Maybe I should share a little about myself, before I continue getting threatening emails and comments.
First off, I would like to just state that this is the internet, and threats are not taken very seriously (by me at least).
I am queenof__hearts.
I suffer from OCD.
Bipolar disorder.
And anorexia nervosa.
I have been diagnosed for all of these diseases. I have been a sufferer of anorexia for going on eight years now, until I have made the conscious decision to not live like that anymore. I tattooed the NEDA symbol to my shoulder (along with other symbols) as a constant reminder that recovery is indeed possible.
Some of you have been sending emails regarding my thinspo post. I have received many statements about how I am: inconsiderate, oh so wrong, need to do more research, etc. I have lived through these diseases. They still consume me, and every day is a battle to live just that much longer. I have found I am not, in fact, ready to die; but I am. indeed, ready to live life with my new perspective, and I am ready to share my story.
I know what an eating disorder is. I know what it does to people (or what it did to me). I know that thinspo is a term coined for whatever reason, by whatever people. The point is, the term is there, and we can all accept it or not. But I honestly do not care to hear about your complaints about what you all think of me. I am here to blog anonymously about things that come up from my day to day. I am not here to cause problems, or be a problem.
Thank you, have a great day,
Queenof__hearts
Have you ever received threatening emails (whether on Xanga or another place)? What did you do about it? What measures did you take to ensure it did not happen again?
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You’ve gotta fight
for your right
toooo paaaarrttttyyy
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awh hun. i’m sorry that happened to you. i have OCD as well. i hope you keep on doing well and moving forward. (=
sunflower / 362 posts
meh, people are dumb and take things the wrong way before even thinking about it.
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If you do not honestly care about what others say, then why asking them to not send you hate mails anyway?
That’s just a tad contradicting to me. But yeah, that’s kind of an intrusion to send another hate mails when you barely them.
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Kind of defeats the purpose of freedom of speech (not a reference to hate mail, but the fact that you can’t post something online about thinspo without everyone jumping down your throat with a scalpel).
orchid / 197 posts
there’s a difference between feedback from readers and hate mail. getting feedback from readers is fine, even encouraged since authors of posts obviously want to know how to improve their posts. hate mail is when it gets out of hand, and i think it’s usually caused by misunderstanding of the blog. if you have something to say, that’s fine, just be cautious of how you say it.
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Well, I can partially relate since I’m bipolar.. but for the most part, ignore them. That’s all I can say. An unprovoked assault is annoying, yes, but eventually it’ll die down.
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I’m sorry people are so hateful. Keep your chin up
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Sorry to hear that you are receiving hate mail, it’s so sad when people choose to lower their self to that level. Best of luck to you friend, and congratulations on your recovery process. I like that you got the NEDA tattoo, I am very familiar with the organization and think the world of it.
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I don’t understand why people felt the need to jump on you for talking about it. Unless I’m missing something, you did nothing that could be considered offensive. You really didn’t even give an opinion in the original post; you just said you encountered a few of these sites, explained what they were, and asked what others thought of it. Whether people like it or not, it exists and it didn’t seem to me like you were bashing it or supporting it–just bringing up the topic for discussion.
There are a lot of really ridiculous people out there and I’m sorry that anyone felt the need to attack you personally for simply bringing up the topic.
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Just ignore it? If you know a message is going to be of an unfavourable nature, why even bother glancing at it. That should not be any more complicated. Preserve your dignity and don’t pay mind to what people who don’t know you say.
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refer to DearRicky.
sunflower / 271 posts
If all they were attacking you for is that post then I don’t see why, maybe it was posted on the wrong ish site but thats a minor problem. Thinspo is a sad normality of internet use today, and that is not your fault for bringing it up, you may contribute to the problem by looking at it??, I don’t know, but you are not the only one if you do so, because there are hundreds of them on here, I have stubmled accross a fair few, maybe you were just an easy target, by breaching the subject.
My only criticism to you is that in your third paragraph on this post you listed all of the problems you suffer with, that’s not your identity. It may be your identity on here, but it shouldn’t be. When I see a blog on here where someone claims to be suffering from an eating disorder, more often than not all they post about is that, not anything else. I cannot see your blog, but I think that if some of those people started talking about the good and the bad of their day, it would start to open up some of these illnesses to the sceptics out there.
Anyway, just ignore them, people are always going to be their to hate, but it is up to you to suss out whether or not there is any truth in the matter. When it comes to the internet it is such a removable situation you are in. If it is affecting you in a negative way my way to remove my self from the situation, so whether it be blocking people, changing my account to private, or deleting and moving to a different place to blog, it can all be solved with a few clicks. Allthough you shouldnt be bullied out, but sometimes its best to leave before it affects you.
It will all die down though in no time, people will move on.x
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I’m glad you were able to make it out of your ED alive…you’re a symbol of strength and I respect you for it. Good luck.
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Alot of girls get really pissed off when something makes them feel fat on here :/. It didn’t offend me, those other people sending you stuff need to get some better self esteem and realize that got nothing to feel but sympathy for your situation.
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I’m sorry people are being so rude to you- they need to understand you don’t choose to have your disorders, I’m sorry :/
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Okay, so hate mail isn’t great, or needed, I guess. But honestly, this post is wasted space. I’m sorry, but if you didn’t care about getting hate mail, you wouldn’t have written this.
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sweetie, why would yu let hate mail or comments from people whom you don’t know and who don’t know you at all bother you? we all blog for one reason or another, but putting it out there is going to get response and not all of it is kittens and rainbows….there are people out there, sad, little people, who get to feel better about themselves only if they trash someone else…but straight forward opinions aren’t necessarily made to trash you, dear…. take it from an old broad, getting offended or hurt is between the ears of the person getting offended or hurt…just hold your head up and ignore things being said that don’t exactly float your boat or agree with your position…you’ll be fine…
daffodil / 1975 posts
Hate mail just means you’re popular. If you honestly don’t care, ignore it. If you actually do care, quit talking about thinspo because there are a lot of people out there that, while they understand the disease, are pretty sick of hearing about it every single day.
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Sending hatemail is for pansies. What a bitch move.
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I can’t believe people have been sending you hate mail. I am really sorry. I can’t believe people can’t state their opinion and leave it at that without getting personal.
tulip / 11 posts
@eclecticapunkqueen22@xanga - @TequilaKisses@xanga - she didn’t say she doesn’t care what people think. she said she doesn’t care to hear complaints about it, which means she does care!! poor thing *hug* you just keep trucking, dear.
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - that statement is an epic win….i see yu know how to react..hahahaah
rose / 917 posts
Never apologize for your ideas, thoughts and feelings. So what if people do not agree? It is your right. If people don’t agree they can just move on, rather than sending hate mail
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@CherryTree13@xanga - Re-read my comment. I said “If you didn’t care about getting hate mail”, not “If you didn’t care what people think of you”.
sunflower / 321 posts
HATERS!
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1. Sorry that you’re receiving all this ‘hate’ over one post.
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2. Honestly, if you didn’t care, why type up this post? …
3. Have a nice day
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I don’t get it. You didn’t say anything wrong in the thinspo post. Either way I support you for standing up for what you believe in!
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meh