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I never did either

I never played bride.  I didn’t care much for getting married either, until just recently.  So you’re not alone- and it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with guys.  :)

Hah Oh my god, I used to do the same thing with playing “teacher”- Just to boss around! I also did not imagine my wedding as a little girl… I don’t think little girls really think about that..

Now that I am in a serious relationship  and almost engaged, am I starting to get more interested and excited about marriage and wedding.

I NEVER EVER dreamt about my wedding.
I played mommy though

Never did either…but now I’m married =).

I hate how people think they have to choose between a relationship and a career… a successful person can have both.

The difference between girls and boys: Girls start planning their weddings at age seven. Boys wait until the day before ;D

I never played bride, either. I don’t think I ever even thought about marriage or understood it. I think it’d be kind of sad for a little girl to play bride or play mother. They should be thinking about/doing fun kid things. 

I’m with you. Marriage never seemed interesting, and I would much rather work and support myself.

@xpika1x@xanga - I agree. If I absolutely HAD to choose between the two, I have no idea what I would pick. They’re both very important to me. The good thing is that you don’t have to choose. 

Never did, but now I’m married We pseudo-eloped.

If you’re meant to be married, you’ll know it. If you never want to get married, that’s totally fine too. Don’t let people pressure you to feel one way or the other. Enjoy your life and do what you want Love is a splendid thing, but if you do not feel complete without it you’ll never feel complete with it. I was convinced I’d never, ever, ever get married, but oh well. Fun to be wrong, in my case at least.

But don’t feel you’re “weird” if you don’t think about it or don’t care. You’re definitely not alone!

Same here.  Never did.  Still don’t.  

I only played house and doctor. I didn’t even know that people play bride. Marriage does not really interested me much. 

It’s a stereotype. Any little girl who dreams about her wedding is psycho

I dreamed about boys occasionally… but not weddings. I was never into huge extravaganzas, even for important events. Simple is better. And if simple is better, why spend so much time dreaming about it?

I agree, there’s nothing wrong with it, and it doesn’t make us any less of a potential “bride.”

I never played bride. I played house and I played teacher. And whenever I played house, it was always with another girl. xD I think I knew from a young age that I was never going to have a typical, traditional “white wedding” which is why I never cared much to fantasize about it.

I want to elope, hah. XD

i never dreamed about weddings either. i mean honestly marriage is marriage. as great as it sounds, marriage doesn’t sound as hyped up as it seems to be. with marriage’s greatness, comes the issues and hardships too. i guess that goes for anything in life. i don’t believe i will ever marrry. i don’t believe i can handle marriage and keep it steadily going.

I never did either. At a young age I realized I didn’t believe in the institution of marriage. It sounds precocious but it’s true. My mother has lupus and she cannot afford to get married because she needs state support to be able to afford his medicines. Unless she married a billionaire she wouldn’t be able to survive. This is what initially set me off of the concept. Riddled with this was the fact that my mother also believed she didn’t NEED a husband. In fact, she’s fairly independent despite her romantic heart. My grandmother was also a single mother. So I know marriage isn’t necessary at all (though I also don’t plan on having a family). What I got from these two women who mean the world to me is that self-sufficiency is more important than the dream wedding. 

I am fairly cynical when it comes to marriage for myself (though I do applaud people who choose to get married and are able to stay together). For me, I want freedom of a sense. I don’t want to have a family because, in essence, I am probably selfish. I want to stay true to my beliefs.
If I had to choose, obviously, I would pick a strong career over a decadent white dress any day.

The only thing I wanted to get married when I was a kid was Barbie and Ken

I never did and up until I actually got married I believed I never would. Even when it came to my actually wedding my mother took a lot of control of the decisions. I wished the whole ordeal would have been simpler. Weddings really are more for the sake of family and friends than for the couple and are highly overrated. 

Erm, I fought with my brother because Barbie kept stealing all of GI Joe’s clothes and going off to war. In the attic years later we still find naked GI’s and Barbie dressed up in battle fatigues, not wedding dresses. I played Special Forces when I was a kid, not Wedding Day.

i’m just like you!

I never played bride either. But now that I’m older, (lol, 18) I watch those wedding dress shows like Say Yes to the Dress and Girl Meets Gown, all that stuff, I often think about what my dress will look like. It’s a fun idea. Unless…you’re alone. Lol.

