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Yay for being a girl!

Yes!!!

I think the title is sort of misleading. It should have been sent to ….”all girls.”

Great Post.  I agree that society has taken every kind of girl and has tried to fit her into one box or other.  You are absolutely right that it doesnt matter the size or shape, color or texture, purple or bright green, 2 eyes or 4 we are all beautiful.  I think the other side of the same coin though is that while yes we are ALL beautiful, we all have those days when we dont feel like it.  Fat, Skinny, Curvy or not, everyone is entitled to insecurities.  Our jobs as girls, women, etc. is to build each other up, instead of tear each other down.

i loved this : )

Thanks!  I thought I was going to dislike this post, but I actuyally liked it because of the end.

i posted this on your original entry:

i think you may have missed the point of those comments. their intention, at least my intention, was to censure the posts for their backhanded insults at skinny girls. i think it is perfectly laudable to say that other shapes are beautiful. however, i dislike how this is almost always done with something along the lines of, “we’re not all stick-thin size 0.” that’s really offensive. just because people assume the world caters to the skinny girl does not make it ok to insult her. is that to knock her down a peg because you think the world has elevated her too highly? a post stating the converse, something like “we’re not all huge size 14″ (i only used “huge” as an antonym for “stick-thin” and 14 because it is the general start of plus sizes) would be met with much more derision. just as that is offensive, i don’t appreciate being called twig-like or not “real” because of my size. i hope that makes sense.

it’s not that i’m against complimenting girls of different sizes. i am against how posters cannot compliment without flippantly insulting the thin girl.

that was cute =)

The only part of this that didn’t offend me was around.. The last 5 sentences, maybe.

aww i liked this . 

Yay for just “girls”!

This was very heart warming

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - well said!

Honestly, I dont think its a matter to fuss over being  a “skinny” or “fat” girl.

It comes down to being a healthy girl.

Nuff’ said.

agreed, Its disgusting how women are defined only by their weight as if it was the basis for who they are as a person.

i like this a lot. i applaud you for contributing something actually worthwhile to this whole ongoing debate.

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - i believe this poster just did.

As a girl with a small waist (I don’t think I qualify as “skinny”), even I hate that the media constantly shoves in our faces what’s supposed to be ideal. I don’t read silly girls’ magazines or pay attention to the commercials that tell me what kind of makeup or fragrances I should be getting. The reason I hate the media so much is because it causes some of my plus-sized friends to think that they’re not good enough the way they are, when that’s not true.

A lot of posts I’ve read before singing praises to the “curvy”
girl seem to simultaneously put down skinnier girls, like they’re
supposed to be enemies or something. This one was a little better, only after feeling somewhat offended from the beginning until a few sentences from the end. Society is constantly trying to pit the “fat” girls against the “skinny” girls, the tall girls against the short girls, when we really are on the same side as just “girls.”

Maybe I’m missing the point, but I feel like this just another post bashing skinny people thinly veiled by a “OMG we’re all beautiful and normal!” at the end.

that was beautiful.

Awww

Just fantastic <3

What kills me is when fat girls are blatantly rude to me because I look better than them. Also when people act like life is perfect for pretty girls… it’s not. Sure it’s nice to be pretty. But pretty girls have to deal with things that others don’t have to deal with. Like being treated badly by girls that aren’t as pretty as them, being stereotyped as skanky but much of society, and having to constantly turn down guys that they don’t want to date. 

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - this

Honestly, I love that there are so many different body types in the world and I never put anyone down for their weight. I admire health though, not sizes. I don’t care about posts praising whatever body type(even though they get a little tiring), just as long as they aren’t putting another one down in the process. But sadly, it’s all that I see on this site. It just seems to come off as the typical, “I can’t be happy with who I am without putting someone else down”, and that attitude is exactly what bothers me. Love who you are and the way you look, I applaud that. But please don’t slip in some one-liner that insults someone else because you think you’re better than they are. This goes for both sides of the whole “skinny vs. fat” argument and neither one is better than the other. Health is what everyone should be shooting for, no matter what size or weight that is for you.

This was a great post.

And it’s quite blunt and to the point..

personally, I want to be a skinny girl… it looks more beautiful to me

of course we’re all just girls, but when talking about sizes, we use “thin” or “curvy”.

good post :]

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Yep.

mucho gusto =)

When I rant on “yay fat girls!” blogs, it is because I think everyone has the potential to be fit and strong with the right tools, knowledge, and determination, and I am intensely disappointed that so many give up on it in exchange for sugar-coated “self-acceptance.” Fat is not a body type, it is a body state.

But I like this post.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - 

your comment really made me LOL. jesus…………….

The war continues….

Because some women are bitter. These posts just need to stop all together I think. The good, the bad, the skinny, the curvy, the fat and so on… it just needs to stop. All it does is makes girls bash each other to feel good because they suddenly feel so inferior they must retaliate… cease and cease again!!

I think the lesson to be learned is that people(mostly women) are EXTREMELY sensitive when it comes to the topic of weight. Why? Because we’re told that no matter what we look like we’ll never be good enough. You’re fat and you’re supposed be skinny. You’re skinny and you’re supposed to have curves. Just wait until you realize older women are getting pitted against younger women.

Great post (:

I do have to say though, I hate being skinny. I’d love to have some curves. Like, /|\ is my torso. I have no curves, and everybody is always asking/telling me to eat more when I’ve had my fill and then some. They’re always complimenting me and stuff when my best friend (who has a little extra) is standing right next to me. Plus I have no boobs and no butt, so I wouldn’t complain if I put on like, 30 pounds.

Err, your profile picture is so pretty and I’m not even flattering. Who cares? You look great. Collarbones be damned.

Haters gonna hate.

I’m not sure how I feel about this post.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I’m fat but I have to turn down tons of guys too. I blame it on the boobs, haha.

I LOVED IT : ) great job on reaching out to GIRLS!!! You are exactly right

I was in the Calvin Klein magazines, i was in this or on that, people like me for my body..WHATEVER   its not about what you look like all the time..And let me just throw this in there–if HALF the guys i went to high school with saw me they probably wouldn’t know who i was until they saw my assAnd, i was always judged and given the reputation of a whore because i had a nice body-well i say FORGET THEM….I don’t care what i look like, or anyone else for that matter–we are still people with feelings!WOOT WOOT for GIRLS : ) you go!!
Tracey (just…..a girl)

finally lovelyish posts something i agree with.

