Lovelyish

You seem pretty cute to me based on your profile picture

Nobody has gone through life without self-doubt, especially at that age. Find something you’re good at, excel at it, and develop a self-worth. Nothing anybody can ‘say’ will cure your ego. As the matter of fact, words are just temporary shots of adrenaline. It wears off. You have to support yourself.

If you want to dye your hair, dye your hair.  You’re young.  Your boyfriend, as much as you may like him, will probably not be around forever and it’s not his choice to control you.

The only way you can make yourself feel prettier is by feeling more confident in being yourself.  Changing yourself drastically is not the answer.

Oh, and PS. If you’re boyfriend ‘doesn’t let you’ do anything… tell him to suck it. No boy should forbid you anything that can make you feel even remotely better about yourself.

I think that you should do what makes you happy, and if it’s dying your hair, dye it. Most guys tell me that they don’t want me to wear makeup, but it boosts my confidence, so I do it. It’s your confidence, not his. Boost it. 

just do it, dye your hair. it’s just hair.

This is sort of a different post from the rest of the Lovelyish posts…it’s pretty short and to the point. But I agree with @xoxo_alisonnn@xanga. Changing the way you look isn’t necessarily going to make you prettier, nor will it necessarily give you more confidence. You have to find confidence by accepting certain things about yourself, and loving yourself.

I’d also like to point out that you have a boyfriend, who obviously thinks you’re pretty cute, so you’re not ugly. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may not be “gorgeous” to you, but to someone else, you could be the most beautiful fucking person on the planet. And once you find that person, that’s the one you want to keep.
Plus, you’re pretty young, of course you’re going to have self doubt, but don’t get too down on yourself. You don’t have to look like anyone else to be gorgeous.

there’s too much banking on physical appearance – which is not cool

 Dye it hot pink with purple and blue streaks just to piss him off, then when you get a nicer boyfriend dye it back to normal just to watch him squirm

Dye your hair if you want too but that won’t make you more self confident

Confidence only comes with accepting yourself and realizing that beauty is more than skin deep 

I’m eighteen and just graduated high school. I can’t give you advice on feeling beautiful, but you are. For the longest time I’ve said that everyone is beautiful in some way, but I never applied it to myself. This summer I went on a trip to Europe, and one night, I just had an epiphany that I’m really pretty. I realized that, in my own way, I’m freaking gorgeous. Sure, there are flaws that I have, but they aren’t all of me. Ever since I realized I’ve been kicking myself for not realizing it earlier. Life, in some ways, is so much easier (and totally more fun) if you believe you’re beautiful.

For me, getting drunk in Germany and letting an awful boy kiss me, it took getting drunk in France and hooking up with a really nice Canadian boy, it took my hair becoming low maintenance, it took guys looking at me when I walked down the street, it took a friend telling me that I’m the type of girls that will turn heads.

I wouldn’t advise my method. It’s not very legal in America, and it will get you a bad reputation with some people. But, first, I liked myself. I spent the entire year realizing that I’m a good and worthy person. Then, looking in the mirror and liking what I saw took a bit longer.

I would advise buying cute underwear, though. When I say cute, I mean everything ranging from thongs to lace to patterns of hippos. You can’t buy confidence through hair dye. Though, I did dye my hair this summer and I really loved the new color. I’m buying dye later this week, actually.

You can do anything you want, and you can be anyone you want. If you want, you could always talk to me. Dye your hair if you want. Totally change your style if that fits. (I went from chucks and jeans to dresses and heels.) Figure out who you are, or find the path that feels right, and just pursue it.

I’ll stop rambling. Good luck.

confidence pointer #1:  Never let a guy tell you what to do. Do what you want to do.

I don’t think you should dye your hair at all unless you feel you want to! By the way, you are NOT ugly-you look really cute from  your picture! And you  have to learn to love yourself. Trust me I have days when I look in the mirror and wish I could improve the face that is staring back at me-I have acne and I hate it but I have learned to get over those insecurities for the most part. You have a boyfriend! You have someone who cares for you and appreciates the way you look so think of the positive!

Well I think you’re pretty, judging by your profile picture

Do things that are productive and make you happy, because generally I find when someone is happy, they look better too.
If you wanna dye your hair, go for it, tell your boyfriend to suck it because it’s not his hair, it’s yours so it’s your choice

I don’t think you’re ugly. In fact, I think you have really pretty lips. (:

And I think you should dye your hair. I mean, I understand taking your boyfriend’s opinion into consideration but if you want to dye it, dye it. It’s your decision, do what you want.

To feel prettier, I wear make-up. Just a little bit, mascara, a dab of concealer. It sounds dumb and shallow but I think it makes me prettier so I feel prettier.

Do you ever use makeup? It might help you feel prettier. (:

I’m going to have to agree with everyone here about your boyfriend- if he doesn’t like your choices to experiment with your image, he’s doesn’t like a part of you. A part of me wonders if he’s part of draining your self-confidence, forbidding you like that. A boyfriend should love all of you, which includes your choices and your friendships.

I’ve also found that the happiest I’ve ever been is when I am surrounded by good friends and I keep myself busy doing things I like in my free time. Idle hands are the work of the devil- yes, it’s true, but part of the “Devil”‘s work is to make you feel crappy about yourself.

That being said, yes, good friends are hard to come by, Find stuff you like doing that can be rewarding, like volunteer work, community theatre, dance classes, and/or a sport. Try to do more than one thing, because if you hang out with the same group of people for too long, they tend to get gossipy and cliquey.

Don’t spend all your time with your boyfriend- make time for him, but don’t become a sig fig. The more you like what you are doing, then better, kinder people are going to be attracted to you. If you hang out with people that bring you down and criticize you, you’re going to feel worse and unaccepted (same goes for boyfriends- he should enhance your life, not complicate it). I used to do community theatre, now I go to church to hang out with my friends. Don’t live your life on a computer (looks at self, self hangs head in shame).

Also, give up on popularity. Desiring to be popular is comparing yourself to others and seeing nothing but dissatisfaction in yourself. Most popular people I know don’t desire it.

You should never change yourself for others to feel better about you. You should only change yourself to make YOU feel better about yourself.

If your boyfriend likes you for who you are, then you are obviously beautiful in his eyes… so bring your confidence up. =)

@Dog_Lover_4_Life@xanga - I used to think I was ugly too, now, I’m not the prettiest/sexist/hottest girl out there but I’ve realized I’m not that bad. Getting into a sport and having guys catcall and flirt with me is a serious confidence booster I have to admit (haven’t been in a serious relationship). I also have a nice panel of best friends who have helped me realize I am beautiful b/c of the person I am

Some people say I’m pretty, but yet I can’t even get a boyfriend. Looks don’t mean crap. 

