers who actually do this are pretty much worthless. Kids
don’t need dressing up or making up just to look extra pretty. All kids
want to do is play and be happy. This poor kid can worry about her
appearance when she hits 16.

I honestly can’t believe the comments on this xanga, and those coming from girls who should know how bad doing this stuff to your hair is. This generation might be stupid as hell but dear god have mercy on the next because it is being raised by morons like you. If you think the appearance of your lil girl or boy is that important than maybe it’s time to buy a doll instead of having a human being who’ll suffer maybe long term damage because of your pathetic superficial actions. This is EXACTLY the reason some people just shouldn’t breed so girls.. please please please use a condom!

@novalidation@xanga - Wow, I’ll thank you not to insult my mother, or “feel sorry for me”. She never did it on a regular basis, she never hurt me, and she never damaged my scalp or my hair. I have amazing parents and had a really great childhood. My mother is not a bad parent because she curled or blow-dried my hair every once in a while, and I’d prefer that bitches on the internet not try to condescend to me about something they know nothing about. 

I feel like that is violating a person’s autonomy (though not of a major degree) before they are able to consent. So no.

@novalidation@xanga - safety-wise (from what I’ve seen/experienced) a flat iron doesnt hurt or damadge at all unless you burn the person’s scalp. of course I wouldnt advise a child’s hair to be straitened all the time but if this is just an occational thing for like a certain event then its fine. To me its just like getting curls for your birthday party or whatever else. I get what you’re saying about it being superficial though. If this woman is doing it to her daughters hair ALL THE TIME then that is too much.

Ugh, she’s 3…the mother should leave her hair alone.

her hair is going to be brittle and disgusting when she’s older if she starts damaging it now. common sense. 

my mom curled me and my little sisters hair everyday before school from grades kindegarten to like 2nd or 3rd for me. we werent three years old, but still we were pretty little. i remember at the time hating it lol but now looking back i see no problem with it. idk its really up to the mom and what they wanna put their kid thru lolz if the kid likes it tho i think they should feel free to do it

As long as it isn’t done day in and day out, I don’t see a problem with this. I know for me and many of my friends, we had our hair curled when we were that little in order to help support the big hair of the 80′s trend.

@novalidation@xanga - being a porn star has nothing to do with how your parents raised you. && my mom straightened my hair at and around her age, i never grew up crazy or wanting to be a porn star. Im in college living on my own OH the horrors ofstraightening a child’s hair. 

my little sister is about six now but we’ve straightened her hair before, but it was only for special occasions: birthdays, christmas photos, family reunions, etc. never just randomly, i mean she’s still young and has plenty of time to ruin her hair with an iron when she’s older. :b lol.

@SuburbanSweetheart - Yess, haha. Jordan (the little girl’s mother, an English glamour model) is toxic, in my opinion. There’s a picture of her (just google her, it’ll come up) wearing just two belts crossed over her chest as a top. She’s a skank. She has the right to straighten her daughter’s hair, but it seems pointless – surely being a mother she’s far too busy to add straightening her daughter’s hair onto the long daily to-do lists – and I worry that that little girl will grow up not loving her natural curls.

wait…. this little girl’s name is PRINCESS PRICE?
dear god.

@IrresistibleInsomnia@xanga - Um… do you see the child’s mother? 

My mom curled my hair when I was little. I turned out just fine and so did my hair.

Hahaha i dont see what the BIG deal is , its not like she is wearing sluty clothes its just her hair. i know when i was small my mom and grandma use to curl my hair its not that big of a deal and her name is princess… Kudos her kid her choice>

It’s ok………..as long as she’s already had Botox.

@ncxcorexkid@xanga - XD You make an excellent point.

not that big of a deal but it’s definitely something I wouldn’t do

How is this a big deal? Her hair is very fine in the 2nd picture, so she could probably straighten her hair at like 250-300 degrees which is hardly even damaging…

I bet putting kids hair up in those tight ass elastics is worse when it comes to scalp turmoil and breakage. This is ridiculous and doesn’t even deserve the uproar it’s getting.