@elis3xx@xanga - agreed.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Or being told they’re egotistical?

@SKRmusichead@xanga - haha I love that whole comment. fuck the haters.

Such a beautiful post. 

@SKRmusichead@xanga - agree. i befriend everyone – but for some reason larger girls constantly hate on me or are intimidated by me when we go out. I go shopping with them and they bash me. It’s like… shut up. I’m healthy because I hike for 4 hours a day for my job and eat like a horse. Sorry.

You know what though, perhaps it doesn’t have to do with size but the blatant fact that I DO things with my life, I’m constantly active. Hiking, kayaking, running, walking, climbing, dicking around. I can’t stand tv. I don’t relate when ANY sized girl talks about a dramatic tv show. I dunno… I  love my bigger girls who DO THINGS and are willing to explore. I can’t stand a lethargic lifestyle. It bores me to tears.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - lmao, it’s a hard life. /sigh

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - yawwp.

very well said

I liked it.  =) 

holy shit! damn. all you girls just fight with each other! what is the fucking point?

if you wanna change, make an effort. if you dont then dont! dont bitch and whine about someone else. if you truly are comfortable with the way you are then fucking ignore everyone else and dont let it get to you. if you are hurt by others’ presence or jealous dont mask it with self-acceptance. make an effort instead of demanding pity or empathy. 

damn

@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - i agree. it’s as if everyone else thinks like those magazines, but the truth is most people treat thin girls as if the’re unhealthy, ignoring the fact that there are naturally thin girl. i’ll never forget how in the first day in middle school a girl i didn’t even know stared asking me if i’m anorexic, if i eat, if i puke everything i eat and just kept asking those humiliating questions in front of the whole class! way to start a new school

@elis3xx@xanga - agreed.

I like this

Girl — that’s all I can say. [& that you write exceptionally well]

@SKRmusichead@xanga - wow. Sounds like they’re just hating on you because you seem like a bitch.

Touche.

Thank-you, I enjoyed reading this and I concur 100%.  People are always going to hate on/insult each other for one reason or another, but we are all just Girls.  The end.

How about we take it a step further and try something different: trying to see what’s beautiful in other people as well as yourself.  If we could all put away the claws and support each other for once, imagine how much less things would suck for EVERYBODY involved!!

I’ve been fat and I’ve been skinny. It’s futile to be understood by most people.

Well written.

Just a very very very very tired subject…

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Its hard to agree with you, simply because i know girls who (from your picture) are definately not as skinny as you and have been through ALL of those things and put up with shit from girls of all sizes. In my opinion, no skinny girl should assume that girls that aren’t as skinny have never had to go through the same thing and vice versa, thats just ignorant and shows a lot about a person’s personality.. and your’s, which from what i can pick from your comment, absolutely sucks.

Either way, no matter how you look there is always people out there who are going to attempt to make your life hell

@EnPointeLove@xanga - Exactly. And I had exactly the same in school by the way.

yep. we are all just girls. and i dont know any woman personally (though hopefully theyre out there) who is happy with herself. my best friend wants to be thin like me. im really jealous of her boobs and butt. i think she’s so much more womanly than i am. guys never try to look at my chest like that! thats for sure. one girl wants curly hair, the other wants straight. one wants to be tall, the other shorter. one wants freckles, the other hates hers. and so on.

@PoetMcChick@xanga - Haha I have a rather large boobs for my size. Maybe that’s the real reason guys bother me all the time.

@perfectlyincompletex@xanga - Haha yeah. 

very good post!

@chipshmunk@xanga - Why thank you. I’m glad someone liked it.

@Eyes_Herself@xanga - Haha I agree with you completely!!!!! I befriend everyone, regardless of how they look. And yet I’ve been picked at because I tend to eat healthier stuff than them and I exercise. And I don’t like to sit around and do nothing.
Ever since I was little I liked to eat healthy and exercise. It’s sad when we get beat up for keeping our bodies healthy.

@Bunny_On_The_Fritz@xanga - But I’m not a bitch at all. I purposely try to make friends with girls no matter the size or how they look. I’m nice. I don’t dress like a hoe. Also I’ve never even had so much as had a boyfriend. Even though I have been asked out multiple times. But I just don’t go out with guys that
1. I don’t know
2. I’m not the slightest bit attracted to
3. Don’t have good morals

The only think that could possibly make people think that I’m a bitch is the fact that I was blessed with a nice body (which I exercise and keep healthy), And I tend to be pretty quiet. Therefore not everyone knows my personality. Which could lead people to assume, or stereotype.

awww… i love this post.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - you are in your 20s right?  Believe me, I get what you are saying.  I got treated the way you did until my late 20s/early 30s.  It was especially bad in my early 20s.  Just keep being yourself and try not to worry about the insecure women that treat you badly for petty reasons.  It’s better to have real friends that take the time to get to know you anyway.

I get what you are saying, but like some of the others have said, I never have a problem when people  praise a certain definition of beauty.  It is when they feel the need to insult or put down people who don’t meet the standard of beauty in the process of praising their definition of beauty.  It really isn’t that difficult to say a certain body type is beautiful without using the reason that the opposite is not beautiful.  I think when you have to do that, it shows a lot of insecurity.

I am tired of the posts about skinny, curvy, normal, or healthy bodies on women.  We should do more posts that deal with who we are as people.  We are more than what we look like on the outside.

@Beejayy28@xanga - In case you didn’t notice I was only talking about my personal experience as far as being treated poorly by people that don’t look as good as me. I think you misunderstood my comment. I’m trying to say it’s not only fat girls that have issues in life when it comes to the way they look. Everyone does. Skinny girls included. Like I said before, I’m only talking from my personal experience. I’m not the skinniest person around at all, in fact I often feel fat. But I have been miss-treated by fat girls and I honestly think it was simply because I look better than them, because I didn’t do anything to make them treat me that way. And I’m not saying every fat person is like that. I’ve known fat people who are really nice. Some of my best friends quite a bit are bigger than me. Some of my best friends are smaller than me. But we are all friends and we don’t bash each other for the way we look. 

@Erika_Steele@xanga - I’m 20. So yeah, I’m just getting into it lol. Thanks for the advice. I agree with you completely. People that aren’t bothered by the way I am and take time to get to know me are the definitely the people worth being friends with.

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - THIS is the point. You don’t have to insult one to praise the other.