The only people who can TELL you not to dye your hair at 15 are your parents and your school.  If your boyfriend lovingly says he likes your hair the way it is, take that into consideration.  If he tells you you can’t dye it, dump him.  It’s just the first of many things you won’t be allowed to do.  Try changing your style.  I don’t know what you dress like, but up until I was in high school, I dressed like a boy; the baggier the better.  When I started dressing pretty, I felt prettier.  I always had low self-esteem though, no matter how I dressed.  If it really effects you, you might want to consider counseling before it gets worse.

do what makes you happy. don’t do what other people tell you just because of popular vote. in the end, all you’ve got is yourself to be happy.

Does hair color really make a difference? Have you tried a little make-up? How ugly can you think if you have a boyfriend?

@word2thajbird@xanga - Agreed

You look cute =)  

Clearly, you’re not ugly if you have a boyfriend…and from your profile picture, you’re pretty cute.

Also, you shouldn’t need his permission to dye your hair. Probably your parents’, but not your boyfriend’s.

Your profile picture is pretty cute. Blue eyes. Pouty lips. You have it going on. Find something that makes you, you. If you have a talent, excel at it and share it with people.

Most importantly. Talk to people other than your boyfriend. Even if it’s small talk, just do it. It will all add up. You have to take a dive.

Also, while I do like your hair colour, if your boyfriend “won’t let you” dye your hair; I’d seriously evaluate that situation. Your hair colour should mean squat. My boyfriend loves my hair colour to death and it’s probably one of his favourite things about my appearance but it would barely be a conversation if I changed it.

Try a hair cut, a hair colour, broaden your style. Experiment with your look. Put yourself out there. You’re 15 and this is the perfect time to figure out your image. Of course it’s confusing and doubtful. Confidence comes from the inside, but when you’re this age; it’s unlikely your style will be the same when you’re even just 20. When you’re 15; it’s really easy to question who you are. It’s a good age to change your style, change your hair, and play with makeup. It’s a good age to start learning about politics, your causes, and utilizing your smarts and talents.

While confidence should not come from hair colour, if you want to dye your hair. Do it. Sometimes it pays more to be a little bit of a “rebel,” more than it does to change to a redhead or a brunette. You feeling like a goddess is always more important that what you do to your hair.

Self confidence isn’t something that can happen over night, which I believe you know this.
There are things however that can help
I REALLY think you should not dye your hair completely,
but go to a salon and have them foil in a bunch of light blonde highlights,
it will make you feel girly and pretty
at least it helped me some.

Also buy yourself something cute from forever 21. If you don’t think what you are wearing is cute, than you can’t feel cute.

I really want to just say “Boo fucking whoo” , but I don’t want to sound too much like a bitch (mostly because I’m not really a bitch).

You’re 15, you’re still young, if your boyfriend is telling you what you can and cannot do, dump him. But like I said- YOU’RE 15!!! When I was 15 i thought I was ugly, and I can guaranteed that 60% of girls at the age of 15 think that they look worse than they actually do. 

You simply can’t be ugly, why should you have a boyfriend then, hu? See

Nobody is ugly, only the people who say you are ugly are ugly. And if it’s you who’s of the oppinion you should just start maybe using make up or like you said dye your or go shopping with your friend to feel like brand new person.  And you have to do what makes you happy or more self-confident, nomatter what you boyfriend says.

If dyeing your hair will make you feel a little more confident then do it. Forget what your boyfriend says. You don’t need his permission, it’s your body. Do what makes you happy.

you look good too me. 

play with your style maybe. try some light cute tops, a denim skirt or skinny jeans, flats, a bit of lip-gloss/mascara. what ever makes you feel pretty and confident. but if you are just stuffing on hoodies and jeans and not taking care of yourself it doesnt make you feel good. so make an effort and tell yourself how good you look. be happy with what you got because believe me there are people who are jealous of you. and in reality looks mean shit all. 
 i would say go for it and dye your hair but i personally love your hair colour and dont think it would be better any other colour! 

This old post of mine has been helpful for many; I hope that you find it helpful as well: 

http://ancient-scribe.xanga.com/676414037/well-worth-the-rib/
As you can see by my profile pic, I am studying for the priesthood, by which you may also assume that I will never marry. I want you to know that, in short, contrary to what many people think about Catholic priesthood, I did not enter into this life and choose chastity because you and other women are not beautiful; I chose this way because you are so beautiful, because you and all other women are worth such a sacrifice. I hope that you and other women who struggle as you do can see that you are beautiful and that some men, like me, stake their lives on that truth. 
Basically, if you and all women are not beautiful, then I am utterly wasting my life! God bless you always, and may He who is perfectly beautiful, who created you in HIS image, grant you the grace to accept the truth of your own radiance.

don’t let your boyfriend tell you what to do. 

your boyfriend won’t let you? do what you want. he’s not going to be around forever; you’re only 15.

I don’t think dyeing your hair will help the real problem.  Self-confidence is something you have to build for yourself.  To truly change your perspective, you need to believe that you are beautiful.  And, like others have said, based on your picture, I’d say you are.  

If it’s really an issue for you, focus on the things that you do like about yourself.  I mean, everyone has things they don’t like about themselves, and lots of people fall into only concentrating on the bad.  Maybe you really like your eyes, or your lips, as I believe someone mentioned.
And one comment about your boyfriend – I know a lot of people are getting upset because he told you you “couldn’t” dye your hair.  It sounds to me like the boy just likes you as you are, and I’d say that’s something to be confident about.  
Just take a more positive look at it.  :)  Confidence can make anyone better looking.  :)

don;t let your bf ‘let you’ or not let you do things. do whatever YOU want. your hair, your body. 

Well, I don’t think you’re ugly based on your profile picture. And I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I definitely have a lot of self-esteem issues… and they were MUCH worse when I was your age. The fact that I was chubby and really awkward made it all the worse. I guess having good self-esteem is just a daily conscious choice to say to yourself, “I am a beautiful, unique young woman.” It’s not easy, but it can happen!

As far as the hair dye situation… go for it! Dye your hair, chica! And if your boyfriend gets so upset about it, then he’s probably not good enough for you. He should love you for your personality, not your hair color.

If you have a boyfriend you obviously aren’t that hideous! & even if you were, so what? (:

and btdubs… do NOT let a boy control you. if you wish to dye your hair, do so.

Your boyfriend should let you do what you want to do with YOUR body. You shouldn’t even need his permission, and if that’s what will make you happy then go for it!

Now I know this will sound incredibly cliche, but beauty really comes from the inside. The key is to make your inner beauty shine through. A confident woman is more attractive than a woman that fishes for compliments and pities herself.

KNOW you are beautiful and be proud of it! Do what you can to feel better about yourself. I’d suggest healthy habits like working out or doing yoga. When I feel healthy I feel happy and confident. Little things like taking time to look in the mirror and just being like “this is me, I’m beautiful the way I am and there are people out there that care about me and can see my beauty”.