I think I got married to my friend Mark when we were about six, but it was a pretty sad wedding. Just Mark and I… and we just went around saying we were married. But I never really did the whole wedding scenario and wanted to be a bride and stuff like that. I usually played doctor or house or school.

same here.  for me, play time was always just me expressing what i wanted for my future.  being a dancer, princess, doctor, teacher, veterinarian, etc. beats being just a wife any day

although, i DID used to play house a lot… i guess because i grew up in a single parent household and thought nothing of pretending to be a mother with no father.

I didn’t dream of a wedding. I did dream of marrying someone I loved though.

The wedding only lasts a day. You could plan it out and make it perfect but … when it’s over, you’re faced with life and the one you choose to settle down with.

I never played bride or did any wedding stuff like that… i barely thought about my wedding, ever, and i still barely do. all i know is that i like “ill be” by edwin mccain and its a possibility. lmao. 

I never did either, just now I am I sort of fantasizing about it. At the age of 18 haha

i did but as i got older, my views of marriage changed.

I got “engaged” to my childhood sweetheart when I was in preschool. We spent the next four years having “wedding rehearsals.” Oddly enough, we never did get around to tying the knot…

As it currently stands, I’m single and I like it way more than 99.9% of my acquaintances think I have a right to. Go figure

I was just like you.  

LOL!!  Yeah, when I was a kid, I played house, teacher, whatever.  But I never sat there and dreamed up my wedding or whatever.

I think its because when I meet the one I want to marry, I want it to be just as much his day as mine.  And a lot of brides want every last detail to be picked out, but I want his input.  And I cannot envision my wedding, at all, I want his opinion on color choices and locations and guest lists and everything.

I’m kinda lucky, my SO and I were talking about weddings randomly and he goes “I’d love to have a big part in planning my future wedding,” and I laughed and said “I just wanna like pick out the dresses and maybe my bouquet, haha.”

I had a giant pink panther stuffie when I was younger, like, I mean HUGE – it was as big as a real person. All the neighbour girls and I would pretend he was the boy and we would take turns marrying him

I like the idea of marriage and I know I will be married, likely in the next 5 years. I don’t like the idea of planning the wedding though, and I don’t think it has to be such a big deal. I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars and invite everybody I’ve ever known. I agree with Darla about big weddings being highly overrated.

You’re not the only one. Don’t get me wrong, romances are fun, but at the end of the day, a career will be there longer than some guy.

Also, I preferred hot wheels over dolls, and spent most of my time pretending to be an animal. If you’re weird, I am too.

I’ve dreamed about my wedding for years. But, my mom worked for a florist and I would help out with weddings so I always had ideas! I actually think about it less now than I did as a little girl. It’s funny, because I have the career path and the madly-in-love relationship, but I don’t really see it as needing to choose one over the other. I think when you find the right guy (or girl!) and the right career-type-path(stay-at-home moms included!) it all just fits. You know?

I didn’t either. I liked to play “clerk”.. haha, like a super market Clerk. My cousins and I would lay out a lot of things on the bed and we would take turns being the clerk and the shopper.
Nowhere near playing bride hahah

wow, i thought i was the only one who never thought about my wedding as a kid!

I never thought about marriage.

I never, ever, played bride, or wedding. Never got the gist of it either, and I think its rather disturbing that little girls play that (is that their goal in the future? Getting married). Never seen guys play wedding or the husband. I´m just disappointed that it turned out this way.

yup totally liked you. hands down i would pick my career.  I never thought of my wedding either.  like you said, falling in love and having a bf is nice… but always career comes first in my mind.

I never thought about my wedding…

Actually I think you’re the majority.

never did until a couple months ago.

I never even thought about my wedding until very very recently. I’m nowhere near getting married, but just randomly I would think about what I want my colors to be, etc. But mostly I’m trying to make it inexpensive and not a huge hassle for everyone. But also I have a hard time imagining what it’s all going to look like, because that’s just not the kind of girl I am. But I have awhile to think about it.

Yes, I definitely agree!  It’s so nice to know that there are other women out there like that, because people seem to get confused when I tell them I don’t want to get married. Or maybe I should rephrase that, I’m not anti-marriage, but I’m not actively seeking marriage. If it happens, it happens. But I have more important things to worry about, and if I’m single the rest of my life that’s okay with me. 

Yeah i never played wedding…or even talked much about what i wanted for my wedding. But i always talked alot about where i wanted to go for my honeymoon
I sorta wished i had focused on the wedding more. Cos now i’m planning my wedding and have no clue what i want! and people think im crazy since i was supposed to have known since i was born or something LOL

I never played bride I was always the preacher, lol.  As for dreaming about my wedding  I didn’t start that till high school when my then bf gave me a promise ring and said one day we would get married. We didn’t and now that I am getting married everything I thought I wanted I don’t anymore.

