So I was reading an article regarding flirting tips on Seventeen magazine’s website, and I thought I’d share 10 tips that can be considered great advice or tips that should be ignored!
3. Wear dangly earrings. They draw attention to the smooth curves of our neck — it’s a classy way to subtly show skin.
This was pretty interesting, because I never thought about it though it makes a lot of sense. Who doesn’t love the way those dangly earrings make your neck look?
6. Master the bump-and-flatter. Run into a cute guy at a crowded party. Say, “Oh, sorry — I become a total klutz around cute guys.” Then just introduce yourself.
Part of me is like, “Oh, PLEASE!” and the other part of me is like, “I like this; I’m going to try it.” What do you think?
8. Tease him a little. Example: When a guy you’re talking to first tells you his name, say, “What?” so he has to lean in to repeat himself. Then say, “What?” again with a smile. You’ll break the ice with your playful joke.
I don’t think this would work. If I were in his position, I would wonder what’s wrong with her hearing.
13. Wear red! Scientists have shown that guys are instinctively attracted to this color — so wearing it instantly makes you hotter.
I love wearing red! I feel like it gives me a confidence boost, wouldn’t you agree?
14. Ask him out “by accident.” Text him “What r u up to tonite?” When he replies, say, “Sorry that was for a friend—but yeah, what r u doing?” The tiny diss will make him work harder.
Ugh, to me this is such a middle school move! Has anyone had this work for them?
18. Leave this Facebook comment: “This pic is hilarious. What’s actually going on there?” After he responds, say, “You should tell me in person. Wanna hang out this weekend?”
I’m not sure I’d want him to know I was stalking his facebook page. Would you?
22. Pass a handwritten note at a party that says, “Just saying hi!” Slip it into his pocket — it’s a million times cuter than a text.
Aw, this is cute! I think you have to be friends first for this to not be conveyed as creepy though.
23. Flirt before you see him: Text, “U should wear that blue shirt tonight — it makes your arms look hot! ”
I like this too, because if he actually wore that blue shirt, I’d be complimented that he took my comment into account when dressing.
27. Flirt with your eyes. “It’s all in the way you look at him: Walk by, kind of look him up and down, give him a slight smile, and keep walking. You can have an entire conversation without saying a word.” — Ne-Yo
Thumbs up for Ne-Yo’s advice. There’s something about connecting with someone on a level deeper other than words.
31. After you’ve been talking for awhile say, “Can I tell you a secret?” He’ll say yes — but then just tell him never mind, it’s stupid, you changed your mind. It will drive him crazy wondering what you were going to say — and that you won’t give in!
Once again, I feel like this is so middle school. I hate it when someone does that to me so I don’t want to do this to someone else.
What do you think Lovelies? Would you (or do you) follow any of these tips?
daffodil / 1975 posts
At least these tips are better than what you’d find in Cosmo.
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LOL @ 8. i would feel retarded cause when that really does happen i usually just give up and smile and nod haha
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Some are retarded yes… like number 6. Which is practically saying dumb klutzy girls are attractive or something.
I guess you just take the advice that best fits your personality
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A lot of these are very middle school to me.
I think the note one would be a lot cuter if you were already in a relationship with that person.
Like leaving notes in random places for your significant other to see that just say “I love you” or, “I miss you” and what not.
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I look hideous in red.
And red is also known to be ”sexy”, but it also helps to make people look larger than they actually are..
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@betterdesigned@xanga - was going to say exactly this.
cherry blossom / 35 posts
Haha! I read these before. But before I read them I was already using 6, 8, 27… I did use 31 a few times before. I was in middle school xP
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Number 31 is just stupid.
lily / 5148 posts
Not sure if any of that would work..but who knows?
@citadel_of_stars@xanga - I agree with you right there.
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I think these would all work in the right circumstances. I, on the other hand, don’t even think of tips when I flirt; I just let it happen.
orchid / 107 posts
@tiptoplove@xanga - That’s exactly what I’d do! Fail for an example, Seventeen.
@citadel_of_stars@xanga - I like that idea a lot! There’s a warm and fuzzy feeling about finding a note someone leaves for you. I’ll definitely try that, thanks!
@hello - I have to give you props if you’ve mastered 6 and 27! I want to try them sometime (oh college, I’m so ready for you).
orchid / 107 posts
@Pudgy0pants@xanga - I think that’s the best way to flirt. When you don’t have to strategize and everything just falls into place, it makes everything feel more personal and less stressful.
ranunculus / 3285 posts
I love dangly earrings, the rest I’ll pass.
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these are fucking ridiculous, except for looking at him and smiling, which should come naturally!!
