Lovelyish

I do think what you look like makes a difference, but I think it all evens out in the end.

I think “beautiful” people probably have more ‘ups’ than ‘downs’ in their life.

I can’t really say, as I think I’m just “average” compared to everyone else in LA.

“…women actually penalized female applicants for beauty.”-This just proves that women are just catty. ):

i’d like more than one study to be referred to in order to verify the assertions that are being made here.

it wouldn’t surprise me if it were true, though; i know that i’m generalizing (and hate it), but i feel like women are shaped to be more jealous of how people of the same sex look, so jealousy might create some of the potential bias.but, like i said, i’d want to see more studies… and is there any chance that the article listed the name of the study/experiment? i’m super curious!

I think life sucks. In general, across the board. Whether you’re drop-dead gorgeous or butt-ass ugly (or somewhere in between like most people) doesn’t matter. Life is hard. 

I think no matter what you look like you’re going to face some sort of trouble in your life from people..

Eh. Suck it up.

@kristinabean@xanga - Agreed. That’s exactly what I was going to say. Life is shitty for everybody sometimes. This looks at more insignificant things. The major things that make life hard, EVERYBODY has to go through. Like death of loved ones, being the biggest one.

(I’m pretty sure the OP didn’t title this, though. The title makes me the most annoyed lol)

yeah, those beautiful people have it so tough.

really hard to say.  generalizing (studies) is never an accurate thing, theres just too many different types of people.  cant put them all into one category.

Megan Fox is used as an example. Obviously. How predictable. 

@nicolthepickle@xanga - that I do partially agree with

but life is hard regardless. It’s always hard regardless of you’re gorgeous or not. 

I think there are pros and cons.

I don’t think the evaluators were jealous but they probably subtracted points because they presumed that the attractive male/female are more likely to slack off during work and get away with it by using their looks to manipulate the geeky coworker to vouch that he/she didn’t spend an hour in the bathroom chatting on the phone and fixing their hair/makeup to maintain their divaness

This was not the title I had! Why did you change it?

I think to assume that these people penalized the beautiful people because they were “jealous of their looks” is very misleading. There is no proof that this was the reason they penalized pretty people. Maybe they believed in the notion that beautiful people had it easier so they automatically assumed that the pretty people didn’t deserve the scholarship or had it easy. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they are jealous…just quick to judge. 

We all have hard times in our life. A lot of beautiful people are stuck up as I have seen, so maybe that’s why they have a harder time with things. Some of them rely too much on their looks.

“women actually penalized female applicants for beauty.”

I am so unsurprised…

horse shit. if i ever hear a woman say “oh life is hard for me because i’m beautiful” i’m gonna punch her in the uterus. why? because life is hard for a lot of people. a lot of people struggle with getting a job and a lot of people get denied a job for stupid ass reasons. 

life is hard either if you are super gorgeous or whatever the case may be. life just sucks in general… it’s all about taking care of who you are

no pity here , suck it up and keep it moving. 

ugh.

I don’t care what the magazine/journal said.. it’s been proven many times over and over that beautiful and skinny people have easier lives than “uglier” and chubbier people..

Oh, man, yeah. It sucks to be so damn fine. I’m gonna go cry big beautiful tears out of my big beautiful eyes!

But seriously, I see what you’re getting at with this post, and I find it interesting. I really feel like I’m quite beautiful, and I base that on how many people have told me that and modeling offers and whatnot. I do feel like girls tend to get jealous to the point where they try to sabotage my success, but the farther you go in life and the harder you work, the less likely the people around you are going to be that petty – male or female. Once again, interesting post!

@A_____P - @vwxya@xanga - @Evil10@xanga - @discover_hienie@xanga - @beebizzle@xanga - @xjadersx@xanga - @Hinase@xanga - @tofloataway@xanga - @BingleBot@xanga - @SuburbanSweetheart - @live_love_learn625@xanga - @kristinabean@xanga - Lovelyish changed the title of my post, and, to add insult to injury, it wasn’t even the right question to ask. Just so you know. The questions was “Will Beautiful People Get Penalized More for Their Beauty?”

@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Because they always do somehow. Blame the editors.