Except skinny is better. End to end.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I simply stated that because you sound like you seem to have no modesty.
“It’s not my fault I look better than them.”
“I
honestly think it was simply because I look better than them”
“possibly make people think that I’m a bitch
is the fact that I was blessed with a nice body”

Very holier than thou kinda attitude, IMHO.

It’s great that you take care of your body. However, I know many larger women that also take care of their body. I know many average women that take care of their body. I’m a healthy person, but I’m not as small as you. I’m still at a healthy weight with a healthy BMI, but jean-size is a problem for me. Does that mean I’m not beautiful because I’m not the same size as you? I hardly think so. Even though I have my frustrations with my body size, I was blessed with a beautiful, healthy one that works without fail.
I’m sorry some of your “friends” feel the need to put you down in order to gain esteem for themselves, if that’s really the case. No one deserves to be put down because we’re all beautiful. However, just from your posts that I’ve read, I think their nastiness may come from a different trigger.

This is a great psot!

sometimes i’m the skinny girl in a group.  most times i’m the fat girl.  and in my head i’m always the fat girl.  so … it’s all sort of relative.  we should definitely all encourage each other towards happiness and cheer each other when we fall- cos you know i fall, and i appreciate.  thank you xanga girls.  <3 you always.  

@Bunny_On_The_Fritz@xanga - Thanks for pointing out my lack of modesty. I really didn’t mean for what I said to come across that way at all. When I said that I have a nice body or that I was better-looking than them, I meant as far as the way the media portrays beauty. I get the sense that these people dis-like me because I look more like the girl on the magazine you know? I believe true beauty is not based on body type or whatever. I think true beauty comes from the heart. I don’t think I’m the best looking girl around by any means. I often feel that I’m ugly, plain, or that I’m fat. Not that fat people are ugly at all. I see larger women all the time who are beautiful. I see skinny women who aren’t that attractive. But the point is, I don’t think I’m any better or any worse than anyone for the way I look.

And by the way the people that bash me are not even really my friends they are more like acquaintances if even that. 

I wish I could give more than two props. <3

you make me smile

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I’m sorry if what I said came across as harsh. I see what you mean now, I read what you said in a negative light.
 I don’t think people are angry at you- it’s more of an envy issue. I’ve been on both sides; brought down by thinner girls behind my back, and envied by my bigger friends. The thinner girls like to say things like, “You know my friend, Chelsea? She’s the one with big hips, but she has gorgeous eyes.” Like my hips are my downfall for being a pretty person. While my bigger friends have their own insecurities when looking at me.
I’m sorry you have to go through the cattiness that women seem to bring against each other. You’re a gorgeous gal with a lot of intelligence, I don’t think you have any reason to feel insecure about yourself. I understand we all have our insecurities, but we need to realize God gave us this body to take care of, love and nurture. As far as I’m concerned, as long as you’re healthy and feel good that’s all that should count. Screw the haters.
I just wish girls could understand that there’s more beauty in the world than what the media portrays. But, alas, that would be a perfect world, and we are far from perfection lol.

@Bunny_On_The_Fritz@xanga - That’s ok. I tend to get misunderstood a lot.

Haha I know what you mean! Seems like every girl of every size has some kind of issue to deal with. No matter what size there’s always gonna be a hater of another size. It’s so screwed up. All that really matters is that God made us in his image. A verse that really encourages me when I feel ugly is Psalms 45:11, which says…

“The king is enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord.”

Even God thinks I’m beautiful. That’s what really matters.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Probably. I’m an H-cup and it’s ridiculous.

@PoetMcChick@xanga - Whoa! I didn’t know such a size existed! I just a C hehe. 

This made my night <3

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Oh yeah, now that i read it again i get where your coming from apologies.

@perfectlyincompletex@xanga - ^_____^

@Beejayy28@xanga - apologies accepted.

okay post.

I have been waiting for someone to FINALLY write a post like this one, and was close to attempting it myself.

Thank you

. We’re all girls, we’re all different, and we’re all beautiful in different ways; there is no ideal standard that could possibly apply to everyone. We all need to sit back, take a deep breath, and appreciate the way we were made to be, instead of looking wistfully at what we don’t have and bashing each other.  

skinny girls take shit sometimes but they can still wear mini skirts and horizontal stripes.

like this post <3

i love this article ^^ good one on ya ; D

Amen.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I don’t know…I want to think you had better intentions (and yes, I read every single thing you posted on this [and you used the word “fat” six times that I counted which is condescending in and of itself), but I’m a gorgeous (by my OWN standards), 5’10″, 143 pound girl who loves her body, but I have a BEAUTIFUL sister who is five sizes up with a boyfriend of three years and another who is absolutely stunning and amazing who has a loving husband and is seven sizes up from me.  NO ONE treats me like you say others treat you because of your size.  And for the record, multiple guys have hit on my sister with me standing next to her.  I know you (kinda) corrected yourself by saying that the media portrays all this, but I definitely don’t buy into that crap and neither should you or anyone.  Girls with small chests are beautiful, freckles, crazy hair, cankles (which I have), huge feet (which I also have), flat asses, short stubby fingers, wide hips, jacked teeth, girls who are 300 pounds, faces without make-up, bushy ungroomed eyebrows, crooked noses, stretch marks, whatever!  Society also tells me that being a virgin and only dating to get married is outdated.  Do I listen to that?  No.  If the media told you to jump off a bridge would you do it? 

I only have a problem when I read things like “real women have curves” or other such ridiculous sayings. I’ve read many posts where skinny girls are made to think that they are less of a woman because of their weight. 
But this post was great, and this line “So why don’t we just quit calling ourselves Fat girl or Skinny girl or Curvy girl or Thin girl…Aren’t we all just Girls?” was beautiful. 

@stateofamenity@xanga - No I would not jump off a bridge if the media told me to. And for the record I am a virgin and I’ve never dated. Even though I’ve been asked out several times, I never felt that it was the right guy or that I knew him well enough.

I think you misunderstand me. Girls can be beautiful regardless of what size they are or if they don’t look like what the media portrays as pretty. What count’s is what’s inside.

Sorry if anything I said offended you.

Hmm I have had similar discussions with friends and coworkers. What usually defines a woman as beautiful are things like her her smile, her hair, the quality of her skin.. when it comes to stereotypes, anyway.

Friends and coworkers who were bigger than me always assumed that I thought myself superior to them and made snide, joking remarks about how ‘skinny’ I was. They always failed to notice that my bust is nothing compared to most women, that I have veins on my legs, that my eyes always look tired, that my hair is thin and rather bleh-ish.

