If you’re one of those girls who has been in a close-to-perfect long term relationship throughout high school and plan to continue it when you and your beau part ways and go to separate colleges, good luck! The college “dating” scene is kind of like the bachelorette. Everywhere you turn there will be new guys just dying to meet you. Well sort of. Flirting is certainly in full force. Horny teenagers living in one big “love shack” (college) is recipe for disaster if it’s a meaningful relationship you seek.
I’m sure you’re more than pumped for the “new fishes in the sea” to pick from when you get to campus. You don’t have to worry about avoiding the hottie your bff dated in 7th grade or being bored and uninterested in any of the available guys because these guys are all new–it’s a fresh start for everyone!
College is definitely a place for casual hookups and drunken booty calls. Fairytale style true love? Not so much. I entered college hoping to find love. I already knew all the guys from my hometown and was ready for new, improved options. There’s really no fun in playing hard to get with a guy you’ve known since second grade…so anyways, I went to college with the impression that I would get a boyfriend.
I should have known “single and ready to mingle” me would not be in the mood to settle down. But still, I thought I would find an intelligent, funny, sexy guy in college who would sweep me right off my feet. That did not happen. Instead I got several phone numbers, late night hookups, and lost hopes for love.
I went on two dates. But guess where I met the guys? Frat parties. Needless to say, I hardly heard from the guys since. I did meet some boys in class, one I like to call Linguistics Boy. We occasionally studied together and although I was somewhat attracted to him, I had no idea what his real intentions were when he said, “you can come to my room to do this week’s homework.” Next thing I knew, we were kissing. That’s when I realized college boys are only after one thing– your body.
Call me cruel and harsh if you want, but so far that’s what my college “dating” consisted of. Yeah a boy may pretend to be really into you, just to lure you up to his room. He may even text you (when he’s bored and lonely at late hours of the night). I’m not saying it’s impossible to find your prince charming in college. Just be careful and know what you’re getting yourself into before your heart gets broken.
I’ll leave you with these 6 college “dating” tips…
1. It’s rare for a drunken hookup to turn into anything more than that so if you don’t want a one night stand, think twice before you lock lips.
2. Parties aren’t the best place to meet guys, but then again, based on my experience, neither is class. Maybe Mr. Right really is at the library...
3. Beware of the reputation you could get. Guys like to prove themselves by hooking up with the most girls, so even if all you did was cuddle, he may tell his bros you went all the way…and word travels fast.
4. Being invited on a date party doesn’t mean anything except that he hopes you will put out.
5. No matter how drunk you are and how cute the guy is, don’t fall for his pathetic game. You will start running into him all over campus. The awkward, “I’ve seen you naked before and now we can’t even look each other in the eyes” is no fun and well, awkward.
6. When you get a 3am text that says, “I want to see you,” decode it as, “I want to do you” and delete his number.
Now maybe none of this will be true for you…You’ll get to college and meet the man of your dreams. You’ll bump into him while doing your laundry. You’ll flirt a little. He’ll invite you up to his room. You’ll talk for hours. He’ll walk you back to your room. You’ll text till you fall asleep. He’ll take you to dinner and a movie. You’ll study together. He’ll ask you to be his girlfriend. You’ll visit each others families during break. You’ll date all throughout college. He’ll propose to you in the very place you met. You’ll get married, have a family and live happily ever after. If this is the case, go you!
I hope that by reading this you will avoid some of the mistakes I made.
What do you think “dating” in college means, Lovelies? Are you excited for the new options? Are you worried about falling in love with someone who has no intention of catching you? Do you have a relationship that you plan to continue throughout college?