We know what most men find attractive in a woman on a very basic level: pretty face, curvaceous body. Then there are the other, more controllable things we know that make us more attractive: being clean, having nice hair, being well-groomed in general, keeping relatively fit, having a good sense of humor, intelligence, confidence. Most of these things are common sense.
But then there are the things that aren’t as common sense – little things that can subtly influence the way men perceive a woman’s attractiveness on a subliminal level. Here’s a list of those things. Isn’t soft science fun?
1. Wear the color red.
A number of studies have shown that men unconsciously judge a woman wearing the color red to be more attractive and sexually desirable than if she were to wear any other color.
One such study, conducted by the University of Rochester and published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that men would tend to sit closer to the woman wearing red, they would ask more intimate questions, and they would be more desiring for her attention. Men were also more likely to ask the woman wearing red out for a date, and more willing spend more money on that date. The study argues that men’s sexual arousal at the color red is a preference deeply rooted in their biologies; they point out that even non-human primates are more sexually aroused by the females who display more red.
2. Wear scents that smell of cinnamon, lavender, or vanilla.
Many women mistakenly assume men are attracted to the same kinds of “sexy” perfumes that appeal to women. In reality, a man’s sense of smell is very different from a woman’s, in both preference and sensitivity. A woman’s sense of smell is often much more sensitive, and according to a study done by the Social Issues Research Center, it can sometimes be up to 1000 times more sensitive than a man’s for certain smells. So – as a study put out by the Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago found out – it’s actually scents like lavender, vanilla, and cinnamon that are the most attractive to men. Alan Hirsch, a neurologist for the foundation found that the smell of vanilla and lavender were especially very arousing to men. Lavender (mixed with the smell of pumpkin) is sometimes even used as a natural remedy for men with impotence.
3. Tilt your head slightly down.
A study that was conducted by the University of Newcastle and published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology found that men perceive women to be more attractive and feminine when her face is tilted slightly downwards. Tilting her face upward made the woman appear more masculine, and therefore less attractive to the men in the study.
4. Look approachable through your posture.
According to Patti Wood, and expert on body-language communication and the author of several books on the subject, the key to using your body language to attract men is by appearing “very approachable”. To do so, she suggests standing with your feet no farther than 6-inches apart and to point your toes slightly inward. At the same time, don’t slouch. Stand straight and confident.
5. Send out clear signals of interest by smiling and laughing often .
Okay, so this one isn’t really so subliminal, but I thought it was kind of interesting anyway: studies have shown that a woman who smiles an average of 35 times is much more likely to be approached by men than if she were simply good-looking. This makes sense, since a study done by the University of Innsbruck found that reciprocity is a very crucial component in a someone’s perceived attractiveness – it even had the power of making someone who was previously judged “unattractive” appear “moderately attractive once there was acknowledge reciprocity.
6. Play up your eyes and lips.
A study published in the International Journal of Cosmetic Science found that makeup around the eyes had the strongest influence over a man’s judgment of a woman’s beauty. However, another study conducted by Manchester University found that it was a woman’s lips that was most attractive part of her face to a man. I’m leaning on eyes being more important, but either way, I think it’s safe to say that the eyes and lips play important factors in perceived attractiveness.
Have you noticed any subliminal tricks that seem to work for you personally?
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We have the pussy. We don’t need the tricks.
sunflower / 317 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - THIS.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Agreed.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Word.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Yep.
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Most of these I already have read about and overall I think they work. However, I’m not sure about the scent thing.
You can’t go wrong with cleavage.
hydrangea / 88 posts
haha
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I can agree with make-up.
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I agree with RED.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - so true.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - absolutely!
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - WORD!
lily / 5148 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Lol
Extra work doesn’t hurt =)
ranunculus / 3457 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga – Best comment ever.
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in layman’s terms…confidently wear red, smile and tilt your head in a submissive position while puckering your feminine lips so he can fantasize about you about to perform a bj
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I don’t use “tricks”. I’m just me.
sunflower / 355 posts
Isn’t my fantastic personality enough?
Ha..ha…ha.
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@tomorrow_may_rain@xanga - LOL. actually made me laugh out loud.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - ahahahahahahahaha yes!
orchid / 183 posts
I definitely agree with laughing a lot and making eye contact
orchid / 114 posts
I never knew about wearing red or the vanilla smell.
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i always heard the red thing and I love the color red on me.. until my BF said red was the least attractive color on me… ?????????
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These are all true.
orchid / 217 posts
So got any tricks for the girl that can’t get a decent guy no matter what she does?
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does she have a heart beat??? ..sighs.. works for me…
sunflower / 334 posts
I guess I don’t understand the head tilt thing but everything is accurate from a dude’s point of view.
sunflower / 403 posts
@AzNgUrl3510@xanga - I think red looks good on every woman.
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I can agree with these =) I also heard that when men wear red, women tend to find them (for lack of a better word at the moment) powerful.
