My parents weren’t the strict kind when I was in high school, but once I got a boyfriend and started testing their limits, they laid down the curfew law: 11 p.m. weeknights, midnight on the weekends.
I’m sure I played fast and loose with those times at some point, but for the most part, I didn’t try my luck and attempt sneaking out (unlike my one friend in high school, who kept her curfew but would sneak her boyfriend in through her bedroom window so they could quietly get busy in her room…yikes!).
So, my question is: did you have a curfew growing up? Or, if you still live with your parents, do you? Did you ever try to sneak around it?

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Absolutely! On school nights, it was 9pm until junior year of high school when it became 10:30. Weekends, 11pm until I was 16 then it was midnight. 1am after I turned 17. And then? FREEDOM! Haha
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Considering i’m STILL growing up (freshman in college, living at home) i still have a curfew. The only reason i follow it is out of respect. They pay for college, they provide me with food water and shelter. (and free laundry!!). 1030 is the latest for weekdays. midnight for weekends (they’re usually out themselves).
daisy / 555 posts
I am a freshman in high school.
I have no curfew!
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all throughout highschool until i graduated it was 9:30 on school nights and 11 on weekends. lame. my dad is overprotective.
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I only really had a curfew when I was with my boyfriend. Well, it was 9 pm on school nights, no matter what, but on weekends it was 10 if I was alone with the bf, but anytime before 2 am if I was with a group. My parents were more worried about me not getting enough sleep than going out and partying.
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until this year started, my cerfew was 4… in the afternoon.. even on the weekends. it was total bullshit. now it’s 6, which is still really stupid. my parents don’t really allow me to have much of a life because they think i’m going to do the same fucked up stuff they did when they were my age. they don’t realize that it isn’t one of my goals to end up like them.
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If a had a curfew it probably was to be home before 10 pm. Since I didn’t have any social life and still don’t and I never go out anyway, the answer is no.
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My parents were pretty flexible. Times were usually based on who could drive me home and how far away I was from home (again because of drives and if I could walk home or not).
sunflower / 408 posts
when i was in high school, i was so busy with school, school work, soccer practice, soccer games, community involvement with my team mates, and after school club activities that i didn’t even have time to really go out with my friends except see them during class or on the field. in a way i didn’t really have to have a curfew because they knew i was responsible enough to set the times and follow it myself. for the most part, if i was not on the field practicing, i was on the field for a game. i’d mostly be home by nine every night which left me having to do homework, study, and eat. needless to say, i didn’t have to have a curfew and i didn’t really have one; if i did, i would follow it out of respect and i think my parents already knew that from the begining. Being in college, its still the same kind of thing; i’m always busy. but on the weekends, i sometimes come home around 2:00 am if going to a late night showing of a movie with friends. being older has its advantages; you just have to earn that respect first and show them you’re responsible to gain that trust.
daffodil / 1975 posts
I gave myself one, actually. I didn’t like the idea of being out late at night with people because I was such a geek. I liked being at home or doing stuff with my friends that didn’t go on too late. My grandparents (whom I lived with) were happy about that and, when I would ask to stay out with my friends, they’d let me stay out as long as I wanted because they knew I wasn’t reckless. Most times, I’d be home by 11 anyway. Even on weekends.
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my curfew was whatever the legal one was for my age. my mom didn’t care much, she knew i was a smart kid.
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I didn’t really go many places, but when I did I just had to tell my parents when’d I’d be home. And they’d call/text me sometimes and wait up for me and stuff…Parent stuff..
orchid / 105 posts
Until I was 16 it was 10pm, when I was 17 it was 11pm on a school night midnight for weekends. When I was an adult and still living at home, 18-22, it was whenever I felt like getting home.
orchid / 105 posts
@KelseaPhobia@xanga - are you really serious? That is crazy in my opinion!
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Hah I don’t need a curfew to keep me in the house. My mass amounts of homework keep me in.
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Growing up curfew wasn’t such a big deal because I highly value sleep. Now a days, usually 10 on a week night 1 on the weekends (I’m 22 for cripe’s sake!)
orchid / 119 posts
I never had a curfew, I just had to tell my parents where I was going and when I expected to be back. The only time they ever got mad was when I came home super later without telling them, they would wait up… that was NEVER a fun conversation! haha!