I think, to be honest, that when I played ‘wedding’ I had little to no thoughts about the man part. I just wanted to wear the pretty dress. And it only helped that my aunt and grandmother used to make wedding dresses in a store attached to our house, so I used to go in and get some pretty necklaces and fab. little dresses that they made just for me It was about the dresses on my part, didn’t once think about the man. 

I didn’t. Without knowing if I’d get married, and not knowing what my husband would look like, I don’t think I saw the point.

Honestly, it seems like an odd thing for little girls to fantasize about, to me. :/

Neither did I. I’m not sure how I feel about marriage. I mean, if my boyfriend and I were still together in, say, six years and he proposed, I would marry him.. but I’m not that woman who’s going to be on the hunt of find a husband. 

You’re not the only one. Thanks for sharing! I was beginning to feel odd myself. I never planned things out or anything. It wasn’t until college that my extreme like of Autumn decided for me that I’d want my wedding in Autumn. But that was about the only detail I’ve ever planned out. Anywho.

As far as the choosing a career over a person, I’m not that kind of person, so I can’t relate to that. I’d almost always pick the person first. I love people. I’m not too driven. I have just enough drive, I think. But I’m not excessive. You know? If I ever had to choose between a career I loved or a person I loved, I may die inside a little, but I think I’d always pick the person. I’m one of those people who finds my purpose is making others happy. So, anyways. That’s just a difference in drive for me and you. My drive is people. Your drive is the career. We’re both fine. hahaha

But yeah, you’re not the only one. And I thank you for sharing this, because as I’ve been planning my wedding, I was beginning to wonder if I was the only person who never really gave any thought to it when I was younger. hahaha

*hugs*,
~*Akarui Mitsukai*~

i never played bride or dreamed of a wedding……

I never really gave my wedding much thought. Sure, as I got older and started to be in my friend’s weddings I started to give a little thought to it… but I thought it was silly to plan a wedding before I even knew who I was going to marry.

Now I am engaged and I am constantly bombarded with questions about what I am going to do for the wedding. Hello? I JUST got engaged…. when was I suppose to plan all this crap? isn’t that why people are engaged for a long time… so they can figure all that junk out? I don’t know… I guess for me I think it is fun to think about little things about it, but I have so many other things I’d rather think about and stress about than one day that I don’t even have a date set for.

I never played bride. I have a boyfriend now (my first) and we’re in love w/ each other and planning to get married but neither one of us cares how exactly our wedding will be. He cares and understands that I want a career and when we move in together, by that time, I will hopefully have enough money to pay for my own tuition ( I moved out and support myself….I have it easy b/c im crashing for the time being and only have to pay for food and my cell phone which isnt a lot honestly). I guess with you, you havent met the right person and the right person will also understand how important your career is to you. 

I don’t think I ever dreamed about my wedding as a little girl, nor did I play “wedding.” I definitely played “house,” though. I don’t dream about it now, either. In fact, sometimes I think I would just like a very simple wedding. Not a lot of guests, simple dress (maybe even use my aunt’s dress, which is pretty conservative), etc.

I do want to get married someday……I think.

I liked to pretend to be a princess not a bride =)

i never dreamed about getting married, either. i didn’t realize so many women did, and it came off as kind of pathetic; kids should be out playing and enjoying kid stuff, not thinking about marriage =/

When I was younger, I pondered falling in love, but never did I dream about my wedding. I was too busy being a super-hero in league with the likes of Batman and Spider-man to really focus on that mushy girly stuff.

Now I’m planning my wedding, and I still don’t get the fuss. I do love my dress, but that’s as girly as it gets.

The rest of it is all about Halloween, graveyards and zombies.

Nope, I did think it was weird that I didn’t though and try to imagine it, still didn’t last more than a minute. Actually I never played much at anything, I just read a lot. Yay we’re not alone!

I never did either. I’m 13 now and I still can’t see it xD Marrying isn’t one of my objectives but if it happens, then it happens.

I didn’t either, you’re not alone.

I never played bride and I preferred to play dinosaurs and power rangers with my brother than with barbies or babies xD I also played teacher (to boss people around). I’m never giving up my career goals and there’s plenty of guys who like that in a girl…:) 

I’d never even though about weddings until I was older. I liked playing with toy cars in the dirt and digging up anthills :]

The episode of FRIENDS comes to mind when they are talking about the “wedding book” they started as kids and about wearing pillow cases on their heads ane having pretend weddings.