This stuff probably sounds corny as shit.. but it helps me sometimes if I’m feeling low on self-confidence. It really is something only you can work on, because trust me, I’m sure there are plenty of people around you that believe you’re beautiful, hearing it from them can help, but sometimes you need to hear it from yourself

Oh and P.S.
like many of the commenters are saying, you’re so young, when I was your age I felt the same way about myself<3 Also, you said you mainly only talk to your boyfriend; I’d suggest you branch out more too and learn to come out of your shell. Being confident in your personality is just like being confident in your looks. I’m a very shy person and it’s difficult for me to come out of my shell, but I try my best, being outgoing isn’t just a quality, it’s a skill that one can aquire

I don’t think your bf is being controlling but it is actually a compliment that he likes you for the natural you.

It’s all a matter of perception. If you want to dye your hair, do it.

Fake it! It’s so hard to do at first, but pretend you’re playing a role. Pretend you’re the hottest woman alive and everyone who looks at you is super jealous. You’ll feel silly inside, for sure, but force yourself to walk with confidence, to smile, and to tell yourself that you’re beautiful. Turn all of your negative views of yourself into positives. Turn it all around. Eventually, you will believe yourself.

And to hell with that boy of yours! Dye your hair! Dye it twenty times! No one should ever make choices for you. He needs to get over himself. You don’t need such a ridiculously conditional relationship. If he won’t find you attractive with brown and blonde and black and red and green hair, he’s so not worth it. Remember – you’re awesome and beautiful and he should see that no matter what you do!

Confidence is totally key. And sometimes doing something new or drastic totally helps. I have learned to be comfortable with myself, but nothing was more empowering physically than shaving my head. I’m not recommending that you do something so drastic though (unless you want to!). But really…do what *you* want. Buy clothes that you feel super awesome in. Listen to music in the morning that gets you all energized and happy and whatnot – like when you go to a concert and are having so much fun you totally don’t care if you’re sweaty and look really dumb when you dance. Try to capture that kind of energy as often as you can. In time, you’ll fill in the blanks and feel beautiful.

You are beautiful. Even if you don’t think so. I hope you realize that some day soon

Listen to your guy and not these women that will consider you competition in 3yrs. In order to gain confidence you must test yourself and learn to over come obstacles. For self-esteem/confidence you must get a real self-image view by  meeting more people and doing more social things.

there will always be people who are prettier than you. but you only think that. some people may look at you and think the same way you think when you look at “prettier” girls.
it’s a cycle you can never break, that is until you finally accept yourself.

but first you have to find yourself. which is the hardest part of all.

and if your boyfriend likes you just the way you are then you’ve got it made. and if he really truly likes you and respects you he won’t hate you if you do dye your hair.

you’re 15. you’re trying to find yourself. and trying to accept yourself. and trying so hard to be what you want yourself to be.

From my experience in high school I learned
that people actually don’t care much about others people’s looks
as it may seem.
What I mean by this is that as long as you look presentable and clean (like no eye boogers, no dandruff flakes everywhere, or bad B.O), then it’s fine.

I also learned that for every person that doesn’t like you for something,
there is someone who likes you for the same exact thing! So there’s no point in trying to please others, just do things that suit you.

Do what you want with your hair, style, makeup, everything, while you’re young and have that chance. After I got a stupid job, I couldn’t have any of the things I felt were “me” – piercings, an unnatural hair colour. Do it because YOU want it, don’t hold back because some silly guy is telling you he won’t like it.
Highschool is tough because a lot of people feel like they have to impress everyone and be good looking and well-liked. Just be yourself, because many of the “gorgeous” girls are not as prefect as you think. They are likely struggling with the same issue themselves and if you can stay true to yourself and be happy with who you are, you are miles ahead of everyone else.

Trust me honey, looks aren’t everything. I used to think I was ugly too, but I’ve aesthetically changed dramatically. Everyone tells me I look good, but guess what, my social life is still lackluster. If you want to be happy, it’s not just about reinventing yourself on the outside. Confidence is key to meeting people and keeping a fruitful social life. Personality matters a whole lot too.

By the way, you look fine to me (based on your profile pic). If you’re appealing enough to nab a boyfriend, I don’t think your looks are your biggest problem.

beauty is based more on attitude and not appearance

well true beauty anyway

also words are very powerful
what you say will more likely than not become truth
hence say positive things even if you may not believe em now
you will with perseverance believe them later if you keep
telling yourself so with fervor

how ugly do you think you are? you have a bf.
also stop having low self esteem–be confident and everyone will like you for it.
you are probably going through that awkward teenage phase.

Don’t let some guy tell you what you can or can’t do. If you want to dye your hair, then dye it. Honestly, I think high school is the best time to dye your hair, have fun with it, get a crazy hair style — because eventually you’ll find something you like or at the very least you’ll be able to say one day that yea you’ve done that

Okay, first of all… do NOT let your boyfriend “tell you” that you can’t do something.  He’s not your owner, and you’re your own person.  Since you’re 15 I can assure you that you’ll have more boyfriends in your lifetime, so if he gets mad about it don’t worry about it… plenty more fish in the sea.

and I also agree, you have a cute pic 

@Murphy_Rants@xanga - Amazing comment, you said everything I wanted to!

Okay, so your boyfriend likes you the way you are.  He’s given you his opinion, now you get to do what you like, and if he doesn’t like it, too bad!

Also, you have a boyfriend.  Think of all the girls out there who don’t have boyfriends but want one.  You have one, and he must think you’re attractive because he’s still with you!

Also, I notice that in your profile picture, you wear glasses.  I had a lot of self-esteem issues while I wore glasses, and then I got contact lenses.  I’m a lot happier now, but I also have a couple pairs of glasses that I really like!  So if you’re willing, try getting some contacts.

If you think tweaking some things about your appearance will make you more self-confident, then go ahead and try it!  But I have to agree with the other comments: you’re quite cute as you are. 

I think your boyfriend is trying to prove a point with not allowing you (thought at 15 I think it should be him not WANTING you to) dye your hair. You’re beautiful with your natural hair color. You dont need to change it to be beautiful.

Gaining good self-confidence is sometimes not an easy process but when people compliment you on anything really believe that! Because when people say something good about you, it’s because they really do mean and believe that about you.

“Photography and music is my way of living” embrace it and share it with the world! Your friends should be a great support system as well.

Do you. Be you. Never aspire to be or look like anyone else. And a little make up does a girl good. Don’t go crazy with it, natural is more beautiful. A little eyeliner and mascara is about all an every day beautiful young girl needs. Get out there and experience every day. Little by little. And never let critique beat the best of you.

It might not be your favorite genre but listen to these 2 songs:

Video by India Arie

What Makes You Different, Makes You Beautiful by the Backstreet Boys

First of all, your profile picture is gorgeous, so wtf are you talking about? (:
Second, no one should ever date a guy that has to give them permission to do things. You do what you want and if he doesn’t like it, so what? I can almost promise you he won’t be around forever, anyway.
Third, my best friend struggles with self esteem. Everyone tells her how pretty she is, but she doesn’t see it. You have to find something tha tmakes you feel good about yourself. Exercise? Trying on new make up? Writing yourself a positive note? Do something. Because you can’t rely on a guy or your friends to always make you feel good about yourself…they’re going to get tired of it eventually.