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@Ascesion_to_Clarity@xanga - I heard (read) something like that too.
I don’t think I get the head tilt thing. Maybe it’s leaning toward someone that looks like interest? Maybe the downward tilt is less challenging? Maybe there is even, as someone implied, a common interest in a more submissive appearance. It might vary by culture too. But I really don’t know about that one. I think that appearing confident and interested, including that smiling and such, would be more appealing.
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I don’t care if I’m attractive to men. I want them to do something about the attraction, thanks.
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@noPrinceCharming@datingish - stop trying to fool everyone else and stop looking for douchebags. If that means you have to wait a little longer, date someone a little less exciting, or someone a little lower on the looks scale, then so be it, but don’t blame your choice to date the pigs of my gender on a lack of “decent guys.”
And that wasn’t meant to be threatening, before I get a shitstorm of PMS flailed at me by anyone
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Great, great post. I knew a lot of this information already, but it’s obviously useful and interesting to other people too.
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@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - rofl. Sounds about right to me!
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - THIS. Well said.
I dislike the fact that this post, while not aiming to, does support gender differences & seems to encourage inequality.
There would never be a “X amount of Subliminal ‘Tricks’ to be More Attractive to Women” – Lovelyish, do you want accept that challenge?
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play with your hair, flip it and touch the ends…its called hair preening
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@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Took the words right out of my mouth.
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is this the same girl that wrote a post about Prince william’s gf being ugly? ……LMFAOOO
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… i swear i read almost the exact same thing in cosmo or glamour. lovelyish PLEASE CITE IF YOU’RE PARAPHRASING.
rose / 812 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - so true
daisy / 593 posts
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - YES.
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OMG! This is the documentary for the single ladies. If you have Netflix…look for “The Science of Sex Appeal“. This thing gives you everything for a man to know about a woman and for a woman to know about in a man. I’m married so i dont really need to use these tips to attract a man, but i often wonder…did i “not-knowingly” use these tips to bag my hubby in 2007? Most of the tips are in our chemistry and we cant help but dish it out, BUT if you definitely know these tips from the the get-go….you can use them to your advantage more. ^_^
sunflower / 304 posts
I detest the smell of lavender and will never wear it for any purpose. I looove vanilla scents though, and wear those often. mmmm.
my eyes and lips are also my best features I think, and I’ve been told that by men in the past. word up. this list seems pretty accurate.
orchid / 109 posts
@Thumper49047@xanga - i would imagine that’s instinctual, kinda like a sign of submission.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - LOL YES!
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Sounds manipulative and catering to men with overactive libido who want to have a little girl for a mate instead of a grown woman. You need to stand slightly pigeon-toed to look approachable? Wow. I don’t think I would be compatible with such a man.
sunflower / 405 posts
haha they say red dress in that jonas brothers song
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@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - But don’t forget that “confident” really means “confident in bed but submissive everywhere else (and in bed if that’s what he wants)”. How can you look confident when you’re tilting your face down? You can’t, you look submissive. You want to look confident, you look them in the eye, and for most women with most men this means tilting your face up. However, this is equating “confident” with “masculine” or “aggressive” which men don’t like, because “masculine” does not equal “blowjob”. If a girl is only attracting men based on her physical attributes, he’s only going to be interested in those attributes. He won’t care if you’re smart and funny, just that you put out.
cherry blossom / 25 posts
I read a similar article about how body language/posture can change a lot about your attractiveness to men… I read this before a first date, and on that date I tried it. I also tried the smiling often trick, and making lots of eye contact. And it worked, so well. The date went so much smoother than others had and we really connected and I felt more attractive myself too. those ones definitely work.
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@Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga - I think men like women to be comfortable enough to try out new sexual things but be submissive in bed and let him take control, and look confident and sexy in public to make him look good to build his image amongst his bros
while being submissive and stare at him with puppy dog eyes or not embarrass him by outshining his macho confidence. lure them in with an appealing bait but make sure you have enough bait or personality to keep the fish interested or else he’ll move onto the next fish hook with more benefits or something. however, if the fish isn’t appealing either and turns out to be a sardine instead of a giant tuna fish, then I might throw the sardine back into the sea to catch the more appealing fish
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that’s one thing I’m really bad at is smiling at random guys that are checking me out. My automaticdefensemechanism is to ignore them.
Lavender’s my favorite scent.
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@AzNgUrl3510@xanga - Lol don’t worry, i’ve been told the same thing. i think it has a lot to do with eye/hair color. For example, i have green eyes & brown hair so a royal blue looks best on me. I can’t tell your eye color but i can tell you would be a more blue/green colors kind of girl.
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7. let your tits hang out.
8. bow down in a mini-skirt.
peony / 3 posts
I read in a popular love advice book in Japan that men here prefer women who wear pastel colors over rainbow colors (red, blue, green, etc) because it makes them look more serious, feminine, passive, sophisticated, or some combination of that. I wonder if there is a cultural difference and how it interplays with biological differences.