They never realized that they were in the same boat as me. We all were. Society made some of them feel inferior because they were overweight, but all of us were made to feel inferior for at least one different aspect, usually multiple ones.

Fat girls may not have the collar bones of the chick on that magazine cover, but I don’t have her skin, her hair or her tits. What of it? It’s not my job to have that woman’s assets – I’m not a model or an actress. And whatever guy I get with – he’s not a model or an actor. I don’t expect him to be the epitome of sexy, and fuck him if he expects me to be that epitome.

This weight debate crap isn’t doing anything for either side, really. What about people in the middle? I’m “skinny” but if I were modeling, I’m a size 8, which is too “fat”, but I’ll have people blatantly bash on how my body must be. No, I’m not a prepubescent boy, nor do I resemble one because I don’t have a 40″ bust and hips, with a 26″ waist. I’m not “curvy” and I’m not “skinny”, I’m healthy and I eat fine. I was fine with my body, really, until all of this bullshit about “real women” came about. Not even on here, but everywhere. There’s a lot of mixed messages. There’s, “men like curves, you’re too skinny,” and “you’re too fat, lose some weight.” Posts about either can be detrimental to either side, even though it’s not meant to. All this crap needs to stop, and these posts just need to quit being written…

@soulfuric - ”Fat is not a body type, it is a body state.”…. AMEN.  Weight can be changed, so if you aren’t happy (too thin -OR- too big)… CHANGE! =) xoxo

Jessica Simpson was 135 pounds in her “fat” picture. If that’s what’s “fat” to you, I don’t even want to know what you think of me.

For christ sake, these posts need to stop.  Women need to stop fighting with each other over something as trivial as waist size.  If you’re uncomfortable with the way you look, then change something about it, or don’t, I don’t give a shit.  All that should matter is how you feel, not how everyone else feels about the way you look, fuck everyone else.  Do whatever makes you happy, as long as you’re not hurting anyone else in the process, it doesn’t matter, just be whoever you want to be.  

@ForeverLove_xx@xanga - I agree with what you just said and I’ve complained about that before, the concerns revolving around skinny girls and fat girls just leaves me a, a size 4-6, in the middle feeling confused.  

Really liked your post……………….. Are Girls are Beautiful!!!!

I like this

*yawn* … When are people going to stop talking about this?

I’m not going to lie… That was really confusing and I didn’t follow it at all 0.o

@Eyes_Herself@xanga - omg i agree 100%

Its hard being ‘heavy’ I used to be a size 12. I hated wearing anything besides my black slacks and baby doll shirts with long sleeves. I hated going out and seeing people I was horrified looking at pictures of myself and wouldn’t even try to talk to guys. I am now a size 4 and still some clothes I cant wear than those ‘skinny’ girls can. Its a lot easier to go out in public now and to show my face and have pictures taken of me. I hate when people think skinny girls can relate to those who are heavy. They have no idea.

@MixNMatchMadi@xanga - Glad I’m not the only one. The conclusion that “we should all just be girls” seemed entirely at odds with the rest of it.

it’s funny how so many posts go up on lovelyish on how we shouldn’t make such a big deal out of size, when all these posts only serve to show how much size does really matter to us all.

The only thing I want to see in a woman’s figure is that she look like a woman. Not a twelve year old boy.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Oh shut the FUCK up. 

This is the best post ive seen on lovelyish in a long time. Well done, and i completely agree.

YeEs. I couldn’t have said it better. 

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - thanks <3

@elis3xx@xanga - Whew!  I thought I was the only one who read it like that.

great point, but please don’t make skinny girls seem perfect. 

“….or the Girl with one arm and six legs and bright purple zits all over your face.” lol made me laugh

great post

@ElizSutherland@xanga - Good grief you don’t need to be mean.

I think a lot of people are misunderstanding my point! What I am trying to say is just because a girl looks like what the media says we should look like does not mean she should be hated on! She has her own insecurities and has just as much of a need to be told she’s beautiful as any other girl. THE END!

good post!

@bananavanman@xanga - skinny girls are perfect. heavier girls are too.

is it just me or is somebody else also not getting the meaning of this post?

@SKRmusichead@xanga - well of course nobody likes you with an attitude like that. its not that youre too attractive, it’s that youre annoying, whiny, and bitchy. and i can’t evens even see what you look like from your profile pictures so no, i do not think this because you are so fucking good looking. i know plenty of beautiful people with many beautiful friends, inside and out

@nicolemcw@xanga - i don’t believe that. but everyone is beautiful in their own way.

It’s totally true and society can be cruel. But we should all be happy for being who we are no matter what size although I’m not saying that being overweight is okay or that being too skinny is okay, I’m saying that we should be healthy for ourselves because we all deserve it. 

Grape this in the mouth!

I was just watching that new show, Huge, on ABC, and my sister was like “ew, that show is full of fat people, who would want to watch that?” And I  was like excuse me? They look like 90% of the woman in our country, they are people just like you and me and most women look like that! I hate how society does this to people, changes their perception on how we are supposed to look..and this is comming from “one of the skinny girls, ” btw.

The media simply creates the media reality by putting all those ridiculous labels on us.
We are all the same.
Your post is just awesome!

I was a “fat girl” who became a “skinny girl” and battled with an ED… i don’t think “fat girls” or “skinny girls” should really keep attacking eachother and posting blogs about eachother because “fat girls”, you never know what that “skinny girl” is battling on the inside, and “skinny girls”, not all of you know what it’s like to be the “fat girl”.

just saying.

I have been skinny, I have been fat – always curvy and so glad that I get to be a girl in this life.  I loved this post.  You’re a good writer!

i really appreciate this post

good for you.everyone gives into grouping girls into a category.you did your best to avoid that, and in my opinion it worked. thank you.

So if we’re skinny, we should just shut our mouths and stop complaining. I’m sorry, but those ten pounds that refuse to stick to me are JUST as annoying and frustrating to me as those ten pounds that you just can’t manage to lose are to you. I’m really sorry if you’re too closed-minded/stuck-up/whathaveyou to see that, but it’s still true. And going “EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL” at the end really doesn’t justify an entire post hating on skinny people.

Try the other side of the coin sometime–being naturally skinny enough that you constantly have people thinking you might have an eating disorder. It sucks too.

