Honestly, I think that the constant hype about loving our bodies is a little over the top. Yes, it’s a good thing to accept your body as it is. It’s a good thing to like how you look, and be comfortable in your own skin. However, our physical appearance is only a slight percentage of who we are as individual human beings. Why should we focus the majority of our energy, and time, on just one small aspect of ourselves? It’s unbalanced.
On the surface it seems that directing positive attention to our bodies is a good thing, and it definitely can be. It ceases to be a good thing when it becomes a constant activity though, or a topic that is always foremost in our thoughts. That is merely self-worship, and I’m sure we’ve all had experiences with people who are obsessed with themselves; because life revolves around all things pertaining to them they are usually unpleasant to be around, and they don’t have much, if anything, to offer anyone else.
Directing constant negative attention to our appearance is a waste of time as well. In the same way that people who are addicted with themselves are frequently not fun to be around, people who are constantly putting themselves down and bemoaning their looks are not a joy to hang out with either.
There’s nothing wrong in thinking you look fantastic. And there’s nothing wrong in noticing that you are underweight, overweight, or have other physical flaws you don’t like. There is also nothing wrong in doing what can be done to change your appearance for the better. But let’s be balanced about it. Starving yourself, gorging on food, or obsessing over your body image is just plain unhealthy.
If you feel good about yourself as a whole person, it will show on the outside. Likewise, if you are not at peace with yourself that will show through on the outside as well. So start with you. Discover who you are, what your purpose is, what your passions are, and how you can translate those things into making life better for those around you. When you know who you are, you will be much more comfortable with what you look like and it will be easier to accept and/or make changes to your appearance without going to one extreme or another.
That’s my take on it, anyway.
What are your thoughts on this topic Lovelies?
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I don’t think something so positive can be overhyped.
The only reason why it is, is because obviously, it’s still needed.
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i do think it’s overhyped. i like your holistic approach.
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It’s not overhyped and this has already been posted hasn’t it?
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love your diabetes! embrace your heart disease! be proud of your morbid obesity!
orchid / 174 posts
i love my body, but its not like an obsession, and i dont love it more than any thing else about myself
i think love yourself is a better slogan…
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perhap? i think this “love your body” phase came about because people are too caught up trying to look like models, when they should just be happy with who they are. not everyone’s born a model. it’s a reminder to stop taking the media so literally.
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@babymeatball@xanga - that has got to be one of my favorite comments ever.
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@babymeatball@xanga - Bahaha…. best comment ever. And I think this is EXACTLY why we shouldn’t always “love” our bodies. Because if we love our bodies when they’re unhealthy, then um…. that’s a bad thing because we won’t want to change, right? I accept my body but I know there’s more than a few extra pounds that need to be shed, so I don’t exactly LOVE my body.
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I DONT KNOW. WHY DONT YOU MAKE ANOTHER ENTRY ABOUT IT TO BE SURE?
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - @babymeatball@xanga - LOL – you both win “best comment” awards on this post. Love it.
sunflower / 389 posts
The day I can walk out of my house with 8 extra “overweight” pounds on my ass without fearing that every single person I pass is thinking “I wish I had battery acid to pour in my eyes so I don’t have to look at her flab!” is the day the “hype” goes over the top.
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@babymeatball@xanga - One of the best comment indeed!
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no idea
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Bahaha. I’m glad somebody fucking said it.
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Personally, I’m sick of “love your body” condoning obesity. It’s NOT okay to be fat, not for social reasons, not cause we think you’re ugly, but because you’re a walking heart attack and no, for your life, that ISN’T okay.
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I don’t think the love your body campaign will ever be as effective as they want it to be. Simply telling people to love their bodies and showing pictures of average sized to slightly overweight women is not going to all of the sudden make women say, “oh yay! I am pretty” I don’t think you can blame the love your body campaign for narcissism. People that are narcissistic will be that way regardless. You also can’t blame the media for people who have low self-esteem. You can’t blame the media on people who choose to hear the love your body message and think it is oK to stay obese despite their health. The only way women are going to ever learn to love themselves is to learn how to do it for themselves.
sunflower / 304 posts
it doesn’t seem to be helping anything, as far as i can tell. people who already love their body are going to continue to do so, just as people who have body issues will probably continue to have them, regardless of how much “love your body” propaganda is out there. it comes from within, so the hype will never fix it for the people with issues.
cherry blossom / 30 posts
I think it’s a good thing because nowadays no one seems to like the way their body are, even when you are thin, you still think you are fat ! and people die everyday because they are beloumic..
so even though you are seeing it as a hype ! this hype need to be more hype because it seems that it isn’t reaching the humans brain.. atleast not mine ;p no matter how thin i am i always want to be thinner
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@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Mm hmm…
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@Erika_Steele@xanga - I agree with most of what you said; however I do think the media can be blamed for a lot of girls’ low self-esteem.
