A few days ago, le boyfriend and I were talking about my fashion loves versus what he likes to see me in. He always prefers me in a more minimalist, au naturel look while I prefer more up to the moment trends. So I made a list of things most ladies prefer versus what most men would prefer to see and how we can come to a stylish compromise!
Lipstick
You like: Red
He likes: Natural
Compromise: Pink stain
Red vampy lipstick is always in style and makes whoever’s wearing it look like they’re in charge. When guys see that colur…they’re not so much feeling powerless as they are wondering how long it’ll take them to get off the lipstick-kissing-residue. Le Boyfriend always prefers lips to look they’re natural hue and not glossy. Because let’s face it…whatever we wear, they’ll be wearing in no time. Not our fault he’s so darn cute. Solution? A pink lip stain. I like mine from CoverGirl. It lasts forever and won’t rub off if I insist on kissing someone to death. Plus it’s a stain so won’t look crazy glossy.
Hair
You like: Structured style
He likes: Bedhead
Compromise: Messy side braid
If you’re like me, once you do your hair the slightest gust of wind will grind your gears! After spending copious amounts of time, bobby pins and hairspray on my hair, I hope to keep each hair in place for the entire day. Guys, on the other hand, love the feeling of running their hands through sexy, wavy hair. Solution? A messy side braid. It’s so chic right now that you’ll feel like you’re walking the streets of Paris no matter where you are but also the entire chicness lies in the fact that it’s supposed to look UNDONE. So if a hair or two fall out of place you’ll actually love how it makes you look even more like your alter ego: “Oh-does-this-look-good?-I-hadn’t-even-noticed”
Outfit
You like: Up to the moment style
He likes: Casual Comfy
Compromise: Boyfriend
You like everything to be form-fitting and of the latest styles. He likes you to be comfy in case he’s got fun plans in mind (and cuz he doesn’t wanna hear you complain all day). Solution? Embrace the slouchy, boyfriend craze. Baggy jeans, a loose white tee and a black or tan boyfriend blazer and you can toss on and off is the perfect outfit to relax in. If you’re still intent of showing off that figure of yours, belt those jeans or get a v-neck shirt. Add some sex appeal by pairing it with chunky heels. Bonus points: chunky heels hurt less!
Jewelery
You like: Chunky chains, rings or bracelets
He likes: Dainty chains, rings or bracelets.
Compromise: Layers
While you may think this choice is all about what’s hot at the moment that special person in your life is imagining the pain he’ll be in if he catches one of those statement rings with the side of his face. (A reasonable concern if you’re like me and talk with your hands). Solution? Dainty pieces but lots of it. Slim, delicate rings look badass when you pile five on a finger or two on five fingers. Getting ones that are smaller then your finger can work because they’ll stop before the middle knuckle and you’ll look like a 70s rocker. Thin chains with pendants loaded on top of each other is a popular choice instead of a super heavy statement necklace. Skinny bangles are sexy AND musical when you wear twenty per wrist. And don’t be a wimp…switch it up by pairing jewelery with things that don’t necessarily match. Gold and silver necklaces or bracelets together! Things with sparkles and things with studs unite! Make it truly unique by throwing in a necklace that your mom wore back in the day.
What you’ve just been given is the recipe for a great outfit. One that is boy AND girl approved.
What do you think of these compromises? What do you like to wear your boyfriend doesn’t like?
Guest blog submitted by HiFashion
orchid / 157 posts
my boyfriend likes to see me in mini skirts looking like a whore……… total opposite i guess
lily / 5148 posts
That’s good that you can compromise; Especially when you need it in the relationship and whatnot but strangely my bf likes my bed head too. Haha, he says he’s too afraid to touch me when my hair is made up and stuff.
He could care less how I look..oh the beauty of it..
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The guys I’ve been with don’t really care about fashion but they don’t usually like make up at all. That’s a bonus for me because I hate it.
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I really like this post. And great compromising suggestions.
