Apparently, there is a stereotype that pretty girls can’t be smart…
I wrote a political blog a week or so ago, and someone made a smartass comment basically implying that they were shocked because they expected me to be stupid. Then they recommended a blog of THEIRS that implied further that attractive women are not smart. It kind of disturbed me, but after talking to some of my peers, it seems to be the norm to think like that. It also had me thinking of all the times that I heard, “You’re a model, AND you’re smart!? That’s tight.” Seriously?!
Now, I will be the first to say that being a model, you see a lot of women who bank on their looks. They know they are pretty, and they use that “pretty” to get them as far as they can, because they know they have to use what Mother Nature gave them before Father Time takes it away. I see girls who are so encased in a bubble of appearances, that anything with substance is a foreign object. They were raised on a diet of “Oh, you’re so pretty!” They have no concept of the word humility, because their heads were so filled with bullshit when they were coming up. However, NOT ALL PRETTY GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT!
I wasn’t always pretty. I don’t even consider myself really pretty now. I used to be the chubby, quiet girl at the back of the class in elementary school. I was the one in high school that the popular kids would copy from – the one that everybody sort of knew. I had a lot of friends in high school, and they ran the gamut from athletes, theater kids, to Bible Club kids, but I was hardly popular. I had no fashion sense, and usually when it came to my looks, the only thing I was known for was “the white girl (or Asian girl) with the fat ass.”
Nowadays, I run into someone from high school and they are taken aback. I’ve lost weight, and it seems that the ugly duckling has become a swan. I usually get something to the effect of, “Wow, you’ve changed!” or, “What happened to you!? You’ve grown up!” (I mean, I would hope at 23 that I would have grown up, but okay.) When we catch up on the years, the fact that I am a model takes them by surprise, and I usually hear, “I never would have thought YOU would get into modeling.” (Whatever THAT means. Thanks, I guess…)
Regardless of what people say about how my looks have changed, my love for knowledge has never changed. My parents instilled in me the importance of education at a very young age. My mom would always remind me of the reality of depending on your looks: they only last for so long! She would always remind me to have that back-up plan, because, like athletics, modeling only gives you until MAYBE 30 before you’re considered used up, or at least pushing it.
I am getting tired of people acting as if a smart, attractive woman is impossible to find. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not that we are impossible to find. People are just hanging around the wrong kinds of attractive women, or they don’t take the time to get past our looks. They see us aesthetically, but when it comes to actually getting to know us intellectually or emotionally, they aren’t interested. Well, I am here to say, WE EXIST! WE ARE PROUD! And for those who can’t believe it, well, it’s your loss.
Are you a pretty girl who is smart? Why do you think this stereotype exists?