Well, my life sucks, so I must be really goddamned hot.  Actually I would believe that some women are mean to other women that are prettier because the hot girls make them feel bad about themselves.  But sometimes that is because the hot girl is just a bitch, so it’s hard to discern what the source of the animosity is.

But in all seriousness, I think everybody has good and bad things in life.  There is no across-the-board “these people have it harder than this other group of people.”  Life is a bitch, and eventually you die.  Pretty or not.  Sorry for the morbid tone, but I think it’s reality.

“Be kind, for EVERYONE you meet is fighting a hard battle.”- Plato

i don’t think i’m gorgeous… but i know i’m not butt ugly, either.  and while that may have benefited me in the dating scene, i think it’s actually hurt me on other areas.  no one takes me seriously in my field (archaeology) because of how i look or dress. 

Lol, women are so mean to eachother…

And I see the author’s point, but on the plus side, it appears (in general, but it depends what field you’re in) most of the big bosses are men. It could be a plus for the “beauties” of this world.

@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Yeah I figured that =)

I don’t care. I judge people by their heart, and their hygiene. If you’re ugly but you don’t smell, and you’re a great person, then I love you. If you’re beautiful and you don’t smell and you’re a great person, then I love you. If you’re a bitch then I don’t love you. Case closed. Beauty only wins in the first couple of milliseconds. Then you have to be human and prove yourself, no matter how you look. Though it is easier to get laid if you’re beautiful. I only say this from experience.

So THAT’S why I have such a hard life.. I’m flattered. Ha, kidding.

People will judge you no matter what you look like, depending on their own insecurities. I think it’s a part of human nature.

@mynameisblueskye@xanga - That’s annoying that xanga changed it. The question they changed it to is absolutely bizarre; yours is a much more intelligent version. Sorry about that! 

Did you choose that picture of Megan Fox? It goes the extra mile to make this post impossible to take seriously, just because she’s a very beautiful woman who everyone pretty much universally hates because she’s so vapid and bitchy.

I am highly skeptical of this as almost all previous research has demonstrated that attractive people make more money, are more well liked, and are even perceived to be more morally good (halo effect).

@vwxya@xanga - xanga’s division sites, such as Lovelyish, choose the pictures, when yours was submitted without one. So, I did not choose that Megan Fox picture. But since the blog is about a magazine article that discusses some women or men being judged or penalized, because of their physical assets, I would understand a little as to why they chose her for that picture. Personally, I think they just want an excuse to post Ms. Fox on a blog again. Heh!

life is indeed hard basically (:

I am iffy on this issue. When it comes to careers and getting things in life, I think beautiful people have it way easier than unattractive people. Say, if you want to apply for a highly prestigious job. Who do you think they will pick? The attractive/dumb one or the ugly/smart one? The attractive one of course. They want someone attractive to represent their company and make it look good. Sad, but it’s true.

Also, on the other hand, I do believe that beautiful people are easily discriminated against. Like me for example, one person actually told me that they wouldn’t think I would be friends with her because I was so attractive….um…okay? I am friends with anyone, no matter how they looked.

Also, a lot of my friends wouldn’t invite me to their parties because they would fear that I would take their man away from them (because I was too attractive). C’mon! That’s ridiculous.

So, I think they do have it easier but I do think that they have it hard at times. It’s a gray area with me.

i’m on the fence with this one, mainly because i’ve been on both sides.
i get called ‘beautiful’ a lot. (i know this sounds very conceited, but i promise that is not my intention)
and often times, girls have jealousy issues with this, so i get verbal abuse from them. i’ve been falsely accused on multiple occasions of checking out or hitting on an unavailable man.. or attacked for being ‘fake’ because my eyelashes are so impossibly long or called stuck up for dressing nicely every day because…well…dammit i like to look nice.
at the same time… i have BDD. so it’s practically impossible for me to see myself as even remotely attractive. i’ve been this way for ages. when i was younger my family would always criticize my appearance, there were constant standards i was emotionally forced to live up to.

basically i think for beautiful people, it seems to be more difficult on the people they’re around than for the attractive person themselves.
for the most part, unattractive people find it emotionally draining being around attractive people, being judged for their looks, or comparing themselves to celebrities – thinking those are the standards they must live up to.

i’m not even sure if this made sense. haha.

i’ve seen beautiful people get isolated from groups. i’ve also seen them get bullied and picked on by jealous girls in high school… to say that beautiful people have it completely easy isn’t right, either. but i do not believe one group has it harder than the other… every group is misunderstood to some extent, even the majority.

