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I don’t understand how anyone can be criticial of people who choose to wait. Saving yourself for marriage is hard, they deserve respect, not criticism or judgment.

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - Definitely! I especially love what Lisa had to say. totally agree with her

i’m waiting too…it doesn’t always have to be about God, like for the Jonas’, or about being afraid, like for Lisa. for me it’s about me.

I call bs on Kevin Jonas lol. I don’t think any of the Jonas Bro’s are virgins.

To each their own. 

lol i don’t care either way, but someone saving himself/herself for marriage isn’t something to ‘applaud,’ and isn’t something that automatically makes him/her worthy of respect! let’s be serious here :/

and i don’t think mariah carey and nick cannon should count, since we all know they had sex before they married (just not with each other).  plus, they both make my skin crawl

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - I agree with you. I’ve heard critics compare it to buying a car without a test drive. Crass. But if you really love someone & you’re not instantly compatible in the bed, I would think they would be worth the time & communication to get to that point. And wouldn’t it seem so much more special since you had both put your time & effort together into creating a beautiful union? Just my two cents, though…

@SexyGamerGirl@xanga - i disagree. that’s, for sure, why some of their relationships ended, and they seemed, to me, to be dead set on waiting.

@B2yan_C@xanga - agreed

I do applaud them.

Especially anyone nowadays who doesn’t have sex until marriage.
I’m not one for this, but if someone wants to, then go right ahead and wait. It’s really up to you.:)

@dude_this_world_sux@xanga - Meh, Idk. I kinda was in love with Kevin for a while, and had my friend’s lil sis obsessed with the boys so I came “into contact” with them a lot. It just didn’t seem legit to me. I felt like it was more Disney trying to shove it down kids’ throats.

Either way I don’t fault him if he didn’t wait, nor do I fault him if he did wait. Honestly, it a person’s choice and no one should be judged for that. I just don’t believe the whole “I’m waiting” thing from the Jonas boys.

I just don’t believe Mariah waited till marriage. Perhaps she waited for marriage when it came to Nick but before all that? I’m not buying it. Then agian that goes for most of these people. Did they wait while they were with that current partner or did they not have sex their entire lives before they met those people? I could see how some people would see both as “waiting for marriage” even though they’re not the same. And I’m not calling her a slut in any way but that woman had too much sexual energy back in the day to be a virgin that whole friggin time.

I honestly don’t care. I’m not gonna praise or harshly judge someone who chose to wait because it really doesn’t make a difference. Being a virgin doesn’t mean you’re worth more or less than someone who isn’t. 

I personally like to test the waters before I jump in. I’m not going to pretend like sexual compatibility isn’t a big part of a relationship for me. 

I don’t think it should really matter either way. Everyone is unique and based on their own personal beliefs combined with their life experiences, each person’s views on sex and intimacy before and/or after marriage are going to be slightly different. As long as they are being safe and showing respect to one another, who are we to judge what someone does or doesn’t do behind bedroom doors with the one they have feelings for? 

I LOVE IT because I’m waiting too. So its definitely encouraging.

@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - I agree about Mariah.

I doubt she was a virgin before she married Nick, but maybe she waited with Nick till they were married. Hasn’t anyone heard about her and Eminem? And the songs they did back and forth? Something definitely went on there, though she claims it didn’t. His retaliation song was hilarious, though. Whatever the case, good for them.

If true, then all the credit & props in the world to them!

fun fact, Hugh Hefner also waited until marriage.  those sorts of morals didn’t really stick with him, i guess.

Okay, cool. Mad props to anyone who stays true to what they believe.

Just sucked for the Jonas bro that said he didn’t see why sex was so “awesome” after his honeymoon. Poor wife.

LOLS… that’s all.

@xx0behindthesmile@xanga - she wasn’t a  virgin before nick, she just didnt have sex with him tillthe married, id dint read the specifics of the posts but thats what i read elsewhere

in this day and age thats an amazing feat

How very awesome of these people, esp. Lisa Kudrow, Jessica Simpson and the Jonas Brothers!

I really don’t believe the JoBros are virgins. And, good for these people. If they feel the need to wait until marriage, then that’s what they should do. Sex is a personal choice.

saving yourself these days sometimes mean they did everything besides sex, which isn’t exactly “pure.” I believe lisa. the others, whatever.

I applaud them and their conscious decisions to wait. It’s good for young girls (and boys) to be able to acknowledge both sides of the spectrum and see that waiting is okay too. Sex is shoved in our faces 24/7 from the media and I think it’s healthy for younger people to be able to see that having sex at a young age, or even before marriage, isn’t necessary to be accepted in today’s society. 