Dear Fat Girl,

Thank you for the compliment.  Now that we’re on the same page, do you mind donating me some of your fat so I can get some cleavage?

·         I thought I was missing the point of this post, I thought it was pretty whiny, so I wanted to read the comments and see if I was the only one when I came across this one

“What kills me is when fat girls are blatantly rude to me because I look better than them. Also when people act like life is perfect for pretty girls… it’s not. Sure it’s nice to be pretty. But pretty girls have to deal with things that others don’t have to deal with. Like being treated badly by girls that aren’t as pretty as them, being stereotyped as skanky but much of society, and having to constantly turn down guys that they don’t want to date.”

·         And I find it hysterical that this woman can in good conscience write this and honestly think she is making a point on behalf of all thin good looking girls.
Ridiculous.

girl power!

It doesnt matter what we look like on the outside. What matter is whats on the inside. But thank you for the praise. We are all beautiful in our own simply beautiful way. Im a “skinny girl” and it gets hard… especially if there arent many people as skinny as you in your school. If you dont look like everybody else, you stand out. And people dont like that, especially the popular people at my school. But i dont care, God made you look the way you look for a reason. And no matter what that reason may be, youre still as beautiful as any model on any magazine cover.

i like it!! 

I still want to be slender

Uuuuuuum!  Men love women of ALL sizes!! 

Usually,..the bigger a man is,..the bigger woman that he wants to have and bear his children!!

i am going to blog about this later!!

in reply to @elis3xx and supafly- the point is girls need to get a personality, their should be no label for anyone, man or woman, we are all so different, even one skinny girl to the next looks diff. from eachother…should we start saying, oh hi skinny, pale, nerdy, freak girl, how are you? And hello skinny, orange tan, fake tits, big nose girl, nice to meet you…thats the point, no labels for a girls size, weight, or appearance in general?? How about, hi sweet, funny girl, youre fun to be around, I dont even notice your weight cuz Im not shallow.

 And yeah, pretty girls do have it easier with some stuff…people say Im pretty and Im glad cuz its gotten my foot in the door plenty of times and Im flattered by guys asking me out. never had issues with girls who people think are ugly or fat, perhaps its cuz I dont feel Im better then them or see any diff. between us?  also, never been called a skank cuz Im not one….hummm? you may need a mirror to re-evaluate your issues with other females.

i hear u and i empathize. im verrry thin. like maybe even too thin…. bony and whatnot. i could pop a balloon with my needle elbows. lol!! i think we can all rock what we got. EVERYONE can be sexy. maybe the problem isnt what everybody else may think. the first step to breaking that ISN’T going to the gym.. its breaking the habit of letting everyone else’s opinions decide for u. it took forever for me to break outof my shell, but now i am making a career out of my self confidence. perhaps we should all decide for ourselves what sexy really is.     MUCH LOVE, sexy!!!

                                                  nadia ViRGiNE

This post literally made me go “awww”. Haha I love it, great message.

good post, thanks

@SKRmusichead@xanga - You just sound cunty.

i will take “curves” any day over no shape at all.

When I saw the title for this, I expected to dislike it/find it annoying since I usually do with this sort of thing, but I actually quite liked this. Well-written.

@star__no__star@xanga - I thought the same thing about the photos on this post (and it’s my own!); Lovelyish chose the pictures.

@OngishLyOngLee@xanga - Dear Girl, I would happily donate some of my fat to increase your bustline. Love, Girl.

this was a lovely post.

to the girls who are saying that she is bashing slender women: she’s not. she’s agreeing that women who are skinny are also looked down upon in public (because they’re “too skinny”, and aren’t taking it into account that it may not be by choice). it’s just not as often as the larger woman. it’s not a bashing post, so please don’t make it seem like one.

i actually really admire your courage and i support you this article was straight and to the point but it made a blod statement congrats

Hi, stargazer_8000!  Nice writing style!

Of course there are other considerations re: weight. On one extreme end, you have anorexics whose poor body image is often associated with pressures at home, school or otherwise; without help, they’re psychologically unable to see anything but fat even when their bodies are deteriorating. More disturbing is that I remember reading about a website for anorexics; they post pics of themselves, celebrating their emaciations, but also unhealthy behaviors.
On the other extreme, you have seriously obese people who literally can’t walk. Their debilitations require surgery. Some are genetically predisposed to larger bodies, but something else is happening psychologically to get them at those high numbers.
Then you have gradations in between. Some people will never gain weight throughout their entire lives no matter what they eat. Others will have that luxury only for so long. I have read about situations where a minority of people gain weight from looking at food images (another example of the influence psychology has on our lives).
Body types, too, play a role. Healthy models tend to be of a specific type; their bones and mass are naturally small. You have the athletic types who can bulk up easily with muscle. There’s also the type I belong to (I believe we’re called mesomorphs): We’re big-boned; it doesn’t matter if we’re at our least weight possible, we will never be thin.
As several other commentators have noted, however, weight doesn’t necessarily equate with health. Our views of bodies are also informed by economics, social contexts, etc. I remember a guy who argued that the reason fat people are looked on badly today is because food isn’t scare in many countries; people can be selective today, depending on where they’re located.
And, yes, I’m being deliberate in referencing people, not women. Men experience a lot of the same pressures with regard to their bodies. Part of this has to do with how we’ve come identify with images as a whole: Again, a psychological issue that affects everyone, to lesser or greater degrees depending on experiences, backgrounds, social status, etc.
So analyses of weight need to dig a little further. What’s at the root of the psychology, for example? How did body size become such an entrenched notion? Etc.

(:

This is so touching! WE ARE ALL JUST GIRLS.
It’s so encouraging! Thanks so much!!

i loved this =]

I think you should write a letter to “healthy” girls everywhere.  Because the way the outside looks doesn’t mean anything… it’s the insides that matter.  You can have a skinny girl who’s unhealthy and have a fat girl that’s unhealthy.  Or a skinny girl that is healthy and fat girl that’s healthy.  We look at the outside but still can’t tell who’s ok inside.

Rin…I’m proud of this post. Though there are parts that I must agree with others that SOUND like “skinny girl bashing” However, because i KNOW you and i know how you speak I can understand that you are not “bashing” but simply stating. bluntly. I, as a “skinny” girl am no size 1,2,3 not even a 5. I am a WONDERFUL 7/8 but far less curvaceous as you my sibling…I envy your curves and the way you fill out dresses and shirts and the like…but most of all, I envy your ability to NOT BE pinned by a ‘weight’ class. I’m proud that you are able to say things like this post…..to put it out there…to tell people “dude…frig the sizes. I’m proud to be a woman regardless and you should be too. See these hips…HECK yes!”   Love you!!!!