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Most of these are bogus but I have heard much worse. I think flirting is usually just a natural thing
orchid / 106 posts
When I read these things in Seventeen, I don’t really think they’re stupid, I just think wow, that’s new, or okay then. But when they’re posted on here….they all sound really dumb.
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@betterdesigned@xanga - LOL, that’s so true but so sad – a magazine for teenagers/kids gives better advice for adults than the magazines for adults. Sad indeed.
sunflower / 434 posts
“Master the bump-and-flatter. Run into a cute guy at a crowded
party. Say, “Oh, sorry — I become a total klutz around cute guys.” Then
just introduce yourself.”
Ugh. This is basically saying, “I’m dumb, insecure, and klutzy. Does that make me attractive to you?”
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These are the worst tips I’ve ever read. Dear lord….poor girls.
sunflower / 434 posts
Didn’t mean to bold all of it, btw.
orchid / 211 posts
I think they are kinda cute. =) Some are silly, but who cares. Just pick and choose the ones that work for you.
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I like relationships that feel organic. You shouldn’t have to plan out your flirting – that’s not presenting you, that’s presenting ‘stage’ you…you ‘acting’ as a flirt. Things should come naturally. Hello, does chemistry ring a bell? If there’s a mutual, instantaneous attraction between you and another person, you’re going to have a shot off the bat. All of this, aside from the wonderful quote on eye contact, is forced – and tell me: where’s the romance in that?
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I don’t like most of these. I do enjoy wearing red, though
dahlia / 2382 posts
@betterdesigned@xanga - LOL yeah I agree. Some things I read in Cosmo make my head spin.
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Some of these are very juvenile. But then again it is a Seventeen mag.
And why are there pics of adults at a bar/lounge? I don’t think that would be the flirting grounds for teens.
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if anyone did some of these to me- i’d probaby shun them.
But a few aren’t horrible.
dahlia / 2942 posts
Smile and laugh, appropriately but warmly. That’s the best there is imo
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so many girls i know do the facebook thing…and sometimes it actually works. i don’t know why.
all of seventeen’s advice seems so stupid to me.
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Have to agree, at least they’re more realistic than what you read in Cosmo. I probably would never be so forward as to apply any of these tactics, but I’d noticed the earring thing before. Dangly earrings are just awesome to begin with, but they do make your eyes sparkle more too. And lengthen your neck somewhat.
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yeah a lot of these are kind of middle school, but its seventeen so its expected. and those all are flattering to guys and get their attention so i guess thats what you’re going for. something more unique and sexy and flirty is kind of better though… but i do think the leaning in thing is hot, just not when he says his name… theres better moments. also i liked the text of what he looks good in (just weaving it into the convo), thats flattering and would give an ego boost… ALSO i was just wearing red the other day! i never wear red but i have a tshirt from an arts camp and it gave me all this energy and confidence and i felt awesome… made me feel like i should buy more red stuff;P lol.
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I don’t flirt with guys really. I don’t try to get the guys who like me to like me. It’s just a natural attraction both ways.
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Haha. No.
sunflower / 334 posts
Most of these would probably work on me – but that’s probably saying more (or less) about me than the girl…
The red dress would definitely work on me. But the other ones just seem to be trying to hard – but I don’t know how, can’t or won’t flirt though either so my theories aren’t legit! lol
magnolia / 1296 posts
Meh, I only like Ne-Yo’s advice out of all of these hahahaha. The others I feel are a tad foolish. As for wearing red, I don’t like how I look in red.
sunflower / 453 posts
I’ve heard the red thing before. I think it is true, even if just to the extent that people will notice you more quickly and are more likely to interpret you as “confident.” But of course it won’t necessarily look flattering in every shade on every person.
Some of these are okay ideas, some are the kind of dumb thing creepers do that gets them no where, like the facebook stalking. WOW YOU ASKED ME OUT VIA PICTURE HOW ORIGINAL jk it’s lame.
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I can see most of these working-not so sure about the texts and notes..
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A caveat for #13: Everyone has a colour of red that looks good on them (based on your skin tone, season, etc). Wear THAT colour. The wrong red can make you look awful (the wrong red on me makes me look ill).
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i haven’t worn dangly earrings since like, 7th grade & i am seventeen. & i look horrible in red – it completely washes me out.
orchid / 140 posts
@LiquidityOfSelf@xanga - Agreed
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I only like Ne-Yo’s advice.
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If someone did 8 to me, I’d want to slap them. o.0
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I definitely flirt with my eyes. And I’m also a bitch when I flirt – I’m ridiculously sarcastic.
orchid / 107 posts
@discoxapples@xanga - Hmm, I wonder why your opinion differs from one medium to another? Maybe it’s just that some time has passed between readings?