#5 – 35 smiles per what? Hour? Conversation? Date?
#6 – I’m surprised to see that eyes were rated as an important feature. They don’t seem to have much to do with sex or survival (except maybe if they’re infected or not working, so they show some biological weakness). Also, as eye shape, color, eyelids, eyelashes, and eyebrows vary greatly across cultures, what would be provable characteristics of the ideal eye? Lips make more sense in an evolutionary way.
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@AzNgUrl3510@xanga - maybe he doesnt want you attracting other men while your wearing it,so thats his way of making you not wear it XD
either way i would have smacked that bitch
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@noPrinceCharming@datingish - Don’t try. They’ll come swarming. I unfortunately have this problem now, when I am completely content with my current boyfriend.
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i don’t like the vanilla scent tbh, the cinnamon would work on me. it’d make me think of pie, and I love pie.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Win.
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To be attractive is not a trick. What is really works is teasing
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@thefakereality@xanga - hahaha I literally laughed out loud when I read what you wrote.
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@Just_Another__Disaster@xanga - oo Thanks! I also like those colors
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I’ve been a cheesy smiler all of my life
and I’ve concluded that this is the main reason why males first approach me (in fact, they often mention my “beautiful smile” or say “there’s that smile” etc.). It’s hard work for me to prevent this expression, so I’m lucky I guess ha.
And yes I have vanilla body butter and guys say that I smell good when I use it.
daisy / 507 posts
shimmerBodyCream = HAHAHHAHAHA nice
cherry blossom / 42 posts
love this!
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Hmm…I love to wear red, vanilla scent is already my personal favourite, I smile when I talk to boys, and I frequently emphasise my eyes with make-up. But I’m single! It just doesn’t make sense.
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LOL laugh and smile often?
THATS SO STUPID
like, dont you laugh and smile often anyway? i mean like i do. lol
is that saying to laugh and smile often even if you dont want to?
thats not very smart haahhahahaha yes lie, make him feel like hes making you having a good time. hahaaahahaha
yeah i dont know. usually ican tell when a girl is faking, and often its like….”wow….way to be a zombie” xD
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Always.
One time I wore cotton candy perfume without testing it. I thought I smelled bad, but all day, guys came up to me and hugged me and took a deep breath in and were like, “Damn you smell nice.” it was the strangest thing I’d ever experienced.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - when will they realize this?
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yes males do respond very very well to the smell of lavendar or cinnimon but, and i say this in all sence of truth
no male should get a massage with lavendar oil or ingest it in any form
it promotes estrogen production in men
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I have red hair, red can be bad for me. Good thing I’m no longer shopping. =)
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Also play up your cheekbones with blush…men are subconsciously attracted to women with high cheekbones because it’s an indicator of strong estrogen. Wear clothes that show off your curves (wide hips) because it tells a man’s brain that you can go through childbirth more easily and with less complications; it, too, is an indicator of high estrogen levels (sounds crazy but we are creatures of instinct after all).
When you’re talking to a man, show your motherly side (be subtle, of course). make a motion almost like rocking a baby with your arms, leaned forward (SUBTLE). Be soft.
And the oldest trick in the book: play up your boobs. A man subconsciously wants them because they say to his brain that you can nurse his child (granted, that’s not what he’s thinking as he picks a woman up from a bar, BUT it’s the underlying reason why men love the boobies)
I did a report on this and how evolution shaped our subconscious in a class last semester. I’m not pulling this out of my ass, lol.
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i love red
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Red looks HORRIBLE on me.
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Also, I read somewhere that the smell of vanilla makes guys horny.
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I don’t think you need any tricks if you’re in that stage of life of being happy and good to yourself.
Usually it’s just fairly content and confident people who are usually attractive.
It’s impossible to not smile and giggle when I’m with my boyfriend and he does all these things that makes my heart jump.
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So these are tricks?
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Wearing a vanilla scent sure is alluring to men. I’ve experienced it! “hmm..what’s the scent you’re wearing?” “brown sugar vanilla” “hmm smells really good…..” eye contact. lol
I agree with smiling and laughing too, makes you very attractive.
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@zoetik@xanga - I think pussy is overrated.
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@f1NalFurY@xanga - How so?
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@zoetik@xanga - cause there are apparently much more out there that gets you excited. Pussy is like just one thing. Gets boring after a while.
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@f1NalFurY@xanga - Would it be safe to say that dick is overrated?
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@zoetik@xanga - I would think so. A lot of girls say they fake it in bed so obviously it’s nothing something that is interesting all the time.
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@f1NalFurY@xanga - LOL Agreed… I think sex without attachment, meaning, and some kind of emotion… is overrated. Nowadays people just do it like animals or in order to just boost their lacking egos. Hell, they might just do it as a means to escape.
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=]
peony / 1 posts
sometimes just the pussy isnt what attracts us to women its the way you look i love women with a great pair of legs especially a woman who wears nylons and who can look femine i find that especially attractive and of course a great pair of girls