Four young lives have been lost due to anti-gay bullying over the past month.
I can not understand the pain that these went through that drove them to believe that suicide was their only option. It shouldn’t have happened. And it should not happen again.
What are we doing, America? Homophobia has gripped so much of this great nation that it’s okay for other to bully others. To harass them about their sexuality to the point where they are putting a gun to their head and pulling the trigger at the age of 13.
I hope the bullies look at what they have done and realize it just wasn’t worth it. For what? A few laughs? To make yourself look bigger in front of your friends? Was it worth it? Was it worth it that you are basically a murderer? It sickens me. What these young lives could have contributed to this society is lost. Their futures cut short due to torment.
There is an anger inside me that I just don’t know what to do with. A sadness so heavy for the families involved. Yet I still hold hope that this nation will get things turned around. That we will find a way to just agree to disagree so further lives are not lost.
You may not agree with someones sexuality. But it does NOT give you the right to harass them and drive them towards suicide. I pray that others who are going through the same harassment find another way to cope. I hope other bullies across the country see these stories and it scares the living shit out of them and makes them stop. I’m just so sad.
Have you ever been a victim of bullying? What advice can you offer to those who are being bullied?
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Yes… its very sad
More importantly, we should together show love to those who are being bulliedThat way bullies will be too scared to say or do anythingThen everyone can help to raise their self esteem
lily / 5148 posts
Bullying has to end for everyone, regardless of religion, gender or sexuality. It has to end.
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Bullying does have to end..it makes me sad to know it wont end.
orchid / 155 posts
The thing is, I’m glad I was bullied. It helped me learn to put up with aggressive people the older I got. It also taught me to not wear my heart on my sleeve. Call me aloof, call me cynical, the experience made me a more guarded person- because there are people out there that will hurt you without any guilt.
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a lot of children have killed themselves due to bullying (all types), not just those that the media decided to cover. i dont know anyone who hasn’t been bullied and i am not naive to think that this is only happening recently. but what needs to happen is more people need to stand up against and not stand back and watch.
my best friend has been bullied for her whole life and shes in college and still get bullied theres nothing i can do to stop it since we r so far away but being that person she needs when it does happens means the world to her.
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Love and righteousness should be advocated.
tulip / 22 posts
bullying is horrible… i get so angry. what makes one better than another which justifies bullying?
if you have the courage to kill yourself, beat up the people who are bullying you.
sorry… i can’t be 100% peaceful >.<
dahlia / 2382 posts
The thing about bullying is both sides are victims. Something happens to the bully or they lack something & they make others feel like shit. It’s not right. How can you stop it without knowing the problem. It doesnt help that the parents of bullies turn a blind eye to it or swear their kids arent like that.
It’s a damn shame it took years for people to stand up & say this isnt right. Thousands if not more died before of humiliation & taunts but no one thought it serious. It wasnt until people brought fucking guns to school to handle their issues that they checked themselves.
It’s not just kids too. I’ve had teachers fucking pick on me or instigate something to make the class laugh but no one believed me because I was “just a kid”. When my mom went to the board of education though, they quickly sang a new tune. When I was in sixth grade my teacher was just mad at the world over something & took it out on me by calling me stupid when SHE forgot to give me a book in the middle of class. Then when my mom came up to complained, she DENIED it until my friends in class came out & told the principal. Then the bitch started complaining about how the kids in general annoy her. She was gone after that year.
sunflower / 389 posts
You said it better than I ever could. Thank you for writing this. People need to be more inclined to show kindness and stand up for each other instead of torturing others for their own sick pleasure.
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Its sad that tragedy always had to happen, in order for someone to finally created a law to stop it. Its also sad that school doesn’t really care, as most bullies are rich and have a powerful parents, so they can get away from it…..
I really hope this is a wake up calls for parents and educators, to do something about it.
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Good post, I agree.
On another note – I’m surprised an important post like this was published on Lovelyish.
*Xanga’s Batman Out*
daisy / 734 posts
YES.
And @Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - I’ve had the same thing happen to me! It’s horrible.
dahlia / 2382 posts
@bass_chick57 - I know right?! If people dont have the patience to deal with children then dont teach. It sure as hell isnt the highest paying job so why do it?