I’m so proud of them. I actually didn’t like Lisa Kudrow at all until finding this out.

I don’t see why it’s something to applaud. So, you chose to wait? Who cares? It doesn’t make you a better person than people who decided not to wait.

I love what Lisa said! I’m waiting too!

this was amazing. i’m waiting too. love lisa’s comment about it ! thanks for posting it. 

ps – sexual compatibility doesn’t have to be a soul characteristic. if you REALLY love someone, you will make things work to where both of you are satisfied. sleeping with a ton of people until you find someone with sexual compatibility seems like a waste, find someone you love instead :]

@xx0behindthesmile@xanga - She was married before to Sony big wig Tommy Mottola.  All she did was wait to have sex with the new guy until they were married.  Girl was in no way a virgin in the traditional sense.

I think it’s brilliant.

Doubtful that Mariah waited until her marriage with Nick, but who cares?  Good for them, and none of my business. 

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - i find more fault with the holier-than-thou attitude that generally comes along with people who choose to wait.  if the only way you can make yourself feel good about your choice to abstain is by bashing those who choose to have sex, you’re not getting any respect from me.  

I don’t understand why this is a hot topic being discussed. Who cares if celebrities wait or don’t wait. Better yet, who cares if people wait or don’t.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww..

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - Of course they deserve respect, people who don’t wait also deserve it.

@individually_surveys@xanga - Exactly. 

I couldn’t care less whether they’re virgins or not (I don’t think that matters), but I do applaud them for staying true to themselves.  That’s always admirable. 

I think waitin til marriage is a great idea, I just don’t know a lot of people who would have the will power to do so. I didn’t, and the vast majority of males & females I’m friends with didn’t either. If someone has the ability to, then more power to them.

I have so much respect for these ladies. I know it’s right to wait until marriage and I want to, but I don;t know if I will. I don’t want to be 35, not married and still a virgin. But I’m 17 now and in a relationship but I have no interest in losing it ANY time soon.

I used to want to wait ’til marriage… lol, that changed.

So if you’ve had sex before you’re not worthy of a good husband? 

Yeah, that’s a healthy mindset.

Everyone is different and has different beliefs or practices. Sex is a personal decision. You can’t appalled someone for waiting or for not waiting. That’s childish, honestly.

@too_pretty_to_die@xanga - That attitude exists on both sides of the equation though. The virgins bash the sexually active, and the sexually active bash the virgins for being “prudes.” The respect needs to be equal on both sides, but anyone who chooses to wait in a society where abstinence is considered an unrealistic ideal shouldn’t be ridiculed for it.

Serves to confirm that people can act like they are people and not animals…

@hopethatitglows@xanga - omg did he really?  I don’t keep up with these things but that’s awful if he did lol!

@hopethatitglows@xanga - oh, didn’t really happen, the original post quoting that was a satirical one and the gossip rags ate it up like a menstrual woman on chocolate.  too bad, that would have been hilarious.

good for them. & me hahha. i find that so many people cant wait…but everyone is different [:

I applaud them highly. I’m so tired of hearing about teenage pregnancies and teens that have sex in school. It’s sickening.

i guess i applaud them, although i see no problem with sex before marriage. it’s nice to see these famous people not rush into things, though. 

lisa kudrow is da bomb

I absolutely applaud them. I think there would be a lot less heartbreak, mental anguish, disease, and lack of fidelity if more people tried to wait till marriage.

Yay for Jessica! And JoBro.

@lizpimphat@xanga - I heard that Hugh Hefner waited until marriage too. Then his wife cheated on him and he was absolutely devastated, so she allowed him to cheat on her back… then it just went all downhill from there.

@sarahzthoughts@xanga -  Agree!

Lisa Kudrow… YES!

it’s definitely awesome if people could wait till marriage (: because this is how it should be.

lies.

Mariah Carey has been married before, so “saving it til marriage” for a second (third?) husbad? Not so impressive.

I LOVE what Lisa Kudrow had to say! So sweet and intelligent.

I honestly neither praise or criticize them for waiting.

To each one’s own.

agreed, to each their own.

I waited so happy I did. It feels like a great accomplishment that I never gave into sex. I knew I always wanted to try to stay a virgin tell marriage. my husband loved me enough to wait for me, thats an awesome feeling. <3

@skittler335@xanga - agree

It’s okay to wait, I commend those people. But it’s when they think they are better than everyone else that I start to get annoyed. Not saying everyone who waits is like that. But in my experience some of the people who wait, tend to push their beliefs onto us “non-waiters” I don’t think waiting or not waiting is a bad thing at all. It’s your body, do what you want.