@thegreenlinda@xanga - I’m not sure; Lovelyish added those, but I think it makes the post more complete. Even though some of the tips are juvenile, the advice doesn’t apply only to teens.
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I love the “what?” thing… I do that to people all the time, not to be flirty, though. It’s hilarious when they repeat themselves fifteen times before they get that you’re making fun of them.
dahlia / 2103 posts
BUMP AND FLATTER? Are you serious? This whole thing is basically like Cosmo Jr.
Orrrr you could try…oh i don’t know….just being yourself. But most people who read Seventeen probably don’t really know how to do that yet. I used to get that magazine, and I definitely had no idea who the fuck I really was until years after I quit reading it. Still, if you have to try and plan to flirt with someone, then you’re kind of drawing them in under false pretenses. Seems like a waste of effort to me.
dahlia / 2103 posts
@xmariia@xanga - Lol…I had to chuckle at that one too. I do the same thing, but not to flirt or make fun of people…actually, it’s usually because it’s loud and I can’t hear them and I can’t read lips. So it usually ends in the other person thinking that I have something wrong with my ears and/or mental functions.
orchid / 107 posts
@brokenheartsandlastgoodbyes@xanga - Wow, I would have thought that the facebook one is the least likely to work! Kudos to those girls that made it work.
@align___t@xanga - This may sound weird but I think the thing about wearing red is that when you wear it you know you are going to stand out from the color alone. So, consciously or subconsciouly, you aim to have the confidence to match. Just my hypothesis though.
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#6 makes me roll my eyes.
And I think the earrings Rachel Bilson is wearing in the picture seem a little too long to be comfortable.
The rest are okay, depending on the circumstances.
orchid / 178 posts
I h8 when ppl text like dis. U need 2 learn 2 jus spell.
Grr.
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@thegreenlinda@xanga - I was thinking the exact same thing… there’s a reason why all these advice sound retarded and its becase of the awkward pictures that go with it on this post. If I saw a seventeen year old girl flirting with a guy her age in these manners, I would just think: aww how adorable… But if I saw a 22 year old girl doing this to a guy at a bar/lounge, I’d probably think WTF is wrong with her.
sunflower / 355 posts
@betterdesigned@xanga - Which is so ironic, because Cosmo’s supposed to be targeting an older audience. o.o
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this is the most ridiculous advice i’ve ever read.
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I’m embarrassed to say this, but I actually did 14- the thing is that it really was an accident! I had an old friend in my contacts list in my phone right next to a current friend that I had. I meant to text the current friend what was up that night, but I accidentally texted my old friend. We started talking again, it has been a couple years since we were as close as we ever were as friends. We decided to hang out one night, that hangout turned into a date, and we’ve been dating for three months now. It turns out that back when we were good friends we had crushes on each other, but never said anything because we were both shy and thought the other wouldn’t be interested. Funny how things work sometimes!
daffodil / 1975 posts
@tomorrow_may_rain@xanga - I know. I think Cosmo targets the more “sexually active” (aka: slutty) girls and neglects the fact that, maybe, being subtle is a whole lot more classy than slipping your underwear into your boyfriend’s pocket at Burger King. Just my opinion.
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22 actually is a good idea. The rest are horrible.. Most men like women that are more upfront than mysterious and manipulative which doesn’t mean sexually agressive just honest and open.
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I hate Seventeen magazine. It’s so stupid… -.-
I would never use any of these. Honestly, if you want a guy, become his friend. If he doesn’t even want to be friends with you, clearly he isn’t worth it.
Although I’ve never been in a relationship. Perhaps these people know what they’re talking about.
I doubt it though. Most of these things seem like something some really clingy or annoying girl would do.
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@LiquidityOfSelf@xanga - I agree.
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i think the what? one is funny, my boyfriend does that all the time to me.
But i hate wearing red, cause if its hot out, i get pinkish and the red just makes it more noticable.
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………….these are all stupid lol. if any girl did these to me id pro’lly laugh then walk away hahahahahah
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3. I love my dangly earings
never really thought about how they made my neck look though.
6. I always run into people, usually not on purpose unless the guy is really gorgeous.
13. I love wearing red!!!
27. I do ALL the time!!!
orchid / 107 posts
@thewindycity@xanga - Do you really think the pictures make a difference to the post? I’m honestly not being rude or offensive, I’m just curious if you believe the pictures make that big of a difference than if they just weren’t there.
orchid / 107 posts
@love_and_blackberries@xanga - Haha, I have to say it’s different when it’s an honest mistake, but Seventeen is saying to do it on purpose. it’s deceitful in a way! But, you weren’t purposely mistexting, so that’s a neat story!