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My boyfriend’s favorite time to see me is when I’m naked in the shower. I don’t know why… but he has like a water fetish or something, haha! Sometimes he’ll just come in and sit and talk to me while I’m in the shower but I think he’s actually just there to see me with wet hair, lol.
Anyway, my boyfriend and I have the same taste for my appearance I guess. He likes long curly hair, and my hair is naturally like that and I hate straightening it. He also doesn’t like girls that wear a lot of makeup and I’m allergic to most makeup. It’s just the clothes thing that we don’t always agree on. He thinks it’s cute when I wear his clothes though, so that makes me more comfortable.
Yay for stealing his sweatshirts! It makes us both happy.
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My boyfriend likes long hair and no make-up, but he does like it when I dress up- like, literally, when I wear dresses. Most of the time I wear jeans and t-shirts or hoodies. And I guess I’m really lucky he started to even like me in the first place, because at the time I would wear these really oversized sweatshirts to school- like one my mom got from work that was SO HUGE no one could really get away with wearing it. It was like an ugly sack dress with thick material. But I wore it to school anyway because I was cold.
For the most part though, I don’t think he cares much what I wear. Although if I have something on that he particularly likes he lets me know.
He seems to like pretty simple jewelry too. So he’s basically perfect for me, because I have long hair and never wear make-up, and I wear comfy things.
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I am the way I am. take it or leave it. if the guy doesn’t like trendy girly girls and I’d have to compromise my personal style to please his modest eyes, then just don’t date me.
sunflower / 276 posts
I don’t have a boyfriend, but when I get one hopefully he’ll accept frilly, bell-shaped dresses, my obsession with modesty, headscarfs and crazy earrings
daffodil / 1975 posts
My boyfriend wouldn’t dare tell me he wanted me to dress a certain way or that he wants me to change how I dress. This is the me he loves; the one that wears fun t-shirts and Converse shoes. I don’t ever plan to change my style and, quite frankly, if a guy ever DID tell me I should, I would know instantly he isn’t the one for me. As @P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga said, if you don’t like how I am, don’t date me.
lily / 5148 posts
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Agreed lol
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My boyfriend likes me to wear nothing at all, and I’m generally happy to oblige.
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I don’t think you should “compromise”. That’s not an agreement, that’s him getting what he wants. Don’t compromise yourself, and don’t compromise your outfit.
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shouldn’t the way you dress be an expression of your self identity?
You shouldnt have to change who you are or how you want to look because of what your boyfriend prefers.
hydrangea / 84 posts
Ladies, simmer down. This isn’t about letting a man dictate your style! It’s about making fun, chic choices that allow BOTH of you to enjoy your style. It always feels good to know that your man appreciates how you look, just like it always feels good to look good.
This allows both things to happen!
I thought this was a great article
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I want those rings in the last picture!
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My boyfriend likes most everything that I wear, but he pointed out that he especially likes to see me in button ups.
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I dress the way I do for myself, not to impress guys. Personally, I’d hope that guys like the confidence in a girl to accept who she is, rather than change (or “compromise”) in hopes of pleasing him.
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@skexyshay@xanga - same here
NONE of these are problems for me, closest to bein relevant is opposite problem (bf likes when I straighten hair, for example)
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@Eglariel@xanga - It’s not really like that. it’s one thing if he demands you wear something and has an attitude about it. It’s another if it’s something you already have or he buys for you and asks you politely to wear it because he thinks you’re hot. I always tell mine that i’ll wear whatever the fuck he wants me to wear, but he has to buy it. hahaha
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Whatever makes her happy, thats my philosophy!
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He seems to like the things I like to wear usually, so works out well just fine. ^___^
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ahah before i got together with my boyfriend, he said he preferred girls in t-shirt and jeans. and now that he’s with me, he says he likes how i doll myself up for him
orchid / 217 posts
Hmm.. I tend to dress more girly now, & he’d rather I wear t & jeans & tennis shoes, or mini skirt or short shorts.