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People completely miss the entire concept of what it REALLYmeans to love
your body and to love yourself…
I do in fact love my body… do I have my flaws? of course… but yes, I do
love my body….
and it is actually in fact BECAUSE I love my body that I take CARE
of my body…
this whole “love your body” thing that is so often talked about now,
is actually better described as acceptingyour body…
which is good, don’t get me wrong… it’s better to be obese and happy, than to
be obese and sad….
but here’s the thing… there is a HUGE difference between ACCEPTING
your body and actually in fact LOVING your body…
and I personally do not think the message of actually loving your body is
what’s being portrayed here. The message
they are sending is to accept your body… which of course can be a good message as
well.But loving your body is actually in fact different. Accepting your body is to live…But to love your body is to thrive…
hydrangea / 93 posts
@haloed@xanga - Wow, I said something similar and was accused of “being disgusted by overweight people” and “listening to everything the media tells me.” I really just listen to things doctors tell me, but no big.
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@Jamie_Nip@xanga - I personally wouldn’t give a shit if people wanted to say I’m disgusted with obese people. I am. Their way of life is well, life-threatening to themselves, and just imagine if they have a family who counts on them? Their poor way of life and excessive eating habits are selfish and absolutely disgraceful.
And there are no, no, NO medical conditions that make you obese. Maybe they make you gain weight. They may even make you overweight. But fucking obese?! No. I’m sorry, it does NOT happen. College level pathophysiology if people want to tell me I don’t know my shit. 3 years of it.
I listen to what’s right, not what any stupid media says. It’s never about image. It’s about being alive for the people you love, and who love you, to enjoy you. Not to have to take care of your 700lb body and roll you over just to scrape the shit off the rolls of your ass.
That IS disgusting.
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@haloed@xanga - @Jamie_Nip@xanga - this is exactly what i’m talking about… it’s NOT loving your body… it’s accepting your body… accepting your body is fine don’t get me wrong, if someone accepts their body good for them… like i said in my comment it’s better to be obese and happy, than obese and sad…. the thing is… you’re still obese….
however by no means do i think that accepting your body is remotely the same as actually in fact LOVING your body…
if you love your body you take CARE of your body… you don’t eat junk food and poison your body… you do your best to nourish your body with a proper diet and make sure that you’re doing what you can to be healthy… exercise, get enough sleep, drink water… even things like wearing sunscreen and sunglasses to protect yourself from the sun.
not smoking, not drinking in excess… we’re not all perfect and we all have our flaws and slip up areas… but when you love your body you TRY you know?
i do think that if someone is obese to the point of health problems (which is you know… being obese) then when they learn to TRULY love their body… they will lose weight…
here’s the thing…. if your idea of a diet is to punish yourself by restricting foods then it’s not going to work…
if you however are simply eating healthy to nourish your body… you will lose weight…
the healthier you are the better you will feel, your body will REWARD you for taking care of it… you will feel 100% better than if you were unhealthy and lacking proper vitamins and nutrients.
anyway…. end of my rant
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when i said
here’s the thing…. if your idea of a diet is to punish yourself by restricting foods then it’s not going to work…
if you however are simply eating healthy to nourish your body… you will lose weight…
I’m referring to the attitude involved… one is out of punishment towards your body… you’re pretty much punishing yourself for being fat, where as the other one is out of love for your body and you are showing love to your body through proper diet and so forth…
you can love yourself when you’re obese or fat or whatever… or in a situation like me… i’m VERY out of shape, yet i’m not over weight…
but AS you love your body, your body will respond BACK in “love”… i have my own personal health issues unrelated to weight… but as i’ve changed my diet my other issues have been going away… as i’ve learned to love my body, my body is rewarding me and loving me in return
orchid / 201 posts
@NSheridan@xanga - Hear, hear.
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I reread some of the comments.
I think it’s just that there is a huge issue with girls who are obese, with medical problems, eat their feelings as a result, or feel disgusting and they don’t care if they stroke out or not, because they’re ugly.
It’s more than just love your body, it’s loving yourself. Sometimes when people stop hating their body so much, that’s when they have the confidence to make it better.
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Isn’t this just adding to that “hype”? Cause, man, if it were me… I’d feel kinda stupid for posting this. Or maybe just hypocritical. But that’s just me, if I’d done it.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - ditto.
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I think the love your body movement or whatever is good for whoever needs it.
I think that people should equally focus on loving who they are on the inside.
As much as we focus on weight, makeup, fashion, trends, and all other sorts of superficial things. Why don’t we balance it with focusing on making ourselves better people? Reading a few more books? Giving more? You know, all that stuff.
Just saying
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I’m not sure if anyone has mentioned this yet, but I think part of the point of the whole “love your body” hype is so people will accept their image, get over their image, and move on to bigger and better things.
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Just because you love your body… doesnt necessarily mean you love yourself. : / I don’t think its over hyped.. i think there DOES need to be more focus on liking yourself as a whole…. for example: respecting yourself.. just because youre okay with your body, doesnt mean youre okay with yourself as a whole. . .
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I’m all for “loving your body,” but that doesn’t mean an obese person out there should start to feel comfortable with binging and overeating on a regular basis. The concept of “loving your body” works only when whatever flaw you’re talking about doesn’t directly affect your health (like having big calves or a Jennifer Lopez ass). Being overweight is not just an outer-appearance issue; it can lead to serious health problems, and it’s been proven that the extra weight can affect your life expectancy in the long run — among other areas of concern. “Fat” is not beautiful, and it’s not beautiful for a reason. Get out there and exercise before you start to convince yourselves that everyone should love your love handles.