1. The on-purpose arm touch. It’s pretty cheesy, but if you reach out and graze a guy’s forearm during conversation, he’ll get the hint that you’re into him.
2. Send flirty text messages. We’re not saying you have to sext (and really, if you’re sexting with a dude you’re not even dating, you’re just asking to be shuttled straight to the booty call zone). But a winking smiley face and a “hey, what are you up to tonight?” can go a long, flirtatious way.
3. Make tons of eye contact. As unnerving as it can be at first, holding your man’s gaze sends a bold message that you’re paying attention to what he’s saying and who he is as a person. Hot!
4. Give him a gift. It can be anything from buying him a drink to getting him a new pair of iPod headphones since his broke, but it’s a little gesture saying he’s on your mind.
5. Pay attention to how your body language presents you. If you’re hunched over, speaking quietly and have your chin tucked down, you’re sending a LOUD message: “I’m insecure, do not pass go, do not even think about my community chest.” But if you’re breezy and confident, you’ll be a guy magnet; who wouldn’t want to hang with a girl who knows what she wants out of life?
How do you flirt without words, Lovelies?
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Technically if you send a text message-that’s saying a word…just saying lol
daisy / 593 posts
Terrific. This is such an art more people need to become familiar with.
orchid / 147 posts
Great tips! I’ve heard about the arm grazing thing. I do that ALLLL the time. Believe it or not, it works! :]
rose / 785 posts
strategic glances, the right smile, proximity. go out of your way to get in his personal space, but in a very subtle way.
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This gives guys way too much credit to catch on to flirting. Just be a little more direct, ladies.
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i really, really, disagree with #4. i think it can be a sweet gesture, but for some reason i get the feeling that this guy will thing he’s put up on a pedestal and the girl will end up being a door mat.
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@pulchravalida1988@xanga - Lol! Exactly.
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Tilt your head, smile, and just joke around with him. Flirting is SO easy and fun.
sunflower / 334 posts
These are where I and dyslexic in love! I’m probably just an idiot!
1. arm touch I would probably interpret as flirty – any type of touching to be honest. Because who touches people if they don’t like them?!
2. A wink with a “hey what are you up to tonight?” to me is asking for a booty call…and depending on how much vodka I’ve had, I either ignore or say, “Come on over!”
3. Eye contact is another language to me. Holding my gaze – what are we looking at? Why are we staring at each other? I become confused and then they smile wildly and for some reason creeps me out or I get that outsider feeling of not being in on an inside joke.
4. Give me a gift and I think you want something else or payback for me bringing a cake to work or something.
5. Guy Magnet? Makes her sound like a receptacle, a trashcan, petry dish or something worse. Sorry I don’t want to be with a girl thats been stuck to every guy that’s passed by her before! lol
Like I said, I’m an idiot to the ways of flirting.
rose / 834 posts
I do 3 of these things, but I’m not trying to flirt with my dude friends. Then people think I am. I’m just super comfortable with being myself, and I really care about my friends enough to brighten their day anytime I can.
rose / 834 posts
@sugar_mama@xanga - gifts can be cute and simple.. like one time I brought my friend his favorite candy to cheer him up, unannounced. that’s totally not doormat stuff. I guess if they come to expect it frequently though, that could be an issue.
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i think about 80% give or take of flirtingis done without saying a word
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smile and eye contact
and even silly faces
lily / 5148 posts
I flirt like by talking honestly. I smile a lot and laugh a lot..really. It’s just my personality.
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@supaflychikn@xanga - exactly.
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You can tell a LOT more about someone from body language. It’s EVERYTHING. Texting, people can hide and not say what they mean.
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eye contact works perfectly lol
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this is so hard ><
peony / 1 posts
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