@jenessa1889@xanga - I know there was at least one study that found attractive women were discriminated against in jobs that were considered traditionally male (Stefanie K. Johnson, Kenneth E. Podratz, Robert L. Dipboye, Ellie Gibbons. Physical Attractiveness Biases in Ratings of Employment Suitability: Tracking Down the ‘Beauty is Beastly’ Effect. The Journal of Social Psychology, 2010; 150 (3): 301). 

I think many of the comments here exemplify one of the negatives of being an attractive person –namely, that nobody takes them seriously when they claim looks-based discrimination.  I have no doubt that being attractive does come with downsides, especially for women.  However, there is also no denying that attractiveness has perks as well –so I think it’s a little pointless to try and compare who has it tougher.  

@just_the_average_jane@xanga -  interesting study, I’ll have to see if my school’s database has it.

scientifically speaking you can definitely compare who has it tougher.   if there are one or two down sides but a million perks then it’s silly to complain about it.   it’s sort of like when American kids complain about not getting what they wanted for Christmas, totally ignoring that kids in Africa didn’t even get food that day, much less presents.

I’m not saying being attractive doesn’t have it’s downsides, or that more downsides won’t be revealed in the future, or that the culture won’t change against them to create more down sides, but as the research stands now there are way more perks than downsides that we know of.

I think this is only ture for situtations where looks actually matter, like dating for example. As far as getting scholarships and jobs go unless your work depends on your appearance no one is going to care.

If I liked what i saw in the mirror I wouldn’t mind having one or two bad days.

In my expierience I have noticed that whether or not the attractive person is a likable person or not people tend to really want to like them, even if they have reason not to. 

Megan Fox isn’t beautiful to me so….

i dont think it has anything to do with how you look o.O
you can be beautiful and have a horrible life, same if you’re “ugly”
it’s not like your looks determine how your life will play out for you.
only you can do that

I would like to think that me and my fiancée are very beautiful people. Most people think we are attractive. It does seem to me that all of our less good looking friends do in fact have it easier than us. What people like to think is that beauty and smarts get you places. But, being a “beautiful person” II know it doesn’t work out that way. Being at the right places at the right time, having the right friends, and your parents already being successful seems like the only way to get any place in the world. It doesn’t matter that we have nice faces to look at or that we are smart. We don’t have schooling or someone to give us a step up. Beauty doesn’t bring money and luck to you. Coincidence does. 

@tofloataway@xanga - I find it hilarious that you’re proving the article right.

@Mangonese@xanga - how exactly?

I think beautiful people have more misery in life.

@jenessa1889@xanga - Well no, but for each individual, wouldn’t the ratio of pros to cons depend on where they were, what field they worked in, etc?  For example, attractive women may benefit in a majority of fields, but if the attractive woman in question is trying to make her way in engineering, she might be facing more negatives than pluses.  You can compare the overall/average, but that means nothing when it comes to the individual –so you couldn’t accurately make a blanket statement like “Pretty people have easier lives than ugly people” that doesn’t leave room for exception.  

@jenessa1889@xanga - Also, I hope by “complain about it” you are referring to complaining about being beautiful, not complaining about the negative in question!  I agree that it is silly to complain about being beautiful –but I don’t think it’s at all silly to speak out about the negatives that one faces because of it (eg workplace discrimination). 

@just_the_average_jane@xanga - not as a black and white rule obviously, but as a general rule yes.   always? no, on average? yes

@just_the_average_jane@xanga - no of course.   if something unfair is happening people should complain as much as possible.   that’s not what i meant at all.

That’s funny. I’d recently read that percieved “beautiful people” actually were higher in line for pormotions at jobs, are more likely to be considered at job interviews, and have a higher average yearly salary than “non-beautiful” people. One way or another, one of the studies has a bunch of non-beautiful people lying about how beautiful they are, haha.

