Normally I wouldn’t make a reply post, but I’m hating how my latest post on Lovelyish is being misconstrued into some twisted man hating list.
First off, I want to say thank you to everyone for the wonderful comments & compliments! You are the ones who totally got what I said, and have been very sweet to me. I appreciate it very much.
I just wanted to point out that my list was NOT motivated by backwards feminism or misandry. As you noticed, I didn’t put any bra burning, man bashing, messages in there. I meant it to be a list to inspire women to go out and do/learn things, specifically younger readers, since I know a chunk of Xanga users are younger than 18. It was written to be motivational.
I had great parents (not just my mother as you can see), relatives, and friends, who taught me many of these things on this list. I know not many have that strong support system, and it’s great to learn something informative. Sometimes a random person who comes up and tells you that you’re capable and wonderful in this world can do the heart so much good.
Can this list be useful to men as well? OF COURSE! I wasn’t alienating them from reading it, I was just targeting a specific group of readers. I know that there are wonderful men that treat women as equals. However, the one rude Xanga user who started commenting, throwing claims of misandry, not being of any real use to men, and saying feminism never works, is not one of them if you ask me. Telling us about “our place” and saying men invented the “vast majority of the inventions we use.” I never said they didn’t. By the way, going back to your comment about the car, a man invented it yes. What you don’t know is that MARY ANDERSON invented the first patented windshield wiper in 1903. What good would driving be if you couldn’t see where you were going?
A friend of mine on Xanga says she’s Egalitarian (meaning all people are created equal, and deserve equal rights and opportunities). I believe that too, but we all know that a majority of the world doesn’t believe that. There are, and have been, many, many MEN who support equal rights for women over the centuries, so let’s not forget about them. Just because feminism is about women doesn’t mean it was only women in the group.
Going back to the post, I was very careful writing it so it wouldn’t be taken as it was to certain people, but I think it’s a case of “I know what I mean, but they took it a different way.” I’m not apologizing or taking back what I wrote, because women do need to know these things, but I never said it was all men who held women back, nor did I say we don’t need men. You have girls out there who try to act high and mighty, and make other girls feel inferior so they don’t have anyone to rival them, and that’s just as wrong too. So if you haven’t read my original post yet, please view it with an open mind, and don’t listen to any other negative commenters who may try to twist it into something it’s not. And for those who did, or plan on leaving a negative comment, please reread it and see what I really meant to say.