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Between the summer of senior year of high school and freshman year of college my dad made my curfew 10:30. Everyday. I got so much hell for this from my friends. He’s always been super protective. I got into trouble so many time and go into so many arguments with him about this because he wasn’t willing to compromise with me. I was trying to move out that year but I had a bunch of surgeries that summer and they wanted me to stay home. Sophomore year I went on the dorm. My curfew was whenever the hell I wanted it to be. I moved back home due to more health problems and now my parents really don’t care. I have a car now so as long as I call their cool.
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I had a curfew until I turned 19. At nearly 23, I still come home at a reasonable hour (12-1) out of respect for my parents. My parents pay for my food, shelter, and car insurance payments; so I think it’s only fair.
ranunculus / 3285 posts
I’m 19 and I still have a curfew. It’s 11PM which is really sad. =T Regardless, I’m definitely going to push the limits from now on.
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I’m 22 and I still have a curfew ~_~ granted I live with super strict asian parents. I need to move out when I can!!
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I either have to be back on the last bus or stay at a friends, because I hang out in the nearest city, rather than my tiny village.
But like I have to tell my parents what I’m doing, if I’m going out drinking and who I am with.
My parents give me a lot of freedom, because I do help out at home, minding my brother, cooking, cleaning and such.
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Heck yeah! I had to be in the house before the street lights came on or else. I didn’t want to find out the “or else” part, so I made sure my behind was in the house before those lights came on!
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I had no curfew.
I enjoyed myself and had fun with friends..maybe too much at times. But I’m just fine today.
hydrangea / 79 posts
i’ve never had a curfew in my life, when i was in high school i just told them where i was going and that was that.
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I had a cerfew but i never paid much attention to it because it want even reasonable i snuck out and sometimes just ignored their phone calls and didnt come home until i felt like it eventually they reaalized at 18 i wasnt gonna try and listen so the new rule was home by 1 or call and let them know where i was staying that was reasonable to me for 18
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i’ve never had a curfew. i’m a junior in high school. i just tell my parents where i’m going, who i’m with when i’m coming home (as in that night, or the next day). my parents aren’t too strict with me because i’m doing so well in school and i have a job and all that good stuff.
sunflower / 273 posts
In high school during school nights it was kind of understood that after midnight I should probably be home so I could get up at 6am to get ready for school. Weekends curfews weren’t in effect, they got in the way of my life.
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Only if my mom had to pick me up then I had to be home by 10. She didn’t wanna be out driving that late. Once I got older and had friends with cars my parents didn’t care. I’m 26 and still live with mom and dad. I can’t afford to live on my own yet. They don’t care what I do. I have my own car, I work more than my mom, (dad is retired), If I come home while my mom is waking up she’ll offer to make me breakfast before I go to bed. They’re pretty laid back.
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I’m 18 and live with my mom, but I never had a curfew growing up. For a while, though, I guess I wasn’t as social, so I never needed one. I’m really close with my mom, though, and we’re very open, so I can tell her pretty much anything in regards to where I’m going or when I should be home. Usually I just call and check in if something changes, and if I get in late and she’s already in bed, I’ll give her a kiss on the forehead and tell her I got home safe. I never gave her a real reason to worry about where I was.
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shit i didn’t have one until i didn’t come home for a week during summer. -__- my fault ..but i did call every day to tell her i wasn’t coming home lol
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It wasn’t exactly a curfew with a precise time, but I’m sure they wouldn’t want me to be out very late. Then again I hardly went anywhere during my high school years in the evening. My parents turned out to be pretty lenient on me. Now that I’m older, I kind of implanted a self curfew on myself. For me, there’s nothing better than curling up to read your favorite novel near a hearth.
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Curfews are atrocious. I remember that I tried sneaking out in the middle of the night in middle school to walk to the 24/7 corner store and it just so happened that my mom’s boyfriend was having a cigarette outside and saw the whole thing. He laughed and let me go. I’ve never had a curfew. This has made for a few interesting encounters with the nighttime police patrol, but hey, to each their own. My mom has an extremely loose view of parenting, if I didn’t make that entirely obvious. I’m seventeen now, and live with a boyfriend two states away from her, but I absolutely adore her for it. I got a job when I was 15, worked my ass off, and because all of those tempting things were available to me without taboo–alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, boys–I tried them once and then instantly let it go. I have no addictions and have been with one man. I know that parenting like hers wouldn’t work for every child, but for me, it was the only way to go.