Loved this. Really well done.

When I was a teenager in the 70′s, I did feel very cautious about my weight. I was always on a diet. I even look anorexic at times. But as you grow older you know what matter more… the inside of a person. Happiness comes from within…not without. There is no way that you can please everybody. Because if people can’t find fault in your weight, then they try to find fault in something else. What makes us all beautiful is that we all unique. We have many types of skills and talents. You know when you have found the right mate, because you know that you can just be yourself. That person loves you unconditionally.  With that said, I think that is all that matters!

I loved this, it really made me think of how people shouldnt judge a girl (or anyone for that matter) based on the way they look. Everyone is a person, we’re all unique & beautiful in our own way <3

@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - Hmm.  I felt the same way. 

beautifully written<3

I love you, girl!

yeah…the thing is…i havent seen one “fat” girl post that doesn’t bash “skinny” girls. Your post gives off the suggestion that the skinny girls are just upset that they aren’t getting the attention….maybe it’s because there are posts constantly insinuating that we aren’t real, or are not as human because we are the media’s portrayal of beauty…that people can make fun of us because we have the “upper hand.” WTF. 

haha the last 5 lines of your post was classic though. thanks for trying to sound nice at the end, at least. : )

and you know what? maybe i ll decide NOT to go on that diet. to just stay skinny like God made me. Fuck protein shakes and weight gain pills. im a girllll just like any other girl. haha ^_^

@algebraicdisco@xanga - Us “average girls” must be the most unattractive, no one ever talks about us at all, lol! 

I hate the damn media. Jessica simpson in the first picture is not fat. She looks like the average woman. But bc she is not 90 lbs, she is “fat”. Pisses me off.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - That’s not what your initial post said in any way, so I think that since a bunch of us are calling you out on that, YOU are the one misunderstanding.  If you would have said that in the first place, you wouldn’t have gotten so much crap for it.  THE END. 

I completely agree with this.  I am a skinny girl, I’m not going to lie, but who determines beauty?  Skinny, fat, short, tall, who says that society says certain people are ugly?  This whole piece really should impact girls AND guys.  Because there should be no judgment in society.  Thank you for writing this piece to really help people understand what beauty is.

i don’t understand how people get so offended by this blog.  I thought it was great. 

The world isn’t perfect for anybody, yeah we get it.  And maybe bigger women would be nicer if EVERYONE would be nicer.

“What kills me is when fat girls
are blatantly rude to me because I look better than them.”

BETTER? c’mon. that’s not nice either.

Everyone is to blame.  =p

I LOVE this…rock on sister… 

hmm…i don’t know about this…I thought it was going in another direction. it was good but i believe you wound up doing exactly what the media does already and all the time, praise the skinny girl. i feel like this is a bit of a contradiction if you wanted to praise all girls you should have said something good about all girls and titled it dear all girls..

love this. end of story.

amen sister! lol.

Thank you for this.

@Miss_Skateboard_P@xanga - Thank you! 

I’m just a heavier skinny girl. The main thing which scares me is the risk of diabetes and heart disease  (and heart attack/stroke) and increased risk of breast and colon cancer due to larger size. Health may be a bigger issue than appearance.

Christy

Who really cares?

It’s really not okay to put down girls -just- because they appear different from you. Now writing an offensive post, that’s different.

[This post is offensive, btw.]

well the whole idea of “fat” girls is that they are overweight, which is unhealthy. Why would magazine continously promote unhealthy girls? Yes, some girls who are skinny are unhealthy as well, but 50% of america is overweight… a bigger issue. People from other countries see how fat Americans are and cringe. Being unhealthy (whether it be unnaturally fat or unnautrally skinny) should not be promoted, end of stories. Women are naturally supposed to be thin, whatever you define as “thin.”

personally, i think that people should be skinny if they want to be skinny and bigger and curvey if they want that anyway, not what they see in a magazine. i don’t want to be skinny because celebrities and models are skinny, i want to be skinny becuase i want to be skinny. that’s the kind of body i think i look good in, and it’s the kind of body i want. i think everyone should just aim for the body they want, what they think they look good in, and be happy

Wow, a lot of you commenters are missing the whole point of this. This post doesn’t seem to have been written to bash skinny girls, I think, and this is just my opinion I’m not saying this was definitely the author’s intent, that what she’s saying is that girls on both sides of the body- type spectrum seem to be just whiny when it comes to their own bodies. What she’s saying is be happy with who you are and what you look like. I mean I’m not a size zero skinny girl, but I’m healthy and in the lower sizes and this didn’t offend me at all.

This is a really stupid question, but what’s considered “skinny” and what’s considered “fat”?

I liked this post.

I am as skinny as can be, and have been for most of my life- naturally. Being skinny is not all fun and games- I’ve had people tell me that oh, you won’t be skinny forever, Ive been called anorexic by my own teacher, and guys who like their girls with meat, aren’t afraid to let me know it. Don’t you think it’s in the interest of the media to promote an unattainable ideal? There’s more money in leading people to beleive that their natural selves aren’t beautiful enough. So go buy more- they tell you.

As a mom, I loved when I had a little more meat on my bones. My boobs got bigger, my thighs, and I got alot more compliments. Sure I couldn’t wear everything that I used to, but I REALLY loved my new body more than I ever thought I could! The problem here is not the F____ ing media, its what we choose to accept when it comes to who we are. I have a friend who is overweight and she is one of the most beautiful and lively people that I know! She looks BAD (the good kind of bad, as in sexy,) in a pair of stilettos and a strapless dress. Most of my guy friends who claim they only like skinny chicks would go for her in a second. Because she’s got “it” – something no one can define.

So grow up everyone. Skinny b@#*#es suck it up- not everyone likes your size. Big girls, stand up, not everyone is blind to how beautiful and majestic you are. This article was cute.

There are very rarely things i read that make me cry. You have managed to make me cry. Fantastic writing, beautiful idea. Wonderful wonderful thoughts. You are literally one of my favorite xangans after this. And i completely agree. We are all beautiful, regardless of our differences <3

Jen

This is very true.

thanks for this

I always thought skinny girls should stop complaining too. Every thing has its pros and cons but I bet you by golly no skinny/slim woman would trade places with a fattie

Not sure what the reader, no matter their size, is to feel.