I think no.. yeah,… pretty people get treated different a few times, but I think less attractive people get shot down in society a lot more. Sometimes people just gotta complain but I agree.. suck it up and move on! 

I’ve had people hate me for my looks before, and I’m not even that pretty, so I’m sure model status girls could have it worse.

I don’t discriminate though, I hate all bitches – pretty or unfortunate looking.

I think that anything that takes attention away from your personality can be damaging.

I think women are way too competitive. Even if you are mildly attractive, other women will be rude.

I think that’s why I get along better with men.

im a very beautiful person…i used to try to look deeper at other people for inner beauty; but all everyone saw was my good looks and i always had a lot of jealousies im my life…or back stabbings and lies and evils from ugly or normal looking people..

Well as an athletic male – 184 cm 110kilo. 54″ chest, 36 ” waist. can tell u appearance makes  a huge difference. As  a tall male if I am single and walk into a nightclub, women will quickly approach you to get the dibs in. I have dated playboy models,national beauty contest winners, had women fly my across oceans excetra to have their way with me. I do not approach women, or take them on dates. The approach me and take me to dinner. The upside is women see me as a fun screw- the downside – not as relationship material.

How hard is it as an athletic male. One time when I was a skier in Colorado I was walking along the road on a beautiful sunny day, 10 below F with my shirt off enjoying the sun on my skin. A car drove past, did a u-turn then pulled up beside me, The door opened, a beautiful woman wearing mini skirt, high stiletto boots- smiled and asked me if i needed a lift with a bit of a giggle- I looked at her,at the short dress-got in the car- ran my legs up her inner thigh and kissed- .rather than spend her ski trip skiing -we spent the week making love not leaving the hotel room. She was a current beauty contest winner- and no not a bimbo- I am a researcher and it turns out beautiful people will tend to be smarter as well. beautiful women get the pick of males they breed with and hence have more beautiful ,more athletic intelligent children.A down side my daughter has suffered as a beautiful tall intelligent blonde- is when she has had a fat ugly teacher or a short male teacher she has suffered harassment  based on jealousy.Another downside. when i was in my teens I was a sprinter- when i went to the beach abuse was often hurled at me- randomns would yell- “you poser you r up yourself” . I ended up wearing a baggy white shirt at the beach- In my late 40′s when going down for lunch time 3 k swim I have had people at the beach hurl that kind of abuse- of course they were always fat,
One time I was at the shops wearing a xxxl cheap bonds t shirt. A fat person came up to me and said”u r so up ur self wearing that muscle shirt- to which i replied it is just a xxl cheap t shirt- so it is obviously not the shirt- if u wore it it would be a slob shirt.
Strange but true- recently I was at a business networking function. I was talking to a guy about my beloved chickens. I very plain frumpy short woman standing behind me that I had not noticed started hurling abuse at me- weird – what she said angrily was- I feel sorry for you- all women will do is look at u and want to have sex with you- and suck u dry- i laughed at teh wacko and said yeah that as been mu life and its not that bad- to which she said u are going to be alone when u r old- to which i laughed thats what my dog is for- weird-

Yes, beautiful people have it harder. I am considered very attractive (sexy or whatever) for other people. I honestly don’t care about it, and yeah it is very hard for me to make friends and it is not because I treat them badly. Instead, I never ever even intend on offending them. It has cost me many things and sometimes I have to work very hard to show that I am more than just a pretty face. I haven’t had a best male friend ever and my best female friend of 13 years threw me on me face that I had it easy because I am miss perfect. So, I honestly don’t know what I have to do to make people happy. I can’t trust anybody and sometimes I don’t even know if my boyfriend really loves me because he will differentiate me from other girls just because I am “pretty” and then oh yeah and you are smart…., but what comes first is my physical aspect. All guys do the same. Sometimes I even try to look badly to become more acceptable by no brushing my hair or things like that. Only people who get to know for a very long time get to tell me “you are a very good person” I guess they didn’t expect it. To me being pretty is just one more stereotype and as almost all of them, it is been stigmatized.