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@tiptoplove@xanga - That happened to me once, except I didn’t really call my mom. o_O When I came home I found out her and my little brother were playing with chalk in the driveway and wrote ‘byebye raerae’ with a sad face. LOL.
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I nver had a curfew in my kife, my mother said she trusted me too much to set a curfew for me. Usually I was home anyways because I really had nowhere to go, but on occasion I’d stay out till like 1 or 2. I almost always told my mother where I was going and who I’d be with, but even if I forgot once or twice my mother never really felt the need to ask.
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noooo, i just never went out on week days though, i didn’t push the envelope but it was my junior year i realized that i never had to come back for days and my mom didnt care.
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i’m still “growing up” but i don’t have a clear curfew… it all depends on the situation and how my parents are feeling that day
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Oh god, I had to come home before dinner for the longest time… Then I went through a rebellious phase and tried to get around it, only to be scolded and yelled at the next morning.
The fact that I didn’t have a cell phone also complicated things.
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Ugh, yes. I had a curfew of midnight until I was nineteen. NINETEEN! Needless to say, I broke it. A lot. I fought tooth and nail to not have a curfew. Even when I was older, at 21, my mom would still give me a hard time about coming home late at night. Blaaaaah.
But I don’t stay out late much anymore, because I’m getting old. Ha.
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School nights it’s usually 9:30/10ish. Any other time it’s midnight. I’ve never really minded it, I’d usually much rater be at home anyways.
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Yes and my mom used it to make my life miserable for her own fun.
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My parents were very strict and still are. I don’t even want to embarrass myself by answering this Q! LOL
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i have no curfew, but my states goverment puts one on all teenagers under 18. We cant drive after 12:30 at night and not before 5:00 in the morning.
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From when I was a baby til 7th grade, 8 o’clock was the sleeping time. After that it was just kind of whatever, though my parents always tell us to sleep early.
orchid / 137 posts
I wasn’t allowed to go out until a few months after I turned 16. Then my curfew was 11 on the weekends, wasn’t allowed to go out on the weekdays even if I didn’t have school the next day. If I left the house before 6pm, then my curfew was usually earlier.
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I had one and I disregarded it completely. By the time I was 17 my parents got the picture that there was no point in trying to keep me in.
daisy / 556 posts
I never had a curfew, but I never did anything out of the way and I didn’t stay out late with boys or friends. I came home at a decent time without being asked and without there being a rule for me to do so. Once in a while I came home pretty late, but nobody said anything. I never did anything my parents would be ashamed of or that I would be ashamed of. I was a pretty responsible kid when it came to stuff like that. I knew the consequences of my actions.
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That was the same as mine in high school. Then the two week period between turning 18 and moving to college didn’t have a curfew…same for when I came home the summer break after my freshman year before going back for college in the fall. It was fairly awesome.
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Yes, but I coerced my mom into lifting it. I thought I was so smart, but it backfired. Once I could stay out as late as I pleased, I found it wasn’t all that great after all because all of my friends still had curfews and there was nobody to hang out with. I ended up coming home at around my original curfew time anyway. LOL
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Hmmm, I did some what. I didn’t always go out, especially on week nights. My home town sucked haha.
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@betterdesigned@xanga - I’m just like you. My mum does set certain limits but i dont even want to be out that late.. So happy i’m not alone …. -.- all my friends make me seem sorta boring wen i leave before the party starts
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weekends, weekdays, school breaks, it doesn’t matter– i have to be home by 6:00pm. my parents yell whenever i’m out past 6, even if i’m just doing homework at borders or doing community service. they’re really unreasonable. it’s not as if i’m out partying all night.
orchid / 227 posts
When I started going out in high school, I didn’t have a curfew until I started coming home after midnight. My parents put a 3am curfew on me.
peony / 2 posts
Sun down… sucked in the winter… and this was till second year in college! (unless I had evening classes).
I guess being the youngest daughter had everyone in the house thinking I was still a little girl.
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I had to be home by 8 pm when I was in middle school. That’s only because my stepdad wasn’t too cool.
I’m a junior in highschool now, and my stepdad is long gone. I don’t have a curfew anymore. My mom trusts me.