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I have very low self-confidence

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I hate it when people know that they have low self-confidence, and then wallow in it. And letting other people make you feel better isn’t a permanent thing either. This blog being featured, and all of the people commenting telling you you’re beautiful, will make you feel better for a couple days or even a week. But then you’ll dip back into hating yourself (the same thing will happen if you change your hair). 
Confidence can only come from you. Sometimes it’s as simple as giving yourself a pep talk, and just doing it over again when you start getting down on yourself. It’s stopping that little voice that doubts yourself, your image, your personality, and even your social skills. 
Low self-esteem is a habit that feeds itself. You’re the only one that can keep it going, and you’re the only one that can stop it.

If you’re just wanting to dye your hair a natural colour your boyfriend should not care. You should not let him “make” you do anything. If he were to leave you if you dyed your hair I would have to think that he is stupid. You’re young, you need to experiment a little with your hair.

Don’t pay as much attention to the girls who you think are gorgeous. Do not constantly tell yourself that you would be more pretty if you had ______. Tell yourself that you are pretty the way you are. Find things about yourself that you like. When I was 15 I had a lot of problems accepting myself, but eventually you realize there is more to life than just thinking about what you look like constantly.

u look pretty cute actually beautiful considering ur proflie pic

Disclaimer:  I don’t claim to have any particular qualifications to be giving advice.  It’s just an opinion like the rest.  But, hey, blogs are all about throwing around opinions.

First, dyeing your hair is not going to give you more confidence.
However, making decisions for yourself about what you want will.

Self-confidence is good to have.  But, honestly, you’re 15.  You’re not going to feel all that confident with yourself any time soon.  You can certainly improve, though.  However, if you think others your age are significantly more self-confident than you, you’re probably mistaken.  They might be better at faking it, or they might just be better at hiding insecurity, or their insecurities may just be different.  Also, most of us are much more critical of ourselves than others, or chalk more up to benefit of the doubt, and end up assuming others are more confident than they’d ever think they were.
But being insecure about things, and figuring out what you are, is pretty much a teenage condition for everyone.  It generally sorts itself out as you (and particularly your brain) matures. So if at all possible try not to worry about it too much.

But broadening your social circle certainly helps.  More friends in your life helps a lot with sense of self.  Relying on one person for your social circle, not so good.

I am more concerned about the comments about your boyfriend not letting you.  The thing is, I can see many ways to interpret that.
1.  He’s too controlling.  Probably from being immature himself and not knowing any better.  And you’re letting him get away with it.
2.  He may know about your insecurities and is attempting to simply assure you that you’re beautiful the way you are.  Just maybe not very successfully.
3.  Maybe he’s just offering a personal opinion that he happens to prefer your current hair color and isn’t thinking too much beyond that.
There are surely other possibilities also.  But the ‘not letting you’; is it simply offering an opinion that you aren’t letting yourself go against, or is he really taking a forceful stand on the issue?  If it’s the latter you should probably seriously reconsider keeping him around.

I’m sure I’m not one to be giving advice on self-image.  I don’t think much of my appearance.  Also, beauty largely is subjective.  Some people will find you attractive and some won’t.  Some people will prefer black hair, some red, some blonde, some blue, etc.  Those are just details.
Deciding for yourself what makes you comfortable, what feels good to you, translates in to being yourself.  And that ends up building confidence.  And that kind of confidence is appealing to others.  Finding things you enjoy doing and are good at helps too.  You’ll feel better about your looks…and so will others.  Thinking you’re ugly has much more to do with insecurities than actual looks.

Additional Disclaimer:  Just to be clear, I’m definitely in favor of the hair dyeing.  And I don’t mean just some other ‘natural’ shade, or some blonde highlights.  Blue, green, purple, red, etc.  There should be much more of that.  Pandering excessively to overly controlling boyfriends or girlfriends is problematic.  However, pandering to the tastes of rambling strangers on the Internet is good for you.  Honest!

Everyone in the world has flaws, but I don’t believe anyone should ever be considered ugly. I think you should try not to focus on the way you look, because anyone can look at you in a different way. If you really want to dye your hair, then try it out. But I don’t think it will keep your confidence up forever. Ofcourse that’s just my opinion, so I could be wrong. Also, I don’t think you should base your decision off your boyfriend. If this is something you really want to do, he should support you.

he won’t let you? fuck that girl you are YOUR OWN PERSON. 

Low self confidence + controlling boyfriend = recipe for disaster. Careful, hun.

Pretty is as pretty does! True beauty really is found deep within! I’ve known people that I didn’t think we’re very pretty at first till I got to know then and I found they really were beautiful, inside and out. sometimes inner beauty isn’t enough for us, so maybe try some make up, nothing heavy, just some foundation, eyeliner, mascara and some blush. You are young, you don’t need to put make up all over yourself and go crazy. Think about what you wear, are you just wearing “some jeans, and t-shirt” all the time? get some cute tops that fit you nicely. I know I feel prettier when I take care of myself, like use facial wash and stuff like that. You shoudn’t need people telling that you are pretty, true self confidence is going to come from within youself.

What some of the people on here don’t get is that having a boyfriend won’t always make you feel pretty! About the hair dying thing – you should really ask your parents. I’d take your boyfriends thoughts and feelings into consideration. I don’t know your b/f but if hes like this about everything that is a bad sign. You are too young to be controled like that by a boy. Be more confidence in yourself, you are your own person, if you have no self confidence people will walk all over you!

Self confidence doesn’t come in a box (like hair dye) we can do all we want to boots our outer appearance and maybe it will bring us up, but until you beileve you are beautiful and know who you are on the inside, you may never know your true beauty as a person!

I’ve had a hard times with how I look and self confidence. I’m fatter than I’d like to be, but I have friends that love me for who I am and yell at me if I talk bad about myself. You are not alone, always remember that!

God Bless you

First off, your boyfriend is not your father. It is your hair, do what you please with it. If he really likes you, he’ll deal with it. If he doesn’t, he won’t, and you will find somebody who will deal with it. I’m sorry, that kind of thing just pisses me off.

Also, I personally think you’re good-looking. I like your nose, in particular. And you have a pretty mouth.

However, it really doesn’t matter how good-looking I think you are, or how pretty anybody commenting thinks you are, because at the end of the day it matters not what we say to you, but what you say to yourself. Our compliments may offer a short-term boost, but what happens when you turn the computer off?

I apologize in advance for what is about to be kind of a lengthy response; I went through the same thing for a long, long time and I’m a bit passionate about the issue of self-esteem now. So, here goes.

