As much as I’d like Lovelyish to be drama-free, anytime you combine women (heck, anybody) with the alluring anonymity of the Internet, you’re going to get at least a few people who take their own personal problems out on total strangers. I know I’ve been called everything from fat to ugly to to unintelligent to the C-word! And it’s usually over something silly like someone didn’t like a t-shirt I chose for a post. Anyway, here are 5 reasons why you shouldn’t give these people the time of day.
1. They’re not content with something in their own lives, and it gives them some kind of relief to attack other people. If you feel powerless or like you have no control in real life, it can give you a sense of superiority to go online and unleash your frustrations with yourself on others. Remember, healthy, secure people don’t need to go online and curse at random people from behind the shelter of an Internet profile.
2. They’re having personal problems and take it out on strangers. Similarly, if you’re having problems in your life — anything from fighting with your boyfriend to a parent being ill — getting caught up in online drama can offer a distraction and a catharsis for your stress. I know that when I have a bad day is when I feel this almost unnoticable urge to get cranky on the Internet. But then I think about it and try to realize what I’m doing; I don’t know who these people are online, and what I’m getting worked up about it hardly consequential in real life or anywhere. Then I try to focus on tackling the real issues in my life.
3. They have nothing better to do. Some people are literally on this site all day, commenting on every post a few minutes after it goes up. Do they have jobs? Go to school? Just stay home and surf Lovelyish all day? It doesn’t matter, and we’re thankful they’re on the site. But think about it: if YOU were taking every post with the level of seriousness most people reserve for middle Eastern politics, and feeling the need to comment on every single post, you’d resort to being cranky sometimes too.
4. They’re just trolling. Some people roam Xanga and purposely say racist or sexist or nasty things just to get a rise out of you. See previous reason.
5. Regardless of the reason, their comments say more about them than you. If someone has to attack another person (especially on a fashion blog! We’re not fighting over Middle East politics, people), it indicates way more about their personality and how they handle stress and anger in their lives than it says about you and your opinions.
Bottom line, I don’t know you and what’s going on in your life, and you don’t know me and what’s going on in mine. Let’s keep our personal drama and matters out of our Internet lives (vent to your dog, if you need to!), ignore random haters and let Lovelyish be a fun, drama-free site.
*waiting for people to purposely troll this post*