To each their own.  But it is kind of refreshing to know that I’m not some sort of endangered species because I don’t hop into bed early in a relationship.

@xx0behindthesmile@xanga - the article does say she waited with Nick, it doesn’t say she was a virgin. All it means is after her first husband, she waited until she was married to the second.

its not about self control, its a personal choice you decide based on yourself. if you want to for whatever reason thats fine. but a person can do what they want with total respect and i think a lot of the commentors are forgetting that…

I applause!

As someone who waited until she was married
(at 19) to consummate a relationship with sex, I can safely
say (now at age 35) that I did not make a mistake.  It takes a strong
will and a deep belief in God, but it’s so worth it to wait.  I feel
pure, and I would not have felt this way if I had had sex before I was
married.  It’s not that I didn’t *want* to have sex before marriage –
but I held out.  It’s so worth it, girls! 

I think virginity..is much more than a penis inside a vagina!! So, when these couples say they are ‘saving themself” for that special someone?? I think it’s nonsense because they probably have already been intimate, just not the single act..

No one who has seen a guy naked or his personal body parts really can be considered a virgin in my book.

Bunch of nonsense.

However, I definitely think that sex is much more than recreational when we share our most intimate body parts with each other.. And, as a gift, I believe sex is so much more meaningful and exciting and terrific when shared with someone you love.

Christy

I don’t know if I’ll wait till marriage the 2nd time (divorced) but it definitely won’t be as quick as it was before.

I waited until I was married, and I don’t regret it. I do regret marrying him, because he’s not who I thought he was, but that makes for an argument for dating longer (and not long distance) rather than having sex before marriage.  I don’t think I would have known him any better had we had sex before we were married.  Maybe not even if we’d dated longer, some people change after marriage, it’s like a “trigger” for them to become a jerk.  As it stands right now,  I plan to wait until I’m married again to have sex with anyone else.  And that won’t be for a while; I’m not even dating right now.

@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - that’s what the post is saying. mariah and him waited. obviously she would have had sex with her previous husband… 

I just don’t think it’s practical. Sex is a part of romantic partnerships – if you don’t realize until the honeymoon how sexually incompatible you are… um, whoops? Are you going to get a divorce immediately?

@x___Lou@xanga - Never knew she had a previous husband in the first place. Besides it’s like I said, when you think of “no sex before marriage” it’s usually them waiting for the “right person” and they don’t have sex until they meet and marry that person. 

I love Lisa Kudrow, and believe everyone has a right to their opinions on any subject, but saying “Because I have to make myself worthy of the kind of man I have in mind.” sounds bitch/harsh.. Because I decided not to save myself, you’re telling me I’m not worthy?

I think it’s awesome that people decide to wait for their SO until’ marriage, but when some people talk about “I want to be seen as worthy to the man of my chosing,” it makes me feel guilty. I’m less valuable because I didn’t wait? …disagree. My choice should be respected just as much as anyone elses.

Kudos to them and everyone who does this.

I like Lisa’s stance on the issue. That’s how I feel as well. I respect her a lot for her mature take on waiting until marriage.

i only really think that waiting to have sex until the right time is best! though yea it is better to have waited til marriage to give yourself away but a lot of times marriages are overrated and it never even holds a true purpose anymore. 

fascinating.

mariah carrey waitied for her marriage with nick to have sex with him! she obviously was not a virgin  before meeting nick do you guys know how to read? and I believe everyone is different. some people place a big emphasis on sex others not so much. I am not sure if I am waiting yet but I just want to be with that one guy that I know will appreciate it. It is definitely hard but it is all personal choice. 

I love the Jonas brothers!

@lilblucherrygrl@xanga - Mariah Carey was married to Tommy Mottola back in the day so she most definitely was not a virgin when she married Nick. She just decided to wait the two months they dated.

The Lisa Kudrow story is the rumor that just won’t die. She even appeared on the Tonight Show saying that it wasn’t so! Just Google “Lisa Kudrow virgin”.

@hoodsy@xanga - I disagree with you.  It is absolutely worthy of respect when people wait until marriage.  It is the right thing to do and shows true love, not lust and using others.  Our society is suffering a lot from lust.

@MichinCal - LOL thank you for resurrecting this by posting your inane response, wasn’t my comment from last year?? Congrats on thinking everyone should have the same feelings as you, you’re in for a world of disappointment!

Learning WHY waiting is ideal makes understanding WHY it is *best* and increases the likelihood of marital success.  i.e.  www.laughyourway.com  Mark Gungor explains physiologically *why* one should wait.  My husband and I  bought the DVD’s and enjoy watching them once a month.