I had terrible self-esteem for years. I thought I was ugly, stupid, and that there was no good reason anybody would want to know me. As I’ve gotten older, though, I’ve begun to realize that the only reason I felt that way was because I believed what other people had told me – with their words and with their actions - for so long. I believed that I was ugly, and so, in response, I tried to become someone else. I tried to be like the “pretty” girls at school, tried to dress the way they did and do my hair the way they did. Dyed my hair a couple of times, actually. Eventually, I started starving myself. I was a size one, and I started starving myself. And I puked up what little I did eat.  Sounds crazy, right?

The only reason why I did it, though, was because I had spent so much time trying to become somebody else – the skinniest person I knew, because that would make me special – that I never took the time to find out who I really was. I never took the time to develop my strengths, my talents, my thoughts, my passions. If you were at war, you would need strong armor to defend yourself against others’ attacks; in the same way, you need a strong, well-developed sense of who you are to defend yourself against the negative messages people try to send you. Because trust me, they will keep coming,

My best advice for you is to develop what you already have. What have you always been good at? What comes naturally to you? If you don’t know, then experiment. When you find it, practice it and improve upon it. As you do, you’ll begin to fill yourself up with something other than the expectations of other people. You will see the beauty in the self you’ve discovered, the self that you’ve built with your own efforts, not with other people’s opinions. And one day, after all of that, you’ll look in the mirror, and your pretty face will just occur to you as one more thing about yourself that is beautiful.

Again, sorry that took so long; I feel strongly about the subject, lol. 

Dying my hair isn’t just about looking better, it’s about boredom and having fun.  I enjoy it.

As for changing yourself – I say your boyfriend should let you.  My boyfriend used to be chubby in middle school, and now he skates a lot to burn off calories, and tries to eat healthy.  I told him I’d love him anyway, big or small, but it’s something that makes him feel good about himself, saying that he used to be chunky but he’s keeping the weight off.  I disagree with him, but if it makes him happy, that’s what’s important.

@SodomyClown@xanga - I couldn’t agree more…that was perfect advice!

I have no many things to say about what you wrote lol. In no specific order. ..
- you have a boyfriend so he must think you’re pretty.
- don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t do. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
- many people have insecurities too.
- why do you think you’re ugly? you don’t look ugly in your pic?
- if you want to improve your image, then start small or something you know?

btw .. i figured by now, it’s all a learning process. best of luck. hope one day you’ll realize you’re beautiful <3

I didn’t feel attractive until I was 19 and wayyyy out of highschool. Although, looking back, I got hit on constantly and I didn’t even know it. I assume this is you because you look cute as heck.

honey, if you’ve got a boyfriend then i dont think “ugly” is your problem. its your confidence. word of advice, dont ever let a guy dictate what you can and cant do.  u wanna dye ur hair?  then do it. if he’s with you cause he really likes you then it shouldnt matter if you had purple hair. if he’s still bugging then be like Jay-Z and move “on to the next one”.  

Looking at your profile picture, I can honestly say, you need to invest in some new glasses if you think you’re ugly. You aren’t ugly at all. And i’m sure your bf would agree with me there.

Your boyfriend might like your hair how it is, but at the end of the day, it’s your decision, if you wish to boost your confidence, you must do what you think is right, and if that means you want to dye your hair, go for it.

Maybe talk to your bf about why you want to change your look, and if he wants you to be happier, he’ll accept and deal with your change. If not, psshh, tbh, he isn’t worth the hassle.

I know how you feel with the low confidence issue, I always compare myself to the insanly stunning girls, I used to live in my cardigans and wear really dull clothes, then as cheesy as it sounds, I woke up, and realised that yeah, ok, i’m not stunning, but why should I hide away?  Slowly, very slowly, i’m learning to see myself as a girl who look’s like a girl (and not a swamp creature type thing xD).

 I hope that you see how pretty you are, and everything works out for you

Being 15.. you’re bound to have issues with how you look, I sure did. It sucks, it really does, but chin up, and i’ve said it before, but you’re bloody pretty,

Your soo cute! You need to stop comparing yourself to other girls that will only make you feel more depressed! You have a boyfriend who loves you and does not want you to dye your hair because your thinks your natural color is beautiful! You should feel flattered by that! You don’t need to change your self on the outside. You just need to feel better about yourself on the inside. Have some confidence and your view on your self will change and you will feel beautiful.As corny as this sounds Every girl is beautiful. Everyone has something unique that makes them special in a way and you need to focus on the good in yourself and let people see that. 

Remind yourself that if you have the ability to acquire a boyfriend, you are a lot more attractive and socially graceful that a lot of other people. Be grateful for what you have. If you really want to dye your hair because you think you’ll like it, do it. Don’t do it because you think it’ll please other people. They care way less about your hair and way more about your personality than you think. 

This is not your boyfriend’s decision. Your body is your body. You don’t need his permission to do anything. It’s sexist that he won’t “let” you do something. He isn’t your father.

If you think it will boost your confidence and make you feel better about yourself, go for it.

You don’t know ugly, until you’ve seen my photo album, lols. I’m sure you’re pretty, personality and confidence will add to it. 

I think your very beautiful.. The thing about most” beauty queens at school” Is that they are fake. Fake personalitys and such.

If you wanna dye your hair you go and do it. choose a color that can look good with the clothes in your closet, and hey if your wanting to choose a color thats vibrant.

I still think your boyfriend isnt nessicaryly controlling but he gernerally loves your hari the way it is.

*hugs*

don’t tell yourself you’re ugly. it’s insensitive for me to say this but it can only lead to self destruction. 

you have pretty skin, and big blue eyes. something most people would envy.if dying your hair would make you happier with yourself, then why not. do something to make you feel better about yourself and because it feels right for you, though

@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - This comment.

Your boyfriends opinion does’nt matter. If you want to dye your hair, dye your hair. If you want to wear make up to make yourself feel prettier, do it. If you want to wear all pink, and a tutu, freakin do it. Your boyfriend doesn’t control you! All that matters is that YOU like it. If he doesn’t, he can just deal with it plain and simple.

Being totally honest, I struggled with this at your age too. I dyed my hair so many times, but trust me; it doesn’t really boost your self image very much. Especially if you’ve never dyed your hair before, things can go very wrong if you’re not careful. There’s not much you can really do in the way of altering your appearance that will make you feel pretty. Feeling pretty is something you need to learn on the inside first. 

The only person you can depend on to make you feel beautiful is yourself. Believe that you are beautiful because you are! If you think dying your hair will enhance your natural beauty, go for it. It’s best just to love what you were born with, though. Focus more on inner beauty and enhancing that because that is more lasting than looks. And when you feel good inside, you look good on the outside, too!

First of all, don’t ever put yourself in the position where you’re saying “my boyfriend won’t let me”. You are your own person, girl. Do what makes you happy, period.

Second, beauty is so many levels. I could point out twenty physically gorgeous women I know and tell you why I don’t think they’re not attractive at all. I could also point out twenty physically “unattractive” women I know and tell you why they’re smokin’ hott.