@SamEwing@xanga - Do you think these flirting tips are manipulative? They can be…fake or forced but I think manipulative would be like lying about who you are or finding a way to make the guy do something for you.
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Hmm, I think the flirting with your eyes thing has a note of truth, but the rest are a bit silly.
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Slipping a note into someone’s jeans involves touching their butt. I wouldn’t go that far unless I was willing to put out like three minutes later. If you did that to any self-respecting guy he’d think you were a total slut and wouldn’t want anything more from you than to have sex.
The dangly earring one is good, and so is the red one I guess.
But I learned recently at a party that the best way to attract a guy’s attention is just to not look like a complete whore. Maybe they feel like you’re more approachable, or like you’re less likely to have herpes, but whatever the reason I’ve found it works remarkably well. I went to a party where half the girls there had their asses hanging out in plain view, tits falling out, everything, and I wore a pretty, simple button up shirt (completely buttoned up I might add) and a medium-length skirt. It went maybe to a little past my knees. I was shocked at how many guys were interested in me. I didn’t even wear makeup. Every time my boyfriend left my side, someone immediately walked up and started talking to me and asking me questions. Only after I mentioned something about my boyfriend would they leave me alone.
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It’s cute, but no, I would never use any of these.
PS, I love dangling earrings (not as long as the ones in the pic though), yet hate my neck; and I like the color red but don’t look good in it. ;(
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im loving this
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Dude, I do number 8 all the time! But that’s because I legitimately can’t hear what he’s saying. I usually give up and ask someone else his name later.
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oh gosh some of these are weird, but i think quite a few would actually work!!
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Most of these are super lame. Like the facebook one. You could just ask them to hang out with all that unnecessary crap..?
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@InspiredProjects@xanga - Maybe manipulative wasn’t the best word to use. I suppose the overall point was that these tips seem to suggest that being than less clear and straightforward about what you want is a good idea.
As a guy I think it’s simply confusing and awkward when woman do things like bump into me to get my attention. Not that I can recall that specific one happening.
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haha this post made me giggle, its good, xx
orchid / 107 posts
@vwxya@xanga - Well, unless the guy is wearing a jacket then you could slip it in that pocket. In my experience, guys wear looser jeans so you could slip it into his front pocket without really having to thrust your hand in there.
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lammmee
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@InspiredProjects@xanga - images speak louder to us than words do.
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Lol, I’ve never done any of these things, I don’t think. I don’t have my ears pierced, so I don’t wear earrings. If there was a cute guy at a party I would just talk to him. No need for all the cheesiness. If I really don’t hear him, I’ll ask again. Otherwise, I’ll just think up something else to say. I don’t play kiddie games anymore. I like blue, and that’s what I wear. Red isn’t my best color, it stands out too much. If I want to text him, I will text him. I’m not going to pretend I didn’t mean to. I don’t have a facebook, which means you actually have to put in some effort to be my friend. Funny how I don’t have too many friends anymore. Guess I know who my real friends are. If I’m giving him a note we’re already going out. I don’t play kiddie games, again. Am I his mommy? I won’t tell him what to wear, I like men who make their own decisions and are not swayed by others opinions so easily. I’m not going to do the stupid, obvious “look him up and down” thing. I hate it when it’s done to me. I would tell him I have a secret, and then tell him I like him. I don’t want him hounding me about a secret I don’t actually have, because eventually he’s going to really want to find out, and I’ll struggle to make something up.
I will never have to deal with this stuff, since I’m already with the person I’ll spend my life with. But they’re all a little ridiculous.
xX Ame ~*~ Hana Xx
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some of these are wow.. lmaoo
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Errr. Not really.
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More than any tricks tips or games I found honesty to work out best for me. You like him: tell him. You want to hang out: ask him. You want him to call you: say so and give him your number. You think he’s hot: say so (who dosent like compliments?)
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well…teenage magazines are actually all bullshit to me.except for the very rare useful tip.like the long earrings.but anyone who has a mother with some common sense should know that. i think..lol
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OMG, I’ve totally done 8, but not on purpose. There was a TON of noise in the background, plus loud music. Everytime he said something, I was like “what?” I’m sure he thought I was slow or something. It was soooo embarrassing.
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Well…it MAY sound middle school because it’s from Seventeen Magazine…
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I want to say I don’t mind 14, it seems to be a fairly un-conspicuous but too cheesy to not be lightly sort of thing, unless that makes me a creeper?
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I can just feel myself getting dumber and dumber as I go down the list…
rose / 759 posts
really the only one I like is the one about flirting with your eyes. The rest… no.
hydrangea / 81 posts
ughh, some of these made me throw up in my mouth a bit