Never did that. 

Even when my ex-husband proposed, I was still not sure I wanted to get married – to him or anyone for that fact.  Dummy me, let others talk me into it.

Now, 6 years on this side of a divorce and having spent 5 years dating my current fellow – I doubt I would get remarried….

Guess I still don’t have that desire.  So, no, you aren’t alone.

Looking back, I never even thought about marriage or weddings.  I liked fantasizing about ghosts in my house who I could befriend or fall in love with, being a witch and playing house because I’ve always wanted to be a mom, heh.

I cringed a little when I saw “TV” abbreviated as “t.v.”

Good lord…marry me!

But no rry…I’m a guy…and I could never imagine myself married for 89% of my life…on occasion I do but its brief (the 11%)…the end of my life was always an image of me adopting a kid in old age and watching sunsets in a house on the western coast of England with no one but me and my pet Welsh Corgi puppy

I never did!

I remember being a bride for halloween a few times as a kid, but I never really gave my actual wedding day much dreaming room.

I feel bad about this.

I didn’t either. and the cliche also makes me cringe.

It’s definitely not my top priority, like you said. But I don’t know… my career is just a glimpse of me. And if a guy could love EVERYTHING about me, it’s definitely worth it. That’s rare.

Nope, never dreamt about my “dream wedding” as a kids, still dont

I never played wedding either as a child. I never really started to picture my wedding until I was much older and got into serious relationships.  

Also, why would you ever have to choose a boyfriend over a career, or the other way around? I never understood why people seem to think they can’t do both.

I never dreamed about my wedding as a little girl, however, I do want to get married. Actually, that’s one of the big things on my check list, to get married.

To each their own.

I don’t recall ever playing “bride” or “wedding” either.

I played “house” all the time though. I was always a mother of 3…haha. And always played this with my sister and our best friend/neighbor (another girl).

I still haven’t thought too much about my wedding (if I have one). I don’t think I’ll think about it until I’m forced to. haha

dear <3  of course i never dreamt of getting married thought i did played teacher, house and such but i dont know if ur Christine or not but God is the only 1 who knows our story and He will decide when the chapter of ur story finally turn to the page of romance <3 if ur ”right one” havent come yet that means ur not ready yet ;D and hey even if i sound experience i haven’t even meet my “Mr right” yet but….ENJOY LIFE AND when the time comes GET READY FOR A LOVEY-DOVEY EXPERIENCE XD

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Some girls think about it, some people don’t.

I think about marriage, and I would very much like to be married one day and have a family of my own (You can barf now if you want. ahahahaha)

But I’m not like some girls who plan every detail of their wedding…. years before they actually tie the knot. Now that… is kind of psycho maybe. But I’d say more… perfectionism?

Career and marriage are like a relationship, there should be compromise between the two. Some people can do that, while some would rather focus on their marriage, or just their career. There’s nothing wrong with what you think and what your choice is… and you’re definetly not alone. I know a lot of careerwomen out there who are much happier working and being single.

I think about the guy more than I ever think about the wedding.
In fact- yeah. I don’t get the whole wedding thing. Just seems like a lot of money that could go towards something… Smarter. Like, savings.

i never did…

I never used to dream of marriage and I never played bride. I don’t view falling in love high on my priority list either.

Why play “bride” when you can play “zombie” and chase other kids all over the playground?

@xpika1x@xanga - that’s kind of how it went with me. Never dreamt of getting/being married. Then I met my husband. Haha.

@PervyPenguin@xanga - This.

i didnt either.

I never wanted to get married until a year or two ago, I think it may have been because my parents were together for 15 years and were never married so breaking up wasnt as much of a process for them as it is for people when they get a divorce, sometimes I still dont really see the point of marriage but kind of want to exsperience it anyways

I never did either xD

I never thought of wanting to be a bride, princess, ballet, or anything girly really. o3o

I just knew I was a kid.

I never dreamed of a wedding either. I dreamed of a marriage with

my

 dream guy. 

yeah i never did either….i don’t know many girls who actually did!

I never really played the typical girl imagination games.  I was too busy playing out history- especially the Revolutionary and Civil War.

As for marriage, I still remember telling my grandmother that I would never get married because I would rather have guy friends than a husband.  Even now, I have no idea how to envision my wedding… despite being engaged.

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