Kindness and confidence are the most beautiful features. When you allow yourself to have confidence through accepting yourself, and are BRAVE enough to be kind, people see it. It sticks out. People associate that with you, and in turn, see you as beautiful. So my advice is to work on finding who you are and let your concern for your physical appearence take a backseat. Once you are comfortable with yourself I think you’ll find you’re more accepting of, and much happier with, your physical appearance.

In the meantime if dying your hair or trying new clothes, etc. gives you a little boost, (though your bf is right- natural is beautiful!) go for it.

Happiness = beautiful. Not the other way around, sister .

Feel free to message me if you ever want to vent or talk.

your profiel pictures not that bad. you have a good face silly =P

Please don’t waste your time worrying about that. I did that, and I regret it deeply, you have no idea. 

I know how you feel though, I have, for the longest time, hated everything about me and spent my teen years alone because I just felt so inferior to everyone. I lost friendships, and I lost many chances at making great relationships just because I felt I wasn’t worth it. But I was and I wish I had realized it then. Looking at your profile picture, I can tell that you are a gorgeous young lady, but I know that that won’t really mean anything to you, because it never did to me when people told me so. I wish you’d believe me though, I really do. 

You’re nowhere near ugly, my dear! I’m pretty sure you boyfriend loves you the way you are..so don’t change your looks. I, too, have very low self-esteem.. but I just put a smile on my face every day.  

Wait wait… your boyfriend “won’t let you”… what sort of crap is that?

Last time I checked he doesn’t own you and therefore has no right to make decisions for you.
This reminds me of those husbands who are super jealous when their wives or gfs start to lose weight because they are doing something for themselves and suddenly guys like looking at them. Men like that don’t deserve the time of day…. tell him to shove it and dye your hair girl.

You have a right and I mean a RIGHT to be confident and happy with yourself. At the end of the day it’s your own feelings that matter. If he doesn’t get that then I’m sorry but you may want to leave him… I mean what sort of boyfriend doesn’t put your happiness infront of his? And don’t be scared to talk to him… there really are plenty more fish in the sea in case you lose him. I wish you all the best

And don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t do, life is too short to listen to what other people want for you.

Your boyfriend shouldn’t have to “let” you dye your hair, that sounds a little controlling. And if you have a boyfriend you’re obviously not ugly. Just take a makeup class or dye your hair if you feel it will boost your self esteem. Who cares what your boyfriend thinks, it’s YOUR self confidence not his.

@petiteme_x@xanga - Agree!

Hair is just hair, it’ll grow out.  Do whatever you want with it. Experiment. =)

You never know, maybe your bf disagrees with it now but ends up liking it when you’ve dyed it. You can always pick a subtle color so the difference won’t be so drastic to start with.And if your bf doesn’t like it, it’ll grow back. (and if that’s too long of a wait, you can dye it back)
Letting a guy control your physical appearance definitely won’t help your confidence.  Do what YOU want to do. Also, I think A LOT of girls at your age goes through the “I think I’m ugly” stage… I know I did.  Eventually you’ll find the traits of yourself that you appreciate.  Focus on things that you like about yourself; things that define you and make you unique. 
PS. You definitely do NOT look ugly in your profile picture =P (not that the opinion of a stranger should matter–good or bad)

1) your profile picture is really pretty
2) it is your hair, not his hair

If you have no self-esteem, you will always be ugly no matter how gorgeous you try to make yourself look.

Listen to Thunder Road by Bruce Springsteen.

i completely understand the boat you’re in because i thought i was the ugliest thing that walked the earth until probably six months ago. there are little things i did to boost my confidence. first, i stopped comparing myself to other girls and i believe that may be an issue you are dealing with also. second, i realized that like you i had a boyfriend so there has to be something attractive about me if he chose me over any of the other “gorgeous” girls. and third, he loved me the way i was which seems to be the same situation with your bf. he loves your natural hair color and doesn’t want you to change it. and the end of the day, it’s your decision and you shouldn’t let him sway that; however, at the same time just take into consideration that he finds you completely beautiful the way you are. and even if you don’t think you compare to the other girls, you have to remember you’re better than them in some way even if not looks. and even though the idea is that appearance is everything, it’s not. truly beautiful people are attractive from the inside more than the outside.

i hope this helped. have faith, girl.

Have you looked at your profile picture, girl? You’re not ugly in the slightest :]!

All I can say, is do what makes you happy and believe in yourself.

it’s your hair, I think that if you want to dye it, then you should. It’s not your boyfriends hair, I’m sure he’d like it after you dyed it anyways

You have a boyfriend who likes your natural look, but you feel ugly? Poor kid, his opinion has no value I guess.

This is something you are going to face the rest of your life. I’m sorry. But the world shoves these images down our throats. I’m 24 and still think I’m the ugliest thing, no matter what anyone says. This is a personal battle, I hope you and I can someday overcome and find our own true beauty.

As for a boy…move on, he’s not worth it, you’re young, stand up for yourself!!! You deserve so much better, don’t let some boy damage you

I think you’re gorgeous!! Dont dye your hair, you may think it’ll boost your confidence but if you arent confident in your hair as it is now then dying it is really only going to make you feel worse :\ because then you’ll be insecure about it and yourself.. You’re pretty, from what I can see and as you said you’re only 15. You arent going to be the most confident person in the world you’re still growing and learning as a person who you are and what you want to be (: If you ever need someone to talk to message me I understand how you feel and Im not just saying that to play around. I just graduated and Im very antisocial so I really do understand not being confident

-Panda

your boyfriend obviously thinks you’re beautiful the way you are, that’s why he doesn’t want you to dye your hair! but in the end, he can’t stop you, so if you think it will help boost your self esteem, then do it. you can always change it back.

I had a friend who had a boyfried who wouldn’t let her wear makeup or change her hair in any way because he didn’t want other people attracted to her.  He’d get mad at her and yell if he caught her wearing eyeliner.  Yeah, he was a controlling jerk.  If your boyfriend is anything like that, don’t put yourself through his abuse.  As for you feeling ugly, EVERYONE does; it’s normal.  That doesn’t make it hurt less, but at least you don’t have to feel alone.  I struggled with it my whole life until I realized (as corny as this may sound) that your soul is the only thing that matters.  Some people are JUST pretty, some people are JUST smart, but if you’re a good person, that shines through more than you may know.  I’ve heard that all my life and dismissed it as worthless cliche because I was just too ugly for that to really matter.  I WAS WRONG.  Please take time to think about that, and you will feel better, and prettier!  Best of luck!

Don’t worry. You’re not alone in this. When I was younger I felt like that and that no-one would find me attractive. Just try and concentrate on being yourself. You are gorgeous no matter what. 