I used to teach preschool (3 year olds) and one day a little girl with hair like this girls came in with straight hair all proud because she wanted to be like mommy and mommy said “Well she has been bugging me for weeks now so, I turned it on low and did it and she was so good but, this is not going to happen everyday.” Did anyone think maybe the little one wanted this done to her hair? Just because she is three doesn’t mean she doesn’t know how to say what she wants and it is just hair anyway. Who cares.

oh her curly hair is GORGEOUS! but i dont see what the big deal is if she straightens her hair. im sure the mom doesnt have the knowledge that its more damaging to the scalp to toddlers than adults (cause i didnt know that either) im sure if she did know that she might think twice

but i used to straighten my little sisters hair when she was little, whats wrong with that? my cousins used to curl my hair when i was little…. i think its totally fine

My daughters hair was like that and to be honest, it was best for her. Without straightening it her head would hurt because of the knots it would create. Not that she’s 4 1/2  here curls are becoming more manageable. 

@novalidation@xanga - if ur hair is getting that damaged don’t do it until you can get the money to get the proper protectant and straightener.  Which the mom probably can, its not like she’s dirt poor.

If the mom straightens the kids hair so what?  Its like the mom putting the kid into a party dress.  
The moms ocupation has NOTHING to do with whether or not she’d be a good parent

I definitely would never straighten a 3 year hair olds hair.  In this case, I agree with the ex husband.  If Princess wants to straighten hair hair when she’s older, then that’s her own decision, but not when she’s 3 years old and is stilling growing and what not. That heat is damaging to adults hair, let a lone a toodlers.

I think when its your kid you can decide if its right to straighten their hair. I wouldnt be too worried about it lol.

really? now the media is trying to tell mom’s how they should be doing their children’s hair..? isn’t that calling the kettle black, it’s her child, she’s well dressed, obviously well nurtured & taken care of, people should go look for ‘real’ issues in the world, like mother’s who’s children have their hair full of urine & feces, because of severe neglect or abuse & quite f*ckin trying to find problems where there isn’t any.

her mom is teaching her at age three that there is something wrong with her body and she needs to alter it cosmetically in order to look better.

pretty screwy.

It’s not that big of a deal, but I do think she looks absolutely adorable with her curls.

there is nothing wrong with it as long as 1) the child knows that her natural hair is nice too, and 2) its not straightened too often

Last week, I went back and forth in my mind on whether I would flat iron my daughter’s hair (who is 3 years old). At first I really wanted to, but then I realized that the only reason I wanted to do it was because I wanted her hair to look different and thought it would be cute–not because she asked for straight hair. And then I remembered how cute she is with braids, twists, and beads and realized it was stupid to risk damaging her fine strands for a hair style that would last for a few days. Plus, she is so young that I want to first instill in her to love her God-given qualities the way they are, and then maybe one day when she’s older we’ll try a flat iron every once in a while. I don’t want to subconciously drill into her head that she needs to change her hair to be pretty.  I remember getting my hair straightened 2-3 times monthly starting at age 4, and then when my hair reverted 3 days later, I felt ugly as hell. I know it isn’t that deep for alot of people, but to me it is.

being black, ive seen worse things done to a small childs hair….from those tight braids w weave to a chemical straightner….so when i see just a regular flat iron straightner….i dont think thats so wrong. especially if the girl see’s mummy all dolled up being a model in the industry an maybe once in awhile wants to get dolled up as well…i wouldnt encourage for an all the tme thing but if it was a bored moment an didnt occur too often then meh, who are we to say its so wrong, eh?

Toddlers an Tiaras…?

NO way! Poor bbygirl’s hair =[ That retarded mother better not make a habit of that.

@Char - AMEN, woman!

@CoolXwhip@xanga - thank you they are being some bitchs i mean damn one question was asked and bitchs flipp out change yall tampons!!!!!