I wore a casual dress & he & his entire family kept asking why I was dressed up. I wore what he liked a few times, & he complained about that as well. I don’t think he knows what he likes…
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Good ideas, thanks!
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what i like to wear: clothes.
what my boyfriend likes me to wear: nothing.
our compromise is that i will go on wearing my choice in clothes and he’ll just go on taking them off of me.
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I really feel like that whole “guys like no makeup” thing is a lie. It should be more like “guys don’t like excessive makeup, but a little mascara goes a long way.”
Also, dresses?
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my boyfriend have always asked me to wearing business outfits, so i decided to wear that for him on his bday.
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My boyfriends likes me with whatever I wear.
hydrangea / 63 posts
Ha, I like this article, but I’m not too likely to compromise on what I wear because I’m already pretty similar to the compromises. I like wearing nude, peach, or clear lip glosses because my hair is what I call “structured bedhead”——it’s a super short crop that has a “punk” feel to it because it’s asymmetrical, and I can shape it to look structured and pretty, or crazy and kind of a mohawk, with 3 different colors in it——, my jewelry is all pretty subtle, and luckily, my new boyfriend likes my band tees, ripped jeans, and Chucks!
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After being friends 3 years before dating, my boyfriend knew prior to becoming official that I’m basically going to do whatever I want. I’m surprised how well he’s accepted that, and he genuinely doesn’t care what I’m wearing. Of course there are certain pieces of jewellery or clothes or whatever that he likes better than others, and I’ll occasionally hear a, “I love your hair in a ponytail, it’s so cute,” but he’s cool with whatever.
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@Sirius_Fan_Girl@xanga - my boyfriends the exact same way, but even after 8 months i’m still not totally comfortable being around him with noo makeup on.
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i dont think you should compromise your individuality regarding what you wear just because some guy likes it.
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I do not like anything on that list, lol apparently our style differs.
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meh, my boyfriend is pretty content with what i wear.
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@BeautifulMess - thank you! i was thinking the same thing. this isn’t meant to be a post about offensive male fashion power trips.
everyone chill. retract your claws.
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@OstentatiousEloquence@xanga - Wearing an outfit for him at times is totally different from changing your style, which is what I got out of the post. If we’re going out for a special night and I know he loves a specific dress on me, of course I’ll put it on. But I’m not going to stop wearing dresses because he likes a more “laid-back” look (especially since dresses are the laziest clothing option, haha).
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I’ll wear whatever I want to wear, thank you very much. =)
My compromises? If I wear something that he absolutely hates, I won’t wear it around him. I’m not generally considering what my boyfriend will like when I’m dressing in the morning unless we are going on a date or doing something special together. Although if there are girls out there who want to dress to please, this article is cute.
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Not every boyfriend is the same. Mine’s kind of an old goth, so he prefers black lace and leather, and lots of eye makeup. I oblige and compromise, sometimes.
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haha he doesn’t have me suggesting things about his style/hair/way he carries himself so why should he about me?
Plus he met me and was attracted as I was.. if I ever compromised my look it’d be for myself only.
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I wouldn’t compromise with my boyfriend. If he doesn’t like what I like to wear on MY OWN body then he can leave.
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My boyfriend hates everything I wear and wishes I’d wear t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers with no makeup. I’d look so ugly if I dressed the way he wanted me to dress! X(
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It really depends on the man! My ex wanted to see me with no makeup, but short skirts and high heels…but my current man is a goth so isn’t too fond of me buying out Vanity on the weekly basis lol…
These posts are SO fucking overrated. Everyone’s different.