And confidence is a continuous thing. Looking and feeling great will come in time and is part and parcel of experience and life … getting out there and making friends, talking to people in different social situations are great ways of boosting your confidence!And in terms of your hair; don’t let your boyfriend dictate how you want your hair. Just do it if you want to. I’m sure it’d look great =D

won’t let you?

dye it every color just to smite him, then dump him and go find someone born this side of the neolithic era who doesn’t think they can run a person

and what if you dye your hair and you still feel ugly. i suspect how you look is not the issue, rather how you THINK you look. your perspective needs to change, not the view. embrace yourself, chickie. life will get better. i promise.

Your boyfriend can’t “let” you do anything; he has no authority over you. That said, he’s right. You shouldn’t dye your hair.

whats wrong with being ugly?

I agree with @Covergirl_For_Sanity_Fair@xanga : try changing your look. I didn’t feel pretty until i started to dress how I wanted to dress. I changed from always wearing a t-shirt and jeans, to wearing more skirts and prettier shirts. Wear something you feel good in, its a great confidence booster.

I used to have the same problem, I had bullies and I was overweight and not the cutest kid ever.. But when my 8th grade school year was coming to an end, my now boyfriend of a year and 2 months asked me out and he never let me forget how beautiful I was. It took me a year or so for me to let him see me in a bathing suit, but now I don’t have any problems(: I honestly think If I didn’t have that positive energy around me all the time I was with him, I would be in a really dark place. But, if your boyfriend isn’t telling you that your gorgeous, then he isn’t doing his job properly! And maybe that’s what he’s trying to do by not wanting you to dye your hair, it could be his way of saying that your perfect just the way you are. Which is true! Screw flaws! Everyone’s gorgeous(:

your boyfriend won’t “let you”? that’s bullshit, you’re not his puppet, sweetie. you should think about this though, it’s not his hair, he can’t have the only say in what you can and cannot do, that’s just wrong and controlling. you should dye your hair, and if he doesn’t like it, then he can just get over it. 

i think you should dye it whatever color YOU want. i also think you should try dumping the loser if he causes you more trouble.
and don’t think you’re ugly.. he doesn’t seem to think so. i know people that would kill for eyes like yours, blue? gray? it’s normal to have insecurities, though.

You think you’re ugly, yet you have a boyfriend.  Maybe you’re comparing yourself to someone else who you think is prettier?

You should dye your hair if you think it will help.

But honestly, I don’t think it will.Instead focus on the fact that your boyfriend won’t let you because he loves you and finds you beautiful. Just the way you are. 
You’re beautiful inside and out.He sees it.You should too.Fuck anyone that doesn’t.

I like your natural haircolor too. But I also like dying my hair,… not that it gives me confidence, I just like constant changed. But if anything… hair grows back, so it’s alright to give it a try.

You should take it as a compliment, especially when it’s coming from your boyfriend. He really means that he likes you just as you are.

For me, eyeliner is a confidence booster. Not even makeup… just eyeliner. It really brightens up your face with your eyes stand out. :]

you’re pretty! just be yourself and your beauty will shine through.

You honestly think that you will look the same as you do at 15 as you will for the rest of your life. Don’t fret, although it seems like the most important issue right now is your appearance, the most important issue is actually creating healthy and smart habits for the rest of your life. Accept yourself and know this awkwardness goes away and everyone goes through it. Find some beauty in yourself, you deserve it.

if your boyfriend accepts you, you’re beautiful to him.

To tell you the truth, I don’t think dying your hair will make you any more confident than you are now. And sweetie, you have a boyfriend who likes you just the way you are–there are plenty of us who don’t have boyfriends, and haven’t had one in 8 years–how do you think WE feel when we can’t seem to get guys interested?

I’m sure you’re a lovely girl, but you’re going through a time where most girls are really self-aware and very critical of themselves. It’s a bit of a natural process. If you think dying your hair will help, try it. And if it still doesn’t make you feel confident, then start by finding little things you like about yourself. Self-confidence comes from within. Looks may help, but a lot of the times, it doesn’t. Feel your way around, explore yourself, try to understand yourself.

Good luck <3 I hope you gain some of that self-confidence!

i dont think you should dye your hair…your hair color is freaking gorgeous…i love it…

and also i dont think dying your hair can prove your confidence…actually i used tol like what u feel now..feeling ugly…i have bad teeth, i’m wearing glasses that make my eyes look way smaller and make me look like a nerd..and when i see my friends who all beautiful, i often feel…sooo  ugly..i often think about having braces, contact lenses, i also thinking about dying my hair..but well.i always end up doing nothing because i always realized i like me the way i am..and that’s the truth…u dont need someone to tell u, u r pretty,…tell it to urself..look at the mirror and look right into ur eyes and say i’m beautiful and smiling…i hope ur confidence can boosted up by doing it because mine did…
and also i think there’s already a person that think u r beautiful the way u r, ur boyfriend..that;s why he doesnt want u to dye ur hair..he doesnt want u to change the person he fall in love to…because u’ve already beautiful the way you are…^^

Honestly, I’ve had the same problem since I was younger and started developing huge boobs, which look highly strange against my tiny ribcage. Everything I gain in weight is towards the front, I have dark circles under my eyes and Keratosis Pilaris all over my legs. ( Look that up if you don’t know what that is)  Anyways, the fact of the matter is, if your dislike goes to many things about yourself, like mine, it’s going to take a long time to be able to fix them and even then, that won’t be good enough. 

I would also just dye your hair. If it’ll make you feel better. I dye mine, pluck my brows, use self tanner, and try to work out and I feel MUCH better. If your boyfriend dumps you for doing what you want with YOUR body, he’s not worth it. I suggest darker hair, like a chocolate brown, almost black. It would make your blue eyes pop. And maybe some lip gloss to enhance those nice lips of yours. And if you have the money, buy clothes you’ll be able to rock and feel comfortable in. I remember at your age, anything girly or pink made me feel like I couldn’t talk or breathe. But now, I’m obsessed with fashion, look at blogs each day and fashion TUMBLR’s and I love all sorts of different things. Music wise, too. Rap used to make me cringe, now I listen to all sorts of music. 

One day I hope we can love every type of person, too. And accept all beauty, even our own.
BUT there’s always room for improvement.

If you want to dye your hair, do it. Don’t let your boyfriend stop you. It’s your hair, your decision. 

I was in your place through high school. Some mornings I would wake up and look at myself and just…feel bad really. I never thought I was attractive, and well, let’s just say I wasn’t often complimented on my looks. When it comes to changing my appearance to make me feel better, the attempt didn’t work and it didn’t help at all…I got my haircut to try to get a guy to like me and it was a huge fail. So after that, I gave up on trying to change my looks to boost the confidence, if people couldn’t like me for who I was, they didn’t deserve to like me when I pretended to be someone I’m not. Eventually, it got better, it got to the point where on some mornings I woke up to say “Hey, I look cute today!” It gets better, its just an odd place and age to be at the moment but it’ll get better, I promise.  

my whole life i had self esteem issues. i still do. who doesnt? i dont think they ever go away. there is always going to be those days where you wake up and feel ugly, and you’ll have those days where you’ll wake up and feel beautiful. the best advice i could give you on this subject is to believe that you are pretty. thats all it takes. you just have to believe you are, and everyone else will too. it’s like the hidden secret that no one tells you. we can all be beautiful girls. it’s so easy. it’s like dorothy clicking her heels to go home. you could do it all along.