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I’ll start off by saying, yeah I was bullied in middle school. That was also a long time ago and I have moved on with my life since then. NOW ss sad and wrong as something like this is you can’t fight an army with one gun. It would be really nice if we could put an end to something like this. Nobody should be pushed that far over nothing. The saying goes that “misery loves company” Most bullies have very deep seeded issues that they don’t know what to do with. Maybe gay themselves, but unlike the ones they push around are scared to talk. This is something that just won’t die. It’s just a very sad part of life. All we can do is make these kids see that it’s such a small thing to die over. That high school is not even 20% of your life. That after you’re out of that place life will get better. Even out in real life people will hate gays. You can’t kill bigots.
daisy / 543 posts
Amazing post. I agree with you.
I am a victim of bullying in school because of my chronic anxiety, a “cry baby and attention seeker” I was always called. The counselors looked at me like I was a freak, they didn’t help me at all.
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@A_NY_Zone61@xanga - i was thinking the exact same thing
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I have been a victim of bullying……from elementary to high school sophomore year. I agree with the title, but I disagree with how the post only targeted the latest cause of bullying: ‘Anti-(homo)sexuality’. However, it’s not your fault. It was the stupid decision of the media to ‘showcase’ bullying because of anti-homosexuality, when in reality there are several other reasons why bullying happens. I was bullied solely because I was different….…because I am Asian. People then exposed my short fuse and explosive temper and bullied and ridiculed me until I blew up. Why? Because it made them happy. It made them laugh. It made them want more.……because pissing me off was their way of getting a good laugh, having fun, and being amused. Finally, I learned to stop giving them what they want and focus on what I want. I’m only thankful for this because I learned the difference between lies and the truth and how to tell them apart.
Bullies are individuals who have issues at home and within themselves and just….can’t….deal with it, so they take their anger and aggression out on those they see as weak or different. They pick on the weak and different to make themselves feel big and especially, to get a reaction. They get a reaction, they’ll expect to get the same, if not a better, reaction.
My advice to those who are bullied: DON’T GIVE THEM THE REACTION THEY SEEK! DON’T GIVE THEM A REACTION and they will no longer find it entertaining/amusing to try. Be who you are, not what ‘they’ want you to be
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This kids wouldn’t have even gotten attention had they been straight. Enough of this gay stuff, bullying regardless of orientation/race/whatever has to stop. It’s not just a gay situation. Bullying happens for all sorts of causes, and it ALL has to stop.
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@KoreaKid87@xanga - Aww, thanks for sharing your story, I’m so sorry you were bullied!
tulip / 8 posts
@KoreaKid87@xanga - I am sorry for the hell you were put through. And I completely agree: bullying needs to stop. Period. I took the angle of anti-gay bullying for two reasons: it had happened so often with gays and in a short period of time. And I am a lesbian.
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I wrote a post almost exactly like this one a few days ago. Word needs to get around.
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@ElizSutherland@xanga -
Thanks, but I assure you this is only the perverbial tip-of-the-iceberg of what I went through. I agree with your comment. Anti-homosexuality isn’t the only reason bullying happens, but it’s because it’s the only reason the stupid media can find why bullying happens when there are several other reasons. Bullying in general needs to stop and the sooner EVERYONE gets it, the better
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@secretsandliesforever@xanga -
Thanks. I didn’t mean anything when I disagreed with the view you took. I knew there was a reason why you took the anti-gay approach which is why I didn’t say anything else about that subject. How could I? Seeing as how I was a victim of bullying myself. I sure hope you haven’t been bullied because of your sexual orientation
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It’s not just gay’s who are being bullied. And it isn’t just “gays” killing themselves for being bullied.
It just needs to stop period.
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I was picked on as a child. They call it bullying now . I hated school, hated my peers and overall inherited a distaste for people in general.
I dont trust easily. I have a ton of body issues that ballooned into a nightmare. I’ve delt with an eating disorder all my life….lets see.
That pretty much rounds it out.
I didnt have a horrid life, actually I developed crocodile skin to deal with it all. I’m quick to insult back now and can use half a dozen words to strip someone to their bones. I dont hate everyone, I just have less patience with adults now. My tolerance levels are different.
I wish I would have knocked some of those kids into next Tuesday. Maybe I wouldn’t have had such a hard time.