 If I was a girl, who happens to be on the plus side, i would feel indifferent.

gb

Would it be politically incorrect of me to publically state that I am a devoted fan of the fuller body?

If so, then I wont make that statement

As a frustrated, perpetually skinny girl, (woman), I admire all you curvy girls with sufficient weight to create those feminine lines, which are what most women have, and are supposed to have.  Having the figure of a twelve year old boy in your late thirties does NOT look good, is not attractive to MOST others of the opposite sex, unless they’re into 12 year old boys, but find you as the next best thing til one comes along ( no, I’m not joking, although I wish I were)..   I EAT.  I cut down to cardio that’s existent in daily living, but if I do work out, it’s only to keep toned because I can’t afford to feed myself what barely maintains this not so main frame.  Cardio burns the very calories I need to stay cool, no burning off.. cool and sticking with..

Health, self esteem, confidence, good friendships, relationships and hopefully family support is all important, but I’d trade a few, not all, for an ample bootay and some curves any day.  Also, as you age, thin is definately not in.  Being too skinny can make you look ten years older.  (as can being overweight, but I’m not talking about unhealthy obesity, I’m talking not skinny. Some in this category, such as my gorgeous BFF qualifies, yet she is always fussing about her fat this, fat that, blah  blah.. I’d take it from her if I could, but that would be gross and dangerous.

So all you girls of all shapes and sizes, rock on with what you’ve got and be confident that at least 8 out of 10 guys ( I did my own poll with all my guy friends and theirs) would rather a little extra curvy than none.. much moreso than “skinny”.

:}}

i am a skinny girl and i am beautiful, my best friend is a fat girl and she is beautiful. i don’t  think size is ever really an issue until it jeopardizes your health or quality of life, those that have let themselves get so large their bodies can’t handle it in various ways. i agree with skrmusichead ( new to xanga idk if can link people) fat girls that hate themselves want to be the skinny beautiful girl yet they bash the skinny beautiful girl because she is a bitch and a skank. i know this personally happens to me. which is sad it’s quite the opposite, when your the pretty skinny girl, thats what people want, what you look like. once they can’t get what they want your just another pretty face nothing more. sometimes as the skinny girl i envy the friends the larger ones get who like them for the beautiful person they are inside. honestly all women are equally beatiful: fat ,skinny, black, white, short , tall, yellow,  anything.

Fabulous. =]

I love this. It’s not about what size you are, we’re all girls and we all have feelings. No one should be envied or degraded for being fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, curvy, tan, white, black, or whatever it is. Society has created this ideal “perfect girl” and she’s ALWAYS skinny, it gets old. I would also like to point out that just because you’re skinny doesn’t mean you’re pretty. I know many “skinny” girls that are not pretty and I know a few “fat” girls that are beyond gorgeous but it’s not the look that makes you who you are…it’s what’s on the inside. Yeah yeah, that’s so cliche. But it’s the truth. If we all just stopped jugding everyone (including ourselves) then we will all realize that we’re all reaching for the same thing, acceptance as just a girl, as a person.

love you girl!

Before I say anything, let me say this: I didn’t read this entry. I just read the title. Also, I keep saying “you” but I’m not really talking to anyone in particular. My comment may or may not be completely off topic.

I just want to say, stop comparing everybody to everybody else!! “She’s fat… she’s skinny… I’m fat… I’m skinny.” Who the eff cares!? Gosh. Just live your life, stop labeling yourself. If you think you are “fat” and don’t like it, instead of wasting your damn time looking at “skinny” people, do something about yourself. You’re probably getting “fatter” talking about all the “skinny” people! And same goes for the other way around! Everytime I see a post that has to do with “fat” and “skinny” I just slap myself in the face, aka FACEPALM. We should all love each other for who we are, not how “fat” or “skinny” we are. Whatever.

The good thing is, that the guys out there (our men if you will) Love us for who WE are. Some guys love the thicker girls some guys like the petite. Thank God for that. I’ve been feeling out of place cause im flat in the middle. I have thick thighs, small waist and some VERY VERY broad Shoulders (which i despise). I sometimes call myself a monster because of how horrible i feel. I’ve never ever seen a woman with the same figure as me and i feel out of place. But this post really meant a lot to me thanks for being so flat out i wish the media never just singled out the hot skinny girls…

@pastamylove@xanga - i completely agree with you!!!! You should post up a blog … you might change someones thinking

Wow, reading some of these post just let you know that phrases such as “skinny girl” and “fat girl” will never go away. I honestly do not think people behave a certain way, strictly because of their size. I know big women who think the are all that and pick on thin women, because “they look like they throw up after every meal”. And yes you hear as you said, thin women saying big women need to work out and try harder. I have an aunt who use to be thin, but now due to her thyroids she is a balloon, but she still knows she is fly. All in all, every women has encountered the “mean girl”, fat or skinny, tall or short, it doesn’t matter we all are victims and we all have been the bully. Sometimes you really do not realize it, some jokes may hurt others. As a “fat girl” I have turned down my share of men, “skinny girls” are not the only ones to have to deal with that issue, and no they weren’t all ugly. lol ^_^ We will never all just get along, it is sad, but very true. We cannot control how others take what is said, all we can do, but rarely do is think before we speak. Even then sometimes it doesn’t work. I say, just take things with a grain of salt. For all women, I always say if you don’t like what you see, then look away. We just need to be content with ourselves! <3

i’m a “skinny girl” and i hate it. i wish i could gain weight.

You deserve more than 2 eProps for posting this. I can relate in both ends because I used to be pretty thick awhile back. Hate how the media portrays women to look like to freaking perfect and flawless celebrities. Keep in mind ladies, “PHOTOS CAN BE TWEAKED”

Wonderful post but seriously. Does an “in-between” not exist? It seems that you’re either a skeleton or a whale.

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I’ve had fat and skinny girls be blatantly rude to me haha but not often because I come off as a nice person, I think.

(curvy) girl gives many props! yay for this article!

great post!!

Seven hundred thousand epic props of love. 

I love this! My bestfriend is slight heavier then me and she always points out when i start to loose some weight or gain some weight or something different about me. It’s not always great to be the “skinny” girl because u can’t find clothes to fit u right. sometimes u even have to go in to the little girls section

great post!