First off, your boyfriend shouldn’t [particularly] have a say on whether you should or should not dye your hair. If you want to dye your hair, then dye your hair. 

sometimes i feel like im not th best looking thing either but u have to dig n get ur confidence urself not frm ur hair color. ur just as beautiful as u make urself out to be. ur boyfriend apparently believes you to be gorgeous so take that and start with it. u r beautiful, stop looking at other girls because its only gonna make you feel that much more worse, believe me i’ve been there. even ‘pretty” girls have there insecurities but the only thing is they dont let others see it, so embrace ur own natural beauty. 

It’s your hair, not his.

I love how everyone is bashing on her boyfriend for NOT* letting her do what she wants

MAYBE HER BF PREFER HER NATURAL BEAUTY ?
BECAUSE MAYBE IN HIS EYES SHE IS* BEAUTIFUL
& DOESNT NEED TO CHANGE* HERSELF

Obviously she knows she can do whatever the hell she wants
No one is stopping her – not even her BF*

First, you are beautiful. Second, dye your hair just for the fun of it. It will grow back eventually so have fun. Third, beauty comes from within so remember this for each day you get older, keep on smiling and being kind and you will be forever beautiful when others are not. 

Kid, you have a boyfriend.  Obviously, you have to be thought of as attractive to him.  He probably doesn’t think you’re ugly.  The answer is to accept yourself for the way you look and quit being hard on yourself.  Chances are there are many people out there who would think you were pretty.  If that’s a picture of you, I’m one of them!

Theoretically, you could get plastic surgery if you really think it is supposed to make you happy, but really, there is no such thing as ugly.  In my view, ugly people are just beautiful people who don’t know why they’re beautiful yet.

Awhh. You’re cute(: Not ugly at all!

Oh, and you should dye your hair anyway.
You shouldn’t really let him tell you what to do, you know?

I think most girls go through this all the time, but all I can say is you’re 15, within the next 3-5 years of your life so many things will change, including yourself physically.

Get over it.

Judging from your profile picture, you’re really cute. I think that’s a normal stage to go through. All through high school I had awful self confidence and I hated the way I looked. Now I’m content with myself and I realize that I was really harsh on myself during high school. Just try not to worry too much about it, you look fine. Your boyfriend must think you’re cute, too. It’s hard to find a guy who likes the way a girl looks naturally it seems like. On the other hand, make sure he isn’t being too controlling. It’s one thing to suggest that you don’t dye your hair because you look good naturally (which is true!!), but it’s another thing to not LET you dye your hair. He sounds like a good guy, just be careful.

if you want to dye your hair, that’s you choice not your boyfriends.  it isn’t his hair it’s yours.  he sounds controlling, thats a bad thing.  you look really pretty, so don’t think that you’re ugly.  you could always go to the mall, and if they have a Sephora, ask them to give you a new look.  that is a definite confidence booster, and it’s free! lol  if you like the look they give you, and you have the money to get the makeup, then have fun if not, try to find similar colors at target or walmart.  

I am probably not the best person to ask, since I’ve never had a lot of apppearance issues. However, I would say that you look very pretty. Your boyfriend seems to think your hair looks pretty as is as well.

However, I would say that you should not feel bad about your appearance, even if you were ugly, which you aren’t. Focus on who you are inside. Try to imagine you’re invisible for a day and then walk around and see the kind of persona you project–with or without ‘pretty’ looks.

you don’t need your boyfriends permission to dye your hair. if he thinks he can rule what you do then you should realise you can do much better than him.

maybe you could try a different style clothing/hair style/make-up. that’s always helped me when i’ve felt ugly.

@sunnysailboats@xanga - lol dont worry we talked about. Hes just looking out fo me cuz he said the kids at his school (which im transferring to) are pretty mean and will pick on you for like anything.

@LeahRawrzzz@xanga -  haha yaa. but we talked about it yesterday and he told me why. So i really understand.

@shauna100@xanga -  well i asked him why, and he told me why. So i really understand where hes comming from

@Alyssa82109@xanga - Ahh.
Well that’s good that you talked about it and stuff(:

trust me, if you have a boyfriend you are obviously not ugly, and if you want to dye your hair, go ahead and dye it, because it is your head of hair, not your boyfriends.

your boyfriend should NOT be telling you whether you should dye your hair or not. 

Your boyfriend won’t let you?? Does he tell you what to wear, too?? And who to be friends with?? If you want to dye your hair, do so.. Don’t let him boss you around

If our boyfriend really cares about you hell let you do what you need to do to make yourself more confident. Dont let him stop you. Dye your hair. Its your hair. If he leaves you because of that then he wasnt worth your time anyway.

And even though you know alot of pretty girls out there it doesnt make you not pretty. Maybe those girls feel ugly around you?

Sometimes i feel ugly and fat around my friends, but what i do is find an outfit i think i look good enough put on some makeup straighten my hair and i honestly feel beautiful.

You need to do what you wanna do to make yourself feel beautiful. If you think you need to change your hair color do it! if you need a new clothes get some. if you think you need some make up where it.

well this is my opinion. feel free to deny it. since i dont know what you look like i cant say dying your hair is the solution. maybe what you need is some girl time. get some girlfriends. find some clothes that will make you look good. sometimes thats all it takes. i mean i used to hate my appearance. then one day i got a different haircut and bought new clothes and i felt way better about my appearance. and now every day im wearing that style and i feel good about how i look now. its just a small solution but if it worked for me then it might work for you. 

The best way to boost your confidence may not be through making physical changes.
Those are temperary at best.

Sweetie, if you were ugly, would you have a boyfriend? If you want to dye your hair, do it! Don’t let anyone stop you from feeling your best. Everyone goes through the “I think I’m ugly” phase. You’ll look back on this time and laugh because you’ll be feeling great about yourself  

wear something you think is sexy or pretty. even if it’s just underwear. because you like it, and you think it’s hot – knowing you have it on will make you feel that way too.

don’t compare yourself to anybody else around you, figure out what you like. if you think it might be a change of hair color, try the hair dye that washes out after a week or two, or if the color you think is blonde, try it – the stylist can always change it back to your original color if you don’t like it, but make sure you try it out for just a couple days.also, your boyfriend obviously thinks you’re perfect just the way you are, that’s a very huge plus he sees you the way everyone else does, and if he thinks you don’t need to change believe him.
confidence is the key, just like everyone else said, but you do find yourself in highschool – you’ll go through plenty of changes with your hair, clothes, make-up, friends, music, and personality. however, you don’t need to rush it – take the time to try new things out.