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@angelwingfive@xanga - Yays I’m not alone! baha
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one of my ex’s didn’t like what i wore. he was jealous so he never wanted anyone guy or girl to look at me or make a pass at me or feel bad so he would always check what i would wear before we went out. he’d make me change sometimes if he didn’t feel comfortable with what i was wearing. at first, i thought it was so cute because he’d watch me get dress and tell me how he thinks i look like but then after a while, it got on my nerves because i don’t like changing what i’m wearing if i already got it on.
daisy / 571 posts
Mine prefers me in my comfy pajama pants, cardigan, and tank top with my hair incredibly messy.
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Haha, it’s kind of funny how my personal tastes are more like “boyfriend” in this post. I do wonder though what my bf would like. I just wear extremely casual clothes like jeans, a tee, and usually a hoodie, often with a bit of eye make-up. This is usually accompanied by a simple bracelet and necklace .. occasionally earrings (i like earrings ^^) The odd thing is, while I do have a small girly side, I feel weird getting more dressed up for wearing tons of jewelry when I’m with the bf. Maybe because i feel over-dressed and everything comes off eventually anyway. lawl xDD
I’m too lazy and cheap and awkward to be up-to-the-moment fashionable x.x
sunflower / 477 posts
way to much generalization taking place here.
orchid / 114 posts
Good compromises!
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good post.
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well apparently I’m the perfect girl then because I already prefer all of the boyfriend choices. but I do have to add that not all guys think that way, I know a girl who’s husband actually has her buy slutty clothes. In their relationship they control what each other wears lol, kinda weird to me but w/e
@haltija@xanga - LOL
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What about the converse: Ladies, how would you like to see your boyfriend (or girlfriend) adjust his (or her) style?
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I agree that compromising is necessary in a relationship but… on what I’m wearing??? Sorry! I’m wearing what I prefer and what I’m comfortable in!
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@haltija@xanga - hahaha
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My boyfriend always compliments my style and never missed an opportunity to ask me, “Oh is that ____ new? It looks great!”
He’s epic
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This would more accurately be titled, “What my boyfriend likes me to wear vs. What I like to wear; or- The most braindead blog in the universe”.
I can’t disagree more with how much of this is inaccurate for the general male psychology. Not that this is poorly written by any stretch; It was a good read, just not a particularly useful or directive blog. Any girl reading this for a quick aid needs to evaluate her man, first. These styles are cookie-cutter for a very specific kind of guy, and all told this would do more harm than good to the impressionable, vapid idiots that frequent lovelyish.
sunflower / 294 posts
lately i’ve been thinking about my clothing style and how men perceive it. the other day a guy friend and i talked to a girl who had, i thought, the coolest style ever. once she left, i immediately said, “i loved her outfit!” and i’ve seen how she dresses before, and i wished i dressed like that. but then my guy friend said, “WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?! those clothes were gross.” we argued about it for some time… haha, i guess that goes to show how different men and women are and that maybe women try too hard if most men aren’t impressed by our idea of fashionable.
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I like this post, it’s very true of my boyfriend.
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I wear what I want. I don’t care what people like me to wear, and that includes my boyfriend.
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My boyfriend would never prefer me in baggy jeans, or with messy hair. LOL.
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@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Agreed!
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The only things my husband has outright stated is that he likes my hair short, he doesn’t like red lipstick. If we’re totally honest, as long as my boobs look good, he’s happy.
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haha cute idea! I liked this
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I really enjoyed this article, but reading through the comments had me thinking. When your boyfriend first met you, he met you as…you. Trendy, tight clothes, red lipstick wearing you and he liked it, so why would he want a compromise?
Anyway, I still thought the article was good.
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Love the list! My bf’s fine with my style on everything, except he does like the more general natural lips, messy bedhead, simple jewellery, so I switch it up every now and then :]
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these are some great compromising solutions. although honestly, most guys i ask concerning what i wear tell me they’d prefer to see me naked. not gonna happen, but w/e.
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I thought what I look like should be MY choice?
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Pretty sure I’m gunna dress how I wanna and not compromise.
Really? It’s fabric, metal and face paint.
Gotta love it. Take it or leave it.