@MissPixieGlitter Maybe you should take some time to reread what you wrote there. How can what youre saying not be offensive? Im not skinny. My best friend is so thin that she has to special order clothes to fit her frame. We get along great. I may be jealous (and correct me if im wrong, girls of the same size as me) of skinny girls, but envy is nothing close to insulting. We all have our own faults, but youre stereotyping all big girls by saying that we insult skinny girls. And its simply not true. Were just jealous. We would rather pay 80 dollars for that awesome pair of buckle jeans thats soooo cute, but instead, we have to pay the exact same price at lane bryant because thats the only place we can get jeans, and have you ever stepped into a lane bryant? prolly not. its not too great. 

Maybe we should hold off on the stereotypes from now on?

i love this post the title pulled me in, and after reading the whole thing i felt proud about being the “skinny-curvy” girl…i have the want to get rid of the few pounds i have picked up (after i quit smoking) but you know lately i have started to embrace them…i work out when i feel like it and let up on my eating when need be!!! thnx for letting me know it’s okay!!!

I think that we have been told for so long that the skinny body is the most beautiful body that is what we see as beautiful.  But it really is just a different shape.  I have known girls who are beautiful skinny, then gain weight, and are beautiful in a new shape. But they can’t see that, because their eyes have been trained to see beauty in only one way, the skinny way.  I recently went to europe and saw the art of the past one-thousand years.  There are a few “skinny” women, but in great majority it is women who have hips, who have breasts.  Soft, supple, hour-glass women.  Our bodies hold fat…these hips make us the mothers of the world.  So look at great women in art…Look at athena, look at aphrodite or the mona lisa and try to really see the shape.  It is beautiful.  It is the shape of a woman.  Consider yourself now in light of these women in art. Don’t nit-pick every inch of you, we all have parts that aren’t perfect.  But see your shape, see how you move, see the lines.  See past this American-imposed idea and see yourself…AS A WOMAN…not as a person striving to be a stick.  Cause men don’t want to sleep with sticks…

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Oh, your life must be so hard.  :/

I love this. 

dats a gud writing girl……….. i jus love it…. ope to read more of that

“So why don’t we just quit calling ourselves Fat girl or Skinny girl or Curvy girl or Thin girl…Aren’t we all just Girls?”That line REALLY got me. It’s sooo true. If we all just stopped labeling ourselves and everyone else around us, I think there’d be a hell lot more girls without eating issues and we’d all just like ourselves a lot more.Thank You for your post

I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum- skinny (now), fat (before). And so, I don’t like to consider myself a skinny girl. Just a healthy girl. 

I really like this article. 

I thought this was an incredible post! I just loved it : ]

@SKRmusichead@xanga - 
I for one am 5’3″ and weigh 242 lbs… and the only time Ive been called fat was after I refused to sleep with my boyfriend in highschool at the time. Being rude isnt cool and women who behave like true skanks are the real problem any way. I wouldnt be a “skinny girl” if you paid me well. I hear its very lucrative. Im glad to be me and more people should try it. Then maybe your integrity would speak for itself.

@belladonnabutterflies@xanga - 
Who cares if you’re offended. Not a question, seriously. Why do people think it matters to other people if they’re offended? You’re ALLOWED to be offended, but seriously, what difference does it make to me, or the person that posted this, or anyone else?

It doesn’t.

Amaaaazing! I find myself walking the thin line between skinny and fat. And in any given day i have my body ups and downs, but I have learned to live with my slight stretch marks, my grabbable love handles, and cute round face. If you cannot love yourself girl, then who is going to be able to love you?

great post!

yes Girl!

I’ve always been a ‘heavier set’ girl. But, I myself am very confident. Even though I do want to loose weight, and be ‘prettier’ like the (skinny) girls, I am content with myself for the most part.

You are absolutely right. I agree with this entry completely. I think you’re my new hero.

Yeah right.  I am skinny BUT my image isn’t on vogue.  I am too short for one.  That doesn’t stop the snarky bitchy crap I have to put up with several times a week just so some passive aggressive insecure woman can feel better about herself.

Also, sorry hun, if the “world” catered to us skinny women then why do they keep changing woman’s sizes to make bigger women feel better and pushing the skinny women out to the teen section?  Oh because the bigger women have a problem with their insecure selves and feel some battle is won by taking it out on women who did nothing wrong to you?

Why not go directly to the source of frustration?  The MEN behind the fashion magazines.

Quit pretending ALL skinny women are the ambassadors of super models in Vogue.  It’s not OUR PROBLEM.  The problem is you.  Get over it!

@SKRmusichead@xanga - Wow, you’re quite the cocky one aren’t you? I agree that skinny girls have problems just as much as fat girls do, but you made yourself seem very vain. Who said you look better than anyone? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, just sayin’

Agreed!

Letter to a “fat” girl,

I find this article ridiculous because the tone and contention both change in the last few sentences. I find it absolutely appalling that you use such sarcasm describing “skinny” women. The reason there are “whiney” comments left about the pro-curvy women is because curvy women can’t feel good about themselves without implying skinny girl’s aren’t “real women”. Could you imagine how offended you would be if a magazine posted an article saying “Real women” and posting pictures all over the place of skinny women?

I found it offensive because of the heavily sarcastic tone and the lack of sympathy for the opposing side of your argument. “Just pick up a copy of vogue or elle”, this shows a complete lack of understanding for skinnier women. Being skinny doesn’t mean you look like the people in vogue or elle. I am frankly too short to look like any of those women yet I am discriminated against just the same for being “skinny”. One other problem with this is that it totally ignores women like me who come under the category of average weight. I don’t have bones sticking out everywhere but I don’t have lots of excess fat either. So I ask you, where can I find my confidence? If the “skinny girls” can go to vogue, where do I turn?

Sincerely,
Average Girl

@SKRmusichead@xanga - I can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic, but I sincerely hope you are. I’m sorry that it’s such a hassle for you to have so many guys wanting to date you that you have to turn some down. I would just love for one guy to ask me out. And I’m sorry that it’s so much of a hardship to be, as you put it, “prettier” than other girls just because you are skinnier. I don’t know about other people, but I tend to judge by personality, not looks. And you don’t seem like a very pretty person when you make comments like the one you just made. Just the fact that you use the term “fat girl” in contrast with the term “pretty girl” shows that you uphold the ideal of “skinny is pretty”.

Perhaps, instead of using waist size as a measure of pretty, we should use personality or a healthy weight for a person’s height and body type (yes, some people are naturally more heavy-set than others).